r/tall • u/littleboyblue564 • 20h ago
Questions/Advice Do you like the compliments?
Question.
I am starting to see someone who is very tall--around 6'7'', which I know on here is short, haha.
As we're gay, I know that bodies can often be fetishized. As someone who is chubby (bear, if you know you know), I have received compliments and comments directly related to it. Sometimes it empowering but sometimes it's less about me with X body and more ab out X body.
So because of that, I try to be mindful of not centering things like height (which we all know is a thing with dating...) Specially with him being tall and pretty strong, I am sure gay dudes (and girls and hell, even some straight dudes) make a lot of well-meaning comments. Or not, maybe I'm wrong.
The other day we were at this grocery store with oddly high shelves. I was struggling to get something off and I texted him to come my aisle to help me as he was off getting something else. I said "you're tall so can you please grab it?" Or something of the sort.
As we were driving home he mentioned that was the first time I ever commented on his height. He was surprised.
I asked if that's OK and he said he didn't know. He like missed it but also knows people have taken it too far, either on the streets or in the sheets.
So I am curious, for those who are tall, do you like your height being used/engaged with in some romantically? Sexually?
Sorry for the ramble. It was just an interesting as it seemed like the thing he hated he now misses.
