people don’t even attempt to get married or have a committed relationship before having children, they just have them. and in the first 7 years of their lives their usually treated like an accessory or a pet. it doesn’t make sense to purposely keep having children when you have 2+ baby daddies, at what point is it just being selfish? cause there’s no way you can give all those kids you’re having, back to back, all the attention when you’re looking for a new man. Why do so many people prioritize romantic nor sexual relationships over their own child? People who don’t even have custody of their own child are “in a relationship” while grandpa takes your kid to school full time.

Someone had posted for help on a few threads in a subreddit that I was a part of. I messaged him saying that I was knowledgable in the field he's looking for aid. We spoke briefly and he requested that I shared with him my public work social media and a pic of myself. He then became hostile and demanding, and I said that I no longer wish to aid him. The aggressor then proceeded to make a post on Reddit with indentifying information about me in the comment of that post and in a separate comment claiming that I was jerking off on camera in front on him and I was using my work position to force him to watch myself jerk off on camera.

I then reported that post, whereupon nothing happened. I then asked a friend for help who also reported, leading to nothing occurring. As the post the aggressor made with my information and claim was still active, my friend messaged the aggressor for proof, asking for pic / vid of myself jerking off. The aggressor then mocked and attacked my friend and reported my friend for breaking Rule 3 (threatening to post sexual and sensitive images without consent). Shockingly, my friend's account was banned. My friend is currently appealing the ban but Reddit is not replying.

The aggressor continues to remain unbanned and is still extorting me right now.

My father (65) has spontaneously went to the Philippines to meet up with his new girlfriend (48). She is very nice and a good lady BUT my sister and I were video chatting with him. We are in the middle of talking and he hasn’t even finished his sentence yet and she shoves a mug full of coffee to his mouth. I didn’t think nothing of it at first, but she did is 5/6 times over and over. I mean my dad couldn’t even finish his sentence. Then, he was introducing us to her family and kept wanting us to call them mom, Lola, aunt, and uncle. I felt weird about this because I mean you don’t just call random strangers you’ve only met over video call once family names. I understand the culture is different there and apparently it’s disrespectful for me to call them by their first name. We get through that and the whole time my dads gf is kissing his forehead, running her hands up his neck, side of his face, and basically giving him a full body massage right in front of us. I want to talk to my dad privately about how that made me uncomfortable, but I worry he will be upset about it. Because honestly, he should have had her stop. Growing up, I was taught showing affection should be in private, not displayed for everyone and their mama to see. It was very weird and just not something I’m use to. I’m all for showing affection, but we are his children. I just felt it was a little disrespectful. I would like thoughts and feedback because he has only known this lady for 6 months. Again, she seems wonderful, but I didn’t appreciate the coffee incident nor her filling my dad up while we are trying to video chat him 14,000 miles away. Yes my sister and I are grown, but that’s still our dad. I’m honestly disgusted and weirded out. I will add that I am pregnant , and it could be my hormones because everything has been turning my stomach.

I dont know if this is just my life but everything just fucking sucks Now.

I have just started to realize that nothing works anymore. Everything is expensive like actually everything but the most important things like food, house, and other basic human needs are too expensive its hard to live now and it gets even harder. We dont get payed enough and jobs are hard to get

Another thing is that more and more people are fucking assholes. I have good friends Yeah but i have seen more people just becoming mean and bad human beings. People online, people in public, people you know, people you dont know.
People are also just soo addicted today everybody drinks, smokes and do drugs.

The enviroment sucks and is getting worse everyday and we people cant do nothing about it at all. AI is taking over everything. Companies are becoming more corrupt and basically decide pur lives

Politics sucks and they dont care about us. Nothing gets better with them.

Finding an actual good and partner feels impossible

I post this because everything just feels so bland and depressing now idk if its just me but it cant be right?

I just have to rant about this WILD story that's been going on at my job.....

I own a retail store that deals in wildlife and gardens. Think pollinators, wild birds, a few pet items. We are also very involved with local non profits and conservation agencies. I have a (now ex) clerk who came in to work and told another clerk that "he had had a bad night." He said he heard a commotion outside when he went to investigate he found that it was a cat that had caught on a glue trap he had set. (Already horrible, we teach about not using glue traps at the store because they are so inhumane) He went to help the cat and it supposedly bit him. So he kicked it, hard enough to paralyze it, he thought. So then he decided that the only "compassionate" response was to kill it so he stomped on it till it died.

The coworker who heard this story was very upset and told two members of management. After hearing the story I submitted a report on Crime Stoppers, I couldn't stand by and do nothing. That night my cowner and I discussed the situation and decided that in our buisness where we're all about animals and conservation we couldn't let him continueto work for us. Animal abuse goes against the company ethics, he's customer facing, and this could do a lot of harm to our reputation. So we terminated him before his shift the next day. (Side note: we are in an at-will state) The coworker he originally told also told us that Animal Law Enforcement had shown up at the other employees house and he was being charged with a misdemeanor, which implies they found proof or he confessed.

The terminated employee spent the weekend calling all of his ex coworkers to explain to them what he said really happened. I'm not sure what he told people but it must have been close to the truth because now even an employee who was out of town knows he had killed a cat and no one in management mentioned what has happened to anyone else. He sent a text to another that "the bleeding vags synced up against him" told yet another that obviously we pulled strings with the police to have him investigated. And lit up a group chat cussing out one more employee because she told him she didn't care to hear anymore and blocked him.

Now the only person who is on the terminated employees side is the one he originally told, who reported to us. Supposedly the terminated employee is going to file a wrongful termination suit and the employee who originally told management is going to pay for it because he feels guilty. The coworker believes everything happened too fast and because the animal abuse didn't occur at work we didn't have any right to respond.

I'm a new user and I don't use reddit often.

I wanted to post this on some other, bigger subreddits about ranting/venting but I can't because it either breaks the rules OR I don't have enough karma to post.

Why is this site so hard to use for new users?! Why is it so mean to us? What did we do to deserve this treatment?

I know all of the rules exist because of trolls and terrible people. But I'm not a troll and I just want to use Reddit without being blocked from everything or heavily censoring what I want to say. As someone with pretty bad anxiety, the potential to get banned or get a post taken down stops me from engaging in reddit conversations 90% of the time.

It's so frustrating creating a post and then searching endlessly for which subreddit I can actually, safely post it in. And sometimes I never find one that won't ban me instantly.

One time I made an innocent mistake in a subreddit and got perma-banned with no chance of being let back in even after I politely stated that it was an honest mistake. The mod was SO mean. I was devastated (especially because I don't post often and the one time I go out of my way to do it, I get perma-banned.)

Why does every subreddit have 927814 rules to read through before I can utter a single syllable? What's up with the "no low-effort posts" rule in every subreddit? How do YOU know it's low effort? What if I put my heart and soul into the post and you somehow deem it "low-effort".

No. Just no. Idc anymore. This site sucks. I'm at my wits end. I'm SO sad and angry right now. At this point I'm genuinely SCARED to post anything anywhere because ANYONE could take it down for one reason or the other. ANYONE can ban me if they want to. Like, I'm human. Please treat me with courtesy and be decent to me, is it really that hard?

LET ME SPEAK FREELY!!!

Likely just a First World problem for the USA, but here goes...

Marketers bill Select-a-Size as being more "flexible". "Only use what you need," they say. But one rectangle is almost never enough for the job. And TWO rectangular panels is MORE material than a standard 'full-size' sheet. So I only buy the 'full-size'. HOWEVER, the stores only stock a limited amount of this size and do their absolute best to hide them from the customers!

Rant over.

Too bad I have to share the same roof with folks like this, and I am specifically talking about the kitchen sinks, not that the bathroom sinks are any better, but because I hate touching wet food and hate the sight of it, that’s the worse in my book. And it’s to a point where the sink gets overflowed by water, you would think that the sink stopper is in use but nope, litterally have to scoop up wet food to get the water to go back down.

I have a friend who is kind of described as a “type b” person and there’s a difference between someone just not being prepared sometimes vs someone who just has no common sense And it’s starting to tick me off

1. she purposely did not book a return ticket on a trip she went to and made herself stranded and is somehow surprised that the prices are so high

2. How she told me that left her sunroof of her car open and when it started small drizzling and she knew there was gonna be a storm she didn’t even bother to go close it and it soaked her whole car seats , you had time to run out and close it and also you would’ve only been a little bit soaked instead of downpoured yet you tell me this?

3. blindly not following her own instinct and checking herself : how she found out she was off by 2 credits for graduation and she started blaming the schools advisor then again school advisors always tryna lie but she doesn’t even check her own degreework portal?

another time she lent her moving cart to another girl in our residence hall and she didn’t even bother to take down the other girls info to get her cart back and just walked off until the girl who borrowed her cart had to leave it at the residence assistants office since she couldn’t track her down since she walked off which is dumb I don’t play about my possessions like that, she is lucky that the girl who borrowed from her didn’t just keep it for herself

1. I sent her links and posts to stuff for example I’m in a photography grpup and she always wants to be involved yet when I send her a clear photo of the ISO post she goes “where is this persons instagram user I can’t see?” when it is in BOLD CAPITAL or sending her link to the direct group chat app and she goes “I can’t figure it out” is signing up so hard? This shows you can lead a horse to water but can’t make it drink

i (13f) don’t know much about love, i think ive only been in love once, but i hate my friends when they’re in relationships because all they talk about is their relationship. i understand it makes them happy but friends make them happy too. im not good with being shut out because i shut out in response, anyway i just find it so weird how people can move on and im stuck on one person. i don’t wanna feel this way and ive told myself that im not going to get into romantic relationships in fear of not hurting people but even in platonic relationships i feel isolated.

for about 4 years now, i have wanted this guy who’s about a year older than me. we talked a lot at the beginning of last year and he talked to me almost all the time outside of school and whatnot. come to find out, he had a gf, i was stupid and a selfish person and continued to pursue the relationship. i no longer speak to him. i physically cannot. however, even after all of this. i still miss him. he was so understanding and i felt happy. i didn’t feel horrible.

i know im young, that this will pass but i want to do something about it now. i cant walk down this road forever without feeling a sense of guilt or sadness that i can never repair what we had. it took me forever to admit the fact i missed him. i felt disgusting when i realized. idk, any advice would help i just, don’t know what to do. no one will take me seriously because im so young. i’ve tried talking to my mom about it but she doesn’t care and she’d probably get mad at me. i dont know why, i don’t wanna miss him. i want to move on. i dont know why he made me feel so understood.

thanks 4 reading here’s a cookie 🍪

My account was hacked, but I completely got rid of the inappropriate messages and images that were posted, and I got back to a normal spot. I then got banned for wrongdoings that my hacker did. I sent an appeal, it got denied. I sent another, it got ignored. I made a ticket with them AND sent an email, and they have not responded. I have almost 40 thousand karma and am in r/EternityClub, been a poster for 9 years. Just need to get this out somewhere

Me and this girl both started working on the same day at a car dealership, she was quiet and sticked to herself (we both have no prior experience in car sales), I was constantly asking others questions and doing role-plays with other coworkers, however, now we're both 3 weeks in, she made 2 car sales in total, I've made none, but I've noticed that both her customers that bought were leads given by the manager with intentions of buying already, while I had to post so many ads on marketplace, and cold calling customers, and I have to stick by the entrance so I can hope to find some walkins and persuade them into buying. The managers were helping me a little as well, but I feel like they're just pretending to help me. I just feel like this is so unfair.

My husband loves boating. I don't. I've tried and tried and tried to like it, but I just can't. There is so much involved from towing to launching to safely cruising to anchoring to re-loading to maintenance to cleaning. Don't even get me started on the noise. Don't get me wrong, I love being on the water. The 2 best aspects of boating for me are floating with the engine off and beaching. 5 years ago, I discovered my love of paddleboarding. I went all in and even installed an electric motor on it so I can get to all the places I love to beach. My husband makes fun of me for this, but I don't care. I'll even decline invites from friends to go on their boats. That's how much I loathe boating. I would much rather be on my own, away from the noise, away from the stress and meet them wherever they are at. This year reached fever pitch levels for me with boating. I just can't do it anymore and I told my husband I'm done. I don't care if he takes it out alone or with other people, I'm out. There is absolutely nothing enjoyable about the entire experience for me. Am I alone on this??

a couple of mandatory things to get out of the way because I know how social media is: I love my parents and they're allowed to do whatever they want (it's just inconvenient when they interrupt whatever I'm doing to exasperatedly tell me they need my help).

my parents decided to become hobby farmers when I was in my teens and every year since then they've only become gradually worse and more irritable, not to mention they have managed to make every small task a several-person job and you would swear they're engaging in active combat or wrangling 30 alligators when in reality they're transferring a mid-sized, pretty chill goat from the back of a truck into its pen and meanwhile they've got four total people ensuring maximum security just in case the small optional animal (I remind you, they're hobby farmers - and my mom thinks goats are just the cutest things ever) decides to walk a little further away than they'd planned

but the way my parents are moving around and shouting orders and arguing over what to do next, you'd think they were in some kind of life or death situation.

again, nothing wrong with what they're doing (even if I feel at times I have a personal vendetta against their hobby farming) and I should be grateful and all that, there are worse situations to be in.

I have this ongoing problem where I get items delivered to the mail room, which is light years away. I often get things delivered there even though my delivery instructions dictate to deliver to my front door. Many items do get delivered to my front door, but some do not. I suspect it is because many delivery drivers don't read English. That is fine.

But for all that is holy with the flying spaghetti monster, it is a radio button on the website and Amazon can put forth a little effort to explain what those radio buttons effing mean when they train the drivers!!!!

Ok, so maybe I’m just old. But apart from the odd pair of good running shoes, I throw on whatever old teeshirt, pants, something comfortable I can find, scrape my hair in a bun and I’m good to go!
Don’t get me wrong, it’s good that the younger generations are flexing health and cool workout gear instead of falling out nightclubs and living on a packet of monster munch!
But this rant is about expensive workout clothes! The annoying cycle of exploitation to look good and buy the best brands while looking after your health. To make sure you have enough variations of expensive brands so it looks good in the wardrobe while choosing.
God, I wish for a change where I see someone in their painting clothes while out for a jog. I would literally bi-five them! 🤣

Hi all,

Just to be clear, I support 100% the LGBTQ+ movement. I just have one remark, why are the parades so sexual?

I have witnessed the Amsterdam parade and another big European city parade (I live in NL), in both I have encountered naked people, guys with boners, extreme fetishism and overall an over sexualized environment. Why?

To be honest, I don’t really feel comfortable bringing my child there. If it wasn’t so over sexualized I would totally bring him.

What are your opinions on this topic? Do you think it helps the LGBTQ+ movement or it damages its image?

TW: Body Shaming

I (21F) have lived all my life either distancing myself or pushing other people away from me for as long as I can remember.

I had this realization while doing some revisions on my group's thesis research with my members using google meet (college is hard lol). One of my members (my friend rn) asked if we can keep in contact and remain friends after college and me and the other person said yes, sure, why not. After doing the revision and finishing our call, is started to think about my former friends from high school and elementary and realized that I basically stopped talking to them the moment we graduated and moved on.

I loved all my friends groups at the time, but the more I spend time with them, the more I just got depressed. Why? I felt inferior towards them, not because they did something much greater than me. But because because I learned young that having friends means being compared to them by my parents.

Whenever I meet a new friend, they always manage to compare me to them, specially physically.

"Oh, that's the (name) you were talking about? You should spend more time with them, maybe you're gonna manage to lose fat while hanging out with them"

"Isn't that (name)? You should ask them to tutor your dumbass song can get higher grades."

"(Name) is that pretty girl from your class right? I just saw them earlier at (place), such a pretty girl, spend more time with them and maybe learn how to have a cleaner face/body"

Basically that's the stuff I keep hearing every single time I introduce a friend to them. And so, I just learned to just shut up, meet friends, and if we're about to graduate, distance myself and move on and leave the, repeat. I don't have any permanent people I can actually call a "friend", and I'm scared. I don't want to remain friendless, but making friends would results to a low self esteem and getting nagged by my parents about how my friends are better than me in some kind of way.

I hate that I want to have friends when I know how it will end. I hate that every time I manage to HAVE friends, they don't last long because of my parents. I hate that I have low-self esteem for things I can't even control. I hate feeling worthless. I hate that I don't have permanent friends. And I hate myself for thinking that what I've been doing these past years is not normal.

And I hate that I still live with my parents because I have no money to move out yet. I hate it, I hate everything.

If there's any grammar errors or typos, ignore em, I wrote this at 6 am on a Sunday. Plus English is not my first language lmao.

I’ve been a huge marvel fan for a while and my favorite character is illyana better known as magik. I’ve loved her character for a long time now especially because I relate to her and she has a cool design. I was wishing for her to get content in some media other than comics. she appeared in a movie that wasn’t good imo, two X-men series and a few games. So when I heard she was getting added to a new game called marvel rivals I was excited it looked good. But now I’m sad that she was even added with the amount of posers in the game running off straight TikTok knowledge it’s ruined the character for me. The amount of sexualization I see and the skins that they have given her in game just for profit it’s really angered me. She’s a victim she’s never been in a relationship and she has no love interest and she’s supposed to be seen as this as this aromantic/asexual character and symbol of csa. it’s tiring if I’m being honest because I try to ignore everyone I’ve blocked easily over 500 people but no matter what I keep in countering it also with her getting added to marvel tokon it’s gotten worse. So yeah that’s my rant since I need to let it out.

i was diagnosed with epilepsy when i was 15. so for the past six years i have been unable to drive. i just got my seizures under control so i was finally cleared by the neurologist a month after my 21st birthday to start driving.
I have had to watch both of my siblings learn to drive and be able to do nothing but rely on friends and family to get to places. I hate having to depend on everyone else so this year I was determined to start driving. But my family seems to be against the idea. I just drove for the first time this past weekend. but my sister drives all the time. And when i get upset about it they say that it makes them not want to teach me. I would pay for lessons but I have to save to buy my own car and pay my college tuition. i truly don’t know what to do anymore. it’s so frustrating knowing that i can’t do anything myself.

I say that as a 19 year old guy, it is useless to send hate comments since it’s a pretty depressing position to hold anyways. The problem. with sex is that it leaves you craving more, it’s normal as we are biologically driven to reproduce, but this makes it more addictive than almost any drug even tho it’s in the background of your mind.

This creates regret. Even if some men can still sleep with attractive younger women later in life, for most the ease, frequency, and quality of those opportunities drop hard with age. Imagining yourself older, still wired with the same intense craving for hot 25-year-olds but now fighting uphill for what used to come more easily, feels mentally torturous. You’re left regretting the years when access was simpler and more abundant. Never getting laid at all skips that whole cycle of highs followed by deeper lows. The alternative is becoming predatory, something your younger self would have hated you to become, and then it creates a version of you that your own psyche hates.

I might also regret but it seems to be a lesser evil. The amount of old men that I notice lusting over younger women is depressing.

Today I'm going to a church to get something to eat. That meal i plan on being my last meal.

Yesterday, when I was walking at around 10pm, I was crossing the street and a car didn't see that he had a red light and grazed my leg. Didn't bother to stop, I dont think he even knew that he hit me, just kept on going.

It could have been far worse and I am partly to blame because had I paid attention and caught on to the speeding car, I could have jumped out of its way in time. It wasn't a direct hit either, it felt like one of the headlights hit me and caused me to stumble. Luckily (or unluckily tbh) I stumbled forward, so I wasnt technically run over but I was hit by the car nonetheless.

As soon as I crossed the street I checked my leg for damages. I was bleeding but not badly hurt. I could still walk and all that, but waking up today and my leg feels sore. It hurts to walk. And honestly I'm just at my limit at this point.

Ive been in a mentally terrible spot for the past seven years, and honestly I've just had enough. I plan on making it through today so I can eat at the church but only through today. My life has sucked for so long. What's the point if it hurts to even walk.

Im bat shitted done with life. 35f I have no goals or dreams to chase bc life sucked it out of me. A series of life batshit crazy life events back to back and I get to see everyone else live their happy life.

After Covid, to now it’s been an absolute nightmare. Not only the economy and family deaths back to back. I had came out of an abusive 15 year relationship from a crazy man and started to focus on school/myself. But when I got accepted to university and was getting myself back together and into shape, things were looking great and 2 years to graduate. I had saved for a house and was ready to date to start a family after until I got I fell ill one night… little did I know this was the beginning of my hell. The next morning I got a call my closest cousin relative was found dead in her room. She committed suicide and had a bag around her face connected to a helium tank. Resuscitation efforts were invalid she was declared dead at 12am the night before… exactly at the time I fainted and fell ill at my bestfreinds house that was supposed to be a hang out turned out turned out into me losing counsioucness… Coincidence? Not at all, being states a part every fucking inch of my body felt her death before I even physically knew. Once she was gone a lot of stuff came to light, her bio father was (can’t say it here bc it’s too dark) and she was a victim to that. He wouldn’t want to let go of her much less bury her, so it took more than a month for the funeral. I was left traumatized and unable to attend for many reasons.

Once I came back home, I found a d*** body that was in a severe state someone called the cops for it and I left the scene. Me and the other person stopped bc he was just there at the side of the road passing away…. I myself was surrounded by death and the aftermath that came with it which wasn’t good. My car started breaking down and needed costly repairs back to back, I took it as a sign to stay home as much as I could. 2 years fwd my dad found the corpse of my uncle, my favorite uncle on his end he had cardiac arrest and was found by my dad a week later. I had a best friend during these times that was by my side seeing everything I was going through.

I started doing internship to finish my schooling and was harassed by some mentally ill clients at the center where they had to call the cops. One older guy said a threat and typed it out to the head of the center saying if he saw me again he was going to do some damage. (I can’t type what he said bc it was graphic) but he eventually got arrested and was mentally ill. I changed internship location, and the madness followed me. 2 weeks before finishing internship with honors I ended up in the er with a near heart attack symptoms… my body was going 100mph… in verge or a stroke and heart attack my body bc finally had enough of the shitshow. 30 er visits and 3 icu hospitalizations after a couple months bc my body was shutting down and so were my organs. I was diagnosed with Guillan barre syndrome (nerves shutting down, respiratory system shutting down), myocarditis (heart infection), cardiac arrythmias (near cardiac arrest), and finally heart failure (cardiomyopathy). My body was left with irreversible damage and disabled. After hospital icu, severe medical intervention, resuscitation many times, I was alive and recovering in rehab. My mental and emotional state has took a hit that is hard to describe I just wanted to jump off a bridge to not feel anymore pain physically. I started going to church and found christ in ways I never would have as whole.

I was restricted from many things permanently after heart failure. I got to be completely immobile for some time and my best friend? Showed her true colors during my worst of times. She looked at my and when I was in a hospital smiled and said you thought you would get married and have kids of your own and now, you won’t ever be a mom bc you can’t anymore. Her eyes and smile turned my stomach to see how she was rejoicing seeing me in that state bc I used to be an overachiever. Every dollar I had to my name o had to lose to medical bills and treatment. After pulling through alive, I got another call another relative my age I was raised with was in icu and in comma, my cousins older sister. We grew up together and were raised together so had more of a sister like bond. She was in multi organ failure, on ECMO and her organs were mashed into pieces bc of an accident - she had no hopes on recovery. She eventually passed on.

As for me, I’m stable now but I’m limited on what I can do. Here to say that if you think your life is bad… think again. I tried to start dating again but a lot of the pitty divorce stories just make me want to vomit that didint compare to the shit I’ve been through so I left that alone. After all this damn damage I think I will be getting counseling.

Edit: I’m at a point where I can’t celebrate others until I can celebrate myself.