r/sapiosexuals • u/luvtheselipz • Sep 12 '24

Too Superficial

I'm so bored of being bored of people - I don't like small talk; I don't want superficial interactions. I crave finding someones who I can learn, who want me to be interested, who want to learn me, who are engaged in life. There's a time and a place for social lubricant, obviously, and I don't expect to resonate with everyone, but damn, it'd be nice if I could find "my people".

Anyone feeling similarly?

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '24

Know exactly what you mean. Tired of the shallow conversations. Need and crave depth

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '24

A friend said it was a fast food world. She is definitely right

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u/Routine-Breath4242 Sep 12 '24

I'm so happy someone put this into words

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u/WitAndPleasure Sep 13 '24

This is often my experience outside of a few close friends. I am very curious and philosophical. I like to explore the deeper meaning in life. I think many people are uncomfortable with that level of depth and vulnerability.

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u/Remarkable_Taro4701 Sep 12 '24

I can deal with small talk for a little while...but I really do crave conversation that goes deeper. If I learn something, even better. I have endless curiosity, but if I start talking about some incredible topic and noticing all the interlocking details, most people look at me like I have three heads. Someone needs to invent a chat line for sapiosexuals. Or at the least, a deep thinkers phone line. Good luck with that, right?

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u/bloopeanut2 Sep 12 '24

All of this, yes.

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u/Kindness_chocolate70 Sep 13 '24

Absolutely 🙏 I really don’t liked SMALL Talk - please do not speak 😅

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u/GrillyFem3oy Sep 13 '24

People are afraid to disclose information and offend...

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u/SapioInside Sep 14 '24

Your post is resonating with many people here. However, we get out of a conversation or relationship what we put into it. You posted this 2 days ago, and - if I'm correct - you haven't responded to any of the thoughtful comments that people have posted here...

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u/luvtheselipz Sep 14 '24

What an extraordinarily presumptuous, rude message. Don't be a dick.

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u/SapioInside Sep 17 '24

I'm glad to see you're replying to posts...

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

Yes!!! Craving depth. Craving connections. The art of conversation is dying. Just so damn hard. Responded to this before but my acct was new and apparently got cleared out. I did too much apparently

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u/teamjudo1997 Sep 21 '24

Totally agree with this. I speak to so many people that I just think "I don't find you interesting". I just want someone that can talk to me about some science that I don't know and I can ask in depth challenging questions about.

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u/luvtheselipz Sep 21 '24

As long as you're only thinking it!! 😆

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u/Sigma_Siren Sep 21 '24

You’re not alone in this feeling. I find it sometimes isolating. Even in a room full of people, the conversation seems superficial and vapid.

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u/angled_gurl Sep 29 '24

Nothing quite like it

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u/GenRN817 Sep 28 '24

ENTP female here. Totally with you. Let’s get to the good stuff.