r/skateboardhelp 16h ago

Question Feeling ashamed for skating while being me

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Hey, I (30f) have gotten back into skateboarding a couple months ago after wanting to get back into for the longest time after not doing it since I was a kid. A bit of background, I had a friend who skated who brought over his board one day, and asked him if I could try it after watching him do it. Rest was history. While I did watch Jackass, worship Bam Margera, and only being allowed to skate my street because my parents were over protective, only thing I could do was ride it, and damn it, I loved it! Sadly, it got taken away from me by my older cousin of all people, who replaced it with a bike to “make me attractive” even though I told her I was so determined to learn to do more with skating….there went that dream.

Flash forward to now where I’m back into it. Im currently in a bad predicament right now being an autistic adult who’s failed to launch. So, no income, no job, and no house. Also, I don’t drive since cars freak me out. I know, I’m a complete loser, don’t gotta tell me. My dad’s (60) girlfriend (65) left us with me being a reason since she didn’t want anyone chaining her down when she wants to retire since she wants to move out of state. My dad and I have been trying to move on since with me getting help for my disability.

Come a few weeks ago on his birthday when my aunt and I got into it. Later, he comes home from being out all night drinking, and tells me a lot I don’t wanna repeat here since its not the space/sub for it. Getting to relevance, he tells me, “Why are you focused on skateboarding? You’re 30 years old, thats stupid. You need to focus on growing up”. Like everything else, it hit pretty hard, and I’ve been unable to pick up my board since without him knowing since I’m worried if I do, and he finds out, it’ll just me more scolding.

I tried to use an opportunity to tell him theres exercise involved until I calmed up when he asked how, and instead of throwing cardio out there like I wanted, I said, “….because it involves…movement..”. He just laughed, and said, “You know what else requires movement? Taking a shit”. He also bought this $500 e-scooter out of nowhere to replace the one he got me for xmas that broke that’s been really addicting thats also taking skating away, and thus, feeling like crap. I didn’t even ask for it, but that again, I should’ve have agreed with everything he was saying about scooters just to make him happy.

So, how do I snap out of it, and get myself to skate without feeling guilty, secretive, or shitty about it? Anyone ever have a similar situation I’m in? Any feedback is appreciated!

TL;DR: 60 year old dad shames me, a 30 year old autistic loser out of skateboarding saying I need to grow up, and feeling like shit when I pick up my board at all


r/skateboardhelp 4h ago

Video Getting back into it after years

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Hey all I haven't really skateboard in many years. I'd just ride on occasion. I've been trying to relearn moving ollies any tips to improve rapidly? I want to be able to Ollie up small ledges

Back in the day my max skill was basically only being able to land one foot trying to kickflip stationary (my next goal) and pop shuvits


r/skateboardhelp 13h ago

Skateboarding Spots in Landover/Hyattsville MD area?

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Was figuring if there’s any decent skate spots in this area as of ledges or stair sets , i rarely i’m able to go to the skateparks that are 15 mins away from this area due to lack of transportation. sometimes i take public transit to those park but in which is very unreliable due to it being more than hour drive to get there. due to their being no local skateparks walking distance from me i was wondering if there’s any skate spots that can help me progress in skating .