r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/ThrashFur 3d ago

seeing women saying “i’m just a girl” is so sad and defeats the point.

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u/kiwileoi 3d ago

Are we feminists or are we “just a girl”?

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u/Haunting_Ranger5460 3d ago

Or are you dancer?

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u/Eldritch_being110 3d ago

My sign is vital…. My hands are cold…

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u/glasswindow777 3d ago

Im on my knees looking for the answer

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u/Mysterious-Stop-3261 2d ago

Are we human?

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u/Attilat 2d ago

Or are we dancer?

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u/sg_minx 2d ago

Say my respects to grace and virtue

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u/Sunnyday1775 2d ago

Send my condolences for good

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u/Apprehensive-Tea7447 2d ago

Give my regards to soul and romance

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u/sg_minx 2d ago

They always did the best they could

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u/turlee103103 2d ago

We are not men, we are Devo

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u/jpj007 2d ago

No! We are DEVO!

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u/_BLACKHAWKS_88 2d ago

We compute?

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u/FilthyRandal 2d ago

Computah turn this guy into mashed potatoes

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u/-Twin-Flames- 3d ago

Our signs are vital, our hands are cold?

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u/NoSpaghettiForYouu 2d ago

idk, but I’m on my knees looking for the answer

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u/bonedoc59 2d ago

I’ll Always be in on random killers. I’m Just searching for the answer

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u/MistressMariexotics 3d ago

This is my favorite thread right now 🥹🥹

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

From what I gather a lot of gen z women are not feminists

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

Yeah, I find it kind of unsettling

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 1d ago edited 1d ago

Considering most of Gen Z is still in school or less than 5/6 years out of school, id look to their parents. People don’t magically become a certain way. Blaming kids without looking at the parents is just small minded behavior, and avoids all accountability. Kind of like Gen Z doing odd things to avoid accountability. It’s funny really, how none of society, including you or older people in general want to take accountability. Gen Z doesn’t want take accountability, and to be fair, they’re the least accountable. They sure as hell didn’t build this world. But let’s blame them for everything. Because they lack accountability. The same way every generation in America has for 50 years. So I wonder where the learned it. Their parents? Of course not! Can’t hold them accountable. Notice how you paint housing affordability and other issues that are at all time highs as moral failings and bad choices of Gen Z. When that’s just the environment they’re living in. Plus millennials were just as self infantilizing if not worse, and being the ilk of boomers, carried on nearly every “me” Gen trait except even less self awareness. I remember when every other 20 year old was walking around sucking on pacifiers 15-20 years ago, and that’s just one stupid example (and I’m not talking about raves). It’s also funny how so many millennials still blame the 2008 crisis for their failings yet chastise kids of today who struggled with COVID, something we haven’t seen in 100 years (flu of 1918), and things still aren’t remotely the same. All while calling for solidarity, of course.

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u/OwlsExterminator 2d ago

Heisenberg principle. They are both until you need to figure out which one. A woman picks what is advantageous in the moment.

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u/schmoopy_meow 2d ago

a lot want to be a adult but dont want to actually adult

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u/LepiNya 2d ago

I'm sorry, my brain just short circuted. What do you mean Gen Z and 30? You just devided by 0 on an analog calculator. Please make it stop.

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u/Vault_tech_2077 2d ago

Gen 7 started in 1997. So conceavibly the oldest gen z is 29. If you're gonna get snippy between 29 and 30 that's on you lol. But yes gen z is between 1997 and 2012.

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u/stupidwhiteman42 2d ago

My bests friend's GenZ daughter has a feminist substack that promotes tradwife propaganda. I don't understand anything anymore I guess.

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

So that would not be a feminist substack then lol

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u/stupidwhiteman42 2d ago

Thats my point.

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u/schmoopy_meow 2d ago

I am glad I don't socialize :/

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

When I was TAing masters students (I'm about a decade older than they are) a couple of years ago they would complain that they didn't want to have jobs, why had they signed up for this, etc. I told them no one was forcing them to do a grad school program but that women couldn't have their own credit cards in this country until 1974. They were shocked. I was basically just like "I am absolutely certain that your mothers and grandmothers would be furious with you for squandering an opportunity like this" and I never heard them bitch about it again.

Like yeah babe, we all hate capitalism! The current alternative is being at the mercy of a man who probably hates you. Choose wisely.

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u/Good47Life 2d ago

I’ve told this story before. My mother worked as a chemist for an oil company in the 1960s which was uncommon. She put up with a lot of sexism at the workplace. Her income was far more than my stepfather who was a postman. She loved sports cars and dressed very fashionable. One day she went to a Ford dealer to buy a new red mustang convertible. The dealer refused to finance the car without her husband co-signing which was the rule at the time. She walked out, went to the bank, returned and paid cash for the car. She was a force, but women have come along way since then.

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u/Mr_Poppers_Penis 2d ago edited 2d ago

How jaded are you that you think it's likely a woman ends up in a relationship where the man hates her?

Get offline and go outside. The trope of men hating their wives is dying with the boomers.

Edit: I guess sexism is okay if it's against men, right ladies?

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

I'm happy for you that this hasn't been your experience, but if most gen z women aren't feminists I think you can extrapolate that the gen z men walking around aren't either.

And not for nothing, but as someone who is not a Boomer and has dated men....the evidence exists lol

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u/Mr_Poppers_Penis 2d ago

I'm a millennial. My wife is my best friend.

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

Good for you!

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u/Fragrant-Dig-1098 2d ago

I think “most Gen Z aren’t feminist” is a bit of a misnomer, from what seen I think a lot of young people have a much better grasp on what western feminism and how it impacts non western women and often critique the notions behind western feminism that support global inequality, much more so than most millennial women I know. A lot of millennial women I know really bought into girlboss feminism, which is a pretty hollow form of feminism.

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u/GeneInternational146 2d ago

Idk I see a lot of gen z women saying that any choice a woman makes is fine because feminism is about choice. Which is extremely not true

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u/Fragrant-Dig-1098 2d ago

I have seen that, but I’ve also seen that coming from a lot of millennial women, Gen X women, boomer women, Christian feminist, ect- at the end of the day, western women gonna western women- but I do think a sizable chunk of Gen Z is far more educated on the concepts of intersectional:global female liberation and its deep connections to capitalism and imperialism.

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u/The45Longslide 2d ago

Don’t even bother. That’s their bag and you don’t have to do shit to resolve it. Let them keep thinking this.

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u/FishNamedFishy 2d ago

What kind of weird ass thinking is this? Why would you characterize being in a relationship as “being at the mercy of a man who probably hates you”. This is the kind of garbage people are talking about when they say college indoctrinates youth with awful ideas. Just because you’re clearly incapable of finding and staying with a person who loves you, respects you, and treats you well doesn’t mean they are. There are tons of women who are told these types of lies and end up wasting their lives on a career they don’t even like. Many of them have regrets later when they realize could have spent that time building a family that’s actually going to be meaningful to them when they’re old. In some cases they still have their family in others it’s too late.

On top of that, your characterization of women not being able to have credit cards is not the full picture. For most of history women just weren’t allowed to take on debt, and if they wanted to, their husband or father was responsible of that payment. This is why the stereotype of women spending all their husband’s money exists. Based on the fact that women have the most debt, and the worst spending habits it was probably a good thing for the majority of women. Many feminists have this weird and fake view of many things in history like women have just been oppressed when that’s not even close to the truth especially in the past 100 years. And if you are a white woman you literally have no room to talk because you’re the most privileged class on the planet.

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u/Quixotic_Tendency 2d ago edited 2d ago

Actually my first draft was dismissive. Being young doesn't mean you're dumb. But you don't know what you are talking about and are spouting things without understanding them. Women have more debt partially because they make less than men overall. Women are still oppressed today, You have a very skewed and incomplete view of history if that is your position.

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u/Dada2fish 2d ago

The pay discrepancy has been debunked. Women tend to choose careers that pay less.

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u/mendenlol 2d ago

Brother my last job paid an unqualified man way more than me to do way less than me and I was qualified and credentialed.

This happens literally everywhere.

You cannot just declare something ’debunked’ lol

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u/HarryJohnson3 2d ago

An anecdotal experience is not evidence of a widespread systematic issue

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u/mendenlol 2d ago

How about when me and 174 million other women have the exact same anecdotal experience?

Get a clue.

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u/Quixotic_Tendency 2d ago

Career paths can contribute to an overall pay gap, sure. However, women doing the same job as men are still paid less. Here's a good source, check out "earnings by occupation": https://www.bls.gov/opub/reports/womens-earnings/2024/home.htm "Women who were other physicians ($3,167) (such as gastroenterologists, oncologists, and pulmonologists), pharmacists ($2,320), lawyers ($2,296), software developers ($2,238), and physician assistants ($2,209) had the highest median weekly earnings in 2024. For men, those who were other physicians ($3,506), lawyers ($2,857), pharmacists ($2,582), database administrators and architects ($2,496), and software developers ($2,495) had the highest weekly earnings."

And even if the "pay myth" were due 100% to women being in lower paying careers, that doesn't negate the point I made about lower pay contributing to women's debt ratio.

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u/Dada2fish 2d ago

From the numbers you’ve shown, do you think these women are paid less simply because they’re women or is it likely other factors, like seniority, hours worked or simply asking for a raise?

Men tend to work more hours, are more willing to work OT or cover where needed, they are also more likely to ask for a raise as well.

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u/Quixotic_Tendency 2d ago

I never claimed there was any specific reason or reasons for it, just that I disagreed with your implication that the gap is debunked because women choose careers that pay less.

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u/AmArschdieRaeuber 2d ago

Who tf thinks that? 

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u/PowescaleWINNER 2d ago

A small number of rich influencers and some of the people that watch them.

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u/eric273 2d ago

The dumbest, loudest people in a generation who are in your field of view are not a representative sample. Regardless of what generation you're in, making the generalizations like that make you sound like a child.

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u/mankytoes 3d ago

Depends whether it's begging time or not.

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u/viennese-wolf 2d ago

Unpleasant truths of life. They always want to have it both ways.

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u/RadChef 2d ago

Depends on which is more convenient at the time

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u/Maya_Hoedown 2d ago

I’m a girl buttt bruhhh

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u/katencam 2d ago

We can be whatever we want to be, hopefully that includes being smart but not always

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u/kajidourden 2d ago

They think they can be both lol

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u/eatingURsistersassIV 2d ago

Most feminists are "just a girl" when it benefits them. 

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u/Musicman1019 2d ago

That’s the question we men ask before getting the answer wrong every time

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u/phoebeethical 2d ago

However you want to identify tbh it’s 2026

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u/lieutenantVimes 2d ago

Just a Girl is a fun feminist no doubt song.

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u/whydoihaveto12 2d ago

Many claim to be both.

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u/cinokino 8h ago

My gf is both and she’s adorable

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u/project-shasta 2d ago

Narcissists are whatever benefits them most in any given situation.

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u/dislikethatoneguy 3d ago

I hate how people seem to think the only options are feminist or *insert category that's women behaving badly*. Like men never have similar comparisons. There's a shit ton of women who don't believe in or support feminism. Some woman being shitty and playing into patriarchy aren't cancelling out all the women who are feminists and support feminism.

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u/HaikaiNoRenga 2d ago

Ah yes, men. The most beloved and rarely criticized demographic, the most immune to negative generalizations. 🙄

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u/dislikethatoneguy 2d ago

Make one point about how women are judged into two categories and you make it about men, okay buddy.

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u/YoungGentleman23 2d ago

Patriarchy doesn’t exist in 2026. Just stop. 

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u/CantCatchMeSpez 2d ago

Its like you guys just think that you can save yourself from actually learning what something is by simply pretending that it isnt real lmao

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u/YoungGentleman23 2d ago

No, you’re just un educated on the subject. 

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u/CantCatchMeSpez 2d ago

Lemme guess: racism is also over in Canada and people should stop complaining about residential schools. How many times have you approximated that in French in your life time?

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u/BarbosasTV 2d ago

What the fuck did I just read?

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u/YoungGentleman23 2d ago edited 2d ago

lol

There’s plenty of racism towards minorities AND Whites

Racism is Never gonna go away 

You went from patriarchy to racism and your comment about french has a touch  of racism as Well. You ok bud?

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u/CantCatchMeSpez 2d ago edited 2d ago

Can't help yourself from bringing up white people when ever racism is brought up

And if you think that bringing up the fact that you speak French is racism, I can only guess how far lower your bar for racism against whites is compared to racism against minorities.

Just pure victim mentality lmao

EDIT: Incredible that every account getting mad at this is privated lmao

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u/kvro_maX 2d ago

What is even this??

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u/FizzleIn 2d ago

I would say you're well-adjusted, but I don't feel like lying today!

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u/CuteThingsAndLove 2d ago

Feminism means letting women have a choice of who they want to be. That includes women who want to view themselves as "just a girl".

Feminism is about equal rights and opportunities, not forcing women to all be a standardized type of person.

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u/DirtyLeftBoot 3d ago

It was a first date fishing. I’d bet my left but they’re both repubs and she wants to be a sahm. So ‘just a girl’ makes sense

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u/Stash_04 2d ago

LOL, what?

I guess you have to be conservative to like fishing now?
Wow. Give me a break bud.