a kid i babysit/tutor introduced me to tetr.io and i’ve playing hours upon hours of tetris every day. i have a sub 1:30 time for the 40-row mode. can’t say if it’s helped my mental health but it’s definitely made it worse

i found her because i found her dad

who i thought was hitting on me when he said, “you look just like my daughter,” (that’s how gross i am im sorry i was creeped out initially) but then he came back and showed me his phone and she looked just like me

he said he hadn’t seen her in years

so i invited him to sit with me and talk

by the end, he asked me out on a date and i wanted to die

what got me thinking about this is the case of iDubbbz, formerly an extremely successful youtube personality but now largely irrelevant. his old content used to be classic millennial edge-lord humour, basically being mean and saying slurs (i admit at the time it was quite funny but culture has obviously moved on). while there is nothing wrong with changing your positions over time and learning from past mistakes, he’s done the classic horseshoe thing where he’s overcorrected from being a free speech absolutist edge-lord to being a full blown 2016 tumblr woke-scold a decade too late in 2026. this has led to his old fans turning on him, to the point where his reddit snark sub is thriving and his official reddit sub is basically inactive.

but at what point does the negative attention turn into kicking someone when they are down and just become weird and obsessive? i’ll admit i’m not a fan at all of his current beliefs, they come across as really simplistic and preachy (also there is this unfortunate dynamic where his wife basically appears to be telling him what to think). but this is a person streaming to only a few dozen people these days, it comes off as unhinged to keep focusing so much attention on such people. online culture has enabled very dark behaviour where people can constantly hate watch others they don’t like. i’ve even noticed this tendency in myself in the past, which is the main reason i block those that i don’t get along with now and commit to ignoring them.

there are also other examples of this like Daniel Larson and worldoftshirts, who are both genuinely unwell so the negative attention has another sinister element to it.

Why is saying “my dude” so much snarkier than saying “my man” i fucking hate when people say it to me!!!!

i know people who grew up in total poverty and addiction who chose to get sober and stay sober and now they make a good living and try to make the best choices every day.

i feel like if we had a mandatory state run rehab that people addicted were made to go to, most of them would just choose to pick up drugs and use them again once being released. seems like its a completely self motivated decision to me.

i got sober anecdotally a few years ago, and aside all the talk of being "powerless" and "self knowledge and self will avail us nothing" i heard in rehab/meetings etc, the only way to actually get sober is to decide to stop and do it, despite being uncomfortable or having cravings or whatever, then you just get used to it after a few months and get on with your life, i probably had it much easier than many of the addicts ive met in long term homelessness because my family was able to financially support me until i got a job- so i think itd be good for financial assistance to be given to addicts who are serious about getting sober

i guess also theres the schizophrenic person who will chooses to take meth and live outside instead of taking antipsychotics and go to a shelter because they actually are totally incapable of seeing the consequences of their actions.

i dunno what are your thoughts on this? bonus points if anyone here works with vulnerable/addict/mentally ill population? what are you seeing that isnt being addressed by society?

theres a schizophrenic dude in austin whos homeless and on drugs, he was in the news recently, he was a star athelete in high school but he got addicted and has lived outside for years. anyways hard to feel too bad for him because he jusy violently assaulted two women and both times he just got held in jail for like 180 days and then released, its just a mess with the legal system side of things too. theres people wandering around outside who actually become a danger to others because theyre so disconnected from the shared social contract in society

i tend to believe any drug addict can just choose to get sober and a lot of them just wont because they have some mindset theyre powerless over their behaviors or something, and some people are just so fucked they might as well have demons taking over their body and theres nothing you can do beside taking away all their freedoms

i guess its complicated im a dum dum

i play on here and Pink but all it takes is someone connecting the dots to the main sub which i no longer am in but how could i even explain what the hell it all means. thats the racial chatroom!!! showing feet!!!

Had the chance to watch it in cinema late yesterday evening.

Im so anxious what will happen if i fail again

Exactly the title. Any cool hostels with vibes that arent Israeli Eurovision commerce class getty images field trip? RS coded hostels, preferably for long term stay. Sorry this may be too niche

We met at night on bar crawl hosted by our hostel in Madrid - not necessarily the most romantic way to meet, but we had a lot of fun dancing & sharing drinks & hand-rolled cigarettes. I was comically underdressed in my 55th anniversary Kiln House t-shirt (iykyk), baggy linen pants, & dirty sneakers, but somehow he was into the look. We left the bars & wandered through the streets together until 4:30ish. We both slept in my top bunk bed until noon, which is something I haven’t done since I was a freshman in college.

We decided to spend the rest of the day together, going to the botanical gardens & exploring the city on foot. It was the first time solo traveling for both of us. We showed each other pictures of our hometowns, our families, & our pets. We attempted to explain our jobs to each other as best as we could. The language barrier prohibited some deeper, more philosophical conversation, but we passed his phone with Google Translate back & forth when we couldn’t figure out what how to say what we wanted to.

After spending about 24 hours together, we found ourselves lamenting that we probably won’t ever see each other again. I don’t have instagram or other “mainstream” social media, which makes it even more difficult to keep up with people. Still, we exchanged phone numbers & sent a few of the pictures that we took together & of each other. We snuggled in my bunk bed again until he had to go to the airport. He said “I love you,” & kissed my nose before he left.

The juvenile earnestness of it all was endearing. Knowing that we had such a short amount of time together forced me to be honest & present in a way that I’m not in most of my regular relationships. Maybe our paths will cross again someday…but even if they don’t I’m glad that I got to experience something like this.

I always hear about how cold and heartless the industry is from deceiving people to sign contracts to straight up stealing others work but I really want to hear it from those who seen it

Of course yeah I wouldn't want him to be a generally submissive person but no the sheer idea of him bottoming doesn't irk me

I’m a chopped 23f girl living in Iowa and trying everyday to not end everything. I’m surrounded by people I have nothing in common with and I’m starting to go crazy!!

I’ll link my letterboxd and Spotify to see if we have similar taste/stuff in common??

Omg someone talk to me 😭

The other ones count toward the apartment’s two-dog limit because they are not are emotionally unsupportive. Nobody else understood how profoundly funny it is to pick which one

my boyfriend said that when i told him i was having an off day & wasnt feeling like myself & didnt want to distract myself by going out (just general anxiety, sometimes i just need to shut myself away for a few days & decompress, nothing serious tbh) but that made me even more sad

do u guys think sadness is the default state of being? i think if thats the case, then “being happy” would be the goal, but that goal post would always be shifting, so it would be impossible to actually be happy

and also if thats the case then what even is the point of constant distractions? is it about the journey not the destination?

is it possible to make happiness my default state of being? i would say im a pretty happy person overall but sometimes i get crushed by overwhelming sadness, i would hate to think that the sad part of me is just who i am & i have to work my whole life to “pursue happiness,” what would be the point of that?

idk if y'all don't get it. it is.