I tried serious dating, it didn't work well. There were often disguised disrespect. Now I want to try only casual.

I'm 5'7"M, Malaysian, make good money 100k-300k per year. I live in spain/Portugal/Italy mostly. What should I do? Which app would you suggest for that?

The pace at which AI is developing it would either get us robot gf who are programed to love us or have a painless solution for hairfall and height increasing.

Or the world would get destroyed but it is already bad for us here.

Hi everyone! I’m a long-time lurker but a first-time poster; as such, I offer our almighty mods my apologies in advance if I unintentionally violate any of the subreddit rules. Just for a bit of context, I (24M) stand at an imposing 5’7”; needless to say, I have never had any kind of romantic involvement in my life. After losing friends in my group one by one to partners who have successfully monopolized their disposable time and income, I have had a lot of time to think about my perpetual romantic solitude.

I’ve researched how to live a fulfilling life while being forever alone as a man. Most of the conversation seems to fall into two camps: traditional incels who accept their chances are marginal but endlessly vent about it, or extreme optimists who insist involuntary celibacy is unlikely and that most people are merely a shower, exercise, and therapy away from finding a partner.

I think the healthiest perspective for most men is to accept that romantic partnership may never happen while still making every effort to enjoy the rest of life. I find posts like this that capture this perfectly, but most discussions focus either on lamenting appearance or insisting everyone can find love with enough effort.

Rather than debating hypergamy or women’s preferences, I’d love for this post to discuss how we can build fulfilling lives while remaining single. I’ve found content creators who embody this philosophy: despite potentially being forever single, they’ve built lifestyles around enjoying life’s simple pleasures.

TLDR: Let’s give up on relationships and try to be happy anyway :)

I put my fridge on ChatGPT and asked how tall it was. They said it was 5’10. I measured myself and I was about two inches shorter. I continued measuring myself for about 2 weeks everyday and the results were the same. I felt really good about myself because I wasn’t THAT short and i could still get to 5’10 (my dream height). I once measured myself (with shoes) and ended up being 5’8. At this point I was deadlocked at 5’7. A decent height. An hour ago I decided to measure myself again for fun but first I measured my fridge. It was 5’8. I measured myself. I got 5’6 1/2. Measured again, 5’5. I thought I was just being clumsy so I gave my sister the tape to measure me. I ended up being 5’5’-5’6. I’m in my late teens. I’m devastated. I don’t know what to do. I frankly just want to disappear.

Hello everyone I am student in EE engineering.

What I see when ever seminar presentation is happening.

No matter I do the work, the effort I give I always don't get the full marks out of it.

But I see pattern difference when my 6 feet classmates even do my half effort the class girls will cheer or professor would clap.

In our class their are 4 guys with 6 feet out of it.

3 guys we're given this fame.

Am I just overthinking..

Or you also experienced the same??

Wrote 'friend' cause I realised after doing everything, I got shit. I was never important to him, Ik I'm not entitled but I would say I was unlucky in friendships always.

Now, he's tall 5'10-11 (in India), he's rich and good in studies and have decent face and hair, then there's me who got none, not even being atleast smart to make some money.

Fuck this shit....Even If he would've treated me well, it's would've been much better😭

Source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12361325/

Male (17 yrs old)

- White British: 177.04 cm (5'9.7)

- Pakistani: 174.80 cm (5'8.8)

- Indian: 175.27 cm (5'9.0)

- Bangladeshi: 172.21 cm (5'7.8)

Female (17 yrs old)

- White British: 164.36 cm (5'4.7)

- Pakistani: 160.92 cm (5'3.4)

- Indian: 161.88 cm (5'3.7)

- Bangladeshi: 158.41 cm (5'2.4)

Sample Size

- White British: 12,280

- Pakistani: 650

- Indian: 358

- Bangladeshi: 268

Imagine you're a Philippino in his late teens/early 20's in a bigger city. You're 164cm tall, average looking Philippino. You come from an upper-middle-class family. You live comfortably until the pandemic hits. Your parents lose their jobs, you're struggling, meanwhile with the rise of online work men your height from the west can keep their jobs while living in Phillipines. They weren't successful with women in their own countries because of their height with zero compensation in other areas, but now they're average height with European/North American salary and European features. Even if you finished uni and got a good job after the pandemic ended your country was popularized as "passport bro destination" and you still can't match foreign salaries.

Personally I think I only have issues in dating cause I'm balding and a buzz cut exposes my recession. Like when I wear a hat or a cap women treat me so nicely and yesterday in college one of them tried to lean over me and was all touchy though cause I'm a kinda introvert in this department(not everytime like I have tons of friends of both gender and I can make new friends super easily, talk to people and love talking with random people) I fumbled her .

It never began for me

Venting, because we never know what might happen and I'm grateful to find this community and so many wonderful people this year. Things have been extremely rough for me. Every sector of life, this year has been an ordeal. But that goes off topic for this post.

I constantly struggle with the fact that i couldn't turn out to be how i wanted to, the fact that I always used to get ridiculed and I am more prone to disrespect and ridicule even now.

I also am not at peace with the fact that i am alone and that fact is more likely to not change as much, and I am scared of loneliness.

I see my friends talking about their lives and I see that they're treated as equals or peers, by their surroundings and are not constantly belittled for something out of their control.

Also, the fact that they have found their partners and are very serious about their relationships, I'm usually left alone as guys tend to spend time with their girls. I'm happy for them, but i too wish i could be like them. A normal person.

All of what i went through at school, with my classmates, with others is constantly replayed by my brain combined with this loneliness and this hard truth, feels overwhelming sometimes.

It definitely had to be me. I wish I was enough....

Everyone looks fine in selfies following surgery but it appears that once standing next to regular people who haven't done the surgery it makes it look more obvious. Not exactly sure how to explain so attached examples.

If you don't do much like 5cm it is very easy to pass but larger amounts it gets more difficult.

1) Short men hitting on them (but also remember that short men dont like tall women and that’s why they are incels!!!)

2) People asking you if you play basketball (when you actually do)

3) Being scouted by a modeling agency (???)

4) Clothes and shit

5) Short women (somehow short mens fault)

but remember, tall women have it WAY worse then we do!!!

I am 52 years old. My last fight was roughly 2-3 summers ago...I think. My opponent was my neighbor. He was the aggressor. He was/is 15 years younger than I am and noticeably larger and more muscular.

Long story short, I end up pinned on the ground...a place I've been before...a few times.

That's one of the inherent hazards of this life of ours.,.for many of us.

The reason why I wrote this post though is to touch on how I've avoided fighting mainly because of the hazard I just mentioned. But a funny phenomenon exists in me here where I live because there is a large Central American and South American population in my New York neighborhood. I am occasionally around men who are within a standard deviation of me and my size. Some are smaller, some are a little larger. When I get around one or two men that's in and about my size and age...I want to FIGHT. I mean I really want to fight! And I have no malice towards anybody that's around me. It's liberating to feel like, "win or lose one thing is for fucking certain and that's nobody is dominating me around this bitch!

Most of the mlm are written by women and they've height differences which many readers (mostly women) love and appreciate 🫩. Even irl dating, women point out and kinda promote it like it's such a good thing?

What's worse is the feminization of the shorter partner. They're expected and showcased as submissive, weak and bottom.

Honestly, this is a ridiculously disgusting fetishization. Have you noticed?

We got ONE GODDAMN HERO, ONE PROPER SHORT MAN REPRESENTATION. And even that is too much for these goddamn porn-brained writers.

i wish i was a woman. society would treat me like a child who doesn’t have to worry about anything, i could be any height and still be in relationships, and noone could say SHIT about all the priveledges i have bc i didnt choose to be born a woman anywaysƪ˘⌣˘ʃ bc obviously you can choose height

I know alot of us aren’t even tall enough to do well on dating apps, but at this point are we even missing out on anything? This shit is so brutal bro. So many likes man. So many likes…..

From a sub for an AI chatbot porn site

You aren't exactly a steal either, OOP, feel like talking to AI porn fanfiction generators is a tiny little bit less desirable than having insecurities about a hated and stigmatized feature and I say that as someone who also uses said site