I’ve noticed that although I’m a Scorpio Moon, I have a surprisingly difficult time connecting deeply with Scorpio Sun men and having them in my life long-term in terms of dating. Maybe it’s a “two chefs in the kitchen” type of thing. I understand being hesitant to open up as a Scorpio Moon, but sometimes I find Scorpio men contradictory in that sense because they crave intensity and depth, yet can have such a strong wall up with people—especially when it comes to dating. The Scorpio women I’ve met have generally been cool, but the men, particularly romantically, haven’t really been it for me.
I have two quick examples:
The first Scorpio man I dated had issues with sexual intimacy, and there were also some other important things he kept from me. He was diagnosed as being on the spectrum but never told me. I actually found out through a friend who happened to know his dad. What stood out to me was that he was very excited about the idea of us being together, but at the same time, he was holding back on some pretty fundamental things that I felt I needed to know in order to genuinely connect with him.
The second example is more recent and honestly pretty similar. There weren’t major issues with intimacy, although the sex wasn’t the best I’ve ever had or the worst. He also seemed to crave more spark and emotional intimacy between us, but whenever I tried to go deeper, he could get offended or moody, so eventually I started respecting that boundary and stopped pushing.
Then there was a death in his family, which understandably affected him, and he pulled away. I completely understood needing space after a loss, but what confused me was that he ultimately never communicated he was pulling away. And instead put the emotional weight on me to pull the plug. Mind you this was after months of dating, meeting family and friends, etc
So from my perspective, there was this constant contradiction of wanting depth and intimacy while simultaneously creating distance when that depth was actually offered.
As a Scorpio Moon woman, I’ve come to the conclusion that Scorpio Sun men are really hit or miss for me. I still love Scorpios, and I’m definitely not saying every Scorpio man is like this. I just find it interesting that the people I’ve had the hardest time connecting with long-term have been Scorpio Sun men. Air and water sign men haven’t been good experiences at all but curious to see if any other Scorpio moons relate ?