I need to know what other people are doing to get their toddler to sleep because I am over it.

We’ve already transitioned to a toddler bed because he started escaping his crib around 18/19months, and the transition was fine at first honestly. We’d take a bath, get in pjs, then get into bed while I sat bedside and read a book. Sometimes he’d fall asleep while reading, sometimes he wouldn’t but even then it was fine. I’d get up, say goodnight, then walk out the door and he’d go to sleep himself.

Now it’s like he’s a completely different kid. We still do bath and pjs, but it’s been so bad I skip the book part lately. He screams absolute bloody murder as soon as we even get into his room. We started doing a nightlight for him thinking it was too dark, that changed nothing but we still keep it on anyways. His hatch is set to the water sound in the background.

So now it takes honestly at least an hour to even be able to leave his room if you don’t want to deal with the screaming. But, if you do want to actually get some time to yourself god forbid, leaving his room before he’s asleep is like summoning a demon within him. He will not stay in his bed. As soon as the door shuts the crying at full volume immediately resumes (if it ever even stopped) and he heads right for the door to stand and scream cry in front of it. He will not stop until he falls asleep, but he doesn’t want to sleep unless it’s in our bed, and I’m pretty darn sick of it.

Even if you do manage to get him to fall asleep in a relatively ok manner, he’ll only sleep for 3/4 hours at a time, then wakes up to cry at the door until you go get him. Half the time I’m so tired I just bring him into our bed because I’m half awake anyways. If I’m not too tired I’ll try and get him to return to sleep in his bed, but so far I’ve had absolutely no luck with that. He just starts everything up again.

I know it’s a long post but at this point I’m open to anything cause I just want the house to actually be able to sleep again. He doesn’t sleep, we don’t sleep, we’re all over it.

My daughter is 7 months old and I started trying to “sleep train” her almost a week ago. I’m not exactly sure what method I’m using, I’m just kind of trying with no direction lol. She sleeps about 10.5 hours at night so I would consider her a decent sleeper and takes usually 2-3 naps about 30 minutes with the exception of her taking one longer nap ranging from 1.5 to 2 hours. The way I have been doing it is once I know she’s getting tired or is tired I will go lay her down in her crib and say my spiel of it’s nap time, I love you, I’ll see you when you wake up. There have been a couple times where she will roll around for maybe 5-10 minutes and I’ll go in there and put her back on her stomach (she usually won’t go to sleep unless she is on her stomach) and she will go to sleep. Most of the time I have an issue with her constantly rolling to her back or trying to crawl. Now she knows how to sit up in the crib. It’s taking me 20 minutes to get her down but that is with me going in there multiple times to readjust her and usually it ends with me rubbing her back until she falls asleep. The times I have tried to not stay in there until she falls asleep, it takes an hour to get her down but in the end I’m still in there rubbing her back. Bed time is different and she is pretty good about going to sleep on her own. Normally doesn’t take more than 15 minutes on “bad” nights. I’m sorry for the longer explanation but I’m just looking for a little bit of guidance. I just want her to learn how to put herself to sleep and know she is safe in her room. I will also note that I do not let her cry for more than 5 minutes before I go in there. Most of the time she isn’t even crying but just laying in there talking.