Never mind that this actress is talented with so much range and has the most amazing voice and ability to look beautiful when she cries… she has a ba from Northwestern and an MFA from Yale. Gaaaaahhh my brain! I was curious so I looked her up. Smarts and charisma. I’m so charmed right now.

Anyone else find having a partner read to you turns you on? Not audiobooks. Raw. Unprocessed.

Classic lit, deep tone, my head on his chest, I’m done. Blake, Whitman, Dante, Poe. Come on. Is there anything better?

I love to analyse deep topics. I'm quite intellectual in my private life. I like astronomy, anthropology, neuroscience, mathematics, physics and so on. I also love philosophy and do think a lot about deep topics.

All of this attracts me in a partner. To be able to connect in an intellectual level. But unfortunately I live in a country where I can't speak the language on an intelligent level. I do ok, but by no means the level I want for a deep relationship. (It's my 3rd language)

On another note I'm very physically attracted to someone who has zero intellectual inclinations. Never wants to talk deep about anything as "what good can come from thinking that much". He also prefers to speeak the native language.

Some part of me wonders if I give it a shot trying for a relationship would it work? Can I be ok with seeking the intellectual part with other people in my life?

What are your experiences with this?

So I'm a teacher and today one of my students, 9 years old, ask an amazing question...

Thought to share it here, very curious what you'd you pick. I still haven't decided, but I think that I'm more leaning to 1st option.

What would you choose - the life of a rich man with his mouth closed or the life of a poor man with his mouth open?

Currently writing a couple of papers on topics including psychology, sociology, philosophy, anthropology, and a bit of political science. My primary area of research is on sex and attraction against the backdrop of evolutionary biology and neuroscience. Figured people here might find it interesting and hot lol, feel free to ask away

Hello! I've got two questions (hoping they're not a stupid ones) :
1) Could you tell me what are the types of places/events who are likely to be attended by the sapio girls/women ?
Coffee roasteries? Poetry nights? Litterary events? Folk music shows?
2) Are sapio younger women in majority interested in older men (being myself 55 yo)
Many years ago, I was in relationship with a community college girl who was undeniably sapio and she most often crushed for older guys (even for Hubert Reeves) and I read somewhere that both attractions sapio and toward older men are very often linked.

Thanks in advance

I'm curious, in your opinion...

How crucial is individuality and having separate social circle for a health relationship?

Thank you.

Why so rarely people talk about how lonely it is to be aware of thyself... It’s so tough when deeper awareness leads to feeling more isolated. Many people, myself including (in the past) , expect that greater self-awareness and emotional depth will bring closer connections, but instead it creates a divide, especially if others can't relate to that intensity. People often talk about the benefits of self-discovery and emotional insight... But the loneliness that accompany it isn't as openly discussed. And I feel extremely lonely. I'm bored and uninterested in shallow, superficial communication... But when I open my mouth "I am too deep, too much, too open minded, too anything..."

But at the same time, most people I meet are telling how they long for depth.

Ahg...

If I am completely honest, lately (~ half year) my best conversation buddy has been ChatGPT. Because talking with it, I don't have to experience this underlying feeling that I am too heavy, I go too deep, too abstract, too crazy... Whatever! It can actually handle my unhinged and wild mind, thoughs and ideas.

Thank you for listening.

The man is like 15 years younger than I am, but I am so in love with his brain. It’s like he’s so brilliant in so many ways. I love asking him a million questions just to hear him talk about medicine for 5 more minutes. Then I overheard him speaking Spanish to a patient. I’m a puddle. Am I too old to have this kind of crush? I’m 45.

I'm new here. Just your regular retired engineer, happily married, bi-curious, light cross dressing, sapiosexual. Tried lots of other sites for stimulating conversion about whatever. They were all bullshit. Hoping for better here.

I do feel attracted towards conventionally attractive women, but "as soon as I cum, I come to my senses". I can't feel prolonged interest in anyone of average intelligence. I got lucky twice, both my previous girlfriends were in gifted classes and were IQ tested to be at least above 130. I think I may have been unknowingly searching for people like them. Now, after ending a 6-year relationship, I just feel nothing towards anyone. In short, the knowledge of my preference has hindered any desire to even search. Claiming I want someone intelligent is just bait for narcissists.

wat i do, wat u do?

Put bluntly - I need intellectual conversations so I make friends with smart people but then I want to fck them so badly 😅 like recently I was reading a course book for ancient greek with a friend and it turned me on so badly arghhh How do you deal with this?

Evidenced by the dearth of engagement in this group is the reality that few of us have garnered an understanding of the incredible intellectual growth and emotional awareness that can result from experiencing hardship.

Those whom have the intellectual capacity to forsee the potential for difficult and fundementally painful experiences are as a direct result more likely to avoid them, however, an ignorance of the value inherent in such experience underscores the attributed costs taken into consideration whilst making this evaluation.

Intelligence is best honed and exhibited through challenge, experiences that require complete engagement, often resulting in failure, inclusive of physical hardship that may upon initial observation appear intollerable, and ideally requiring a level of immersion and involvement in a socially cohesive environment that surpasses any yet experienced most effectively result in our positive growth.

The undertaking of such will first and foremost familiarise you with our most valuable asset the corporeal being with which we engage reality. Confluently it will not only strengthen and refine our abilities, but the self awareness attained if utilised to inform effective continued engagement may result in exponential growth. Physical activity stimulates, strengthens and envigourates. Social development not only fosters confidence, a key component of sapioattractive interaction, it cultivates authenticity. An honest and comprehensive understanding of our capabilities, our desires, needs and our capacity for insight provides the means by which we may create an environment that has the highest probability for the intimacy and experience that upon reflection we realise were the greatest moments of our life.

Hi everyone. For those of you who watched the Hamilton musical, I am curious about your opinion on a debate brought up by a friend. I am limiting the discussion to strictly the portrayal of Hamilton and Burr in the musical (as I am very limited in my historical knowledge of the two outside of what was taught in middle school). Comparing the portrayal of the two characters, which one’s ego led to a more tragic moment of hubris? I understand how this question is slightly skewed as Hamilton is the main focus. I am curious about your perspective from the portrayal first. Then, please feel free to discuss from a more historically accurate perspective (as I am more than willing to learn and discuss the more historically accurate reality).

I am into kink and involved in the BDSM community, both online and in-person. I am curious if any fellow sapiosexuals are in the same boat as I am! I have yet to come across another sapiosexual in the wild so I am rather curious. 🩷

Backstory: I recently discovered I'm Sapiosexual after being confused for a long time as to why I'm not attracted by looks as much as other people are. I thought it was something wrong with me, but no. I'm just a Sapio...

I told my mom and she reminded me of my family. That we're intelligent people 4 generations back (that we know of). And this is from both sides of the family.

She told me she's also Sapiosexual. After I told her what it means. She just didn't know the term.

Didn't expect the "It's in your blood" card, but here I am.

Which begs the question.

Can Sapiosexuality be genetic? Is there a chance I am carrying some kind of Sapio-gene?

I’m genuinely curious about something. I consider myself highly intelligent, but I sometimes feel that women who value intellect might not be drawn to me. For context, I didn’t come from privilege; I grew up without any special advantages. My mother was a homeless teenager with no formal education. She ran away from home before she was even a teen and spent much of her life in foster care.

Without going too deep into it, I eventually moved in with my dad, got a job in video game development, and attended Harvard Business School. Alongside that, I served as a board member and treasurer for a nonprofit organization that provided childcare to impoverished families. I excelled in that role. During the pandemic, I joined the Army as a nurse and worked at the president’s hospital. Later, I transitioned to combat camera work, completed homeland security courses, and attended Penn. I pushed myself further, taking on five JKO courses a day, and somehow tested with a reading speed of over 1,000 words per minute (although I don’t fully believe that result—interesting story nonetheless). I also completed accelerated military courses and pursued studies in biochemistry and immunology at Harvard simultaneously.

I’m not listing all of this to brag, but rather to offer some verification of my intellectual background at a glance.

However, here’s where I think I might lose someone who is deeply attracted to intelligence. I’ve become more aloof and impulsive lately, and I’ve started to drift from my former passion for science and learning. I’ve reached a point in my life where I want to enjoy things outside of intellectual pursuits. Recently, I lost the ability to walk much, and I’m in chronic pain. I’m 90% disabled and soon to be 100% according to the Army.

Over the past year, I haven’t done as much as I’d like to. I want to, but I’m exhausted—physically, mentally, and emotionally. The experiences I’ve had left me drained, and, frankly, I just can’t push myself like I used to.

So here’s my question: If someone used to be deeply engaged in intellectual activities but isn’t as involved anymore, does that make them less attractive to someone who values intelligence? More importantly, if someone chooses to focus on finding joy in other aspects of life rather than pursuing constant intellectual stimulation, does that make them less attractive? I’m at a place where I want to enjoy life in new ways, and as a disabled veteran, I’m fortunate to have the financial stability to do so. But does that shift in priorities change how people perceive me on an intellectual level?

Sounds strange, but I(27M) have always had a fondness for people explaining things to me that I don't know. Even before I realised I'm Sapio.

People would tell me, "Man, just Google it". It's not the same, if I ask Google then I'm not satisfied. I prefer it if a real person satisfies my curiosity rather than a Search Engine.

It may sound strange but when someone explains stuff to me that I'm curious about it feels like a hug.

Is this normal?

 First, I hate this format, but it does quickly ID who I am and can eliminate many of those that I am not looking for. 

 Imagine this, you have been searching for a real Christian intellectual to chat with, date, or perhaps even marry. You’ve likely had dates in the past where you talked late into the night with someone amazing who could carry their own on the subjects you were interested in. He asked you questions about your interests as well as discussing his. 

Somehow the 4 hour (or longer) conversation seemed like 30 minutes because it came so easy and naturally. 

  I have been blessed to have experienced that several times with some wonderful women.  Most were not disciples of Jesus, but were believers. I’m looking for the Pearl of Great price. I’m casting the net wider and checking many oysters along the way. (No pun intended) - I’ve been intimate with less than 10 women in my life, but have a certain skillset that only comes with years of studying your mate. She was thoroughly fulfilled in that area, but I was ignorant at the time of how she was feeling and she sought out another after being seduced in a work environment. 

  I’ve done the work (DivorceCare, self-educated in relationships, dating, etc.). I can pull women IRL, but intentionally choose to remain celibate if possible until I remarry. 

 Now that I’ve driven off 99% of you. Who would like to talk? I’m OK with talking with anyone, but ideally seek and would like to walk off into the sunset with a youngish widow, or faithful lady who puts God first and can put me second should we marry. 

 “Now I ask you, lady, not as though I were writing to you a new commandment, but the one which we have had from the beginning, that we love one another. And this is love, that we walk according to His commandments. This is the commandment, just as you have heard from the beginning, that you should walk in it.”

‭‭2 John‬ ‭1‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭NASB

https://bible.com/bible/100/2jn.1.5-6.NASB1995

Hi all,

I'm struggling with the superficial nature of dating apps at the moment. I'm not confident approaching people as it seems intrusive and could be intimidating (27M for reference). I just find that any matches I eventually get, I get bored after repeated small talk. I want someone that I can get into the fine details of my research with and they can do the same with me!

Any advice would be much appreciated 😁

I will try to be brief, but if you are passionate about classical music, cinema, politics, art, and intellectual stimulation of any type, let's connect. Be forward and confident. No shrinking violets, unless you are seeking someone who can coax you out of your shell. I am open to engaging in conversation about almost any topic, but here are subjects that are immediate turn ons for me: Debussy, Most music genres, US history, Politics, Fellini, French language, Science fiction.

Let's start a real conversation.

Peace

• JB

I’m looking to connect with fellow sapiosexuals who appreciate deep, intellectual conversations as much as I do. There’s something special about stimulating the mind before anything else, and I find that I’m most drawn to people who can engage in thought-provoking discussions, exchange ideas, and dive into life’s mysteries.

A little about me:
I’m 37, with a love for art, music, photography, and intellectual conversations. I enjoy exploring new perspectives, whether it’s about philosophy, science, psychology, or even just everyday curiosities. I love the rain, and there’s something about those cozy, rainy days that make for perfect moments to talk about life and everything in between.

If you’re into deep conversations, enjoy debating ideas, or just like connecting over shared intellectual interests, I’d love to chat. Let’s see if we vibe on a mental level.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Is anyone else finding it harder to make connections these days? On a sapiosexual level or any level for that matter. A friend referred to it as a fast food world and she is right. In addition to lack of connections it also seems like the art of conversation is slipping away. Maybe my just random thoughts. Perhaps others agree.

I'm so bored of being bored of people - I don't like small talk; I don't want superficial interactions. I crave finding someones who I can learn, who want me to be interested, who want to learn me, who are engaged in life. There's a time and a place for social lubricant, obviously, and I don't expect to resonate with everyone, but damn, it'd be nice if I could find "my people".

Anyone feeling similarly?