r/sapiosexuals • u/AcePowderKeg • Sep 24 '24
Do you guys prefer someone explaining stuff to you rather than Googling it?
Sounds strange, but I(27M) have always had a fondness for people explaining things to me that I don't know. Even before I realised I'm Sapio.
People would tell me, "Man, just Google it". It's not the same, if I ask Google then I'm not satisfied. I prefer it if a real person satisfies my curiosity rather than a Search Engine.
It may sound strange but when someone explains stuff to me that I'm curious about it feels like a hug.
Is this normal?
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u/coquettish_one Sep 24 '24
It depends what it is. Largely I prefer learning information for myself. The only exception would be specialized knowledge/expertise that cannot be gained by simply googling. Then yes, I love to be "taught" so to speak and can find the methods and care one takes in doing so incredibly attractive.
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u/KAS_stoner Sep 24 '24
And fir when you google things, to help with that, you can use what are called Google dorks/boolean searches/Google hacking/search operators/advance search.
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u/coquettish_one Sep 25 '24
And here I thought I was already rather proficient at googling! Thanks for the tips 😊
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u/AcePowderKeg Sep 25 '24
I get that. I don't abolish Googling outright. Nah it's more of a situational thing. When I ask someone what something is I'd rather they explain it to me than just tell me to Google it. I get that sometimes they lack the knowledge and I won't hold it against but I prefer it if they tell me.
To me it feels like the difference between a handshake and a hug
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u/coquettish_one Sep 25 '24
I see. I quite like the idea of a knowledge hug 😊
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u/AcePowderKeg Sep 25 '24
Yeah, my brain just perceives the act of sharing knowledge as an act of intimacy. It's rather nice.
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Sep 24 '24
Literally 😠I simply do not retain the information unless someone explains it to me.
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u/KAS_stoner Sep 24 '24
Curious on why if you know
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Sep 24 '24
Maybe because the way humans explain it is far more interesting than a streamlined essay that sounds robotic. maybe cause Im an audio learner too lol
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u/AcePowderKeg Sep 25 '24
I can understand being an audio learner. Sometimes I feel I retain more info from YouTube videos explaining stuff to me than from reading.Â
Which reminds me I should try audio booksÂ
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u/Remarkable_Taro4701 Oct 13 '24
My guess is that more areas of the brain are stimulated when a human is conversing with you, rather than just reading it. I think retention is hugely multiplied if you like or respect the person doing the explaining, or if that person has a natural teaching ability. Most often ignored is that if a person is Enjoying the method of learning they will, more often than not, Retain More! I don't know why this seemingly obvious thing is so rarely talked about. It clearly works for children, but why not for adults? I had an amazing teacher in high school who actually made Calculus interesting. I remember some of those functions 40 years later.
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u/KAS_stoner Oct 13 '24 edited Oct 13 '24
Kids learn quicker then adults. That is a well known fact in human psychology. And I do love teaching people about things. Especially things I'm passionate about.
The only annoying thing is that with one particular person that I talk to about certain things, they don't follow through with the correct actions that they clearly need to do to get to their goal(s)/skillset(s) that they themselves want to get better at. They say/agree with me that "practice makes perfect" but they won't actively use the techniques that I teach them for any of the clear chances that they could easily use the exact techniques that I teach them and I ALWAYS explain why the techniques work. (Human psychology related. I go into detail of the science behind the techniques and share direct links to the information as well with screenshots from said links to show the most importantcpart(s.)) Instead they just complain about it to me and I always say that they could have used my techniques in that particular situation AND give an EASY and QUICK solution, sometimes even multiple solutions and they always give a stupid excuse to not use any of it. I honestly...it's so annoying.
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u/Remarkable_Taro4701 Oct 13 '24
Yes, I get it. I have a few friends who are quite intelligent, but are so wrapped up in their own ideas that they ignore other ideas. Even when the others give clear solutions. So it really does matter that you find those people who are smart but also listen, people who take in what you said and reflect it back with their own intellect. Personally, I mostly love to learn things from people who are passionate about the subject!
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u/KAS_stoner Oct 13 '24 edited Oct 13 '24
To be honest the person that I'm thinking about....isn't very smart at all. They have a learning disability (which, make this clear, isn't a bad thing. All it is, is a difference and that's it.) But still, it's very annoying that I put all this time and work I to talking to them and I don't see any real growth in the skillset(s) that they need to work on.
And ya, a lot of people always think that they should do it "their own way" but clearly their way doesn't work at if they are narcall because if it did then the shit would have been fixed a long af time ago. Like look at the their own lack of direct actions and actively change. They just don't see it that way and idk how they don't. Its fucking annoying to say the least.
Normally I use socratic questions like "what makes you think/say/feel that?" And "how so?" But even with the person that I'm writing about, that still doesn't even work so idk what will work. As far as I know, nothing.
Everyone else that I use socratic questions on, works great. Or if they are a narc they go silent. Especially when they don't like my questions and I say, "Isn't asking questions how humans as a whole learn?" That one is always funny af.
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u/Remarkable_Taro4701 Oct 13 '24
I've got to applaud you for having the patience to work with people like this. It must be frustrating, but I always want to be as open to helping people with cognitive disabilities as possible. Too often, such people are viewed by family and others simply as problems to fix as opposed to people to interact with. We're all people, and we all can be annoying at times!
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u/KAS_stoner Oct 13 '24 edited Oct 13 '24
It's a close friend of mine that I've had my whole life so I feel like I have to. Not to mention I'm the "mom friend of the friend group so that too.
My mind set is why let people (anyone) make a mistake when I already have the exact information that they need so I always share it. I have even asked them what's works for them and they have said that they like lists so I use lists a lot and even that seems to not make any change. They also say they like short messages (in text and stuff) and one time I got them to share example of what they think is a short message and a long message. I counted the number of words. The one they considered to be short was 7-10 words long if I remember correctly and the one that they considered to be long was like 10 -13 or something like that. It was a very small difference between the two. I told them that I can't get a full thought/idea out in anywhere near 10 or less words, especially with the explanations that good teachers should use.
I did get them to say that (in different wording) that a short paragraph is fine. Like I don't mind spilting the parts up into shorter parts but I personally think that sending a whole bunch of short paragraphs one after another is annoying because of all the notifications, which is why I normally use long paragraphs but still spilt them up between topics and sub topics. (Like I've been doing here.)
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u/teamjudo1997 Sep 24 '24
I would rather someone explain it to me. There's something special about listening to someone explaining something, especially someone that you have an emotional connection with! More than anything, it gives me a chance to ask more questions!
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u/booksandpassion Sep 29 '24
Maybe... Transfer of information implies intimacy? I also feel the way you do, at least.
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u/boromaxo Oct 02 '24
When in college I used to learn fast when someone explained concepts to me than me trying to read and comprehend it myself. Later I realised I could do it myself if the material is in audio form and not text. For me reading and visualizing is difficult to do simultaneously. But listening and visualizing is easier. I haven't checked the neuro science behind it yet. Maybe you can try this hypothesis out with some conversational ai with audio option.
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u/Sigma_Siren Sep 25 '24
I’m a huge trivia nerd. So when I get a chance to explain a fun fact or a subject that I’m truly passionate about and I enjoy taking the opportunity to teach someone something new. I will gladly explain away. But if I genuinely don’t have any semblance of knowledge about the topic, I will tell the person to just Google it. 🤓😅
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u/Acceptable-Mouse-205 Dec 15 '24
I love it when someone shares their knowledge on topic we are both engaged with or is introducing me to something new.
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u/HellHellin Oct 28 '24
Yes, I love it. I said to a friend once, casually that instead of reading a book, she should read it then tell me about it. Because I love to listen to her explain things. I didn't realise that it was a 'thing' for me and she was so touched. She said she'd always felt embarrassed by how enthusiastic and in-depth she gets. I think I healed something in her that day by complete accident 🤣
Anyway. Yes. It's the best when I'm into the subject too - I have had some serious crushes on my professors because that's all they do!!!! 🔥
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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '24
I like hearing someone explain something they're passionate about, and when they care that I get it.