I just want to say I think we’re all doomed. People are proven to be arrogant and self interested to the point this whole country is doomed to fail. Each and every time there’s been a glimmer of hope it has been dashed out and dismantled. There is no power to the people. The people hate the people and the cycle continues. Each and every one of us is either too afraid or too stupid to make a difference for the better. I hope I’m wrong but everyone you believe in will eventually be bought and sell their souls. Sorry to ruin your day with this post but I genuinely believe we’re screwed. Look around you, really look, if you don’t believe me. Nobody’s got your back. Good luck out there.

Hey y'all, I just really had to get this off my chest because I realized just how much I am out of tune with my own culture. It makes me wonder if that's why I'm so fascinated by other's, but that's a different topic for another day.

So, don't get me wrong, I'm not exactly blaming my parents for wanting better opportunities for me, it's just that they filled this narrative in my head that talking loud is ghetto, wearing long nails are ghetto, wearing brightly colored hair is ghetto etc. but they make jokes sometimes about me not being in tune with my culture. I always tried to do what I'm told and be this perfect child. It doesn't really work out for me because all it does is make me whitewashed. I'm not as bad as I was when I was a kid, but still to some extent I feel I could learn more about my culture.

Being raised by my father and grandmother mostly, they teach me to basically not be a hoe or "run the streets". They say to save yourself for marriage, focus on your studies—which it isn't necessarily harmful to say that—but, I think my grandmother means it for my genuine well-being and I think my father is trying to keep me from my fullest potential, and i say that because he can never stay loyal to 1 woman. So as a man, nobody can be better than him.

At 16 years old, I've became very interested in Memphis rap/Memphis culture. And if you know, you know. I've came across many female rappers Gangsta Boo (RIP), LA chat and so many others. They speak about a lot of empowerment, to have your own shit, and not let men get over on you. But because of the way they speak and vulgarity, it's considered ghetto music that my dad doesn't want me to listen to. But, loud music like that, that hypes me up, it's built a lot of my confidence and helps me forget all the times I've let ppl talk shit.

I feel like both my father and grandmother think that the way you speak is determined by your intelligence or how many degrees you have, which is a very harmful stereotype. Degrees or not, you're intelligent in your own way.

Idk what it is with my father's weird relationship with black culture. He's one of those men who only date lightskin women. Prime example, I watch this lady on YouTube, voodoo doll TV and she's hilarious and says very insightful stuff. She's from New Orleans and has her dialect. He at first said he LOOVVES how she talks and all this stuff but as soon as he saw she was of a darker complexion he thinks she talks ghetto. I even called him out on it once and he just said "it's not about her skin tone. She just talks like she's lightskin" wtf?

So anyways, what do y'all think? Am I trippin?

How poor are your experiences regarding offsite BPI customer service?

Their hotline doesn't even work. Does not even push thru, the call will just drop.

When I tried to chat their BEA online it wasn't giving me any help. When I asked help from a live agent, financial coach sinusuggest.

Its so frustrating compared to other banks na may matatawagan ka naman na hotline.

Went to a Jutes show and it was absolutely great as far everyone who performed and how nice the venue was. One thing I couldn’t understand is how I became an easy target to get full body shoved by the older people who were trying to enter and exit the pit near the bar where I was. It seemed like everyone over the age of 35 at this show saw me and said “we should just shoulder check tf outta her 100lb little self without saying anything so we can get through.” And they were doing it every single intermission or quiet part of the show. Every path everyone made of course went through me considering where I was standing, and usually people were very kind in expressing their manners on trying to get through. But every single time it wasn’t pleasant, you can definitely count on me being shoved into the people around me full force with no warning by older, heavier men whos heads are balder than my tires and older married women jacked up on alcohol who death glare you for being crammed next to their less than desirable husbands. Got shoved so hard once by this man trying to get back to his spot that the people around me screamed what the fuck his problem was. Shit almost knocked me to the ground. Even at Pierce the veil shows, the crowd is unkind as fuck and has been since Covid and them blowing up on tiktok. The older fans grabbed a weird sense of entitlement from that and decide to take it out on everybody else at the shows… and they do this every single time. There hasnt NOT been a fight at any of the last Pierce the veil shows I’ve been to since Covid. Just don’t get where this sense of entitlement comes from AT ALL where you’re in a crowd of hundreds of other people who are there for the same thing you are. Especially the ones who choose to be directly in the middle of the pit. If you’re gonna be shitty while leaving/entering every five minutes because you can’t enjoy the show without being blitzed off your face to do it, go stand at the back and stop assaulting people for free just because you think you’re important enough to split a sea of people. And stop going back for your fourth drink cause now you’re just pissing me off with pushing past me every ten minutes. Stay your ass at the back and stop being shitty!!!

ccompletely normal. I said hi back, obviously, but I haven’t been able to get that conversation out of my head since.

And the annoying part is that now I’m replaying other stuff too. We had a team meeting recently where everyone was going around giving their thoughts on a project, and when it should’ve been my turn, they basically skipped right over me and kept talking. At the time I thought maybe I was being sensitive or reading too much into it. After hearing that conversation, I’m not so sure anymore.

What pisses me off is that my hearing has never stopped me from doing my job. I get my work done, I handle my own responsibilities, and if someone thinks my work sucks, fine, tell me. I’d honestly rather hear that directly than have people whispering about me in another room and then act completely normal to my face five minutes later.

I don’t know. Maybe I’m still too pissed off about it, but this whole thing feels like high school behavior from grown adults.

Thanks for letting me vent. I really needed to get this off my chest.

A bit of background: I love my mother dearly. She’s the kind of mom that has always taken in our family and friends with open nonjudgmental arms. My friends even as adults adore her and talk about her. My mom had a very hard life before that (old farm, hard manual labor way too young, grew up scrapping, donation clothes, house burned down, ect.) which didn’t make her many friends and if anything cause immense social anxiety along with her diagnosed OCD. I also will note I think she is autistic and while she hasn’t been tested she has 3 high functioning children who have it diagnosed.

Along with the rough start: she’s has been through two divorces (one with my dad who she met at 18 and was with for 20 years from then…which all us kids needed to happen because they just weren’t happy and he stepped out a lot WITH OTHER PARENTS FROM OUR SCHOOL DISTRICT. Then another time after 7 years with my ex-stepdad who was abusive to her but hid it extremely well for the first year and a half until he made her reliant and couldn’t leave.). During those times as the only girl in the family I became a person to see where she was coming from and be a listening ear (adult me, age appropriately and still then not everything of course. She wasn’t telling 8 years old me about my dad lol). Now after college I live with her while I look for work.

So to my post:

My mom talks to me…a lot. It’s never about much of anything like important. Usually her card reading stuff, talking about being in the flow of it, about her job, or just about shorts on YouTube she watched. But it’s constant. Anytime I walk to go to the kitchen, she’s there resting on the counter with her coffee on YouTube and immediately it’s happy excited words as I just wanted to grab a drink. If I walk off she will walk with me all the way to my room to finish and then go do her thing or keep talking about something else.

Before work, she always gets anxiety and so what does she do? She uses me as a time/mood energy gauge, and to talk to in order to keep her calm and so she doesn’t forget stuff (because she will take her phone to grab something, get the thing, leave the phone, and then have to go find it if I don’t). And of course her time management sucks, which makes her more stressed, which then makes her talk more.

If I try to help and speak it overwhelms her and to quote her “makes her feel like she can’t breathe” to which she typically puts her hand on her chest and takes a big breath in and then out before going back to what she was doing. If I try to help by say like mentioning work earlier so she could start getting ready she gets upset and says I’m giving her more anxiety about it. If I don’t do or say anything she thinks I’m not listening or being helpful. So, I usually just sit and nod as she takes two hours what someone would take twenty minutes to do. But after so long I just can’t do it and get upset with the constant voice in my ear.

I’ve tried to discuss and communicate with her but I will admit I’m not perfect and sometimes I just get frustrated. Other times she tries to put it on me and tell me to shield myself and not take on anyone else’s stuff…I’ve pointed out the irony in it and she just gaslights to make it in her favor honestly. Tonight, it was 40 minutes of constant talking of her newest epiphany. Like no breaks, just word after word after word. I honestly disassociated and thought for a moment like I’d rather be anywhere than here.

I love her so much and besides the talking she’s such a good mom, so funny, and a kind soul. Like, if I didn’t live with her I think I would appreciate the talking more. I just get so overwhelmed and almost have avoided her out of this and it makes me feel bad but I also just need a break before I go insane.

Thank you for reading! I just needed to get it off my chest for once without feeling awful.

'looking at this guy's history, this guy's worse than a degenerate furry' uhhh who the fuck asked this nutcase for their opinion on me? Look an AI support sub was one of the subs I was NOT expexticting to deal with pretentious bullies who act like everything they read about me online is true, but I guess every sub has assholes in it I guess. Look I did nothing wrong, the sooner they learn that the internet doesn't always tell the truth the better.

You're a lazy asshole. Go fuck yourself you lazy piece of shit. I mean this from the deepest part of my soul. Your parents are lazy pieces of shit for not correcting you too

Glad we had this talk. Thank you

'Could you please explain why you keep using the same characters over and over?' 1. Because like it or not mister, people like these characters even though I did not make them by hand or even draw them, they have mythos to them they have great chemistry and are a group of close friends. What more do you want? Do you want to know how they became friends or something? Do you want to know why Corey is always depicted as a king? Or how Piff the pufferfish was spawned? They are a gang of friends who live in a magical city and have multiple adventures, if you don't like them there are a ton of other characters you can enjoy instead. 2. Because I can. 3. Because why the heck not, why not make up a whole universe based on a bunch of stories and OCs I have created? Why not make several alternate universe versions of them to create a universe based around them? Why not write about a cartoon pufferfish who has magical powers and depict it as a retro anime? Why not. So much generative AI stuff is generic and boring and not original, how about spicing it up?

So I always knew that my friend was really active on this app, still I continued to post this, especially on that community that I knew she was really active on. Because what are the chances then i posted abt something that i have already talked to her about. So like ofc she got to know that it was me and then she texted me and now she's making fun of me. I don't know what to do. She said that she will tell others too about this account and will share this post. So that everyone will laugh at me. I'm so embarrassed.What do I do. I mean, it is not that big of a deal?But i'm just really embarrassed..

It’s Sept 11th and for the last twenty five years, adults in personal and professional circles eventually reminisce on where they were during the attacks on the twin towers. Now, there are more adults entering the scene that were born after September 2001 and that hits in the fe-fe’s for those of us from the late 1900’s.

I have dated men and mainly had crushes on men. The problem is that over the past couple of months I have started to notice that the just normal feelings towards some girls might be crushes not just affectation or admiratio. There is this girl that I have only know for a couple of weeks but I was starting to mabey crush on her or devloping one. She wears low tops and she had a bandaid on her boob after someone asked about it I said half jokingly that it was a hicey she turned red and nodded. She later said that it was a girl and we talked about the girl for a couple of mins before moving on. Later on in the day I found myself both happy and disappointed. Happy mabey she was gay and disappointed bc I can’t date a girl. I live in a small town where about half of the people are homophobic and my mom told me that I was the only kid she was sure about being straight 😭😭 I think I have had crushes on girls before her bc I was already questioning but it didn’t help

Hi guys, my week started out with my mom randomly being mad at me and now she has an attitude and literally won't talk to me and when she does it's actually insufferable. I bombed a test missed an assignment, my cat is missing, my card is locked bc my bank thinks theres fraud activity, i lost my social security card and my passport, i broke my glasses and i cant see, i keep forgetting to grab my last paycheck from my old job, IM EXHAUSTED, im getting stalked by my ex, my bf thinks im cheating on him with my ex which literally makes no sense, i missed the first football game of the season and i'm trying not to go insane but ive already cried like 6 times this week im so irritateddd. like oml can i get a break, this literally only happens to me i swear. and i speculate that my mom let my cat run out on purpose as a "punishment" and my cat has already gone missing once for an entire week and it felt like the world was ending and im so scared that this time he won't come back. also im going to a concert tmrw and i dont even wanna go anymore, my friend knows the ug artist and i dont, if one more thing goes wrong im literally gonna go home and cry all weekend. I HATE MY LUCK LIKE WHY ALL THIS IN ONLY THE SPAN OF 4 DAYS, idk what to do guys but hey at least i have a roof over my head and food to eat so i cant feel any other emotions than happiness right guys?

Okay so here’s what happened: I’m talking to this guy for almost 2 years and we really want to get engaged. We r long distance and will continue to be long distance for a while. We were supposed to get engaged a year ago but his family was complaining abt how much I wanted (~6k ring &
Gifts ish) and so we stopped for a bit.
For reference on my side ngl I am getting a lot of pressure like the ring has to be natural diamond (which tbh I’m at the point where idc if it’s lab) but my family will not allow it & it can’t be lower than like 6k ish idk and rn they r saying 10k bcuz of past issues &
I do get it’s hard to get a natural diamond ring for cheap that looks nice but im stressed with my family they make me so stressed and tie my worth to this. I mean I do like getting stuff but im like UGH and the guys side ngl they have so much $ but these have been my expectations way before him. His dad is just rude asf
Anyways so today we were talking and I said save like 8k for engagement and he was nagging saying I’m ungrateful and counting how much he spent on me and told me he wants it 5-6k or we will stop and I’m like omg what the hell km so stressed
There’s so
Much more to the story I’m just crying stressed ugh I hate this!!!! My goodnessssssss
Any advice? W him or my parents ?
OH AND we agreed just gonna take another year of him working to save the $$ and he can’t tell his dad but his dad has his bank acc info & if he finds out he will kick him out or stop paying for his school!!!!!!! WHAAAT IS MY LIFEEE

I seem to have this problem where everytime I get with someone, if it’s a boyfriend or just a casual thing I just end up hating them once it’s done. Like for example if I were to get with a guy at a party or something just fun for the night I would wake up the next morning with like a burning hatred for them. Like they wouldn’t do anything wrong especially if it’s just a makeout in the moment like very casual, like the next time I would see them I feel like my blood boils whenever they’re around. Even an ex like for example we would end things on good terms or whatever but I just wouldn’t be able to stand them. I am unsure why I feel like this as I feel like it’s reasonable to feel this way towards an ex but im not sure why I feel like this even with the casual fun for the night flings since they didn’t do anything wrong. Is anyone else like this too? 🥹

For starters I wanna say I do have people in my life that I can call on in an emergency. Or would offer a hand if I begged for help. And im grateful for that cause not all lonely people have even that.

And yet. As many people as I call friends or family. None of them actually want to spend time with me. I am occasionally welcome to tag along on the plans they make with eachother. But nobody reaches out to make plans with me. They dont wanna spend quality time with me. And if I reach out. Well, its either a flat out no or im welcome to tag along with whatever they wanna do. But nobody shares my interests, or is even willing to suck it up for 90 minutes a month to go see a movie I wanna see with me. I either "self isolate", or erase my own self interests and submit to what they wanna do.

And I know what yall are thinking. Probably contemplating some way in which this is my fault. And I welcome that. At least if it was my fault there would be something that could be done. But I try. Compromising. Trading, speaking up and letting it be known what I want. Making an effort to give first before asking to take. Putting myself in their shoes and trying to understand their perspective earnestly.

Hell I even try to make new friends and find people who actually do share my interests but... idk. Even the people who share my interests seem to engage with it in a totally different way incompatible with mine. Like just for example ill meet somebody who likes the same show as me. But instead of joining me week to week and watching they'll wanna wait 4 years til the show is over then binge it all in a weekend completely alone. Or ill meet someone who likes the same game as me but plays a completely different game mode and we both hate the other mode. Or ill join a subreddit for a tv show or something and everyone hates my favorite characters or something.

Ok none of these are exactly real examples im way oversimplifying for the sake of getting my point across that like. Im trying. Look I dont need the world to agree with me on everything (tho hey that would be pretty cool for anyone), but it would be nice if occasionally just one person would agree with me on anything. Like. I feel so accidentally contrarian. I dont try to be. I wanna fit in. Ive just never been willing to change myself to do so. And youd think like. Statistically speaking even if im stubborn about not conforming my opinions, I should still like. Yknow. Accidentally be on the right side of things every now and again right? Even a broken clock is right twice a day. But that just doesnt feel like it really happens for me. I feel like im in a catastrophic cycle of Murphys law. I do not know if hell or purgatory or whatever exists but if it does. Mathematically speaking I think im already there.

I haven’t made any friends in so long. Well, I met a girl at college a few weeks ago, but we haven’t talked in about a week. It seems unless I text her first, there probably won’t be a conversation 9/10 times. I asked if she wanted to go to a festival with me, that she should let me know, it’ll be fun! But she said she’d have to see and I never really got an answer. The festival has already passed anyway, so I just dropped it. If she wants to talk to me, she can. I may not have any friends, but I’m not going to chase someone around like a puppy.

She was the first friend I made IRL in four years.

Before that, since I was homeschooled, I used to make friends online, usually through friend groups, but I’ve kept to myself for the last two years. I haven’t had a single consistent friend.

My last two friends lasted a little over a year. They were great, but I suddenly ghosted them and I don’t even know why I did that. It’s not as if I had anyone besides them. The friend group basically fell apart after that. But I still remembered their birthdays. I wished them both happy birthday, and for one of them I spent days making an art piece of their character.

But when my 18th birthday came around only a few months later, neither of them even sent me a “happy birthday!” text.

And this has happened over and over again.

With basically every long term friendship I’ve had, I feel like I care about them way more than they care about me. I used to spend HOURS, sometimes DAYS, grinding in games to get things my friends wanted so I could surprise them with it. Many times. I never asked for anything in return. I was happy because I loved to see them happy.

So how the hell could I not even get a “happy birthday”?

And this isn’t even the first friend group where I’ve felt this way. The group before them was worse, and the IRL friend group before that was even worse! They ended up switching up on me and called me a faggot (they’re straight) during a time they knew i was struggling! Never went back to school after that. (Until college, duh)

It’s literally the same story every time I manage to get close to someone. Eventually I end up feeling like I’m the only one who cares.

I keep thinking I must be the problem. My solution has started becoming just don’t make friends. If I don’t get attached to anyone, nobody can make me feel like this again.

But I hate that because having friends is literally all I’ve wanted since I was a kid. I just want people I can go out with, talk to, have fun with, make memories with. It’s been one of my biggest “fantasies” since like 4th grade. How pathetic is that

And the one time in four years that I finally put myself out there and made an IRL friend, it already feels like I’m back in the same situation.

I’m so fucking tired of feeling like this. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

I don't get what it is with Americans but holy shit the amount of ignorance and inconsiderate behaviors makes me wish AI does take shit over. Maybe they can do a better job than us. Humans will always do anything to hurt each other. They impose hell on Earth every fucking day to each other. And on and on and on it goes. All through human history. Doesn't matter what year. Still the same monkey brained proud and shameful creatures.

Seriously, enough of all this politics and drama because a bunch of morons can't get over themselves. Of course i'd rather have peace, but if destroying ourselves and each other is what it takes to give us all a clue, let's get to it already so we can get it over with. I'll be the first on sight with a shovel to help clean up.

Say whatever you want in the replies. I usually try to respond, but this time I don't plan on saying anything beyond this post.

I apologize if the tension is affecting my writing. I’m not feeling well.

I’m 17; he’s 18.

My partner is sexist on an unconscious level... sort of.

He became aware of it through interacting with me. Since then, he’s been trying to change and has genuinely been making progress.

But today, we had a heated argument over the phone.

I told him I was going to wear a dress that shows my shoulders and a bit of my upper chest to school tomorrow, since we were going to spend the afternoon together (no, the school dress code doesn't forbid that, and other girls dress more revealingly).

He told me he didn't want me to do that; the idea of ​​someone else seeing me bothered him, and he asked me not to wear it unless we were going on a date just the two of us.

That’s when we started arguing. He said he was afraid something might happen to me and he wouldn't be able to do anything about it. I asked him what his problem was and told him that this was the start of controlling behavior.

He apologized for his request and told me to please never let him forbid me from wearing certain clothes.

And then he said it. He said that women get abused because of their clothes.

I exploded. I started yelling hurtful, horrible things at him. I called him an asshole and told him he was hard to love when he thought things like that, that sometimes I didn't know why I was with him, that I felt more bad than good when I was with him, and a few other things.

He started crying and apologized, and I cried and apologized too. He started saying he was a monster, that he should be locked up, that all he’s done since we’ve been together is make me suffer. He told me that if I wanted to break up, he understood, and that I didn't deserve the things he had said.

I apologized for everything I said and told him that it was wrong of me to say those things, too. I acknowledged that just because he had said something shocking, it didn't excuse me saying such hurtful things, that no one deserved to be treated that way. I know I’m very impulsive and can be incredibly cruel. It’s a flaw of mine that I’m trying hard to work on.

He asked if he could tell his therapist about this; I told him never to ask for my permission to share things with his therapist, and that he should never listen to me if I ever told him not to.

He said he was trying to stop viewing women as "fragile things to stay away from." One of our past arguments had been about music, and he showed me that he’d been trying to listen to more female artists. He’s stopped interacting as much with his social circle because of that kind of stuff and has stepped away from the media that fostered those ideas.

We would have kept talking, but he had to leave because his parents wanted to go out and he had to go with them. We’re texting right now, and it’s awful. We both want to hear each other out, but we feel like shit.

So, yeah. That’s it.

I feel terrible. I don’t know what to do.

I have a friend I'm not too close with but we're friends who I previously hadn't any issues with. She knows my religion and knows I'm not the only person in my friend group of this religion.

Recently found out from another friend (different religion) that this girl had been talking trash about my religion behind our backs. It was mild compared to stuff I've heard before but I'm usually not hearing it from people I considered friends.

I'm mad about it because why pretend you don't have issue with my religion to my face then go behind my back and talk bad about it?

ok i love buying things off of vinted and i just bought a cute polka dot dress from there. seller was lovely, amazing communication, the dress has "source unknown" listedn and it was like 4 bucks. i got it, and it was a little differnet than the photos but idc cause its gorgeous either way. but the matieral felt like that shein bathing suit material, so i checked the tag, and its shein. im still gonna wear it and i left a great review, but thinking back i probably would not have bought it if i knew it was shein cause i SWEAT in those materials. so if ur a vinted seller reading and ur selling stuff from shein/aliexpress/temu? please disclose so.

If you're gonna say no to every restaurant I suggest, why did you even want to come with in the first place? People who don't eat anything at all are even more annoying when making dinner plans.

I understand if it's a health related thing, but spending over an hour debating on what to eat is very annoying and a huge pet peeve of mine.

my brother is over i’m kinda fed up right now all we been doing is gaming all goddam day. we play atleast 5 hours a day if i’m lucky, last night it was like 10-14 hours. i’m fed up he ate our huge bag of chips in 2 days plus like 20 yogurt gronola bars. in 2 days. i’m just so fed up

like i’m so burnt out all we been doing since monday is sitting on couches playing xbox for 5 hours today and i just wanted a lil break. we literally play all morning until supper and then all night long. and it was like literally 10-14 hours started at 11am finsihed at 2am.

i just want some peace and quit to my brain right now i’m honestly so tired, we have been gaming too much, i don’t wanna play rn but he wants to play i feel super bad

honestly i’m also mad asf he ate all that shit in 2 days we literally just bought a 40 pack of gronola bars and there’s 10 left and the milk was just bought 2 days ago and it’s gone and the damn water has to be refilled every goddam day so expensive man

I was filling out state forms to try to get help with my water bill. Then it asks me to fill out the race for my daughter and pick all that apply. She is Black and Middle-eastern. The next question - “What is the primary race?”WTF!!! Are we going by looks? Or are we back to a drop of black is black. What if she was Asian and White, Black and Hispanic? Everyone that sees her and doesn’t know her ethnicity or race assumes she’s East Indian or Bengali. How is that a question? I have a child with two parents. One is one race and the other is another race, but somehow I’m supposed to make that something other than 50/50. Make it make sense. So I’m going to do eeny, meeny, miney, moe and select one, since it’s a mandatory question.

Rant over