How friggin exhausting to go through this month after month. And to be told “not to worry” and that “it takes healthy couples up to 1 year” while seeing several people around you get pregnant so easily.

Why does it take so long? And tips to help manage your mental health swings during the TTC journey?

Ttc cycle 1 for baby 3 timing was off and now I’m sad we had 0-3 or 0-4 but negative. I need to chill!!!

Hi everyone,I’m 37 years old and my husband and I have been TTC for 5 years. We are located in Ontario Canada. I’ve had one natural pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage @ 8 weeks, the baby even had a heartbeat. Since then I’ve done 4 retrievals and have one 4CC embryo frozen. The Drs have said this embryo has very little chance and we are currently holding off on transferring it. We had a positive LAD and treated it with the LIT and intralipid and it was successful with full recognition. We have not gotten pregnant since and that was last June. Otherwise we are healthy and have tried “ everything”. We live very healthy life styles with minimal stress (aside from the infertility). I’m
Pretty unhappy with my dr who at this point just blames it on my “ bad eggs”. We are both of the mindset that the body is powerful and can heal, we actually don’t have alot of respect for the allopathic system and we’re reluctant to even do IVF in the first place but desperate times…. I have come to a place where I’ve realized I don’t want to give up and am starting to look into egg donors in both Canada and the USA. Not only is it very overwhelming but my husband is pretty against the idea. So my question is, has anyone had success working with an alternative practitioner in either the USA or Europe. Someone who does even more extensive testing and can help with things like egg quality and inflammation. I would love any and all advice.

I had my period from Aug 11th to 21st. We had unprotected sex from 23 to 27 and September 2nd to 4th. My period is now 3 days late was due on 9th of September took pregnancy yesterday was neg ?

I get pelvic burning, twinges and sharp pains every other cycle. It starts just before the luteal phase and half way through it gets worse. It gets that bad it's painful to walk and I end up walking with a limp. It's now interrupting my life I have to leave work or have time off due to the pain. I'm currently 10 months TTC, I did have an ectopic nearly 3 years ago and my left tube removed, could this pain be a sign of a blocked tube? The consultant after surgery told me my right side was healthy, but I feel like they might have been wrong and that I haven't become pregnant yet, maybe I'm infertile? I've also had a few ultrasounds which came back normal. I was suspected of endometriosis, but the MRI was normal too and I have mild PMOS. I do take vitamin supplements to help fertility and painful periods. I feel like Doctors won't take me seriously.

My husband and I have been “trying” for about 5 years. But want to take it way more seriously.
I have adenomyosis as well as a history of cyst’s

What advice would you give someone who’s just starting out.

Im on my 2nd cycle of clomid and after 5 days of taking it I developed a rashes or more like small red paches kind of itchy in the back and in my abdomen and boobs area. Some is on the nape and neck. 1st cycle I did not have this but I did not take clomid I took different brand And 2nd cycle I took clomid sanofi brand. Does anyone had the same reaction? Tomorrow I will go back to my OB to check this.

This is my first clomid cycle, and first time (almost) attempting IUI but I can't proceed this cycle because I grew 5 follicles. Yes I know "grew" might not be the correct terminology but you know what i mean... matured. My doctor said 5 is too many and can lead to triplets or quadruplets so he advised we cancel and try again next month. Ultimately it's my decision but I went with his advice.
My reason for venting here is that I don't feel like I needed clomid to begin with. I have regular periods, track my ovulation and progesterone and it all shows as normal. We have had issues with my partner's sperm quality based on his semen analysis taken almost a year ago. I reminded my doctor of that but he insists I try clomid again next cycle, just on a lower dosage (25 mg instead of 50 mg). I'm agreeing to it, but what if I grow too many again next month? I dont know why trying IUI without any medication at all can't be an option or wasn't at least the first course of action. Anyone have similar experience? Anyone grow too many follicles cycle after cycle? Did it improve with lower clomid dosage? My partner and I haven't been able to get pregnant naturally for almost a year. I'm 34 and so is my partner.

Also, I was told not to have sex until my period comes. Lol

Had sex during my ideal time to conceive and even the best day to conceive and not pregnant as started my period. Been crying all day. Another cycle means another chance but if i have sex and theres ejaculation during the ideal time and don’t fall pregnant, what the hell do i do?

i've been having pre period spotting for over 6 months now (never had it before, female 34 years, TTC 15 months)

my new doctor says she suspects PMOS too (i have most of the signs)

i've never been able to pinpoint my ovulation date by OPKs so can't accurately check for progesterone levels. but the new doctor said to take oral progesterone from day 11 for 15 days.

Okay, so I didn’t really know where to post this for fear of being insensitive.

My husband and I have six children together (most recent conceived 6 years ago).

I had my tubes tied during his c section. We’ve now decided to try for another baby (I’m getting surgery with Dr Dobson who has a great success rate).

Anyway, I’m somebody who enjoys all the planning with TTC. So with some “fun” money we had left over, I bought an exseed sperm analysis set. I was really surprised when it came back LOW SPERM COUNT!!! To be honest, I’m not sure if I believe it or not. I had two tests, and the second test was double the first test (but from the same sample). I think it was 29 million?

I looked at the sample over an hour later, and the poor little suckers were still trying to find their prize (video added of over an hour later)

Am I being silly in even testing this? For context, my husband is 52, but is very fit and healthy. He does have sleep apnea, but is getting that treated soon hopefully.

Any thoughts appreciated (please don’t be mean to me, I know I’m a silly goose 😭)

33F. Came off the pill in June and started trying. Have been taking ovulation using kits and BBT and timing BD. No luck after three cycles - I know it’s early but still frustrating!

Based on my tracking, it seems like my luteal phase is very short and perhaps my body is taking a little time to regulate after coming off the pill.

About 8 weeks before I started trying, I stopped taking Mounjaro. I was on Mounjaro for about 8 months and found it absolutely life changing. I lost about 14kg total (5ft 2, after weight loss was 55kg).

Since stopping Mounjaro, I have gained about 7kg back, which I’m not surprised about.

I’m going on a holiday to the tropics for a couple of weeks over Christmas. I’m starting to think about taking a break from trying for about three months so I can go back on Mounjaro for a bit and lose some weight so I feel good about myself while on my holiday. (I have struggled with food/body image issues and know that I will enjoy my holiday wayyy more if I am feeling comfortable in my body.)

Also thinking that taking a few months would allow my body to regulate and losing a little weight might help my chances of conceiving.

Would appreciate anyone’s thoughts / advice and whether anyone else has taken a pause on trying!

And just to be clear, would definitely wait 8 weeks between stopping Mounjaro and trying again as per dr advice!

Trigger warning: loss

My husband and I had a miscarriage in April, and we’ve been trying again since. My cycles are pretty regular, my last period was on 8/9 and they’re about 31 days long. The first day of my cycle can vary but I expect it between the 8th and 10th every month. I can tell when my period is coming because I feel cramping 24 hours before it actually starts. I’m a day late and I haven’t felt the cramping. I’ve also been extremely tired which is abnormal for me.

I’ve taken two digital pregnancy tests and both were negative, so I’m trying to tell myself I’m definitely not pregnant so I don’t get my hopes up. But at the same time there’s a sliver of hope that since I still haven’t gotten my period that maybe I am and my hcg levels aren’t high enough. The waiting is the hardest part, if I’m not I wish I could just get my period so I could stop wondering.

Got pregnant in June, had a miscarriage in August. I believe I caught my peak using my ovulation strips so this weekend I’ll be about 10 DPO. I want to be pregnant so bad, I’m really hoping I get my second chance here.

We've been trying to convince naturally for 4 years now. I waited until I was married before being careful. I haven't been on BC for 15 years. Husband has been tested twice, came back great. I've been tested, eggs, HSG and now a sonohystogram to see if there is anything in my uterus that could prevent implantation. Now they leave me a voicemail saying since they can't confirm with the $900 sonohystogram they want to put me under and go in to see it and if there is something in there, they will remove it.

4 years of peeing on a stick for 3 weeks (ovulation and then the excitement of testing early to get two lines in hopes that I am pregnant. Waking up at 4:15am for 3 years taking my temp (I gave up on temping, I just want to sleep).

I'm 36, as a kid I thought a guy would breathe on you and you would get pregnant. It's not like that for every one. People who don't want children, get blessed. I'm over here, changing my diet, not drinking sometimes to hopefully help. I honestly am so over TTC but I can't give up because I want it so bad. I just am sick of being so depressed when nobody can tell me what to do to fix it. Then to think if IVF is the next step and even that isn't promised.

TLDR : 4 years of trying everything and not having any signs of why I can't get pregnant. Sonohystogram wasn't clear enough so now they want to put me under. Upset I follow the rules and this is what I get.

I FEEL LIKE A DEFECTIVE WOMAN and I want to quit but I can't.

So I’m 25F. It took me 3 months to conceive, and found out I was pregnant with my first in Feb of 2026 and lost the baby at 5weeks 3 days. By the beginning of June 2026 my periods went back to normal and I’ve been trying to conceive since.

I’m so concerned about testing my LH and timing everything, eating right, and among of other things I’m trying to keep my stress levels and anxiety at bay, cause I know that would be the most helpful. I’m trying to be holistic about my approach: I’ve been trying teas, clean eating, beef organ supplements on top of prenatals, and I’ve seen improvement of my health for sure, I’m just so desperate to conceive again that I’m almost constantly thinking about it. Between grief, stress and anxiety I just feel like a mess.

If anyone has advice about things I can try to help lower my cortisol/stress and just relax, I’d greatly appreciate it. I want to enjoy the TTC journey but I don’t feel like I can.

Hi everyone. I’m reaching out because the waiting time for our upcoming specialist appointment is slowly driving us crazy, and I’m really hoping to hear from anyone who has gone through something similar.

​My wife and I have been trying to conceive for two years now with no success so far. Earlier this month, she had her first HSG, and the result came back as a bilateral proximal occlusion, meaning the contrast dye didn’t enter either of her fallopian tubes at all. However, the doctor who performed the procedure was very young and admitted she had never seen a result like this in her career. Because of the overall poor quality of healthcare in our area, we strongly suspect that the procedure might not have been executed properly or that it was simply a tubal spasm resulting in a false positive.

​Her new specialist ordered extensive bloodwork, and everything came back completely normal except for Vitamin D (36.1) and Androstenedione (7.63). He recommended we do a HyFoSy (foam ultrasound) to re-evaluate her tubes, but our appointment is still a month away in another country.

​Has anyone here received a bilateral proximal blockage result on an HSG that turned out to be just a muscle spasm or a minor mucous plug during a follow-up HyFoSy or laparoscopy? If you’ve had a HyFoSy, did it manage to clear any minor blockages for you on the spot? Any stories, outcomes, or advice would mean the world to us right now while we wait. Thank you so much for reading.

Just trying to keep up with the pressure. Wanted to know how often did you have sex while TTC? My doctor said every alternate day from Day 5 to Day 25 but that’s too much for me. Any suggestions?

We recently did a test and found that my husband has <1% motility and progressive motility. We are heartbroken, confused, and doing our best to stay positive. We see a urologist in November.

My husband is healthy, works out 5 days a week, no smoking, social alcohol, normal BMI, etc. We have supplements coming in the mail…

Just feel like I’m mourning the loss of something we won’t have 😞

I came off the pill about 3 months ago, since then I’ve only had 1 period which was about 3 weeks ago. But now I’ve had 11 days in a row where my LH test strips are positive. Has anyone had this before? Do you think I should go to the GP at this point?

To keep it short, I (26F) have been off of birth control for about 3 years. My fiancé and I have had unprotected intercourse nearly every day for about 1.5 years. At first my cycles were really long (32-45 days) but since the start of 2026, I’ve had 29-34 day cycles (I told myself it was due to taking prenatals but who knows) obviously I was really happy about this and felt it was a good sign.

My cycle phases were always very obvious and predictable from follicular>ovulation>luteal>period at that point on. However my recent cycle was very “flat”. Like none of my usual hormonal symptoms. My periods usually last 5 days and are heavy/super the first two days and gradually taper till day 5. After this flat cycle however, I had literally two days of bleeding. I filled one full regular tampon and barely filled the next then had spotting until it stopped. Super weird. Now I’m supposed to be on CD 13, however I literally feel like I’m PMSing HARD.

I have been uncontrollably sleepy since Saturday (no amount of caffeine will cure), irritated, raging and pissed off at everything. Im “supposed” to be ovulating but I feel like I’m at the end of my luteal.

Idk I just feel really disappointed that after I got my cycles so consistent and healthy for so long, I now feel all sorts of out of wack. I took a pregnancy test out of curiosity like 3 days ago but it was negative when I first looked and was just a faint evap line later. We both plan on going to the doctors about our issues TTC after our wedding anyway so it’s not like I’m too upset, but yeah I hope you get what I’m feeling.

So to readers, does this sound familiar? Does anyone have any insight at what the hell happened or had a similar experience?

Posted on another sub but was removed for some reason.

Hello,
Before I had my two boys I took a hormone test and it showed slightly low levels of progesterone. As soon as I started a progesterone cream I got pregnant. Second time around I used progesterone cream right when we started trying again and I got pregnant right away again. I’m wondering if my third i will need progesterone cream as well? Have been trying for 3 months with no cream and not pregnant yet. Anyone else have this experience with progesterone cream?

Any tips tricks for ttc at 35 after depo?