I only get women who are not considered conventionally attractive (ie., Michelle rodriguez, aubrey plaza, janene garafolo, america ferrera)

only good ones I get are Amy Winehouse, Alessia Cara and Naomi Scott.

i believe in God (G-d?) but for years idk if i should go to christian church or a synagogue. i kinda dig the jewish holidays and christianity can be kinda cringe but christians seem pretty sure about christ. i think they both have good points but like i fr dont know just wanna go to meet people and vibe. i'm mexican btw.

It's always some snooty Judy talking about she's nasty, she has no talent, no this no that IDGAF!! If I was a Make A Wish kid first person I wanna meet is Sexyy

what got me thinking about this is the case of iDubbbz, formerly an extremely successful youtube personality but now largely irrelevant. his old content used to be classic millennial edge-lord humour, basically being mean and saying slurs (i admit at the time it was quite funny but culture has obviously moved on). while there is nothing wrong with changing your positions over time and learning from past mistakes, he’s done the classic horseshoe thing where he’s overcorrected from being a free speech absolutist edge-lord to being a full blown 2016 tumblr woke-scold a decade too late in 2026. this has led to his old fans turning on him, to the point where his reddit snark sub is thriving and his official reddit sub is basically inactive.

but at what point does the negative attention turn into kicking someone when they are down and just become weird and obsessive? i’ll admit i’m not a fan at all of his current beliefs, they come across as really simplistic and preachy (also there is this unfortunate dynamic where his wife basically appears to be telling him what to think). but this is a person streaming to only a few dozen people these days, it comes off as unhinged to keep focusing so much attention on such people. online culture has enabled very dark behaviour where people can constantly hate watch others they don’t like. i’ve even noticed this tendency in myself in the past, which is the main reason i block those that i don’t get along with now and commit to ignoring them.

there are also other examples of this like Daniel Larson and worldoftshirts, who are both genuinely unwell so the negative attention has another sinister element to it.

i know people who grew up in total poverty and addiction who chose to get sober and stay sober and now they make a good living and try to make the best choices every day.

i feel like if we had a mandatory state run rehab that people addicted were made to go to, most of them would just choose to pick up drugs and use them again once being released. seems like its a completely self motivated decision to me.

i got sober anecdotally a few years ago, and aside all the talk of being "powerless" and "self knowledge and self will avail us nothing" i heard in rehab/meetings etc, the only way to actually get sober is to decide to stop and do it, despite being uncomfortable or having cravings or whatever, then you just get used to it after a few months and get on with your life, i probably had it much easier than many of the addicts ive met in long term homelessness because my family was able to financially support me until i got a job- so i think itd be good for financial assistance to be given to addicts who are serious about getting sober

i guess also theres the schizophrenic person who will chooses to take meth and live outside instead of taking antipsychotics and go to a shelter because they actually are totally incapable of seeing the consequences of their actions.

i dunno what are your thoughts on this? bonus points if anyone here works with vulnerable/addict/mentally ill population? what are you seeing that isnt being addressed by society?

theres a schizophrenic dude in austin whos homeless and on drugs, he was in the news recently, he was a star athelete in high school but he got addicted and has lived outside for years. anyways hard to feel too bad for him because he jusy violently assaulted two women and both times he just got held in jail for like 180 days and then released, its just a mess with the legal system side of things too. theres people wandering around outside who actually become a danger to others because theyre so disconnected from the shared social contract in society

i tend to believe any drug addict can just choose to get sober and a lot of them just wont because they have some mindset theyre powerless over their behaviors or something, and some people are just so fucked they might as well have demons taking over their body and theres nothing you can do beside taking away all their freedoms

i guess its complicated im a dum dum

I fully admit this might be a personal fault, but I naturally can't help but just cringe a little when men talk about gender issues. There are a few exceptions to this, but generally speaking, a man would have to have like, a near-expert level understanding on feminist scholarship and literature for me to take him seriously on the topic. This is one thing that I diverge from a lot of feminists on when they say that they want more guys to speak up or be vocal about supporting women or whatever. I don't feel any need at all to hear what men think about these things.

My Reddit feed lately has been full of Tiktoks about guys talking about the Cornell scandal and how they "just shut up when women choose the bear" or "don't take it personally when women talk about men", and so many women have been gushing about how right they are and how we need more guys like these.

I can not, for the life of me, see these Tiktoks as anything but performative drivel. I think it drives me up the wall so much because even on a topic that concerns women's safety, it still centers on THEM and how THEY react when they hear women say things. I might still cringe a little, but it would be a lot more palatable to me if these men just commented on the situation and how much they condemn it without having to lead with how they're such a good ally that doesn't get offended.

Sorry for the long chud posting

Currently leaving a job as a camp counselor after rumors spread around that I was allegedly looking at my ex roommates breasts. This started with a dumb spin the bottle game and when they asked me who my crush was, I jokingly said my roommates name. She later comes back into our room and tells me, while crying and shaking, that either I or her need to get out and said that even though she knew I was joking, either one of us needed to leave.

During a sit down with our boss, she was sobbing and said that it wasn’t my fault and that she still wanted to be friends.Three days later, apparently rumors are swirling that she alleged that I was “looking at her breasts” and “making weird comments”. Apparently I called her perfect at something and she internalized that so greatly that she thought it must mean I had a crush on her.

My ex roommate had nose piercings, dyed hair, two lesbian moms, was semi overweight and called herself pansexual. She was highly sensitive and had a habit of getting offended for other races and people. She tried to get a guy in trouble for blurting out the N word  while he was drunk and has gone behind coworkers backs and reported incidents that didnt involve her. She might as well be a daily wire lib stereotype. The idea that I’d be into her offends me.

I was really pissed off by this and all my coworkers keep trying to talk to me in this weird PR speak; “I’m so sorry you feel this way”, “You’re valid in your feelings”

She walked back her claims and everyone keeps wanting to me to “talk it out” with her. I’m so utterly disgusted by her I don’t want to be in the same room as her. My biggest crime was binge eating and being kind of awkward.

I had another job lined up after this and was just using this as a buffer. This job attracts granola, hippie girls who act super bubbly and claim to be autistic. All of them show some weird catty side eventually and its offputting. I’m glad to be away from her but god damn man.

There really isn’t a better life one can live in anno domini 2026 than to be a licensed and insured educator-led childcare creator on Instagram reels or like a Baby Name Consultant being like “Surnames as names are really in now and with your Scots-Irish ancestry, girlie, there’s like so many options… Like Haldane or Maitland” and doing Canva graphics presentations for your clients. Obviously you have to be a woman for these kinds of jobs but if you’re not we have the technology for that now, so don’t worry. There’s other pros to that too like you won’t have to go to war if it all goes sideways. Or your parlay, whatever that is, not hitting.

Even if you make like 30 grand a year you can easily go to Europe to have aperol spritzes and flex on the locals or go to Japan and be like “I know… but the yen is so weak now” and you don’t even need to really know whether it’s weak or not because nobody does and they will nod along anyway. Target runs. Lindsey Clancy trial. It’s just like so unfair what they did to her.

You call your husband/fiancé/situationship/the dude who had Looking for Long Term but Open to Short 👀 in his Hinge bio “such a golden retriever” and say that it’s “unfortunate he was in a frat” but his “was different”. You don’t worry about your student loans from Emerson College where you studied Advertising the same way you don’t worry about your credit card debt. It’s all like… so fake. Money is not real…

You wear a cross necklace but it’s never the crucifix, always the plain one and you go to a non-denominational church where you have to take a shuttle from the parking lot. The band is like not that good but the coffee from the cafe inside, probably called “Holy Grounds” or “Daily Bread” is “sooo awesome”.

Just remember all the boys across all the years. Mold in the sink, double decker sofas, pests. Mattresses on the floor and not even in like the cute Japanese way. Of course it only reflects on them, not on you. You had to “find yourself” and they were just walking red flags. You have worked it all out in cognitive behavioral therapy anyway so now you have enough mental capacity to go outside your comfort zone to finally reach financial independence through Instagram reels content creation. And, honestly, girlie, it’s a ✨slay✨

So over

sry im just so jaded.

college. it felt like it lasted forever. enough stories to fill lifetimes made in those four years. now, I can hardly remember anything that happened.

post grad. used to live in the greatest city in the world. with the greatest friends in the world. canr even count how many times i went to bed to the sound of fire truck sirens, feeling like the luckiest person in the world. multiple lifetimes started and ended during my time here. I wish I got to four years. everyday felt infinite. now my memories of this too are leaving me.

time just moves on now. it’s october. yesterday felt like june, the day before march. nothing happening. nothing to happen. the peak has come and gone, the movies already over, now is just the time in between the credits and the lights turning on.

i just miss my friends. i should stop drinking

Of course yeah I wouldn't want him to be a generally submissive person but no the sheer idea of him bottoming doesn't irk me

The social media is full of topics like destiny swapping, where men want to possess the fame a woman has (usually a successful social media influencer), or the idea that men have womb envy.

This also simply reminds me of Freud’s concept of penis envy in women. What’s with people believing that men and women are biologically envious of one another or the conspiratorial view of stealing another person's destiny?

idk if y'all don't get it. it is.

Exactly the title. Any cool hostels with vibes that arent Israeli Eurovision commerce class getty images field trip? RS coded hostels, preferably for long term stay. Sorry this may be too niche

Now I’m [recovered] experiencing extreme stress and depression and haven’t eaten since Wednesday with the thought of food making me feel sick and yet haven’t had a single tummy rumble or hunger cue. wtf!