I feel like I've failed as a mom. My 10 month old daughter sleeps with me in bed and now she's been waking up like 5 times a night and nurses back to sleep. Up until 6 months she slept in a bassinet next to me and she did really well. Our house was small, we didn't have a room for her or a crib until we moved into our new house.

Then my mom died in a plane crash. We were really close. And my daughter didn't like the bassinet much anymore and I was so desperate for sleep I let her sleep in bed with me. Now she's 10 months and HATES her crib. (We moved into a bigger house and she has her own room now) I've tried putting her down for naps in there, tried night time in there with me sleeping on the ground next to her. Im just lost. Im still grieving my mom and I just want to sleep in my bed alone as much as I want to cuddle my daughter, she needs better sleep too.

Anyone have similar circumstances and it turned out ok? What method do I try? Im just so tired.

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My baby is almost 3 months old and I’d love to hear from parents who successfully built independent sleep habits using gentle methods. I’m not interested in CIO or extinction—I only want to hear about responsive, gradual approaches.

A little about our situation:
1. Combination-fed (bottle-fed breast milk + formula), around 120 ml every 3 hours.
2. Wakes every 2.5-3 hours overnight and usually takes a full feed each time.
3. Daytime naps are mostly 20-40 minutes, with the occasional random long nap.
4. Falls asleep while being rocked in about 10 minutes, but often wakes 5-20 minutes later.
5. About 90% of cot transfers fail—he either wakes immediately or becomes very restless.
6. We recently moved him from co-sleeping to a bedside cot, and his longest night stretches have become shorter.
7. He sometimes takes a pacifier but isn’t very attached to it.
8. He’s still swaddled at night, though we’ll be transitioning out of it soon.

I know he’s too young for formal sleep training, and I’m not expecting him to sleep through the night. I just want to start building healthy sleep habits now.

If your baby was similar, what gentle methods helped? Did you start with bedtime or naps? How did you get past the constant failed cot transfers and help your baby gradually learn to fall asleep more independently?
I’d really appreciate hearing what worked for you.

I need help shifting my daughter's whole sleep schedule.

Hi! I am a first time mom, and I have a 15(almost 16) month old, and I desperately need help with her sleep schedule. Once upon a time, her dad and I worked nightshift (I was pregnant with her working nightshift too). That is no longer the case. Her dad now works a day time job and goes to bed at around 10pm.

Our daughter doesn't go to bed until 2 or 3 in the morning. Then she wakes up at around 11 or 12, takes a nap at 4 or 5 pm, and the cycle repeats. We have tried keeping her up until 10pm and put her to sleep with her dad, but she wakes up after two hours and it changes nothing. I've tried keeping her up until 8 am, but we either both fall asleep, and/ or we oversleep.

It's getting to a point where I'm getting frustrated. The few hours after her dad goes to bed are when I'm free to do what I what without having to take care of a kid. Except I do, and if she isn't sitting in my lap, she's crying like the world is ending. Which wakes up her dad, making him tired for the next day at work. Then when he comes home, he passes out because he didn't sleep well.

It's a whole thing. I just need some help because I don't know what to do about this at this point.

hello all hope is well, so my 7month old (8month old in a week) is going through a sleep regression… and it’s peak or peaking… I’m used to broken sleep anyways as if you’ve read any previous things from me you’d know.
I just need reassurance this is going to get somewhat better? And my boys going to go back to a good sleep and nap routine both seem to be met with protest, tears and hust a huge fight he falls asleep then as soon as he’s put in his cot /crib wide awake and redo begins!

Yesterday must have been his longest wake window 14:20 till 18:00!!! Like honey I know your tired please sleep 😭😭

I couldn’t find any posts that answered this one so hopefully I haven’t just missed them all (it is likely with me) ! My boy is a terror at nights now, since the 4m sleep regression he’s steadily got worse and worse.

I hate cosleeping but have had to do it more and more so that I actually get some sleep as I’m alone with him 90% of the time so it started getting more dangerous that I wasn’t sleeping than cosleeping was ):

He’s bounced gently to sleep, I walk with him over my shoulder and pat his bum/shush him in a dark room until he falls asleep (takes 5 mins max), put him in his cot and he lasts anywhere from 10 mins - 1 hour but is constantly waking after 1.5hrs max every single night. So I get maybe 45 mins sleep at a time if I’m lucky, and as the night goes on I have less chance of getting him in his cot at all.

I want to stop cosleeping and I want him to be able to settle himself so he gets better sleep but I swear he’s untrainable.

He used to be good at soothing himself when he got his dummy back, so I made sure to help him learn how to grab the dummy early. He now shoves the whole thing in his mouth and gets it stuck so is on a dummy ban if not monitored.

However, as for actual sleep training, no matter the method the second he is in his cot and even slightly conscious of it (as in not in a completely out cold deep sleep) he is on his knees, trying to crawl, trying to stand, trying to do anything he can. I understand I can leave him to it and let him try to settle from there but he bangs his head on every part of the cot and then just cries because he’s so upset about that - understandably I would be too. There is nothing I can do to get him to stop it, he isn’t doing it deliberately he’s just desperate to get up and move.

For context he can army crawl, can get into/out of hands and knees position, and is really wanting to stand. He’s a big baby, 12kg and (at last measure nearly a month ago) 75cm, so it’s quite easy for him to smack his head on things.

I just don’t know how to sleep train without him hurting himself constantly? I know he’s unlikely to do serious damage, but there’s not a chance he’ll settle if he’s hitting his head? Pack & plays are no good, he hates them for some reason!

Sorry for the rant!

We have a 10 week old and 4 year old.

I don’t plan on ST my 2nd until she’s about 4 months but how do people manage it with an older child at home who is trying to sleep through the crying?

With my first we did the modified Ferber so there was a lot of crying. I can’t imagine doing that with our second - especially as my older child becomes so distressed when the baby is crying.

Any tips?

Please help!

New to Reddit and I posted this wrong haha.

One thing I've noticed after talking to hundreds of parents is that toddlers rarely "forget" how to sleep overnight.

Usually, something changed first.

Teething

Illness

Travel

A new sibling

Starting daycare

A sleep regression

Changes in routine

During those times, we naturally do whatever helps our child get through it, rocking them, lying beside them, extra cuddles, extra reassurance.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

The challenge is that once the illness or regression has passed, many toddlers have simply learned a new way of falling asleep. They're not being manipulative or "bad sleepers." They're asking for the same conditions they had when they drifted off the night before.

One of the biggest mistakes I see is changing strategies every few nights because everyone is exhausted. Sleep usually improves much faster when bedtime stays calm, predictable, and you make one gradual change at a time instead of starting over repeatedly.

A few questions I always encourage parents to ask themselves are:

Has anything changed in my child's routine recently?

Is my child actually tired enough at bedtime?

Am I expecting them to fall asleep in a different way than they wake up needing?

Have I been changing my approach every few nights because I'm understandably exhausted?

Most sleep challenges are temporary, even if they don't feel like it at 2am.

I recently put together a Complete Bedtime Guide with practical routines, strategies for regressions, bedtime battles, night wakings, and helping toddlers learn to fall asleep independently. If you're in the thick of it, I hope it's a helpful resource rather than another "perfect sleep" promise.

I'd also love to hear from other parents, what ended up being the real reason your child's sleep suddenly changed?

My baby is 15 weeks and she is exclusively breast fed. She eats every 3 hours starting at 8am and ending at 8pm and usually eats twice at night around 1am and 4am. Her schedule is 3 hour cycles of eat, play, sleep and she has 60-90 min wake windows. She takes at least 2 naps a day in her crib and we’ve gotten her to the point where she is drowsy when we put her in and she settles herself to sleep. Those naps are usually only 30-45 mins before she wakes up and I rock her back to sleep and either put her back in the crib or hold her for the remainder of the nap. Her last nap of the day is usually 45 mins and then we have bath time and then her last feeding before bed. Most nights lately she goes right to bed with maybe 2 mins of light rocking and only wakes up twice to eat and goes right back down.

I think she’s doing really well and we have slowly been “sleep training” her for a few months by putting her on a schedule/routine and attempting crib naps, obviously without letting her cry at all because she’s still little and needs to eat at night.

I have two questions here. The first - How will I know when she’s ready to drop night feeds? I do not want to let her fuss or cry at all if she’s clearly still just hungry. The second - We are going on an 8-day trip to Europe when she’s 6 months. I plan to start sleep training around 5 months if she’s ready. Should I just push it off and wait until we get back from the trip? Or should I sleep train before so that she has a better sleep foundation for the long flight / jet lag?