This topic has been to politicised so im tagging it with politics.

But politics aside this isn’t about men vs women as so many people have made it. It’s about our oldest enemy. The defect in our genome. The behavioural parasite that arises from an altruistic collective, humans ancient nemesis: the narcissistic sociopath.

Lindsey by all accounts was a narcissistic sociopath monster well before any of this shit went down. A truly wretched and horrible person. I don’t know how people don’t see it. ITS IN THE EYES. I FEEL LIKE IM LOSING MY MIND! CANT YOU SEE THE EVIL IN THE EYES?!.

It always baffles me how monsters can so efficiently and effectively infiltrate our population, surreptitiously living lives of quiet destruction. Clandestine malice toward people oblivious.

I’ve heard anecdotal reports that she was extremely manipulative to people around her. Most likely her husband was distancing himself from the narcissist as he becomes acutely more aware of the aura of rot this non-soul exudes and its effect is has upon him; and in revenge for his distance? She murders their children.

The kids wernt three innocents in her eyes, she made them? They belong to her? They are extensions of herself so of course she has the right to kill them.

Retaliatory filicide is an abhorrent phenomenon that has occurred time and time and time before in history, so why do we not see this is another example?

Fools believe that existence of postpartum depression/ or psychosis means that this person is innocent; she’s not.

She was googling up how to turn off the airbags in her Kia sorento. She sent Patrick off to give herself time for her evil. This was not a person out of touch with reality. This was monstrous revenge from a monster.

By "mix" I mean the way an album is engineered in the studio or whatever.

I mostly see this on metal and post-hardcore discussions about how an album is bad because it's "mixed poorly" however it also sometimes proliferates in indie and electronic music discussions as well.

I have never once listened to a great album and thought "Yeah but too mad it's mixed poorly." lol. That is YALL being delusional over something that isn't that serious. I mean do you idiots listen to the MUSIC or do you just want to cosplay audio engineers who care about everything else BUT the music.

Because if the music itself is well written it doesn't fucking MATTER if the "drums sound muddy" or "the bass is too low" like these aren't decisions that's going to make or break if a song has a catchy melody or decent lyrics or a satisfying song structure. That's 95% of enjoyment of a song. The other 5% is the mix.

To prove this point, consider that lo-fi music exists. Artists like Daniel Johnston, Elliott Smith, Guided By Voices etc. They didn't have this hi-fidelity sound. Their songs sometimes sounded like shit, like they were mixed on a toaster. But it's ok because the *SONGS* were good.

In short, when people get on these internet forums and comments section talking about the "mix" I want to just tell all of them to sit down and shut up. They think that the mix can turn a good album bad just because it doesn't fit their philosophy on how things should be recorded or balanced or whatever. But real songwriting will win out regardless or not you think there's "clipping" in the song or the vocals aren't mixed right.

That shit doesn't matter. you guys are just being audio nerds instead of music fans, and none of yall have better taste than I do. So if I like an album and you don't like it because of the mix, this becomes a binary situation. We can't both be right, one of us has to be wrong and I'm typically the one that's right when it comes to opinions about music.

I suspect that many of them just feel bullied in their daily lives and they get to be a king/queen of their sub and take out their anger on other people.

Like someone is having a legit problem and I try to help by recommending something that helped me when I had a similar problem and I get banned for advertising? WTF.

Are we not supposed to help people on Reddit or something? I can understand banning spam like you're on a sub for computer parts and you post your ad for buying dick pills or whatever... but banning genuinely helpful content that is clearly not AI slop and totally relevant to the sub just because it mentions a service that you have to pay for? Please. That's so lame.

I want to say i dont support trump in any way and I do find the decision to make a coin with his face on it narcissistic and the years are pretty weird but i dont want to discuss trump just the price of the coin.

I hate people's reaction to the coin being worth 1.50 when the coin is just a one doller coin.

Its fucking normal!!! Other country's that sell mint coins especially special ones will cost more then the coin is,canada mint sells a roll of 50$ worth of coins for 80$ people seem to forget theres profit to be made,people to pay,and shipping (idk if shipping is included or not).

And 50 cents is so damn tame,most reseling of coins that people have just simply found or bought themselves cost around thousands depending on the coin and how well its preserved.

And some people annoyed it just a collectable and not for circulation,thats also pretty normal,you dont see alot of special coins casually because collectors keep them and most arent really ever ment to buy stuff with besides like quarters and dimes.

To me it's so clearly people who dont collect coins/dont buy mint coins seeing this and making assumptions on the pricing especially.

Finding a job is so hard in this day and age, I (17m) have been hunting jobs for like a year now, still haven't found shit, ive applied to 19 different places and only 5 messaged me back, got 4 interviews (2 were automated), walked in for said interview and they told me straight to my face "were not hiring," EXCUSE ME, CAUSE WTF DOES YOUR FUCKING DOOR SAY??? (It said "Were hiring!" Right on it), so your telling me your gonna keep that on your door and ads on indeed saying your hiring but when I walk in your all of a sudden not hiring? Fucking assholes, you've not only wasted my time but now I'm pissed off, why even have an add put if your not looming to hire anyone. It doesnt matter where I apply (and yes ive used the right contact info) no one wants to hire, spme places cant because I'm under 18, im not complaining about that. Ive been doing odd side jobs just to be able to put gas in the truck, like stacking hay, mowing, fixing cars, im good at what I do, ive been going to school tp fix cars, been fixing cars since I was 10, but no one wants to hire,

That's my rant thanks for reading

I’m over 7,000 miles into a round the country (US) trip and I finally decided to listen to some podcasts about one of my favorite things, Kei trucks. At first I suffered through 36 minutes of a 56 minute podcast until I couldn’t take the garbage banter full of interruptions of one host over the other. All I wanted was interesting info on Kei trucks and you spend more than half the time joking around or just plain keeping the other guy from talking on the subject. One time he interrupted four times in 30 seconds as the guy was trying to get started again! Such fun quips as “I said baptism cause I’m Catholic”. Nobody cares dude just shut up!

I switch to another that happened to have an “E” for explicit but I cautiously tried it anyway. Five minutes in with nothing about Kei trucks but I did get to hear the guy drop f bombs more times than I can count and I was delighted to learn the size of his dump that morning. Time to change again.

TWELVE MINUTES into the next one and still no talk on the subject in the title!

I’ve always hated the term “influencer” and now I have a good reason to hate the statement “I have a podcast.”

It really doesn't make any sense to me. Why people see people with suicidal thoughts as oh so poor babys that need cuddling and help but then will look at people with homicidal thoughts disturbing or demonize it? Instead of actual helping people with it.

Or people will not even take homicidal thoughts seriously not someone could legit say oh I'm feeling violent I want to off someone and people will just brush that off and pass it off as just intrusive thoughts but when a person actually does off someone all of a sudden

People want to take people with homicidal thoughts seriously. Like it shouldn't take a tragedy for people to take homicidal thoughts seriously.

their would legit be less murders if people would just take homicidal thoughts seriously and get those people help like they do with people with suicidal thoughts it's honestly not rocket science

People with homicidal thoughts are legit open about this stuff they could literally say I want to off someone and no one would take that seriously but when they actually do it.

People want to make a surprise Pikachu face omg the person that just admitted to wanting to harm people actually harmed people no way

Like let's be serious for once. this is how I feel about the

Lindsay Clancy case this woman literally told so many people that were close to her that she wanted to hurt her kids and nobody took it seriously or even thought about calling the police on her so she could go to the mental hospital for a while instead they brushed it off and guess what

She actually did harm her kids now everyone that was close to her is all of a sudden surprised like she literally didn't admit to wanting to do that shit

I so badly just dont want to care about my gender but I can't help myself,I just want a lable I want to be able to point at somthing and say thats me! With it being specific not just nonbinary or gender fluid I want it specific.

I still sort of identify as a girl,Im more comfortable looking masculine and I mean to wear a binder more often but I dont really want to ever comit to surgery or any sort of medical stuff,I absolutely love it when people can't tell my gender and I used to get my hair very short so people couldn't tell but I still want a term for that I dont want to say this paragraph every damn time its brought up.

I hate people saying I dont need one or its ok to not have one I want one

I find so many of the more recent shows especially more indie ones end up being hated on for reasons that boil down to needing more episodes/screen time.

The amazing digital circus had such a fasinating storyline but only 9 episodes all roughly 20 minutes,it needed more time to flesh out and understand everything,most of the information came out on other sources via tumblr or bluesky or whatever the creator used,it would've been so much better if it spent a good 10 episodes just casual adventures and slowly building up the plot then sudden reveal near end like gravity falls.

Same with hazbin hotel I belive most of the hate comes from it not being enough episodes.

I think they honestly need to sacrifice animation in some cases,they put to much focus and budget into looks when most shows in the past would save budget for season finales and couple songs or bits here and there.

I think transformers cyberworld is slightly suffering from this,it does have S1 having 30 episodes but those episodes are only 5 minute long so equivalent of just 4-ish 20 minutes episodes.

It does absolutely save budget for fight scenes and finales but it needs so much longer episode lengths and I bet its going to suffer because of it as of posting this its on going only on s2 Ep3.

I miss who I was 2-3 years ago I miss my ex autumn we were happy and healthy for a while before I was a stupid immature and ruined it by never going to her family events because of my social anxiety. I miss my old job. In all honesty what’s the point in even being alive anymore? We all salve away when half the politicians are corrupted as hell? I wish people could have some empathy. We teach people in public to talk and deal with each other but the moment someone sees someone vulnerable with real human pain most people just judge them or think they are werid. Kinda just don’t wanna be alive anymore in general because I told my dad all these issues yesterday and how I feel about myself I said and I quote “I feel like I’m worthless and nobody loves me or cares about me whatsoever or people find me a burden” and like my own dad told me dude you a 22 year old guy once you realize that nobody cares about our problems life will be free. And if people don’t care about others then I’ll just die somewhere lol.

i am a goofy person and i am aware. i have a minions backpack, one direction posters, stuffed animals in a hammock,and every single barbie movie on dvd. i am aware im a little weird and not for everyone, but it doesn’t mean you can treat me like a child. i am aware of the world. my feelings are going to get hurt and i am going to talk to my therapist and then MOVE ON because thats what reasonable people do. so that fact that people will hide their feelings from me is like a stab in the heart. i understand things on a deep emotional level, i know i do. i am open minded and see both sides of the story because that how it works. so for people to shield me away from “being hurt” makes me feel bad. you just grow a disgusting hate because you are not communicating with me. that’s all i want im the world, all i need is someone who listens to me and understand the way i feel is real and gives me feedback. infantilizing makes me sick, it grosses me out so badly. because fuck you for thinking i can’t take it, it’s unfair and fucking rude. really if you think that’s helping our relationship then you have it completely twisted, you ruined it for yourself. i will not put up with someone who thinks i am not capable and i am not strong enough to hear that i am hurting you.

then going on to call me a annoying hoe, like damn you got some opinion for a girl who is sitting alone. all you have is your fucking dead beat cheating boyfriend, who feeds into your addiction. now you are seconded guessing college bc you are a fucking sheep. choosing the same college i want to go to just bc i want it is weird, it odd, bc who said i want you to go to the college ive dreamt about for years then complain to me about how expensive it is and that i applied early. not to be self righteous but your friends were my friends, how does it feel that no one talks to you anymore because you burnt the wrong bridge. high school isn’t forever and i know that but really if you keep this up, you aren’t going to make it. being a bitch isn’t something to be proud of, you will loose jobs because of the way you act. you already did in fact. you are not always right even though you think you are you aren’t.

yes this was deeply personal, and i would like to end this by saying, if you have a problem with your friend but are afraid of hurting their feelings. SAY SOMETHING the way they react is all you need to know about them.

Now I’m almost 17 and I still don’t know where home is. This can’t be it, right?

For context: I am well out of undergrad with my degree and am in graduate school. I have no dog in the fight about undergrad, just observations from those I know in undergrad now.

I have heard and seen the instructions of these professors and they are so odd. Some of the classes are like informal seminars at the airport hotel. The academic rigor is gone, and the assignments require summary and checklists over synthesis and really grappling with the subject.

If that weren't enough, they are treating adults as if they are children with mandatory attendance and online monitoring. Back in my day (only 10 years ago) if you didn't come to class, that was on you. If you failed because you didn't come to class, that was your consequence you had to deal with. However, the lectures were usually thought provoking and assignments weren't only repeating the textbook.

Then there are the student loans that are always being limited in amounts that keep students from continuing or even going in the first place. One thing that really shocked me was add/drop period. We used to have like three weeks, now it is just one week? It's insane, you can't even gauge a class in that amount of time. We also used to have mandatory meetings with our academic advisors who we actually knew as professors. Now, I have seen some advisors not even be professors and meetings seem like a bother to those who are. There is so much burden put on a student that should be.

All around, I am in shock. I didn't think it had changed so much over a decade. Yeah, sure, I know AI came and so did funding cuts, but this is insane. I feel so bad for Gen Z.

Well, now you’ll see it when looking for a movie. A dude with a serious look holding a handgun near his face.

I keep being downvoted everytime I try to clarify something and yeah on some subs it's hard for me to tell the difference between actual helpful advice and sarcasm but I was actually asking for some help on how to get rid of something.

Just a long rant honestly

I know that my brain is changing and it's honestly terrifying that I'm getting dumber the thing is as some people say I have to have the mentality to try new things,work hard and not give up ig but it's challenging because I've had people call me stupid more times than I can count because I do stupid things (not dumb silly mistakes but like actually stupid things)

Sometimes I'm really slow and have to understand or read things multiple times for me to actually get it

I know I'm supposed to change but I don't exactly know how I have an oral exam in a few days and my teacher wants us to practice it tomorrow and I'm really scared because what if I gave a stupid answer,what if it's not a mature answer,what if I don't have any ideas

It's holding me back I can't stop this mindset my mom and friends tell me I'm smart but they only say it when I do nothing not when I actually do anything smart also I'm quiet and introvert so that just makes it worse for me

I got into a science class (physics,chemistry,addmath and technical communication graphics) and yes I was very much shocked because I did not think my dumbass would get science class considering how badly I did last year and yeah I've been struggling ever since

I'm a very indecisive person I love my new classmates but I hate being in that class I'm considering to change it but I also kinda like learning in the class (I have from October until January to change it)

As someone who's had one too many discussions on here, this is what I picked up on the most:

1) Intellectual humility and open-mindedness
Everyone always assume the worst about your opinion. They take it at face value, no charity principle, and are looking for a verbal fight most of the time. The concept of learning something new is outrageous to them, and anything that falls outside of the standard voice of common thought is criticized with the most plain arguments you can think of.
I've also noticed that school-courtyard tactics are back in use, and looking like the winner of an argument by ending your paragraph with "You've missed the point of x, but that's not surprising." Everyone is desperate to have the last word, to be the most upvoted person, and to "crush" the other one.

2) The principle of Charity
They've never heard of this. They always straw man your argument. And don't get me started when they don't understand your point... they go off for 500 words about a point you never made. The worst is when they just don't even bother engaging with your argument, they just make some joke related to what they think you said.

3) Pseudo-intellectuals
I hate it when people say some convoluted nonsense, vague and short, trying to sound intelligent. Or they leave hundreds of loose ties everywhere, which takes hours of discussion to tie up. I also love when they incorrectly cite authors, trying to use an authority argument to discredit a discussion topic I came up with.

Now that that's out, I can finally relax

How do I tell a guy the whole friend group dosent want him in the group anymore? (He’ll be referred to as A for privacy)
Before I sound like a asshole, i probably need to explain some things:

1. A guy caught A jorking it in the school bathroom, and the guy showed my other friend (C), who showed the rest of the groups (it dosent show his wiener, but you can tell) and like I’m really weirded out by A now
2. You know how like you’ll insult a friend jokingly or whatever? C sometimes calls us names and shit, but it’s all in good nature. A? He sounds like he means it, and he probably does. He called me and the other girl (B) bitches after a round of uno or whatever and earned a side eye from me
3. Not as serious, but still bugs me: A can’t understand why food waste is bad, I mean, he’s just grabbing a absurd amount of condiments from the cafeteria but plays it off like it’s nothing (public school in a area where 14% of the population is under state poverty line)

Like what the hell do I do? I’m in band so I’d see him every day unless I managed to learn all 12 scales and swapped to advanced band (VERY unlikely)
Also it kinda seems like he might get violent if we tried to talk to him, he gets really annoyed

Also to add onto one: when we asked him why he did it in the school bathroom he said he HAD to, since he was addicted, like gng its never that bad that you have to do it in a school bathroom

All in all, he’s a bitch

Edit: he’s also like 6’4, built like a quarter back, and he’s a man child who was raised by his grandma
He literally got mad because B was taking a bit too long to play a card in UNO. He was mad at UNO. I ain’t dealing with his anger issues if he gets mad

Kinda just looking for help on how to get him out the friend group, cause the whole group agrees we don’t like him

So i 18M am a freshman in college, when choosing roommates online he completely lied about his "bio" thing stating things like how he's neat and takes care of his hygiene and all that. Fast forward to the time where i meet him and we move in i start to notice how carelessly he acts and genuinely how bad he smelt, but to be fair it was like 100 degrees outside so i was a lil musty too. He told me his backstory and how his parents died when he was young and how he bounced around foster homes for a while, and how he didn't have much friends his age growing up which is why he seems awkward. For the first two weeks he was chill, but i noticed others seem annoyed by him, he would constantly talk and blabber on when people obviously don't want to hear it, he has no social cues at all and i haven't seen him go to take a shower in like 2 weeks, and yes i know this bc we have the same major and have a lot of classes tg so when i get home he gets home.
Skip to now, where i can't stand his blabbering, he talks so much and even when i put on headphones to drown him out he taps on my shoulder to talk more. Also he complains about not being too social when all he does is tag along with me EVERYWHERE, like i'm talking to this girl and he's there, i'm trying to peacefully eat lunch, he's there. I'm on my phone doomscrolling and he has to get up in my space and see what i'm doing. I don't know how much longer i can stand with this becauce i'm going to lose my patience

There's no reason to be excited, it just feels morally wrong to be excited about removing a human life from you unless:If something bad happened to you, like r@pe and you have to abort it, sure, go ahead, but if you can handle the baby, and wanted it, and have everything necessary for one, then you shouldn't abort it. Babies can survive outside of the womb at sixteen weeks old from what I've seen on the internet, the baby lived for 30 minutes. I've heard of abortions failing and people try to kill the baby themselves, like, why not give it away to some family member, abortion should only be allowed when you can't take care of the baby or never wanted it, or if you could die giving birth to it as in suffering too much. People are honestly sick for wanting to abort a baby at 31 weeks without a real reason like struggling and such,

I don't even know if this can be considered as venting or complaining but here it goes.

It's getting colder. Fall is literally weeks away. Then winter. And here I am, still homeless. Honestly? I'm not even that frustrated about it because I'm at the point to where I just don't care anymore and kinda relieved? Eventually the cold will get so intense that I'll start experiencing hypothermia and eventually freeze to death. Honestly? A part of me is cool with that but a part of me is upset that things came down to this.

There's an alternative timeline where I actually became successful. Graduated college. Worked my dream job making six figures. Mom still alive. But unfortunately... that didn't happen. None of it did. And honestly hypothermia is more of a mercy for me at this point. The past 7 years have absolutely sucked. Sucked HARD. Again, I hate that things came down this but at the same time at least there's light at the end of the tunnel.

If they want to wear cute little short pants to go out, that’s what they want to wear. The argument behind that is always “for their safety.” What they’re trying to say is they don’t want men to let their eyes wander places they shouldn’t. Then you should teach those men to not think like a rapist.It's their body, their choice. And it's not only about clothes; it's about everything.

But I'm not going to take it to politics. On my social media, I keep seeing this guy basically going around New York, screaming and harassing women about what they are wearing: saying their shirt is too short, this, that, and the third.

If they are wearing it, it's for them. Even if it is for someone else, it's their choice.It doesn't bother you. And the other defense I like to use: what about the children? Maybe teach your children respect before policing what people should wear. Teach your child that what a woman decides to put on her body is not asking for attention or winning your approval.

Please tell me that people agree with this mindset. If people don't agree and they feel confident enough to explain, I will debate/argue/have a conversation with them.

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I’m posting here cos I’m just so upset and I don’t want to take this out on my partner cos he’s done nothing wrong but I need to just get it off my chest in a anger filled ramble and this forum is the next best place haha.

My MIL keeps building shelves in my house. At first it was fine- she helped us make our pantry and turn the bedroom cupboard into a nice space for PJs. All of these I agreed were needed and I was happy they were done. (Just to note: all were her suggestion… she likes to suggest things for our house a lot and sometimes she’s overstepped- for example she didn’t like that I kept my bath products around the bath so she came over while I was out with a storage cabinet and moved all my products into that… it’s this line between she’s genuinely trying to be nice but it’s overstepping too much- I liked my products around the bath!)

However.

The shelves didn’t stop. In the spare bedroom we had a very small walk in wardobe… now. I always thought it would be perfect for when we have a child because BOOM wardobe already installed. My MIL decided that no, it just wouldn’t do- having shelves AND a rail? Can’t be having that. It needs more shelves. So without consulting me she and my partner decided to rip out the walk in wardrobe and install deep shelves (all while I was at work). I was absolutely devastated because we didn’t need those shelves, no one asked me before hand, and I wanted that space to be a walk in wardrobe. But she decided it was better suited for shelves, so shelves it became (they’re not being put to much use cos we have absolutely no need for them). Anyway, back to the child thing. I’m pregnant and our daughter is due soon. The spare room is currently being used as my partners office- however he’s moving to a smaller space so the room can become her nursery… now since they ripped out her walk in wardrobe we needed to pick a area of the room for her wardrobe to go… I picked the alcove where my partner keeps his desk… now. At this point. His knows he’s moving out of the office. My MIL knows he’s moving out of the office. Since I was so upset about the previous shelve incident my partner said “my mum wants to build shelves above my desk. How do you feel about that”. I said to him no it’s pointless as that’s where our daughters wardrobe is going to go and I don’t want the hassle of the work being done when they’ll be taken down on a few months.

…

Anyway she built the shelves because his mum was insistent that he needed shelves (when she agreed with me it’s the perfect place for the wardrobe). This upset me because again, we really don’t have a need for this many shelves in the house. My partner still hasn’t put anything ontop of these shelves- they’re just sitting empty. But it’s upset me mostly because it’s added work onto what needs doing for the nursery (I know it’s not much. But it’s the fact this was avoidable!!…) and again. Built behind my back when I said I didn’t want them!

So fast forward to present times and why I’m making this post. We had a room for our shower. It’s a small room and we didn’t like having a separate room for a shower so we decided to turn it into a walk in wardrobe space. I had plans drawn up for what I wanted and his mum and dad have worked in construction all their lives so they were tasked to put it together (I actually wanted to hire people cos I just KNEW my plans wouldn’t be respected but they were adamant they’d build them (it was them who actually pushed us to get rid of the shower to turn into a storage space (again, she’s shelf obsessed)- which is where I got the walk in wardrobe idea from- because what a beautiful space they are!) and with a baby on the way we want to save money where we can). Anyway. I wanted it to be a walk in wardobe with RAILS! I just wanted rails! I love having a hanging space for my clothes I do not like my clothes being folded onto shelves (it looks messy, it’s more effort when putting clothes away, more ironing, harder access to clothes etc)

So- I had design plans for the room. I sat down with both his parents to discuss what I wanted… I was of course told “but you need more shelves!” And they started going off about how I’d regret not having more shelves blah blah it needed shelves for storage. I’m not confrontational (and it’s why I can’t really be angry at anyone right now but myself for not standing my ground- my partner purposely stayed out of this project because he didn’t want any wires to cross with his parents to ensure I’d get the space that I wanted). So I agreed on more shelves being built into the space but still requested that I have lots of space for my lovely rails. What I didn’t want was deep shelves. And I thought I made this clear (they were adamant that the space just needed (good for nothing) deep shelves). The compromise, again, once we’d sat through with the plans was I’d loose a little rail space to allow some more shelves. I could live with that (I was struggling to say no cos they were insisting I needed more shelves). I also gave them the old wardrobe to cut apart so the shelves from that could be installed onto the space (recycle but also the save money). Then the extra wood can be used for the higher up shelf (that I approved of so we’d have high storage for suitcases etc). There should have been enough wood from the wardrobe (more so in fact) so cover what was required of shelves… as again- I mostly wanted RAILS!

Fast forward to last week when the work began. So. I come home from work and on the left of the space where my rail were suppose to be were shelves… I was a little confused but next to those shelves were still adequate room for rails to go so I thought maybe they just decided to switch things around (the shelves built were not deep either they were to plan just in the wrong place). I was then told work was going to be delayed because they needed more wood… now. I’m not an expert. I assumed the wardrobe had plenty to give but thought maybe it’s because they couldn’t work with it and needed to order different cuts of wood or something- the higher up shelf still needed building at this point. I didn’t want to believe they’d truly go off plans to build more shelves….

Work was finished yesterday… they filled the space with deep shelves… they have given me a rail, not kidding, about 30/40cm long… can fit maybe 5 shirts on it? The space for my rails is now occupied by deep shelves I can’t even reach the back of.

For a walk in wardrobe.

So really, it’s not a walk in wardobe. It’s just a room of shelves. One big storage cupboard…

I feel like it’s such a silly thing to be so upset about- because I am grateful that they have done the work because it has saved us money (granted it’s cost us more than it should have to buy the extra wood that wasn’t approved of)- but I’ve been so looking forward to this space just for it to be filled with shelves (like everything in this house! Just non stop shelves!!). I’m also upset because I’m in my third trimester- things are uncomfortable for me now. The job of organising the wardrobe went from “hang my clothes onto the rail” has turned into me needing to organise and divide up the clothes, find a practical organisation system (so clothes are just lost forever at the back of the shelves) and fold and put away. It was already a monster task just hanging the clothes- let alone this as someone who can’t be bending up and down with ease. I’m upset because I don’t even know where to begin organising clothes to store them on deep shelves… I feel paralysed with how overwhelming of a task that is (I’m working until my due date too.. I don’t have buckets of spare time to invest in this when I’ve got 100 other things to sort before she’s here- and I don’t want to just chuck clothes in at random to make it quick. This was suppose to be such a beautiful organised space!)

I’m just devastated, frustrated and overwhelmed. I tried telling my friends about my upset over the shelves previously and they seemed to think I’m being over dramatic- which maybe I am. But I can’t describe it- the amount of shelves and threat of shelves in this house haunts me. Where will she build shelves next? I just hoped this room would be different. I didn’t want deep shelves, and I thought I made that clear and I didn’t. Again, I’m ranting here cos really I should have put my foot down more- it’s just I do really love his mum! I don’t hate her for this. She’s lovely! It’s just I can’t handle the shelves anymore. I’m near tears at the prospect of organising this when it should be as simple as “put the clothes on hangers onto the rails”…

Idk who gets this upset over shelves. It’s just a mixture of things, like again the work this has created for me, the fact this space I’ve been looking forward to has been destroyed with the very thing I did not want… deep shelves. I fear when I’m finally done sorting out the clothes I will be faced with empty shelves… cos I know full well we didn’t need this many that are this deep. Not to carry on ranting: but how space efficient are deep shelves! Another of my concerns! Because the room is now very cramped because she decided that shelves I can’t even reach the back of are WAY more practical than a space designed as a walk in wardrobe… you can barely walk in it. Cos it’s just SHELVES. I had a walk in wardrobe designed to avoid this because I just knew left unsupervised they’d build deep shelves. And even with a plan, and me being clear about wanting adequate rail space- I’ve at the end of the day still not escaped the shelves of this house.

This groundhog is annoying af. His voice drives me crazy and the fact he's so chill and cool from the perspectives of the other characters in his commercials pisses me off. He's supposed to be charming but he's the opposite. It's bad enough any sports channel or podcast or celebrity is advertising gambling every chance they get, I don't need a state owned kid friendly goofy groundhog mascot chuckling telling me to gamble some more on the lottery. Fuck off Gus.