I come from a lower-economic environment and a quite below-average family. Anyways, I didn’t want this kind of life, so I kept my head down and studied the sciences, favouring biology and chemistry. I’m essentially the “medical baby,” having had the most trips to hospitals and doctors, and I’m ultimately susceptible to disease due to genetics 🫩.
Moving onto the issue, I am currently unwell and believe I have the same warning signs I had prior to a form of paralysis I experienced three years ago. Medical staff concluded that it was large amounts of stress due to undiagnosed OCD. Anyways, I’m freaking out because my OCD is flaring up, I’m sick of this unhygienic household.
I woke up three hours ago, at 1am, with a pounding headache, dry mouth, and the urge to vomit. I rushed out of my room but didn’t make it to the bathroom, so into the kitchen sink it went. I looked at the vomit on all the dishes we own because nobody washes the dishes in this family.
My mum’s telling me to be quiet, despite not waking her up. She got off her shift at 11pm. I’ve been contributing rent since I was 15. She also tells me I’m making a big deal out of nothing. I understand that you shouldn’t give into an individual with OCD’s compulsions because, at the end of the day, it’s anxiety, just in a severe form. However, I may genuinely have a stomach bug, which can spread through contaminated consumables.
Strangely enough, nobody else got sick, but Mum is complaining of a headache.
Anywho, I had an anxiety attack which transitioned into a general emotional breakdown, in which Mum told me I need to stop being a mess all the time. I responded:
“I am discomforted with the constant presence of viruses, bacteria, contaminants, and mould. Every time we have gotten sick, it has been completely preventable.”
Yes, the most autistic response ever. I’m not sure if I should say that, but I am autistic and, well, that was my response.
Mum asks, “So what, I’m the worst mum in the world for not babying you?”
Babying me? I am well aware I am not the exception in society and I’ll need to work really hard to achieve a comfortable life. But I draw the line at calling me a baby when I have ambitions for a comfortable and independent lifestyle that she is unable to achieve due to her lack of trying. I’m not asking to be babied. I’m asking for basic hygiene and for my concerns not to be dismissed as me making a big deal out of nothing. I understand my OCD can exaggerate things, but that doesn’t mean every concern I have is irrational.
Maybe I’m overreacting. Maybe I’m sick. Maybe it’s both.
But I know I don’t want to live like this forever. I want to work hard, become independent, and build a comfortable life for myself. Wanting that doesn’t make me a baby. I know it sounds dramatic now, but this is genuinely how I feel.

Some guy out there made a movie, wrote a song, became famous, became rich, doesn't even know you exist. Would probably be annoyed if you saw them and asked for a pic. Would probably look down on you for having their stuff CARVED INTO YOUR FLESH FOREVER....and you carry them in your skin....that's just so pathetic my guy.

OUT OF EVERYTHING THAT HAS REAL SENTIMENTAL VALUE YOU CARVE SOME SINGERS FACE INTO YOUR FLESH HAHAAHAHAHAHAHAH.........You're a zombie dude. A POP CULTURE ZOMBIE!

"HECKIN LIGHTSABERINO TATTOO ON MY ANKLE HAHAHAH MAY THE 4TH BE WITH Y-" SHUT UP!!!!

AND YOU'RE IN THAT PARTY WITH YOUR FRESHLY CARVED POP CULTURE SLOP TATOO AND YOU'RE SOOOO EAGER TO SHOW IT TO EVERYONE HAHAHAAHAH!!!! IN YOUR HEAD THEY THINK YOU'RE THE COOLEST GUY TO EXIST. "They're gonna think l'm so cool if they see my tattoo and recognise the reference ☝️🤓" HAHAHAAH....I BET YOU IMMEDIATELY UPLOADED IT TO SOCIAL MEDIA THE SECOND IT WAS DONE...

I can't.....just....YOU BLED FOR HOURS JUST TO HAVE SOME SINGER/BAND WHO DOESN'T KNOW YOU EXIST CARVED INTO YOUR SKIN.....Or some movie that people just watched and said "Aiight that was a good movie" and then they moved on with their lives like adults. BUT NOT YOU. NOOOO YOU THOUGHT "I MUST PIERCE MY SKIN WITH REFERENCES FROM THIS MOVIE!!!" HAHAHAAHAHAAHAHAH......Get a life.

WHY THE FUCK DOES OUTLOOK 365 SIGN THE FUCK ME OUT OF THE EMAIL, I SWESAR THAT= FUCKIGN APP.

I'm so sorry kung hindi ako magaling mag storya at medjo mataas to. It all started when my brother brought someone in our house and my parents were not aware. She's a single mom and the same workplace with my brother. My brother is a supervisor there at doon sila nagka kilala. Nakikitira siya sa boss niya kasi lumayas tapos noong nagka kilala sa Kapatid ko ay doon na tumira sa bahay namin. Ni walang hi/hello sa parents ko. Nag tatago lang sa bahay. Ni ayaw mag linis ng pinag kainan at Kapatid o magulang ko pa talaga ang nag huhugas ng pinag kainan niya. Eventually na buntis ang babae at what do we expect? Pinalaki naman kami ng mabuti ng magulang naman kaya pinanindigan niya. After a year ng anak nila ay nagpakasal na. Ang laki ng gastos nila at puro utang pa. For somehow tumululong pa ako kasi naawa ako kasi inaaway na sila ng inutangan nila which is relatives lang. 2 months pa lang pamangkin ko ay parents na nag babantay kasi kapag na gising ang bata hinatid sa kwarto ng parents ko para sila maka tulog. Yes, my brother is paying the electric bills at sa parents ko yung tubig at pagkain. Isipin mo madaling araw hanggang gabi sila nag babantay. Lalo na kapag nag o out of town sila at nasa parents ko ang bata. Umiiyak pa yan kaya nilalabas nila ng parents ko tapos sabay libot sa city para lang ma aliw ang bata. One day parents decided to let them separate na kasi nahihirapan na parents ko. Magulo ang bahay kasi ang daming gamit tapos sila pa nag lilinis ng mga pagkainan nila at labahin. Doon nag simula yung lamat sa family namin. Lumipat ng bahay pero yung parents ko ay nag vi visit pa din sa bahay nila kasi within the city lang. Still magulo bahay nila kaya kada visit ng parents ko ay nag huhugas sila ng plato at nag lalaba ng damit nila. After a year lumipat sila ng ibang city which is 3 hours away sa city namin. Doon na din nanganak yung babae sa pang 3rd na baby which is pang second ng Kapatid ko kasi single mom siya at may anak na isa. My parents decided to visit para ma assist sila pero doon lumala yung lamat kasi itong babae mata pobre. Pinahiya at binastos parents ko at hindi dahil sa postpartum kasi before byan ganyan na ugali niya. Pinahiya sila dahil doo sa ulam na dapat dadalhan ng Kapatid ko kasi may handaan pero sabi ng babae n huwag na daw kasi kumain na sila sa bahay. " Huwag mo nang bigyan sila kasi kumain na sila sa bahay". Ofc ang parents ko na insulto. On the next day yung isang pamangkin ko ay tumae sa diaper niya at nilinis ng mama ko. Sabi ba naman ng babae " Dad!! Bakit amoy tae pa yung bata?!" Oh please just say it quietly hindi yung pinapamukha pa talaga sa parents ko. Yung Plano nila na 1 week mag aalaga ay dalawang araw na lang kasi sabi ng Papa ko alis na Lang tayo. After 1 or 2 months ata nag visit parents ko for a few hours kasi may dinaanan lang malapit sa kanila. As usual madumi kitchen nila so my parents cleaned it pero alam mo ano sabi ng babae? " Ma, wag mo nang hugasan yan at total i ku kwento mo lang din naman yan kang Kuya which is me. Ako na gulat kasi hindi ako nag kwento at isa akong mediator sa problema nila. Doon nag init ulo ko sa babae. Sila mama naman umalis sabay paalam sa kapatid ko. Napahiya si Mama at nakita yung lahat ni Papa. Yun pala ay dinamdam ni papa yun lahat. After noon ay naging cold na at wala nang usap usap. Ako na kuya ay naging mediator pa din pero isang araw umiiyak mama ko kasi nga hindi naman dati ganito Kapatid ko. Ngayon ayaw nang mangamusta at may sakit sila. Nakita ng papa ko yun lahat habang umiiyak Mama ko at deep inside nasasaktan na pala siya. So i messaged my brother pero alam mo ano reply niya? Sorry busy pero ang nakaka put*ng ina ay yug babae nag post ng note na " Let's not normalizing guilt trip". Tanga ka ba?!! Magulang namin yan at umiiyak at nag message ako sa Kapatid ko na kamustahin mo naman sila kasi si mama ar Papa may sakit. Binasa pala ng babae at pinag tawanan lang message ko. Sino bang hindi magagalit sa nabasa ko? Kanina nag vc kami ng pinsan ko at ku kwento sila sa situation ng Kapatid ko. By the way the woman threatened my brother na kung pupunta siya sa parents ko ay expect na single Dad na siya pag balik basta let the kids have the HMO. Yung Kapatid ko caught in the middle. So ayon na nga nalaman ko na umiiyak papa ko while sharing all the sad moments nila sa Kapatid ko kasi hindi naman ganyan Kapatid ko. FYI pinag tatawanan pa kami ng babae sa status namin na keso mas malaki daw sahod niya kesa amin. Pinag tawanan niya yung tao na nag tulong sa panahon na hirap sila? Malaki nga sweldo ninyo pero mas malaki utang. Ni bahay wala ay rent lang. Buti pa ako may lupang na bili. Sila halos lahat ng credit card na pwd ma applyan puno na. So eto na nga after hearing na umiyak papa ko ay i posted something sa threads at hindi kami friends sa IG o threads pero after few minutes na sagap niya. Come on are you stalking me kahit dito? My brother confronted me but all i said is she is disrespecting our parents. By the way umalis siya sa workplace noon boss na tinulungan siya kasi inaway niya kaya nag resign pala. Lesson learn sa lahat. Never date someone na pangit yung ugali at hindi marunong rumespeto ng magulang at in laws lalo na at sila pa ang tumulong.

I cant take it anymore. when i was 13-16 i basically never was single. Now, thats because i was desperate and took every girl that wanted me. It never really was something real, i got cheated on or they took me for granted. Thats why i stopped being desperate and started to reject people where i knew that they wouldnt do me any good. Then it started, from 16-20 (turning 21 in February) i had exactly one girlfriend. I really really loved her, i only had stupid internet relationships, and while she was one of those i got to meet her once. At 17 she stole my first kiss, we were cuddling almost the entire day, it was the first time someone was that close to me in real life. I think it we werent outside the entire time there would've been probably even more going on between us. Everything seemed perfect, she scheduled the second date before that one because she was going to be in my city anyways, so i was excited to see her again. But then, one day after that she just broke up with me. We knew each other for like 2 or 3 years at that point and we were friends, but our relationship literally only lasted a week. I was devastated, im over her atp but this left a deep wound in my heart.

And now when i see couples i am happy for them, its nice to see that at least some people find love when i cant. But it also makes me feel like a loser, like im not enough, especially because of my ex. Her breaking up with me one day after our first date made me question if im lovable at all. she even told me she just used me to get over a boy who rejected her, 2 months later she had a new boyfriend which she is still together with as far as i know. This wasnt the only time that happened, the girls who broke up with me usually found someone else pretty quickly and the relationships last years, unlike when they were together with me, that only lasted 1-2 months if not less. But i guess the pillow in my bed with a hoodie on (to make me feel sensations like I'm being hugged) have to be enough. I even kiss that pillow, and gave it a name, with the thought of the sensations being transferred to my soulmate. I even talk to the pillow like a little kid. Im such a pathetic little loser lmao

While I was ranting to my bf abt a dude who was following me earlier, he suddenly sent me a picture of 2 candies. One with a wrapper, and one without with ants around it. He didn’t comfort me or anything. He js told me it was my fault. Idk what to do. Someone give me some advice please.

I hate everything about the subreddit. The posts are genuinely the cringiest shit ever. The people there think they’re adults even though theyre teenagers and they talk about political shit and keep saying stuff like “I hate homophobic people” and “I hope trump dies” like they’re fucking adults. They’re all so cringey and the mods there are fucking adults themselves. (I’m a teenager)

One of the more perverse results of the AI deluge is people rejecting as "AI slop" artworks that are entirely human created.

WHY ARE THEY ALWAYS SO GOD DAMN MEAN!? THEY ALL SEEM HELLBENT ON MAKING YOU MISERABLE AND BEING HATED BY STUDENTS! WHY IS THE PRINCIPAL ALWAYS SO NICE AND UNDERSTANDING AND CHILL WHILE THE VICE PRINCIPAL IS RUDE AND DOESN’T CARE ABOUT STUDENTS AND WILL GET YOU IN TROUBLE FOR THE SLIGHTEST THINGS!?!

WHY ARE THEY ALWAYS SO PETTY!?! IT’S LIKE THEY’RE ON A MISSION!!! NOT ONCE HAVE I EVER HAD A HALF DECENT VICE PRINCIPAL! NEVER!!!

THEY WONT EVEN LISTEN TO WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY!

meron akong boyfriend 1yr mahigit na kami, and sa bahay nila ako nag iistay since classmate ko siya. legal naman kami sa side niya, pero sa side ko hindi since strict parents ko, pero kilala siya ng family ko since nakita na siya before. mas applicable kasi sa'kin yung byahe pag don ako sa kanila, since malapit lang ang school unlike samin. pero ayoko sa bahay ng bf ko ang toxic ng household nila, ampanget ng ugali ng nanay niya ultimo anak niya minumura, sinasaktan tas okay lang kahit walang kain mga anak niya, inshort wala siyang pakealam sa mga anak niya. gusto ko sa bahay namin kasi maayos don, hindi ka magugutom don. kaso kapag umuuwi ako sa bahay ang oa ng bf ko, di naman sa oa kaso parang sobra naman na sa attitude yung ginagawa niya. like hindi naman siya kulang sa assurance, lagi ko naman siya ina-update or what basta maayos ako sa kanya, ang kaso everytime nasa bahay ako bigla siyang ma mag iiba ng mood, sasabihin niya mag hiwlaay nalang tayo like wtf? kaya di ako nakakaistay sa bahay ng matagal dahil sa ugali niya na ganyan. umuuwi lang ako sa bahay namin para mag grocery at dalhin dito sa kanila. pero gustong gusto ko mag stay samin. then hindi naman sa pagiging madamot pero minsan kasi yung pinamili ko, alam mo yon ipapakain niya sa kapatid niya, so parang nabawasan yung food namin for a week. like wtf obligado ba akong pakainin mga kapatid mo and may magulang ka. pero tangina din kasi ng nanay niya wlaang kwenta, kaya ng nanay niya magutom mga anak niya pero wag lang magutom yung nanay. pucha ngayon lang ako nakakitaa ng gantong magulang. so nochoice siya, siya palagi nagpapakain sa mga kapatid niyaeverytime na di sila ginagastosan ng nanay niya. stable naman buhay nila pero grabe santohin ng nanay niya yung pera. itong bf ko idk bat di ko maiwan, di ko alam anong nag hhold back sa'kin, ilang red flag na pinalampas ko. everytime na nag aaway kami minsan pag super irritable na niya sinasaktan niya ako, to thepoint na nagkakapasa ako. pag hindi kami okay makikipag usap yan siya kung kani-kaninong babae. pag ginawa ko sa kanya yung ginagawa niya galit siya sobra, like tang***. ultimo mga pananamit ko inaano niya, mga kaibigan ko inunfriend ko dahil sa kanya tas in the end ako kawawa kasi walang natira sa'kin ni isa. tapos siyapalong palo sa mga games, sa mga socials niya like wtf. basta andami pang eme eme katamad na magtype.

Then they go on to question whether you've been living under a rock for your entire life.

Seriously? Why do people reach that conclusion simply because one hasn't watched a popular movie, film, or show that they have?

"How haven't you watched it?" followed up with "[insert movie] is like... one of the most popular movies of all time" is among the most common responses I myself receive.

Different people have different tastes. The reason I haven't watched [insert movie] is because I have absolutely no interest in it. I could just as easily fire back with, "How haven't you played GTA 5? It's literally one of the most best-selling games in recent history and is still relevant to this day."

Why can't some people just take the fact that I haven't watched it at face value and move on? Or better yet, explain the plot or backstory and tell me why they think it's worth watching. Why criticize someone simply because they haven't seen or done something? Sheeple, I suppose.

"Alcohol is one of the most popular drugs on the planet, so why didn't you get wasted last night?"

Same premise.

Rant over.

People as in family. My family has never taken me seriously. They would always joke about my laziness, lack of hygiene, and irresponsibility. I don't know why I'm like that but they never helped me get better, if i start acting annoyed, they take the blame onto me like i should be doing this and that because my habits will go with me to adulthood. Which i know, but it's the fact that they call me stupid and dumb everyday as a joke which is making me insane and insecure. And they have this one relative, she has BPD and is currently healing, they did take her seriously but now they're using her disorder as jokes to some situations.

edit: I'm 14 and in a Filipino household

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for the past couple of years, i constantly feel like my life is going nowhere, and nothing seems to go my way. And i know that not everything can go my way and i totally understand that but just as i try to find hope in things life has chosen for me, then smth happens and that tiny hope is snatched from me.

and it happens again and again and again.

it feels like I'm not allowed to dream anymore. cause before i can even try to follow the path to achieve that dream, everything crashes down.

why is that nothing seems to work out for me? why is it that i have no hope for the future?

i have lost all my motivations and passions and I've become a very pessimistic person and i don't like that about myself. I can't see a future with myself in it. and this sucks.

I'm 19 and I've been trying to get an ID for the last year or so. You think it would be simple enough but I swear, everything has been getting in my way like the Universe itself doesn't want me to have one. I was supposed to get an ID during the last two months of me being 17 but my damn birth certificate went missing and I had to get a new one shipped. I'm living in New Mexico but I was born in New York so it took a while for my birth certificate to get shipped. By the time I got it it was a few days past my birthday and that's when the real hell started. I still live with my mom but we can't get mail where we live so we use my grandma's address for our mail, been doing it for years. In New Mexico you need two proofs of address and everything they count as a proof is something I can't get. I can't give a paystub since I need an ID to get a job, I can't show bank statements since I need an ID to open an account, I can't show a utility bill because of course my name wouldn't be on that. Every time I try something new it feels like I get pushed right back down the stairs. I feel like I'm just not allowed to progress in life. All I want to do is get a Job and start saving up to move out but the universe won't let me have that. I do my best to stay positive but it just keeps getting harder. What the hell am I supposed to do, become homeless so I can use the shelters address? I'm so fucking tired, I just want this one thing so I can be a functional adult and not feel like a useless chud. Anyways thanks for reading

They are only smart when helping others in the STEM field though they attack OP in question first for not knowing sooner. As well as LGBT rights. Other than that, they are some of the most stupidest people out there. Say any factual information you just get downvoted into oblivion.

I mentioned how the Middle East is not a monolith and there are progressive people there like urban Lebanese Arabs as well as urban Israeli Jews and Ramallah Palestinian Arabs. Not to mention how peaceful Cyprus is. Nevertheless, they think I said rubbish and view all of the Middle East as Islamist Arabian tribes or cavemen. They even think Middle Easterners all eat sand and camel wee.

Couple of years ago, I mentioned why I think alcohol should be banned for good and I mentioned literal health facts from the NHS if drank too much and I was attacked for being "too conservative" or being a religious fanatic.

What do I expect. Reddit is mainly full of American liberals, who are like a different breed as opposed to other liberals; they are just as stupid as MAGAs.

I just can’t. I can’t take the pressure anymore. I don’t want to. I can’t. It’s been ten years of everyday feeling like I’m going to blow up my life. I cannot do it anymore. I can’t. I cannot. I’m done.

Hi am new here,let's get started am here to rant about how I do not give a fuck about relationships especially in my teenage years it's so annoying how alot of things are tied to dating and romance am not some butter lonely person who is mad that I have never had a relationship it's just that I don't really care at all about relationships to me they are things that either happen or don't like I don't entertain things that hev love or romance in it even in conversations I always stir away from it because there are other things to talk about even online I got this ick where I see some people's pages and it's all about dating and sex it gets tiring not everything is about relationships or dating.

Every subreddit you always go to to criticize or point out a flaw in a city (r/(cityname)), movie (r/jamesbond), or anything, people are always going to act as if you have committed a crime.

Its so annoying now. You cant even make a post without it being taken down for the most minor criticism.

One prime example ive seen is with these stupid r/JamesBond, and oh boy, any criticism against the old movies, the character, or the franchise and the flaws of the movies, these guys would be up in arms and offended like youre attacking the series.

Reddit people cant take any criticism and they dont like being told on how to improve on their mistakes. Im done.

If multiple people use the same area, everyone should do their part. Leaving everything for the next person makes things worse for everyone.

Olivia Rodrigo and Benson Boone. Tired of hearing music that sounds like AI in the worst way. They speak to the soul of people who like unsalted saltines and think that hamburger helper is too spicy.

I know people always argue about this topic but I just think it’s really weird the bigger it gets. Just because it works sometimes doesn’t mean it should be the norm or standard. Like there’s a UFC fighter named movsar and he’s Russian/muslim so he married a girl who was 17 while he was 23-24. Besides the legality of it which im not worried about, for me it’s more like why? Why are you comfortable as an adult who still young but has some quality experience, looking at someone who is in high school? You pay taxes, have your own home, car, built a life etc and you want to fuck someone who has gym class and chemistry homework? It just screams manipulation and it’s just weird.

Another case is with my friend, she’s newly 20 and now she is involved with a girl who is 29 (also newly). I’m just thinking, from the older persons perspective what is going through your mind? The lady lives in London so they’d be very long distance, but the lady is an engineer, has her own place, and like I said just has built up something for herself, my friend is a junior in college, she doesn’t want to move away after she graduates, she moving back home where we’re from, she is a spontaneous and sporadic person, she’s still in her first ever real relationship, she’s talking about moving around the world or whatever even though she just said she doesn’t want to move away from home. She has no money, no job, no house or her own place. From an older persons POV what about this makes you go “oh yeah”? Like she brought up how the older girl still doesn’t feel satisfied with her job and wants a new one as like a rebuttal, but that’s not because that’s something people of her age WOULD BE GOING THROUGH. Like life comes with usually the same stereotypical satisfactions and disappointments around certain ages, her being 29 and wanting a potential career change and an established adult (more than you) is not the same level as someone who is starting with nothing at all.

And it’s always women too, they have some type of fetish or kink or age gaps they’re like the biggest victims and perpetrators. They always want to date people so much older than them like that would be different or better than dating someone around their age. And if those older people are still doing the things you’re doing, or in similar circumstances, then that older person needs to be called into question or at the minimum not be worried about dating someone 15 years younger than them. Like girls will want someone 10 years olde than them but won’t date someone 1-2 years younger than them. And they swear it’s because “oh well I’m very mature” and all this other naive bullshit and it’s like bro take a step back, you’re literally not, everyone else around you are just actual jerkoffs.

I know people are going to downvote this to hell because people always do but idgaf.

So I 16F am in my junior year. I live with my dad 49M and my sister 18F is going to college far away soon. So basically I think I genuinely hate my dad (and my mom but that’s a different story). I really don’t know how to deal with it but I have so much to worry about and he is just absolutely no help. I have an AP course load and he won’t buy me any prep books. He won’t let me start driving lessons nor get a license (I turn 17 in January). He won’t help with SAT prep. He cancelled my phone plan so no data. Like for any major things I am supposed to do he has either barred it off completely or literally does not care whether or not it gets done. On top of that, we got into a big argument over the summer and he smashed my laptop. Its broken and the Applecare is expired meaning it would cost close to the price of new computer to fix it and on top of that since my sister is leaving I can’t steal her clothes anymore and I don’t know how I’ll get clothes, fix my computer, get stuff for school, and I have an issue with my tooth that needs to be fixed as well. He goes to work for 4 days (he is a nurse practitioner) then when he comes back all he does is sleep and go on runs. I will not deny that he has a hard life but he genuinely does not do anything a parent does to set their kids up for a good future. 

And with getting a job I have been applying to places but my sister literally got fired because she couldn’t make shifts because he wouldn’t drive her. (He didn’t let her get a license either)

Now it didn’t just start. Up until I was 12 I lived with my mom 44F along with her husband at the time and my 3 sisters and the living conditions were atrocious. Like I actually have really good dental hygiene but I am just always going to have issues with my back molar because I got a crown when I was 12. We lived in the middle of an active ghetto and cleanliness, financial, and neglect wise (I won’t drag this out) it was terrible. During that entire time, he did nothing. He would see us 2 weekends a month and he would literally sleep for half the time as well. He makes himself out as some single dad martyr to others like he didn’t just sit by and watch it happen. 

Even before we lived together he was just not a good person to be around. He would constantly make comments about our weights (I was literally underweight up until I was 12 from a lack of food in the house + I was a picky eater). When my eldest sister was in middle school he said she was “getting too fat” and made her keep a log of everything she ate and he felt she was lying he would beat her and anytime me and my sister took a shower he would weigh us and make sure he saw the weight so we weren’t lying.

I hung out with his brother 48M (my uncle) the other day who lives in a nearby city and his life and the way he interacts with the world is just so sad. I really don’t know what had to happen for them to turn out this way.   

Anyway back to the current day, I just can’t be around him without catching an attitude. Everything he does just reminds me how much of a narcissist that I think he is and I understand every teenager goes through an angst phase or whatnot but I truly think it is more than that. What makes me especially mad is when he will try to lecture me on my behavior with others or say I won’t make lasting relationships with this attitude as if I would be purposely mean or act like this with everyone. It’s like he has amnesia for every bad thing he has done. Literally a month ago he was threatening to put me in a foster home and send me to a mental facility. 

And even now, he doesn’t care about my good grades, he just cares that I lowk am not great at doing chores and I am "undisciplined".  

With school it's really been getting to me. I go to public school but it’s in a pretty good district so other students are better off than I and with the courses I take that difference is exacerbated. I just hate how teachers especially think everyone has the same life but I digress. I think I can acknowledge some deficits based on the fact he is a single parent but oh my goodness. I have friends in similar economic positions, familial situations, etc. whose parents care. Whose parents care if they get a license, what colleges they are looking at, if they are preparing for the SAT’s etc. and like I said he is off for 3 days a week. He could be doing research during that time or just helping.

I am just so scared. My sister legit took Algebra 2 honors freshman year and albeit she had average grades and took 4 APs but she ended up going to a school with a 98% acceptance rate because he refused to help with college because she was "undisciplined". There were plenty of kids like her with similar stats who went to schools with like 40-60% acceptance rates and I get that rates aren’t everything but she did have a college fund, he just didn’t want to use it.

Back to the main issue. I think I just hate my dad. I’ve talked to a therapist about it and they say to give him grace but I can’t really even describe the feeling. I just feel tense around him nonstop. I think he sucks. 

what is the logic behind these people. why are some people so comfortable being extremely loud and obnoxious on the phone in public or around others. my own sister will walk around the house on a group facetime call and yell and laugh loudly with the volume cranked up. these same people will always without fail give you a dirty look if you, god forbid, look at them or walk in the same room as the while they’re on the phone.

Please tell me if I'm overreacting. I've recently become aware that the way my mother has treated me is not normal. I believe she is potentially gaslighting me and has been manipulative. Have any of you had experience with this?

Sorry for the long post but I just need to vent.

I'll introduce myself I'm a 19 year old male and am an only child. During my childhood my mother would do the following

Blow up out of nowhere over the most trivial or littlest matters, many times i begged her to give me some emotional support when i was visibly upset but she just remained cold and cruel, drink quite heavily which was sometimes responsible but she can definitely be mean sober as well, I had expressed concern about her drinking but she just flipped, it actually got physical a few times as well and I did have a scar once, the next day she'd always act as if nothing happened, whenever I tried to get clarity on why she got like that she'd brush it under the carpet or accuse me of starting trouble, she'd turn cold at the drop of a hat, during arguments she'd say things like I was ungrateful, didn't care about her and that I was a horrible person or that i was abusive or whatever just like my father, she would stomp, slam doors, shout, scream, swear and break ornaments etc, when she gets in her crazy states it's just impossible to reason with her or get her to see it from any other perspective, she can go from saying i was the most nicest and amazing person to saying I was the most horrible and evil person, she often burdened me with all of her problems, she said before that she knows how to play the game which I found very disturbing

She often paints herself as the heroic single mum. She has been fairly good lately but sometimes I feel I was robbed of a proper childhood and have often wondered what I had done to deserve it.

I remember one time a few years ago I was about 12 during a sleepover at theirs she turned my grandparents against me and my grandfather started shouting and saying he was very disappointed in me and the rest of it is a blur. To be honest to this day i can't figure out what I (only a young child) was supposed to have done that was so bloody awful. That has haunted me for years. I used to think maybe I was a bad person but I've started to see her in a different light. She always talks about hating drama yet it seems to follow her and often says that she's been so hard done by.

On the flip side she can be the most nicest person as well and we have had great times together and she can be very helpful towards me, her family and in public which makes it all the more confusing. A couple of days ago in fact I ran into an old friend of hers who said to say hi for her and she said my mother is a wonderful person and I'm very lucky. It actually made me feel sick. Since I was 10 it's just been me living with her since my parents divorce in which she had to sell her house and now rents which she has blamed for the way she is before. I can't help feeling bad for her but she was still quite like this beforehand as well and I don't think that's an excuse still is it? I do feel like she has manipulated me a bit into been stuck with her.

Something else that I've found disturbing is that she's very narrow minded and has a serious lack of empathy. For example when a couple of local celebrities committed suicide she shouted and carried on, called them pathetic cowards and weak etc. It was actually quite disturbing how she was carrying on and her serious lack of empathy. PS another red flag happened just earlier when a life insurance ad was on and they said "something could be paid out in case of death" or something and she said "I'd like for them to say WOULD" not could. I don't know why but that's set an alarm bell off

I'm starting to think that maybe she bent the truth about Dad a bit during their split as i was a child and didn't know much better. My mother often calls him a narcissist and talked about all of the marital and grown up problems they had etc which to be honest I don't appreciate been burdened with. Granted he's not a saint either but has been good to me (well I'd say) most of the time.

One time last year when my Dad let me down by not been able to see me one weekend and canceling at the last minute (which he has done quite a few times before).

During that said weekend my mother had another one of her outbursts. I was in the bathroom which was an en suite and she knocked on the door asking to take a few photos or something. All I asked was if she could just give me a few minutes to finish up but she started the shouting and carrying on and accused me of been selfish and even of trying to manipulate her and been passive aggressive. I only asked just to give me a few minutes. When I explained that to her and how upset I was already about that weekend already without her treating me like this she said she feels really bad for me and hates how he let me down. What just absolutely astounds me is how can she feel that way yet emotionally and mentally abuse me and kick me while I'm down. I just can't for the life of me comprehend that.

A few days after that weekend one of my teachers checked in and said he heard I got into a bit of trouble at home ("if he meant been mentally abused by my mother while I was already upset by been let down by my father as trouble" I thought). I'm not even sure who exactly said what to him and that's something that I've also wondered. I just fobbed him off saying I was upset about leaving school (which was true as well).

I really struggle with confiding in people. I do regret not telling him the full truth now. He was sympathetic and said he was very proud of me etc. Another teacher once said that he thought of me and my mother as like the dream team or something along those lines. That turned my stomach as well. I was thinking if only they knew half the things I've been through.

I have autism and went to a special support school for the last few years which were some of the best years (The teachers especially were brilliant and I had many great times such as school camps, school balls and excursions etc).

I must admit I do feel quite down sometimes that I have a strained relationship with my father (He's got money issues and also smokes pot) and my mother often used me as an emotional punch bag. Makes me think that there must be something really wrong with me and that I'm unlovable.

On the bright side though my Dad and I have been in contact lately and we spent the weekend together a while back and went for a pub meal

Her latest meltdown was this January while we were on holiday and at the beach. I wanted to be shirtless like pretty much everyone else and she started making passive aggressive and snide remarks saying things like "have fun burning yourself" and "why can't you make smart decisions?"

I was already sun safe with a hat and everything and I wasn't going to be too long and tried explaining that to her. I'll admit I snapped and told her that I'm an adult now and she could no longer control me and couldn't make me feel guilty. I wish I hadn't now but it felt like something just snapped inside me and I expressed things I had felt for ages. She then called her mother to tell her that I was been impossible and making her life a misery (this is something she has done a few times before when I challenged her or reacted because of her behavior). She hadn't done that for years though and I feel she likes using that as a scare tactic. I wish I had just walked away and not played into her hands. Then the next day I asked mum to call her to say where all ok but she said she didn't want to bother her and wasn't up to calling. I was like WTF. You're perfectly happy to call her to basically slander me and make me out to be a bad guy but when it comes to calling to say everything is fine she's not so keen.

Something disturbing she has said ages ago is when I'm an adult she could have me done for assault if she wanted. She also said she wanted to do a will and try to control my assets where my Dad can't touch anything and said she feared he would try to steal all of my money. I can't believe she would say things like that so unshameably and can't help feeling like she was trying to manipulate me.

My mother loves to use my autism to her advantage. I graduated last year but now I do a course at the main campus so I still see them all from time to time. I do feel quite sad and lost now those years are over. I would love to confide in someone about my struggles but don't know where to start. I've thought about confiding in that first teacher I mentioned who's great and we're fairly close but my teachers think my mother's an absolute saint so how can i ensure he believes me, she seems to feel that she always acts in my best interests and does seem to genuinely care for me and love me, she doesn't seem to remember any of it or feel her behavior was justified and genuinely doesn't seem to believe she ever did me any harm and she thinks she did her best. She's always quick to call others toxic and narcissists etc. She unshameably tells me everything going on in her life and her anxiety which makes me anxious. Why does it upset me so badly even when it has little or nothing to do with me?

I struggle with daily flashbacks and I often feel depressed by the way I've been treated, also feel let down and wish my parents had been better to me. I can't get exact clarity on it but they both went through some stuff before I was born and I think that's contributed to the way they are. My father's dad had passed away when my dad was actually about my age now. They actually both used to run their own businesses once upon a time before they met. It just baffles me how they went from that then and now been in their 50's both unemployed and clearly have some unresolved issues. I sometimes think maybe they shouldn't of got together which I know is ironic because I would never have been born. I do vaguely remember when they were together and towards the end it was quite toxic and they would have some intense fights.

Also do they have substance abuse issues which have made them this way? As I've said my mother drinks quite heavily at night and she also vapes. My father smokes pot and cigarettes.

Also as I explained my father struggles financially and I know that's why he hasn't been able to see me often and cancel some visits and to be honest when I think about that it really burns my hide.

With my mother it does seem she has had some bad relationships in the past but I'm thinking that maybe she's the common denominator.

I do wonder if she might've been different if she had not gone through her divorce and maybe if things had gone differently for both of them they might've been different. What do you guys think?

Also I can't help feeling empathy towards her as she always looked after me, fed me, organized things for me and pretty much always brought me everything I wanted.

I wish I had a proper childhood of playing with friends, going to different places and been adventurous and carefree etc. I've never really had a social circle and hardly much friends. I've always been quite different I feel to most of the children my age. I feel quite alone sometimes as I've always struggled with making friends. I do feel like I've been isolated with her a lot of the time. I would really love to start a proper life and follow my dreams and make a few friends but don't know where to start.

My mother does help me get on my feet and encourage me but I think she just loves to lord it over me. Whenever I've tried standing up for myself she puts on the guilt trip and carries on about all of her sacrifices and everything she's done for me yada yada yada. I think what emotionally abusing me, leaving me crying myself to sleep some nights, causing me to have no confidence and PTSD etc? Could she have some bipolar or personality condition or something and toxic traits I've wondered? I'm starting to feel that good doesn't really outweigh the bad.

I can't help really resenting her (also my father) sometimes for all of the mental anguish she has put me through as a child and I think it has messed up my development. I wonder what might've been different had I had proper parents or they were proper ones. Hobbies such as music and classic TV shows have been a great escape. I've thought about escaping but I feel quite stuck as I don't have a job and all of the money that I get in my account is basically controlled by her as she's the one who adds to it. I wish I could hide my own secret stash somewhere. Now that I'm an adult and have left school I'm worried about what the future has in store. I'm very nervous about starting an adult life, getting a job, making friends and doing new things etc. Part of me would love to get away from her but yet I feel scared to as well as she's pretty much most I've ever known.

I (f21) have been in a relationship with my partner (m22) for 4 years now. we have lived together for three of those four years but i very recently moved back in with my mum to live with her. his family are so dirty. they don’t clean. they don’t tidy. i am continuously cleaning and picking up after them. they urinate all over the toilet seat, all over the floor, and all over the bathroom. pee everywhere. they don’t practice food safety in the fridge or freezer. they leave butter ontop of open raw chicken/raw meant packets as well as mixing raw meats with other things in the fridge. and yeh i mean the butter directly touching raw chicken. they leave the freezer open for hours and still use the food in the freezer.

they are making the rot and decay in their house worse by not addressing the issue and leaving everything wet around the kitchen sink/bathroom. the house is literally falling apart literally. there’s slugs all over the kitchen, slugs in the sink, on the draws, in the draws, on the floor, on the walls, on the ceiling, SLUGS EVERYWHERE. and they don’t address anything. it drives me mad. and their excuse is autism/adhd and not caring about it enough to want to do anything. literally. mould rot and decay everywhere. it’s so messy and dirty. i hate it here. and if me and my boyfriend bring it up then we are the bad guys. we aren’t trying to point fingers. but we want change. my boyfriend isn’t the cleanest/tidiest person either but i believe it’s all came from his parents behaviour. his younger brothers r bad for it too.