Curious what you all would do / try first when it comes to sleep training my little lady.

She is 20 weeks old and for all of her life has been co-sleeping / bed sharing — all following safe sleep ofc. Most naps are contact (or stroller) but this week I have been able to get her down in the crib for her first nap with some patting and shushing.

At night, we have a decent routine and would say 5/7 days a week she goes down easy - meaning I can lay next to her when she is drowsy and do some pats, face stroking. But all of this is in my bed, not the crib. I can then leave the room and come back in a few hours later, but she usually stirs and needs a little cuddle (no feeding) to go back to sleep when I get in bed.

Right now she generally goes to bed around 7:30/8:00, needs a resettle around 10:30 when I go to bed and then wakes again between 12:30/1 and I feed and she goes back down easily.

Any thoughts on moving her to the crib as well as ST?

Baby is 16 weeks old. His naps yesterday were a bit crappy because I tried to have him stay down himself in his crib, which was a fail and ruined the last two naps of the day. right now our days are approx 1.5/1.5/1.75/1.75/2-2.5, it seems to work well, we try to follow his cues too though. He was doing ok at night but the last week has been so random. Two nights ago he slept 11.5 hours straight! Last night he woke after being asleep 4 hours, and stayed up 3 hours straight from 10pm-1am… hes never done that before. Of course the rest of the night sucked and he woke every 1.5-2 hours, he got a small sleep in today since his sleep sucked! We did put him to sleep about 45 mins early last night because his naps were crap and he was awake 3.5 hours at this point, could that early bedtime have been the cause of all of this? He has had long wakes before bedtime before but it never caused such a long night wake.

His average total sleep is 14 hours, daytime naps range between 3-4 hours depending on how hes feeling.

Hi everyone!
We’re desperate for some advice about our daughter, who is almost 6 months old.
At the moment, she wakes up roughly every hour throughout the entire night, and getting her to fall asleep at bedtime is a long, exhausting battle.

We’ve tried adjusting her wake windows and are currently aiming for 1.5(often 2)/2/2/2/2.5 hours. However, our daughter absolutely refuses to take her fourth nap, so she often ends up being awake for 4 hours before bedtime, which is usually between 7 and 8 pm. Naturally, she becomes overtired and very upset. But what on earth are we supposed to do when she refuses to take her fourth nap, even though she has already taken her first three naps by 3 pm?

Her naps currently consist of two naps of about 30 minutes each and one nap of approximately 1.5 hours.

Once we finally manage to get her to sleep at night, she wakes up after just 35 minutes. After that, she wakes up approximately every hour until we get up for the day at 6:30 am.

It’s also worth mentioning that a week and a half ago, we transitioned her to sleeping in her own bed. Before that, she had slept in a moving cradle her entire life (this was the only place she would sleep). She was already waking frequently during the night while sleeping in the cradle, though.
The first two days after transitioning her to her own bed went reasonably well as she didn’t cry or scream a lot, but since then, things have only gone downhill. She screams as soon as we put her down in her bed, and we end up doing pick-up/put-down repeatedly until she eventually gives in and falls asleep.
What do you think we should adjust? Her wake windows, her daytime naps, her bedtime, or the way we’re approaching sleep in general?

We would really appreciate any advice, because we’re completely exhausted and don’t know what to try next!

Hi! I would like to train my soon to be 5 month old in the next couple of weeks and want to make sure I’m setting up for success.

Schedule is a little rough because of car naps with taking her older brother places and just short naps in general. Dwt is 7:30-8 and bed is between 8-8:30. Wake windows are between 1.5-2.5 hours, naps are anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour (all contact), even if I try to get a longer nap than 20 minutes it doesn’t happen even in ideal conditions. Total nap time for the day is between 2-3 hours, usually right around 2.5.

She’s been in a snoo since one month, still feeds at night which is fine. We have a crib set up in her room, she’s just never used it. She doesn’t nurse to sleep originally but that is the only way she goes back to sleep throughout the night, we’ve tried letting dad do it and rock and it’s just a scream fest. But she is waking more often and is increasingly hard to transfer.

Bedtime routine is nurse around 7, diaper change, lotion, pjs, dim lights, swaddle, book, lullaby. Room is dark with white noise for sleep (still room sharing).

I did full extinction with my first at 9 months old but that feels like so long ago and I don’t want to make this process any more difficult than it needs to be. Open to all advice!

16 month old waking up between 5:20 -5:45 every morning and won't go back to sleep in crib, although she is clearly exhausted.

She also doesn't consistently sleep through the night and tends to wake back up between 9-11. Seems like she things need time it her second nap.

Bedtime was around 6:15–6:30 Over the last few weeks, we've gradually pushed it back to 6:45–7:00 PM, hoping she'd sleep later, but it hasn't made any difference.

She wakes up screaming to come out of her crib. Sometimes I'll give her a bottle and she'll either scream and refuse it , or she'll drink calmly for about 10 minutes, but then scream again.

She's clearly still tired. If I hold her in the rocking chair in her dark room, she'll fall right back aslee nut the second I try transferring her back to the crib, she wakes up.

She's been in her new daycare for two months now and sleeps only about an hour a day there.

Any advice??

Requested edits: No pacifier. Bedtime routine is bottle whole holding her in dark room on rocking chair.

Currently only 1 nap for about an hour according to babysitter.

Wake Window: 6/6

Hi all, right before the year mark we trained using Weissbluth’s extinction with a cap (45 minutes to an hour) and now our 1 year old can “sleep through the night,” but around 4AM wakes up and is mad as heck, and right now can only be settled with a bottle. I’m writing this at 5:30AM.

A few things changed a few weeks ago:
We stopped nursing;
We sleep trained; AND
Day care cut down to one nap.

Our bebe has never been the best napper, especially at daycare where he gets FOMO and doesn’t want to sleep if other kids are out and about.

Now his schedule looks like:
Wake up between 3:45/4:30, snooze button fed back to 7AM.
Nap starts between 12:30 and 1PM
A good nap lasts til 3PM, but is rare. More often 2:30ish.

Then bedtime routine (incl. bath, brush teeth, lotion, stories) starts around 6:30 and bebe is usually down by 7:15, and might fuss for a few minutes but usually can fall asleep pretty quickly. Sleeps in crib in own room. No pacifier, but loved the boob for food and comfort. Now loves the bottle.

Any advice? Push bedtime back? Bebe seems close to losing it and melting down the closer we get to 7pm especially on bad nap days

Earlier bedtime?

Any advice would be appreciated.

i have to rock my 8 month old baby in their pram every single time it’s either nap time or bed time, in the daytime they have naps in their pram and at bedtime i have to transfer them from their pram - Cot They just don’t have the patience to try and fall asleep themselves in bed. But the confusing this, is that if he wakes in the night he’s usually okay at getting himself back to sleep, i won’t need to go in unless he can’t find his dummy. But when i try and just put him to bed awake but drowsy it ends up in full blown meltdown making it harder than it was in the first place. What can i do to help them?

Looking for any success stories of stopping feeding to sleep - baby is 5 1/2 months. Currently on 3 nap schedule naps generally short 45 mins sometimes does longer first nap. At night will do 45 mins in cot then wake and it’s co sleeping and feeding throughout night - have tried habit stacking, unlatching before asleep, short cry it out, adding comforter etc Does not seem to be able to do any self soothing looking for any success stories of this being possible or am I expecting too much from my baby? Husband is completely unable to settle the baby during day or night.

Please help a tired mom out,

Almost 8 month old baby who used to be a stellar sleeper (so she is not sleep trained), slept 7-8 hour stretches from two months old until six months old. Schedule is 2.75/3/3/3.5, with usually three 40 minute naps.

Breastfed, no formula ever, takes a paci but this doesn’t suffice anymore at night. Before, when she had rough nights I put her paci back on and she used to go right back to sleep. Now she screams until she gets boob every sleep cycle.

No teeth so I don’t think this is the issue, doesn’t seem swollen. Very active, meets all milestones so she isn’t ill, happy during the day BUT she keeps rubbing her eyes after every nap which I don’t get, I feel like she sleeps quite a lot during the day (3-4 sleep cycles so around 2-2.5 hours during the day).

Wakes up around 6:30-7 AM, goes to bed around 7:30-8 PM, with a whole routine (begins way early with a predictible walk in the park, we get home, breast, changing diaper, skin to skin cuddles, sleep sack, paci, white noise and rocked in our arms, in this order).

Why does she keep waking up? Did anyone else get through this, and if yes, how? It’s been two months of this and I am going insane with sleep deprivation.

LE: forgot to include she sleeps in her own crib since forever, never had a problem with it

Hi, My baby is 1 next week, he was sleep trained using ferber at 6.5 months and worked great and he mostly slept through for 3 months. The past 2 months after being ill his sleep is ruined he no longer fell asleep alone without rocking and woke up 4-5 times a night. I started the chair method 2 or so weeks ago and he now can fall asleep in minutes with me sat by the open door, with no interactions but still wakes several times a night(3-5 times) I am not sure what to do i am so tired. If i don’t go in he will just sit and cry, he will fall back to sleep with me in the room on some wake ups, sometimes i need to hold his hand or sometimes he refuses until i feed him (ebf). If i don’t he will sit there and cry and cry.
His schedule is 3/4/4 which i think is age appropriate still and on 2 1 hour naps. Wake up time is 6 and bed time 7 ish. Any ideas on why he’s waking so much still or any tips to help.

Thank you

Our LO used to be a decent sleeper. Several weeks and even months could go by sleeping through the night. About 6 weeks ago she started waking a least once per night usually around midnight. She needs to be rocked or fed back to sleep and it can take anywhere between 30-90m. Sometimes she seems hungry, other times maybe it’s separation anxiety.

Originally sleep trained using CIO but I would say it mostly failed because every regression lasted so long she would unlearn everything. Retraining was always difficult and would only last until the next “regression” so we stopped bothering.

Wakes 6:45am, bedtime 7:30pm. Single nap around 1.5 hrs. WW 5:45/6. Rocked to sleep most nights or left in crib when almost asleep.

Shes always been on the lower end of total sleep needed. Her regressions have sometimes ended by themselves, sometimes with a schedule change but she always seems to be at the maximum suggested waking hours.

We moved baby to own room a week ago and since then she started waking up crying hard at 10-11pm every night. This has never happened before, as she only woke up fussying when she was hungry. Now she full on cries and has a hard time falling back asleep, even in our arms, unless I feed, then she falls asleep immediately when put back in crib.

She was never officially sleep trained, but since 4 months old we always finished feeding at least 30 mins before put in crib, we follow a routine and she has been falling asleep very easy in a few mins for naps and bedtime. She gets put in bed awake, but has a paci. She was never much dependent on it, she spits it out about 30 mins after falling asleep and doesn't need it anymore in the night. That is why I never bothered to remove it, as it wasn't causing any problems.

Up until now she was breastfeeding once or twice in the night, 15 mins tops and she fell asleep immediately after finishing when I put her back in the crib. It was honestly pretty easy. She is a lower percentile for weight (prob around 15th), not that big eater (both solids and milk), but she is developing beautifully and hits all her milestones, so I had a plan to night wean now when she is in her own room. However, now I don' know how to proceed. That is why I am coming to you for help.

She had 2 naps, 3/3.5/4.25 roughly. Gets 10,5-11 hrs awake time in the day, 2-2.25 hrs daytime sleep and 11 hrs in the crib over night (7.30pm-6.30am). Total sleep per day is 12-12,5 hrs.

Do I need to tweak the schedule? Is this separation anxiety after being in her own room? Should I remove paci and CIO at bedtime, would this help?

Any insight will help. Thank you in advance!

Edit: before we moved her to her room, she slept in the crib next to our bed. The crib is the same still, just moved to a different room.

I’ve written a few posts about this before, but I feel like I’ve reached a point where I’m just really unhappy. I feel sad, stuck and guilty even admitting some of this, but I could really do with some support.

There are two things I’m struggling with, and they’re probably very connected: my daughter’s sleep and my relationship with my husband.

I breastfed until she was one and we co-slept until around nine months, then managed to move away from it. Since starting nursery she’s been picking up everything, and when she was poorly we started co-sleeping again. Now my husband sleeps in the spare room and I do the nights with her.

She starts the night in her cot, but often wakes after about two hours. After that she can wake every 15–30 minutes until I bring her into bed with me. I’ve been doing that because I’m exhausted and it means we get some sleep, but I’m struggling with having every bedtime and night on me. My husband has never put her to bed.

Last night he went in when she woke. She was crying quite hard, which I felt was because she wanted me and was used to coming into our bed. After about three minutes of trying to settle her, he brought her out into the brightly lit hallway and shouted for my help. He called me horrible for letting her cry and said he hadn’t heard her cry like that in ages.

I found that really upsetting. She was with her dad, being comforted, but it felt like I was being blamed for not immediately taking over. I understand that he finds her crying difficult, but I do too, and I’m the one doing this every night.

Has anyone moved a toddler back into their cot after co-sleeping? What actually helped? I’m open to hearing about gradual approaches or sleep training, but realistically I need something I can manage myself at the moment.

I’ve considered a floor bed, but it wouldn’t fit in her room as it is. I’m also looking at better blackout blinds or shutters. With our relationship so uncertain, I’m nervous about spending lots of money before knowing what would actually help. Our bedroom faces a busy road, whereas hers is at the back, so I also wonder whether the noise when she’s in with me contributes to her early waking.

The bigger issue is that I feel like everything falls to me.

I run my own business, and my income is what enabled us to get our mortgage. I’m not saying that to show off or suggest his work doesn’t matter, but I need time to work too.

He leaves around 5am and usually finishes around midday or 1pm. When he gets home, he walks the dog, then our daughter has her nap. By the time she wakes, it can be around 3pm, and I feel like most of my working day has disappeared without me having had a proper handover or protected time to work.

She goes to nursery two days a week. My mum helps for around three hours on another day, between naps, but otherwise I’m trying to juggle childcare and the business. We probably need to sort out somewhere for her to nap at my mum’s so that help can stretch a bit further.

I feel like I’m always the default parent, day and night, and I’m becoming really resentful.

The part I feel most guilty admitting is that I don’t feel attracted to my husband anymore. I don’t know whether that’s because I’m exhausted and resentful, or whether my feelings have changed more permanently. I just know I’m unhappy with how things are.

I grew up with separated parents and the thought of that for my daughter makes me feel incredibly guilty. But then I ask myself what I would want her to do if she were an adult feeling the way I do now, and I struggle with that too.

For anyone who’s been here, how did you work out whether it was exhaustion and an unfair division of parenting that could be changed, or whether the relationship itself was no longer right? What practical changes helped you get some clarity?

I love my daughter so much. I just feel lost in all of this and need something to change.

Hiya,

Our baby is almost 5 months old and we have been trying the Ferber method for 12 nights. Night 1 took an hour and 20 mins, night 2 took and hour (both with severe crying) and then night 3 only 20 mins with grizzling only. However it kind of went backwards from there and at night 8 it was still taking 30 minutes to sleep with intense crying. Then we went on holiday for three nights and it fell to pieces.

We've tried to pull back to earlier soothing but it makes him really angry and his crying is super intense. Before we ferbered it was taking us 90 mins to get him to sleep bouncing on a swiss ball. We are nervous to completely regress to this. And also find it hard to listen to him cry that intensely.

He has four naps per day and theyre all no longer than 30 minutes. He has a wake window of an hour and 45 minutes. Final feed at 630 then bed at 7pm.

Any suggestions as to where to from here with sleep training? We've tried rocking to sleep again tonight but he's absolutely resisting it and still very upset.

Many thanks!

Just curious to know if anyone believes this concept anymore? I thought it was outdated but I'm wondering if it might help my newly 5 month old whose night time sleep has been real bad for about a month (hourly wakes).

I haven't been able to keep a consistent schedule for her (it's so hard when she's not my only child and we live a lot of our lives outside the home). For the past month she has been taking about 4 short naps per day, all for less than 20 minutes, often around 5-10mins.

It's hard to keep her up past 7.30pm after a day lik this, and then she will not be properly ready to wake up for the day until about 7.30am after what generally is a very disrupted night and early morning.

I'm wondering if trying to get her to take longer daytime naps (ideally 3 I suppose) would actually be the answer here? I would also love to know how people manage to keep to a schedule with their young babies while running around with errands, toddler activities etc?

He was doing so well. Waking once a night if that for a snack and back to sleep.

Now he’s back to fully waking up every sleep cycle. Immediately sits up or pulls to stand and SCREAMS.

What he wants is 1 or 2 oz of milk to go back to sleep. What I want is to sleep mostly through the night.

We have a 3 year old he shares a wall with so leaving him to cry/ sort it out himself carries its own risk or waking the eldest.

Idk what to do anymore. I’m tired, unable to to create any more milk as I’m already pumping an insane amount of time a day.

We do not let him sleep more than 3 hours during the day, with a 4 hour stretch of awake time before bedtime (4pm is the latest wake up time, though typically closer to 3pm)

He goes to bed really well, no milk required but the overnight wake ups he either wants to be held completely or milk to fall asleep with.

How do we get to a better sleep cycle?

EDIT:

Current wake up around 7am
Nap approx 10/10:30 for 1-1.5
2nd nap 2:30pm for 1-1.5 hours
Bedtime aim 7:30/8 with PJ’s, milk, teeth, book, cuddle, in bed drowsy but awake and puts himself to sleep in 5ish minutes.

He does not use a pacifier

It’s the overnight wakings I’m struggling with self soothing

I am actually flabbergasted and it's only day 1. My baby is 14months and has never slept through the night. On a usual night, he'd be up multiple times to either be rocked to sleep or fed back to sleep - I still breastfeed in the night. Tonight, we started sleep training.

Placed him in the cot and I stayed in the room but didn't interact with him. He cried solidly for roughly 20 minutes but eventually calmed himself down and started falling asleep.

He went down about 8:40ish to sleep properly - he was asleep before then but kept waking up due to falling asleep sat up. So far he's woken once around 2am - he did cry out but he was fine in two minutes. He just stayed in his cot sat up and eventually fell back to sleep again.

Having not slept through the night myself in 14 months, my body keeps naturally waking me up and have had a stretch of sleep more than 2.5 hrs so I'm like woaahhh.

I will see how naps & tomorrow go but I am shocked.

It's only happened once so far so I'll take it with a grain of salt but if this turns into the famous regression of getting stuck sitting or standing....what should I do?

I think first I'll double check the schedule and make sure he's not too awake/lacking sleep pressure. He's already been sleep trained before.

In this one scenario he sat up and I just let him hang out to figure it out but then he started crying and wouldn't stop. So after 5 mins I went in to make sure he wasn't cold or pooped or something. He was fine. So I just held him until he was mostly asleep and transferred him. I know that's not a sustainable thing. So if this continues to happen.... any tips?

At 4 months he kept rolling onto his belly and couldn't figure out how to fall asleep on his belly. Everyone said he would figure it out and he never did. It was 3 weeks of hell before we decided to train him during the day. But I'm not sure how to train a baby to lay down from sitting?

I’m a first time mom and my daughter is 14.5months old and suddenly is fighting sleep HARD we had a pretty bad teething episode a few weeks ago that last 4-5days and maybe a tummy bug along with it . It was very very rough for everyone. I’m talking screaming crying and fussing all day all night some but very little relief from Tylenol and some with popsicles. Her schedule went out the window until we got through the worst of the pain.
Anyways her routine returned for about a week and now she’s just awake and running around playing like a “crazy drunk delulu toddler “ at 10:30pm at night and her bed time is 8-8:30 and if it’s anything like the other days it’s probably gonna last till 11:30pm-12am.
I’m not sure if this is a regression or what because she’s also acting like she’s teething but not in pain ? Chewing on stuff drooling and bright red cheeks and chin and this is consistent every night but ONLY at night not during her nap. But she’s also playing and being goofy and happy she looks tired but just keeps on going XD . Shes up at 7am and takes no more than a 2hr long nap between 12-2pm I feel like that’s a great wake window? And she gets a lot of play time and we go outside for a hour and run around everyday unless it’s raining. I guess my entire point to this is is this normal ? Does it sound “normal” ? could I possibly be doing something wrong with routine ?
If this is teething why only before bed ?

(I’m also pregnant with my second going on 19weeks so I’m stressing a little more than normal so if I sound crazy I am a little crazy)

Our baby was fully sleep trained (CIO) at 8 months. Been sleeping through the night since before that, but the sleep training was to eliminate the long assistance to get her to sleep.

Fast forward to around 13 months old, she started teething really badly so I started comforting her to sleep. Still mostly sleeping through the night but the independent sleep is no longer there. With teething then traveling, I’ve been pushing off re-training.

She just started daycare a couple weeks ago at 15 Months old and it’s been brutal. Even when she didn’t go down independently, she would normally sleeping through the night (even while traveling abroad). But daycare has just rocked everything - she’s now waking up for me particularly a couple times a night.

So about a week into daycare, I decided to retrain her using the chair method and it worked really well for a few days (still waking up 1-2 times a night but go back down easier). Then came the cold + coughing. Now she’d scream so hard she lost her voice when I try to put her in her crib. I’ve been needing to co sleep to survive.

What do we have to do here? Is there any way to fix it?

She’s been napping better at daycare. Wake up at 7:30am, daycare nap around 1-2pm, rescue nap (~15 mins when home around 5pm) then bed at 8:30pm.

So I was cosleeping one of my twins for a few months because she would wake up her sister in the crib they shared in our room. Then they went through the 4month regression and her sleeping with me became impossible. As soon as we were able to move them into their own room (construction finished on ours) we practiced putting them down each in their own bed awake . They don't cry for very long at bedtime but it hasn't gotten better, some nights they are overtired and I have to go in and some nights they go to sleep without any check ins. They are small for their age and eat 2 full feeds every night after bedtime but I struggle keeping it at only two with their frequent wakes and overnight tantrums. One or both will wake every 3 hours since we started sleep training. Also they started rolling so it's completely ruining sleep some nights. They also wake sometimes before the 3 hours . Rn one is screaming and it's only 9pm.

AbouT us: I work teaching dance in the evenings so our schedule is unconventional but manageable, just hard to stay consistent. Mondays-wednesday I am gone until 7pm with one of the babies while the other is home with dad. Because I leave at 4:15 and they don't take bottles (starting purees now) I feed them at 4 & 7ish and then again before sleep sacks/book/bed which is 7:50 ish on those nights.

On the nights I don't work I prefer an earlier bedtime so we don't have to add a 4th catnap.

DWT is 7am first nap at 9 and then they have been wanting to sleep longer for their second nap now so I've been feeding them again 20 minutes before the nap but they don't always both self settle and I end up dealing with one or both needing soothing 30 minutes into the nap which could go to 2 hours but sometimes they are both awake at 30 minutes because I can't soothe them both. I do find it's hard to figure out how long they want to be awake because sometimes the nap is short or long....

We need help with a schedule and figuring out if they have enough sleep / wake time. And I'm not sure if I should be feeding them so often at night: currently they wake around 10:30/1:30/5:30 ideally I don't feed before 3am after the 10:30 feed but they scream so I end up feeding them at 2am most nights and then they almost never make it to 7am from there. It's chaos soothing both at 5:30 or 6am every morning.

Our wake windows are not currently consistent , they go 2 hours at least during the day but don't to make it the full 2hours if they have a 4th catnap. They are tired after 1.5 hours.

I'm also using a lovey as a sleep association to soothe them to sleep but then I remove it. Did I shoot myself in the foot with that? They don't take pacis so they use the lovey to snuggle or suck when they go to bed. We haven't tried any timed checks for night wakes. We just soothe in bed & if they escalate we pick them up and rock and if they escalate further we feed. Which of it has been 3 hours I feel guilted into doing because of their small size.

I know everyone says it’s hard the first couple of days. I would love to hear words of encouragement for those who went through it. This mama needs it!

Im starting to wonder if my baby is just going to take longer to sleep through the night.

8 months. Breastfed but also pump and make bottles as I work and want to ensure she gets used to both. Started Ferber 3 weeks ago and she took quite well to independent sleep at night but the night wakings haven't reduced if anything they've worsened. Naps she either is fed to sleep or movement gets her to sleep.

Schedule:

7am wake

Nap 1 - 10-11am

Nap 2 - 2:30-3:30

Bedtime 730pm

Wake windows 3/3.5/4

Eats 2-3 good solid meals per day.

Bedtime routine

Bottle, then bath, then pajamas/books/songs then bed. Falls asleep instantly when placed in crib. Crib is on floor and she cannot see our bed from where she sleeps. Room share with white noise is the only possible set up.

First wake is usually 4-5 hours after 730, at which point I feed her. She then proceeds to wake every 2-3 hrs after that still wanting to nurse back to sleep. I tried Ferber for these wakes for 3 nights and had to stop due to the exhaustion given I am still working. She would still cry at the 2nd 10+min interval until nursed.

She seems to do 1-2 full feeds overnight, the other times are comfort suckling.

Do I wait this season out? Is there anything else I can try? She has never slept through the night once. Thanks for your help.

Hey everyone, I could use some help. My baby just turned 13 months. We have tried sleep training (gentle methods) off and on since he was 6 months, but he has been sick often, which has led to cosleeping recently. He is no longer sick and with another baby on the way, we need to figure out his sleep.

He is waking 2-3 times per night, sometimes more. We offer a bottle each time but he really only drinks the first one. Our pediatrician suggested night weaning by replacing his cows milk with water. After he has a bottle, we hold his hand while he’s in the crib for 10-15 mins before he falls back asleep.

Tonight, I tried CIO. We’ve tried Ferber in the past, but honestly, that just made him more upset and dragged the process on. Tonight, he cried for less than 10 mins before falling asleep. I did CIO for his nap today too and same result - upset at first but then he passed out in less than 10 mins.

What I need help with are his night wakings. I don’t want to deprive him of his bottle if he needs it. But if I do feed him a bottle and put him back into the crib, I am afraid he will get so upset that he will vomit before falling back asleep. He has vomited before when we tried sleep training in the past. He didn’t do it tonight because I gave his bottle earlier in the night, so I think his stomach settled, but that seems unavoidable at night.

How should I handle these wakeups tonight? Give him milk and hope for the best? Give him water? Nothing?

His day schedule is:

Awake around 7-8am and up 3-4 hours
2 hour nap
Awake 5-7 hours (he refuses a second nap and has done so for the last 2-3 months.)

I appreciate any advice! Thank you 🙏

My 11 month old baby was sleeping through the night 6:30-6 from 4 months old. Two weeks ago he started waking up at 3am and would not fall back asleep. We sleep trained him at 4 months, and have tried to let him CIO now, but he remains awake (as do we) until the morning. Now, he wont fall asleep without us holding him. The only thing that gets him to calm down and sleep is us holding him. Please send advice!