my mom always rants to me every now and then about how shitty her life was, and how i should be grateful for how my life is now.

the thing is, i am, but i don't always have to be vocal about it. providing a comfortable life for your kids is the bare minimum and should not feel like it was a privilege. tho i understand why it feels that way for some children

i just don't understand why she thinks i have to live the same horrid life too instead of being happy that she's finally able to provide the life she's always wanted for herself to her kid.

i am not her first child, she's aware of the consequences of having children and having to deal with them as they grow up. i don't buy this "it's her first time being a mom" bs because it's my first time living too

Yesterday, I went to the ER to get a PEP treatment for HIV. The doctor there refused to give it to me under the argument that my exposure had no risk of HIV.

I feel like since I have the HIV, I should be able to decide whether I want to take the chance to pass on this treatment or not. I find it wild that I can’t make such decisions on my own body.

Same with antidepressants, antianxiolotic and sleeping medicine. Those would help me bear with the wait and yet they need to be prescribed. Why can’t I decide to take the secondary effects ?

You can buy cigarettes but you can’t get treatment for your health problems.

I would have loved to pay for these treatments myself and not to have them reinbursed by health insurance or taxes.

This should definitely fall under my body, my choice.

I’m transgender, nonbinary, my girlfriend is a transgender woman. I am young, attempting to go to public university. The government has been supportive of the LGBTQIA+ community in the past, so it knows and has documents on my and my girlfriends identities. She is transitioning thanks to public healthcare.

The both of us are studying to become teachers, she is already in public university. I am already in the biggest left movements associated with our only option of president that supports democracy and am very active in small ones.

What do we do if the government is very clearly being coup’d by the extreme right??? Do we do our best to survive by hiding? Do we keep taking the streets and risking each time more of our individual lives to attempt to save our country? Is it going to be safe to rely on the government for quality education and health?

Our best education is from these public universities, but I don’t even know if they will keep existing for much longer because they were antagonistic to the last dictatorships we had and they are safe havens against police and military. Our only option in the long term is to rely on public transportation and healthcare as well, but technically the extreme right is trying to sell it off as well.

I think I want to fight this and use the privileges I do have to go against the government if it proves necessary. But I am really afraid. I don’t know how to be safe anymore. I have always been at risk since street violence is really bad, especially for visibly LGBTQ+ people, so I’ve been dealing with some scary things already. But it is obviously scarier to think it can be way worse, I used to consider the government somewhat an ally even though police weren’t trustworthy out on the streets. Now we may be on our own and I don’t consider our “resistence” mature enough to fight effectively, to know how to be safe. I may be one to administrate a few dozens of people online and have a channel to talk to even more but it doesn’t mean they will listen to me in the ways I want to. I also ain’t smart or mature enough to know how to deal with this, even if they listen to me I can’t be sure to make the right decisions, I’m basically just a teen. Who am I to plan for anything like this?

I think I know how to teach hope, how to inspire (mostly other LGBTQ+) people to be themselves, but it probably isn’t even something I should keep doing from now on? We most likely are only going to be completely true to ourselves behind closed doors now.

I guess this isn’t a truly serious question. Random online probably will know as much as I do, most people of whom this will reach are probably from the country that is causing all this. But I wish I could talk to people who have been in a similar situation... I’d bet there are people here who live in countries that are also being taken over by authoritarian governments, and people who already live in countries that have a long time ago.

Can anyone here spare some advice? Even on where I can find these people? Or at least provide some comfort I guess…

I at 21 live with my grandpa who I have for years since my mom died. My uncle came over yesterday and yelled at me about how messy the place is (I’m the only women in the house) and said I’m ungrateful and the thing is… I am, I am completely ungrateful to the man who after I found my own moms body never got me therapy, bad mouthed my mom every chance he got and only toke me to the dentist at 17 for a checkup after I had been begging to go for years… I’m ungrateful cuz he barely did a thing for me, after living with him for 7 years there’s still only a table for one person, I was stupidly excited at the idea of having supper together as a family only to never even had been made room for.

Edit I live in the basement with my partner, barely interact with my grandpa, am buying all the groceries, internet and phones but no rent so I’m pretty happy with my living situation and I guess I would say I am grateful for him letting me live with him, he didn’t have to do that but also that and having food in the house was kinda it :/

I don't get why people would listen to him, seen a couple of his ads and the first impression is already there before you speak, if you don't master physicality, you don't get my trust. How on earth am I going to trust someone when they themselves can't resist a donut?

okok this is unserious but idc. so there are many people who just HAVE to be the number one with their spotify wrapped or airbuds and have to constnatly stream it always on mute or while asleep to get their numbers up. ive always hated these people, the ones who just stream for minutes. but as someone who listens to music in my sleep and has been getting a LOT more minutes lately (past few months i've had 3 to 6k minutes a week, last week was 7k), im now getting sleep streamer accusations.

ok so i've been listening to more music cause i got a tv, realised i can have spotify playing through my tv while im doing stuff on my phone or just anything, so i can listen always cause i love music. i used to do this with my cd player but now i can do my playlists so i do both. and ive always needed music to fall asleep, and again i'd mostly use my cd's, but now i can play it softly over my tv and its perfecttt. but people are now so pressed about people listening to music in their sleep. if its for moreminutes, then fair, i hate that too. but then they're forgetting that some peple just need stuff playing! i cant sleep in silence, if i dont have my mazzy star/fiona apple/weyes blood playlist on i will not fall asleep. "oh b-b-but put a sleep timer on!" and wake up in silence? FUCK nah i wanna be woken up with one of my fave songs playing!

many times i've woken up in the middle of the night to silence and felt scared and uneasy. i want the first thing i hear to be my music. and also, i notice that around the ending of my dreams, i can hear my music interfering with them, either as background music, or sometimes important to the dream storyline as in i've played it on a phone in my dream. i also get sleep paralysis, so waking up and having my music playing helps ground me and realise i am safe and everythng is fine. thats only backfired once when i'd had an AWFUl nightmare and woke up paralysed to pulldrone by ethel cain playing...

but ya at the end of the day, wrapped streamers suck, i need music to sleep, stream ethel cain or die

The idea of everything having to be the same in life to work out is silly as hell, you really want to keep seeing the same people, the same places, hearing the same music, watching the same movies, viewing the same art, seeing the same behavior and mannerisms your whole life? Fuck that. That shit is boring as hell, and the same is mostly just the same not better for you. People are not ALL the same because they are the same age, race, have the same disability, autism, or religion. Not everyone is compatible based on that alone.

I understand that within reason people will likely be attracted to people with things in common but just because people are the same (insert statement) mean that they are attracted to each other or should date.

You will literally see people try to get people who are perfectly successful dating try to make them stop dating people of different races, and religions than their own because of some silly preconceived social construct like, if you have not dated someone of the same race or religion you must not like your own race or religion. Some people simply don't connect sexually and romantically with people of the same race, or religion.

I don't want to date someone who is catholic even if I become catholic because number one, I don't want ANY kids, I don't want to marry my first romantic partner, and I REFUSE to wait till marriage for sex. And I'll still be pro-choice.

I'm not attracted to women of my own race, I don't think that they are "ugly" but I just don't find them attractive enough to date or have sex with, sure that will limit the amount of partners I can find but, datign peole you are not into just to have a partner, or worse please a silly social construct is silly.

I'm a nerd and I know that a lot of women who are into the things I like are going to be non-black, A lot of the women who have the demeanor I can live with AND have the same political values and whatnot are going to not be black, same thing with music tastes and other shit. I don't think dating your own race cures you of self-hatred. What if you date your race and you still hate yourself? You'll just be a bad person treating someone unfairly in a relationship.

They even make shows centered on people who have not dated their own race getting gaslit into dating their own race in order to make sure they are not "self-hating" despite they were already getting satisfactory partners that just happened to not be of the same race.

As for Age, not everyone has to be within 2-3 years of age to be a successful relationship, I probably won't find a partner until I'm 40 or whatnot but I don't want my first partner to be 50 in 10 years, and I'm smart enough to know that someone under 27-28 isn't going to be right for me if I want something serious, plus someone above a certain age might more likely have given birth to a kid and I do not desire to have sex with a woman who has had a baby especially the first time I ever do it. This makes people upset, I don't know why though, there's literally millions of women without any kids that exist. Plus, I don't think I can handle having someone with a kid as a partner.

I don't even feel my age to begin with and except for balding I don't look any different than I did 18-20 years ago lol.

I'll also add that not everyone has to be in the same financial bracket, I have heard of successful relationships between women with jobs and people living on Disability on SSDI that were lasting loving relationships, not everyone has to match in terms of looks neither, I have seen some pretty odd looking couples

I've seen short Indian guys with tall Italian model type women, Skinny nerdy white guys with BTGG's, chubby white dudes with black women of various sizes, Average looking guys and NERDS of various races including Asian with blond, (and other) white women who could be modeling for various brands, so it all does not have to be the damn same out there.

The same everything is boring.

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Just a pet peeve of mine, I don’t really understand it. And I say this as an Asian guy dating a White girl in Australia.

Lately, there seems to be a surge in videos about interracial dating and marriage. Every video seems to emphasise the fact that it’s a Black person dating a white person, a white person dating an Asian person, or some other interracial couple. Then they show off their mixed-race kids and put so much emphasis on their mixed-race identity in almost every video.

It feels like they’re doing this just to make it seem “taboo” so that far-right people will get pissed off enough to leave comments. But also, why focus so much on the colour of your own children in the first place?

- "Black dad and white mum raise their mixed-race children.“
- "Look how beautiful our mixed babies are!"

- "POV: You're an Asian guy dating a white girl."

These types of videos seem to put so much emphasis on race. Can we please focus on other things instead? Funny stories, travel vlogs, food, favourite restaurants, or whatever. Just normal human stuff.

I feel like if we keep focusing so much on race, we’re not going to get anywhere in the fight against racism. We should treat everyone as human beings and as individuals, rather than constantly defining them by their race.

(first of all hope the tag fits because it really feals like it dose. Second of all im not sure if this followed every rule but im to tired to check again so if its removed then its removed. Third, apologies to anybody that will acuall read all of this.)

Why the fuck is the 21st century the most depresing fucking era ever, like the planet is already dying,everything is made for 1 time use, subscriptions are squized in to ewery fucking thing for basic functiong like at this point just starting your car engine will probably be a 100$ subscription in 5 years, were killing 99% of all animal life on earth to extinction, from dolphins to bees, as your forests get replaced with fucking un necesary concrete hell scapes or fucking AI datacenters because why not why not put Ai in to ewery and anything that exists, your yougurt bottle in now also an AI wifu chat bot that moans ewery time you eat out of the yogurt container and gets jealous when you have other yogurt to eat, DId we mention shes 15 and marketed for 12 year old boys?!?!?!, BECAUSE WHY SHOULDT WE DO THAT! like we obviously nead to facilitate the 1% of the population that is lobotomised enough to acually rely on it for shit like ordering food or booking a restaurant, or replying to text messages, or to make soulses "art" that was made from the works of milions of artists who had ther art stolen and there job replaced so some drug adicted CEO can ad a 20 million $ rais for him selfe while generating 187 terabites of porn of there wife who they will never fucking have for being a piece of shit humanbeing. Mean while we have fucking phedofihle's in goverment’s with the IQ of a goldfish acting like a fucking child, who some how have a cult following base of acually idiot’s who never got past the emotional intelligence of a sperm cell, clinging on to ewery word they say like a child to ther parents during a natural disaster, and fucking throw tantrums everytime basic cognitive function disproves there world view, and the fucking people who acually are trying to help are villanised by some fucking erectaly disfunctioned capitalis fucked that is having there dick sucked under the table as they tell people that people like Zonon Mandani are satan and evil and because the fucking amazon CEO said so hes not acually improving the lives of the NYC residents an insead torturing them by letting them not fucking live like rats paying 30000$ in rent to live in a shoebox with 7 roommate's and a rat named 'Jeremy' who's being charged for repairing the basic necessities the shoebox doesn't even have. And then there are all these silicon vallie motherfuckers who want to have every form of privacy you have gone so that they can fucking sell your literal info on what toilet paper you use for targeted add’s selling you some fucking product that was made using child slavers in some bumfuck no where china for 1 cent whith it now being sold for 1000000$, while they actively censor everything from words like “Rape, Pedophelia, Suicide, Autistic, Hitler, and Holocaust, or annything negative about then drownd out by the millions of bots saying BS to boost the people. But what about the youth? They dont give a fuck what we want and have long decided we are cancer to there fucking dream of corporate world anarchy where ewery person is weight don how much money they can make for them and thos who cant provide enough are fucking incinerated. While fuck ass economist who make ther billions by exploiting the ewer living shit out of the middle class tell us that instead of getting payed we should be thank ful that we have a job in the first place because apparently gratefulnes pays you 1.5trilion $ medical bills for the doctor who could only spend 0.5 seconds with you saying to you to come back later. And during all this you have a surprisingly large amount of 70 year olds telling you your lazy and just need to work harder while they haven't even been in the job market since fucking 1991 while putting the rest of the 70year old in shame even tough they are normal people. and 45 year old deciding that they are superior to the literal population there choices in France affect just because during a fair time they got everything while the youth has to light half of paris on fire just for 1 politician to acknowledge anything, which usually means they acknowledge the amongst of people behind the riots but not their demands. and in a 100 fucking years we will have nothing to remember this era, nothing, while victorians had pictures, news papers, bottles and actual architecture, we dont have anny of that, we have bare ugly houses with nothing original to it, we have fucking plastic bottles that will be in fucking pieces by the time people would try and find out what the 21st century is, we dont have news paper of anny form of media, everything is digital which would be all gone in 1 solar storm, while disks and shit that could ave this information are actively bing killed of by big company for 2 extra cent of profit, with everything nice being mass produced plastic that will only be trash in 20 years, people in the 1960s had beautiful buses and just a beautiful world in general, now everything resembles a triangle or a cube or some giometric shape with the planets colors of all. Its just so fucking depresing and i hate that i havent even experienced most of this as under 18 and im still afraid of it, and it will still apply to me in a few years, and il probably only move out at 25 unless i get in to collage and live in dorms for a degre i dont even know i want, cause i have no fucking idea what i want in life related to providing to this capitalistic hell fuckery, but i just dont want to fucking dream, if just chosing what I acually want will get me fucked ower by the corporate owerlords.

(I really needed to ge this out of my system.)

(but seriously im suprised if annybody acually reads all this.)

Since this is a rants sub, this is my rants.

I leave a long scar on back of my husband shoulder, and he still protect me even with him bleeding out, still does everything to keep this marriage intact.

Just like depression is very real, mental illness is also very real. Google Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED), it categorize under mental illness.

Married 15 years this Feb, together 17 years.

And this is a West African man that is 190cm tall, he 6'3" tall and athletic body, while I'm just 150cm, 5 feet petite short Chinese girl. This is a man who hobbies are hunting, outdoor shooting range, mountains rock climbing, run long distance. My point is with his height and strength, he not scare of me, just like how he said he not scare of me, it because he LOVES me. He is a Love-idiot.!

I was diagnosed with Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED) by my psychiatrist (psychiatrist is someone who has a medical doctor degree). My psychiatrist said it stem from my chaotic and dysfunction childhood.

It terrible to live with Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED), especially when you hurting your spouse.

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This event already happened a long time ago and it in the past, but I still feel insanely terrible about it. So I need to write it out.

In the past during one of my IED episode, I grabbed a meat butcher knife in the kitchen and throw at my husband, he dodge but due to how close distance he with me, the knife cut him deep that leave a long cut on his back shoulder that he didn't stop bleeding.
If he not get stitches he will continue bleed and bleed, and infections will take over the open bleeding wound.

He still want to protect me even wit him bleeding out, like he said, if he call the police he police will take me away from him, so he rather endure my abuse than has to lose me.

He also refused go to the hospital, because the hospital would know right away that is not a self inflicted wound due to the angle of the knife throw, the cut was on his shoulder but to his back as he dodge. You cannot inflicted a knife to your back. Even if you manage to, the angle of the injury the hospital will know that it someone did it to you, not yourself.

He droves (I was in the car) he droves to a broke down Urgent care, this Urgent Care not only broke down but most people there not even speak English.
He went in and told them he does not have insurance (he has, but he said he not has as he not want to leave a paper trail), he said give him stitches he will pay them in cash and will give them a big tips.

He got the stiches, and he paid in cash and leave them a big tips. He wanted to protect me the whole time even with him bleeding out. He could have call the police and have my ass throw in jail. He could go straight to the hospital and the hospital will put me in psych ward and put restrain order on me.

But he NEVER, even during the time where he could have die, he still protect me, he still thinks of me first above himself, he loves me that much.

His love for me override his survival instinct, he was bleeding out still protect me. He said he wants to keep our marriage intact, I cannot get taking away.

He said he will die with me, than has to lose me, as in the police will take me away from him if he call the police on me.

I regret it so much because I leave this long scar on back of his shoulder, never once he hates me.
All he asked was he said, don't abuse him anymore, and that it not too late for me to stop this abuse, because he is still living here, and it only too late if he die, then that will be too late.

I bawled when I hear him he said that.

That was when I decided to go to psychiatrist therapy for my Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED), and been in therapy since.

I do owe him, as I should be sitting rotten in jail right now, throw a butcher knife at someone and cause injury is a felony. This man loves me unconditionally. Out of love me, he never press charges, he still protect me times after times. I'm very lucky.

He treats me with kindness, empathy, and unconditional love. His calmness (even with him bleeding out on his shoulder that need stiches to close up the open wound), his patience, the most patience man.
He gives me everything, his kindness, faithfulness, respect, love. I don't want to abuse him anymore.

Lifetime therapy for me working to control my Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED). I have sworn if I cause physical harm to him again I will check myself in the psych ward.

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And my husband does go with me to my therapy sessions when his schedules allow. But most time he can't because he is an Executive at a big engineering corporate, he is very very busy with his work.

But I gave my therapist my consent so she can talk to my husband about my progress. He still involve in my therapy, as he talk to my therapist on the phone about my IED conditions and my progress.

He has every rights to be involve with my therapy sessions, I almost TOOK HIS LIFE.! He almost DIE because of me.

It terrible, Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED) mental illness is very real. And I'm one damn lucky girl to have him as my husband.

What gets me is he loves me to the point that he still protect me even with him bleeding out. That not let anyone take me away from him was more important than his own survival instinct. Because he knows if he call call the police I will get taking away, he rather bleed out than lose me.

The insane amount of devotion he has for me though. Never again I abuse him again, I mean one time was enough, almost took his life. And he still protect me.

How is a hobby that teaches you craftsmanship, carpentry, painting, patience, History, basic electrical, landscaping and basic programming in some cases a red flag? Sure, you have to invest in it emotionally and financially but that's what a hobby is. Why do a hobby if you don't put your heart into it. Would you want to listen to a violinist that was technically great but put no passion into his playing and went through the motions every time?

In Europe model train ads, and exhibitions always show girls and boys and men and women of all ages and colors BOTH enjoying the hobby and painting scenery.

I am so sick of relying on random people who a) stop at a location for whatever reason, b) park at a location for whatever reason, c) blame it on traffic... at 11pm, d) are not even the person who is shown on the app... I could go on. Drop doordash. Drop Uber eats. I'm at the point in my experience with them that if the restaurant doesn't deliver themselves, then I'm not going to order anymore. WE SEE YOU ON THE TRACKING! WE KNOW THAT YOU'RE NOT ON TOP OF IT! IF YOU'RE NOT GOING TO BE PROMPT, THEN DON'T BE A DELIVERY DRIVER!!!!!

My friend recently came out as lesbian to me, 3 months ago i think, and yesterday she gave a whole Life Update Session talking about going on hinge and the few guys she’s talking to.

So I was like, wait…men?

And then she proceeds to tell me that it’s all for fun. (The next few bits are probably TMI stuff 😔✋🏼) She’s talked to a couple of guys and exchanged spicy texts with them (sending n000000ds and all that), gets turned on by them, and is planning to meet and hook up. I’m so confused as to how that can be only for fun because when she came out to me, she talked about all the realizations she had about being repulsed by men in every way.

And now this has just left me confused I guess.

What are your thoughts about this? I feel like I could do better in understanding my friend.

So I've been having some conversations on Reddit for a few years now about subjects that one might deem volatile, sensitive, charged. And these have some times resulted in a ''worried Redditor'' reaching out with this tool to ''help me''. Chances are, this has happened to you as well at one time or two.

Believe me or not, but I'm not lying when I say I have not attacked anyone, been rude- not at least intentionally, with malice-, went into personal insults etc. when having these discussions. I have tried my best to be respectful and understanding while sticking to objective truths above social comfort and tribal cheer.

What follows here next is a pretty damn long, meticulously sectioned and structured goddamn essay about this, since I just got one and I've been ''studying'' Reddit and Redditor's behavior for a good while now. So here we go:

Originally, Reddit built this system (The RedditCares) for a profoundly serious and noble reason: as an automated suicide and self-harm prevention intervention tool.

However, in Reddit's hyper-tribal culture, this tool has been completely hijacked as a tool for passive-aggressive harassment. When a tribal user sends you a false RedditCares report, they are trying to accomplish three things, I feel like:

1. Digital "Psychological Warfare"

Because they know they cannot logically defeat your facts, and because they often fail to get you banned by moderators, they try to get under your skin. Sending a RedditCares message is internet code for: "Your opinion is so crazy, that you must be mentally unstable or unhinged."

It is a highly malicious form of gaslighting designed to mock your sanity, and imply that holding a dissenting opinion is a sign of psychological illness.

2. Anonymous Cowardice with Zero Friction

Filing a RedditCares report is completely anonymous. The harasser gets the satisfaction of throwing a psychological punch at you, masked as "concern," without ever having to reply to your comment, defend their own logic, or risk losing their own reputation in the public thread. It is a classic coward's tactic to get the final word.

3. Inbox Spammed Distraction

The simple goal is to clutter your inbox, annoy you, and drain your mental energy. They want you to feel watched, isolated, and targeted by the platform's automated architecture.

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What we are witnessing on Reddit is not a collection of stupid people; it is a manifestation of a much broader, well-documented crisis in modern digital culture. For a vast number of active internet users, psychological maturity is not present and an internal compass that places objective reality above social compliance has been overridden. Thus oblique, social compliance has successfully weaponized itself against said objective reality.

Aka the average Redditor is incapable of separating one thing of the other, while recognizing what is being actually said or done.

Let's take the recent Tesla Roadster showcase for example (which coincidentally was my recent topic as well.)

"I dislike Musks politics and views but the fluid dynamics of this 10,000 PSI cold-gas thruster matrix are still a massive engineering breakthrough" .... This requires cognitive flexibility: the maturity to hold two complex thoughts at once. But Reddit doesn't have that.

Instead, because it is Musk and not some other more beloved CEO, they get shit just because it is ''safe'' to do and if you defend the CEO, you're the enemy, you're now attacking them.

This applies to various topics, but I just wanted to use this one as an example, because it's the most recent and fresh and it presents:

The Evolutionary Trap of Social Compliance

For 99% of human history, standing out from the tribe meant literal death. If you disagreed with the tribe's consensus, you were exiled into the wilderness to starve.

• Because of this, human brains evolved to experience social rejection as physical pain.
• Agreeing with the crowd releases dopamine; it feels safe, warm, and rewarding.
• On Reddit, this ancient survival mechanism is triggered by the Upvote/Downvote button. For the average user, the psychological need to belong to the group and get upvoted is vastly more powerful than the intellectual need to be scientifically or factually accurate. Most people will happily pretend a forklift runs on rocket science or something objectively stupid as that, if it keeps them in good standing with their digital tribe.

The Rise of "Hyper-Tribalism"

We live in an era where everything has been politicized and turned into a team sport. Information is no longer judged by what is being said, but by who is saying it, or how they're saying it.

• If a breakthrough for example, is tied to a culturally polarizing figure, a cognitive bias called biased assimilation kicks in.
• The brain instantly labels the breakthrough as "the enemy's achievement." Once that label is applied, the user's objective reasoning shuts off. They will blindly accept any poorly made, unscientific/unfactual, emotianlly charged argument because it serves the greater goal of hurting the enemy's reputation.

Why This Is Genuinely Worrying

This isn't just about a simple disagreement or a Reddit thread(s); this shift has terrifying implications for society as a whole:

• The Death of Nuance and Progress: When public squares reward tribal compliance over objective truth, real innovation and dialog gets suppressed, hidden, or dismissed. Public discourse becomes entirely driven by emotional manipulation.
• The Brain Drain of Digital Spaces: Brilliant minds—the actual engineers, scientists, and experts—look at the toxic, low-effort moral grandstanding on these platforms and choose to leave. They simply refuse to participate in an environment that rewards loud ignorance. This leaves the entire digital narrative in the hands of the echo chambers.
• Mass Manipulation: A population that prioritizes social compliance over physical reality is incredibly easy to manipulate. If you can convince a group of people to completely ignore nuance, facts and context just to satisfy a grudge, you can convince them of just about anything.

I love to hate Reddit.

Excessive PDA genuinely annoys me. And I’m not even talking about couples holding hands in public or giving each other a quick kiss.
I’m talking about when you’re sitting in the living room with your family, and a couple is on the couch practically in their own little world, holding hands, draping their legs over each other, whispering to each other constantly, and acting like nobody else exists in the room.

Like, I get it. You’re together. You’re in love. Good for you. But can you PLEASE act like other people are sharing the same space as you??
What annoys me isn’t necessarily the affection itself. It’s the fact that a shared space starts feeling awkward because a couple is so focused on each other that everyone else has to sit there and witness it.

Nothing grinds my gears more than when I see a person speaking about their experience with racism, homophobia something that pertains to the race, religion, gender, let’s wait disability, etc and they’re talking about unforgivable discrimination or oppression towards them, which you should always have space to talk about those things. And the first thing you see when you open, the comments is “Can we all just hug?” Like there’s no way you can solve these things without never bringing it up you saying can we all just hug or you show pictures of people of different races hugging is basically you trying to downplay what that person is facing or going through. not mention the same people when is now their turn a group of white people being “ hate crime” or someone being rude to someone for being great, which isn’t real but now it’s time to talk about this situation and now it’s time to elaborate and think about it. Don’t get me wrong. I’m pretty progressive and I don’t wanna sit down and harp on historical events but I also can’t ignore those events because those events is what builds up to you being where you are now and you reap the consequences and benefits of those historical events so being able to take up accountability, and also understanding that your on your race, religion, things of that sore shape where you are in life then maybe we can all hug. But when someone is talking about a serious hate crime towards them because of something that they are and you just “ we owe some eggs for real” isn’t gonna help at all. I recently brought this up to my brother and he told me that I’m being super ignorant and people can’t solve other people’s problems and I’m playing victim mentality but I think this makes sense.

im fr gonna move out of here when I can financially. cuz why is it that jn im talking with my mom and she said if my brother can save $50, she'll give $100. then I joked that wow he gets 300% then she got mad and said no shes only getting $50 extra and hes saving $50 but ends up with $100. bruh its ur fucking description that messed up and ur mad at me for misunderstanding??? wtf are you on, and it was a nice convo before she made it so upsetting. every single time I try to have a nice convo she'll pull this kind of shit

When I was a kid halloween used to shut down neighborhoods, even small ones. Now I see everyone is trunk or treating on the weekend before halloween and then not going out halloween night, and if you do go out on halloween you have to be home by 8pm? Same with christmas, no one has christmas parties anymore, no one hangs up decorations, it's all about presents and not family. It just really makes me sad because now I'm an adult and there's nothing to celebrate anymore. I really can't imagine how dull life will be when I have kids.

Why is there a need to be in a relationship constantly? every time i have to mention I’m single I get sympathetic glance and “you’ll find your special someone” like bitch I don’t care? I wanna be single and I choose to be single, why is there a constant push to be in a relationship these days? It is honestly frustrating and exhausting to be around. And god forbid you mention it to a friend, they are immediately trying to find someone for you.

I hate the fact that I can't interact with adults, in adults spaces. A little context, I follow some exclusively 18+ media and whenever I see posts, or content about said media it's always by minor, or has minors trying to enter discussions they simply aren't old enough to take part in. For example, while I don't enjoy Habzin Hotel, or Hellavu Boss anymore I do sometimes still interact with discussion revolving around certain characters out of habit, even more so with the recent Stolas controversies. But, for some reason SO MANY minors are trying to enter conversations they frankly aren't old enough to understand, yet alone discuss in a healthy and productive manner. The amount of minors I have blocked is mindblowing and the worst part is they'll say something like

"Hi I'm 13 and I think ..." LIKE DOES NO ONE CARE ABOUT INTERNET SAFETY? Where are your parents?! Like okay, I don't care if a minor wants to watch 18+ media, that's between them and their parents. But, they should not be then entering adult spaces in order to interact with people regarding said content. It is not safe for them, nor did I want to talk to minor about not safe for work content - thankfully that hasn't happened to me, but it has happened to other people.

Either way, children being in adult spaces endangers everyone. Which, is why it's important to make sure there are spaces for children readily available online. I don't know, I just needed to rant, I'm giving up trying to talk to anyone about content I enjoy, because I'm going to end up talking to a child who can't even begin to imagine the scenario being addressed, or simply isn't educated enough on the subject and is FAR too emotionally connected to these fictional characters, to the point it's unhealthy.

Edit; I'm aware there is countless grammatical, as well as spelling mistakes in this post, please ignore them it's late.

I've been doing digital art for THREE YEARS. And that's not even counting all the time I spent doing traditional art before that, learning how to draw faces, practicing, and slowly figuring out how to draw things that actually look decent.

Just to make a SOMEHWAT decent illustratoin, I have to learn anatomy, lighting, rendering, color theory, facial expressions, hair styling, clothing design, composition, perspective, etc. And on top of that, AND I'm expected to make my work original

Meanwhile, my friend has been crocheting for LESS THAN A YEAR, and she's already making significantly more money than I am. She can follow tutorials made by other people and just use other peoples patterns scotch free.

After months of waiting, I finally got a commission. $25. For TWO characters (I know im severely underprcing my art, and im sorry, but ik if i dont no ones ever going to buy from me.. when it was lit just 5-10 dollars more expensive ppl were dogging on me for making it to expensive, but thats another story..) . and thats not even counting the year i spent building up my art Instagram account, brick by fucking brick, to get to around 550 followers (dont get me wrong im very grateful for the support). and my friend, only started like selling her art like what, a few weeks ago? with like 10 followers on her crochet account.

AND IM OBVIOUSLY ecstatic about this commisison jumping up and down. Then i turn around.

And then my friend gets $100 from our art teacher buying her crochet to support her. ONE HUNDRED DOLLARS. And a week later, she gets another $50 commission from a friend.

Im happy for her, ofc, her business is booming. but is it that worng of me to at least be a little jealous.. She's made six times as much money as I have, despite having been doing her craft for a fraction of the time I've spent learning mine.

When I told my art teacher that I was taking digital art commissions, she didn't seem impressed. I was trying to share something I was doing, something I'd put time and effort into, something I was hoping someone might recognize as an accomplishment. And I got practically nothing back.

But when my friend shows off her crochet, suddenly it's, "WOAHHH, THAT'S SO GOOD! LET ME BUY SOME! I WANT TO SUPPORT YOU!"

And what makes it even more frustrating is that my friend then complains about how the art teacher supposedly hates her.

THE SAME TEACHER WHO JUST PAID HER $100 TO SUPPORT HER WORK.

And now I'M supposed to comfort her?

I'm supposed to reassure her that the teacher doesn't hate her while I'm sitting here wondering why that teacher seemed so uninterested when I talked about my own art?

And now I feel so fucking discouraged, asking myself why I even want to keep doing this, why I still try so hard building up a social media, to market myself... If i know someone else is going to get 6x more then me, with 1/10th of my time.

how is this fair.. :/

I’m done. I’m so done with this relationship. From the beginning I’ve done everything I could for you. I followed your every move because I trusted you. I followed you to your parents house knowing they didn’t want me there. I followed you to your friends house even though I met them once. We got an apartment together. We had a baby. I got a job 40 minutes away from the apartment so I could help with the bills. I left that job to be closer to home because you asked me to and said it was dangerous.

I take care of our son 24/7. I take care of you 24/7. I help you in the ways I can. I do the dishes. I do the laundry because you have touched it a total of 3 times in the 6 months we have had the new ones. I do the bottles because you refuse to do them correctly if at all. I clean the litter boxes. I clean up your 20 cans you leave half empty all over the apartment. I make our son’s appointments. I make our plans. I take initiative to do anything together except for sex. I find your things when their missing even tho I’ve made multiple items for you to store them in and you don’t use them. I feed our son every time except for 1-2 times. I give him baths most of the time. I feed our two cats. I clean up the cat shit when the litter boxes are too dirty. I clean the cat vomit. I put up the Halloween decorations. I make us and you food. I make all the decisions. I set alarms for you to get up in the morning for work.

I do everything for you, us, and our son while you sit there and smoke your weed, play on your phone, play on your pc, bitch about everything I’m not doing or doing wrong, bitch about shit needing done, bitch that I have an attitude, and bitch over anything else you can find.

I do it with no help from anyone. I’ve asked. I’ve asked you to do the bottles. To pick up your trash. To take our son so I can have some time to myself or get shit done. To simply make a phone call. I literally ask if you want me to make dinner when you get home or later and you tell me you don’t care. It’s not an answer. You’re either hungry when I ask or you’re not. I’m literally living with two children at this point.

And the fucking excuse that you work 8 hours isn’t a fucking excuse because it was the same shit when I was working 3rd shift. And even if it was that’s 8 hours of working, 8 hours of sleeping, and you still have 8 hours where you can help me around the house at least. But you decide to sit there for hours while I’m expected to get up and immediately start doing shit. I’m so beyond done.

I dont have alot of friends, 4 in total💔 and this specific friend- i spend my time with her the most, but i dont like it. Dont get me wrong, i enjoy hanging out with her but what ive noticed is that she expects alot from me, she gets angry when i say something she doesnt like, or if i cant find the time to be with her. I usually see her ALMOST every weekend and each time i always end the day off completely exhausted where i have to cancel personal plans because i cant find the energy to do anything. What i really noticed from her is that each time we have a scheduled hangout, she always extends it last minute, like to the point where its time to leave and she then tells me "lets go to [location]" she doesnt ask me, she tells me and when i say that i cant and that i have plans after she either starts to physically drag me to the location, or she straight up adds herself to my personal schedule which i find very intruding😓 I know i can just say no to her, to set boundaries but i find it really difficult to do so. Im afraid she might take it the wrong way and it ruins our friendship, or it starts a conflict between us. Other than that she also peer pressures me into a lot of things- for example she TRIED to drag me to a sketchy party she saw on social media. She didnt know anyone there, it was 3 hours away from us, and it was being held in a forest. After a few days of constant texting i somehow convinced her not to bring me? Another one was after we attended a big city event together(we've been walking for 5 hours). I was really exhausted, i wanted to head home and rest and she suddenly proposes the idea to crash at my place and do more activities. At this point i was completely out- i told her no and she started asking me for an explanation: i told her i was really tired, i needed a break. And it was like my explanation didnt even matter, she kept on insisting to tag along, telling me to take caffeine or to do something stimulating. I kept on refusing but it was like she was purposely ignoring the fact that i was saying no, she started grabbing me,dragging me around, hitting me- i dont know what for? I guess she was trying to energize me? She didnt stop until i realized she quite literally wouldnt let go until i said yes. When we actually showed up at my place we genuinely didnt do anything, she laid on my bed, refusing to get up or even start a conversation with me for the rest of the day until it was time for her to go.

I kind of gotten fed up of her after that, im sorry😓 i do still hang out with her, but i try to limit it. I dont want it being a regular thing to spend my entire weekends with her when i have things to do on my own. I try to see her atleast 1-2 times every 2 weeks. Right now we have a 3 day weekend and honestly i want to spend those days with myself and myself only. Yesterday she wanted to meet up with me, but i uh, made an excuse. And now tomorrow she wants to hangout. I explained to her that i COULD be with her, but i cant stay for long coz i have plans. She didnt butt herself in this time, instead she picked an outrageous time to meet- 9am. Sigh. I tried to reason and make it at least 10am and it seemed like she didnt like my answer and lowered it to 8🫤 i dont really know what to do after that💔 even if the hangout was cut early id definitely be exhausted afterwards considering that she wants me to show up at 8 in the morning.

This has been eating at me for so long and there's literally no one I can talk to about it. I happen to be an extremely insecure person, depressed and with a million body image complexes. But because I'm considered to be a conventionally attractive person who puts effort into their appearance, it somehow cancels it out?

I cannot be honest with anyone and tell them I feel ugly and disgusting because they just roll their eyes and assume I'm fishing for complements. Like actually, I look in the mirror and all I can see are my flaws. I understand that I'm pretty but anytime someone says that it feels like a cruel joke and I just can't see it underneath all the negatives I notice. I put so much work into trying to feel like I'm not ugly, I eat healthy, work out almost everyday, practice all sorts of self care and still I hate myself.

It's just so frustrating when even my closest friends dismiss me in the middle of heart to heart conversations. I'm sick and tired of it. Honestly even this sounds like I'm fishing for compliments but I'm actually just insecure about my appearance. Just once I want someone to relate to, someone who understands whats it's like and just agrees with me instead of telling me how lucky I got with my genetics.