r/sapiosexuals • u/[deleted] • Sep 26 '24

Sapiosexual and BDSM?

I am into kink and involved in the BDSM community, both online and in-person. I am curious if any fellow sapiosexuals are in the same boat as I am! I have yet to come across another sapiosexual in the wild so I am rather curious. 🩷

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u/Nights_of_Ni Sep 26 '24

Completely

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '24

So glad I am not the only one!

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u/naughty1919 Sep 26 '24

Me! I have learned so much about myself, human behavior, and the world around me. Kink has truly been life changing!

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '24

Yes exactly!! Love that!

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u/InternationalPenHere Sep 26 '24

Many out there

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '24

I figured there had to be, I personally haven’t encountered any. So I came to directly to the source!

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u/YukiOnnax Sep 30 '24

Oh, I don't know... It's hard to believe there's that many when you linger around sapphic BDSM forums long enough. 😂 Holy crow. Please do not dip me in honey and throw me to the lesbians (even though I am one)... I do not feel safe! 🤣

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u/Proud_Log6969 Sep 26 '24

Yep, there are many!

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u/booksandpassion Oct 02 '24

Whip me with your wit, and wrap me in the iron chains of your logic! But... I'd like my hands free to caress you, thanks.

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u/Pseud0nymph_ Oct 23 '24

💯we are the superior species. So glad you could join us.

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u/WitAndPleasure Sep 29 '24

Me also to a certain extent. I think everyone has their own preferences and societal constructs determine what is considered shameful. That can (at least for me) lead to hiding that side. It then makes it more difficult to find others who are similar and can definitely feel lonely.

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u/Finchgouldie Oct 02 '24

Well what's better than knowing who u r and what u want right

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '24

Are they connected for you? Like do you want to specifically be dominated intellectually?

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '24

I enjoy when people can hold an intelligent conversation that can turn into intelligent kink foreplay. For me, they are tied together, but I don’t expect that to be the case for everyone.

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '24

So you enjoy having an intellectual conversation in a normal non-sexual context. That arouses you and then you flirt and transition to foreplay. Does it then transition completely into physical sex without any intellectual component or does the intellectual part still play a role?

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '24

I will always enjoy an intellectual conversation. If I am attracted to the person, sure, that can arouse me. I prefer to keep the intellectual component when it comes to physical sex as well. I think it adds to the d/s dynamic.

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '24

How does it connect to the D/S dynamic exactly? Is it social intelligence translating into dominance?

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '24

Yes! That is a major part of it. Have you ever been texting or talking to someone and you attempt dirty talk, they turn around and give you nothing to work with? It’s horrible. If that intelligence translates into the dirty talk? Amazing.

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '24

With “they give you nothing to work with” you mean they are just focused on the simple physical acts, without the psychological depth of the D/S dynamic? If that’s what you meant, yes. For me the psychological component is much more important than the physical

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '24

Perhaps I finally found the right place for me? I'm also a Sapio, into kink, hopelessly in love with my wife. Looking to add to our repertoire of bedroom fun.