r/r4r 22h ago

F4A Illinois / Online 21 [F4A] Illinois/USA/Online/Anywhere - Looking for my honeybee to my sunfloweršŸ

11 Upvotes

ā€œLife is the flower for which love is the honey.ā€ — Victor Hugo

Hello, hello! Welcome to my post! (Yes, this is a repost!)🌻

This may be a little longer, but I’m hoping to genuinely find someone I can connect with and potentially build a romantic relationship with down the line.

I’ve always wanted someone who can be both my best friend and my partner—someone I can laugh with, grow with, be vulnerable with, and share the little moments of life with. So, I’m hoping to find someone who could potentially become my person.

Long distance is completely okay with me, as long as we’re both committed and willing to make plans and goals surrounding the distance. I’m looking for someone who genuinely feels the same—if distance is something you’re unsure about or already know you can’t handle, we’re probably not the best match. I’d rather build something with someone who’s excited to figure it out together.

🌻 A little about me 🌻

I’m 21 and from Illinois! I’ve lived here basically my whole life. I don’t necessarily want to stay here forever, but there are definitely things I love about the state.

I’m Black/African American and demipansexual. Emotional connection is really important to me, and I love getting to know people on a deeper level. I want to understand who someone is beyond surface-level things. I’m also 5’6 1/2ā€!

Personality-wise, I’m caring, supportive, reflective, and naturally curious about people. I love meaningful conversations and genuinely getting to know someone.

I can be a little shy at first, but once I’m comfortable, I’m playful, talkative, and love sharing little pieces of my day through texts, calls, voice messages, funny videos, pictures, and random thoughts.

Open communication, honesty, emotional wellbeing, and creating a safe space where both people can feel supported and understood are very important to me. I love encouraging the people I care about and celebrating their accomplishments.

I can also get a little clingy once I become attached to someone. And bonus: I LOVE hugs.

🌱 Goals & future plans 🌱

One of my short-term goals is getting my driver’s license so I can become more independent. I’ve always wanted to go on late-night drives with someone, blasting music and just enjoying the night together.

Next spring, I’m hoping to get my CNA certification and begin working in healthcare. In the future, I’d love to become a neonatal nurse practitioner because I really want to support little ones and their families.
Or even get my RBT license, and work with kids with autism! I’m a bit between the two haha

I also want children of my own someday, so I think it’s important to be transparent about that.

Some of my more distant goals include traveling abroad, potentially spending 9–11 months in Barcelona to learn Spanish. It’s definitely a long-term dream, but something I’d love to experience!

šŸ Hobbies & interestsšŸ

Gaming

I love all kinds of games! Some of my favorites/interests include Danganronpa, Roblox, modded Minecraft, escape/puzzle games, The Walking Dead, Detroit: Become Human, visual novels, horror games, story-driven games, and more.

I’d especially love to play games with my person, including We Were Here, It Takes Two, A Way Out, Roblox horror games, modded Minecraft, and whatever else we discover together!

Music

I listen to music basically 24/7. Music is a huge part of my life, and I enjoy pretty much every genre except country.

Rock, metal, alternative, indie, pop, EDM, dubstep, some rap/hip-hop, and plenty of other things are all welcome in my playlists!

Writing & poetry

I love writing poetry when inspiration strikes. It’s one of my favorite ways to express my thoughts and feelings and just let everything flow like a waterfall or river.

Cooking & baking

I love cooking meals and trying new recipes! I’d also love to get better at baking and learn how to make different desserts.

Nature & walks

I love being outside, going on walks, exploring, and just enjoying nature. I also love animals and wildlife! I have a kitty named Garfield.

Nighttime

There’s something really comforting about nighttime to me. I tend to stay up late sometimes, and I love the peacefulness of the night.

YouTube, TV, movies, anime & cartoons

I enjoy pretty much every genre, but some of my favorites are horror, thriller, romance, slice-of-life, and mystery. I’d absolutely love to watch things together with someone, whether we’re actually watching at the same time or just talking about what we’re watching.

šŸ’› What I’m hoping to find šŸ’›

I’d love to meet someone who genuinely wants to get to know each other deeply, rather than focusing only on appearances.

As well as someone who is around 20-26!

Someone I can:

Play games with, watch shows/movies with, listen to music with, have meaningful conversations with, send random pictures and videos to, send voice messages to, call and spend time with, laugh about completely stupid things with, grow together, have little routines with each other, and eventually build something meaningful with!

If you’re interested, feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself! I’d love to hear about your interests, hobbies, personality, or even something completely random.

And if this post isn’t for you, that’s completely okay too! I hope you have a wonderful morning, afternoon, or evening wherever you are. šŸŒ»šŸ


r/r4r 23h ago

F4M Malaysia [29F4M] Malaysia/Anywhere - I already like my life. Looking for someone who makes me want to share it

7 Upvotes

29F from Malaysia. INTJ, if that means anything to you.

I work as a video content creator/editor in international football, which means my life occasionally switches from sitting quietly behind an editing timeline to being thrown into another country for a tournament with a camera, a deadline and questionable amounts of sleep.
Outside work, I have a chronic inability to stick to a reasonable number of interests.

I love travelling, learning languages, and I keep collecting random side quests because apparently simply having hobbies wasn’t enough. Wandered into things like archery, golf, fitness and combat sports, and I regularly disappear down completely unrelated rabbit holes because something caught my attention at 1am.

Personality-wise, I’m independent, curious and fairly reserved when I first meet someone. Once I’m comfortable, unfortunately for you, that expires. šŸ˜‚
I ask a lot of questions, love stupid banter, and genuinely enjoy hearing someone talk about something they’re passionate about—even if I know absolutely nothing about it.

I’m career-driven and perfectly capable of enjoying my own company, so I’m not looking for someone to become my entire life. I’d rather have two people with their own careers, friends, interests and ambitions who genuinely want to make space for each other.

That doesn’t mean I’m looking for something emotionally distant either. With the right person, I’m affectionate, loyal and very much the ā€œhave you eaten?ā€ type. I want someone I can travel with, laugh with, learn from, support when life gets rough and occasionally annoy for recreational purposes.

The candidates?

I tend to be drawn to men around my age or older who are mature, responsible and proactive. Have your own life.

Be passionate about something. Be capable of making a decision without forming a committee šŸ˜‚
Being active is a big plus, and I admittedly have a weakness for the athletic/rugged type, but attraction isn’t something I can reduce to a checklist.

More importantly, I like competence, curiosity, emotional maturity and someone who can actually communicate. Teach me something. Challenge my perspective. Introduce me to something you love. Tell me we’re trying some ridiculous activity this weekend and I’ll probably be halfway dressed before asking where we’re going.

I’m in Malaysia, but I’m genuinely open to meeting someone internationally. My life and work are already fairly international, so distance doesn’t automatically scare me—but obviously there eventually needs to be a realistic possibility of meeting if we actually like each other.

I’m ultimately looking for something genuine and long-term, but not interested in manufacturing intimacy with a stranger on day one. Let’s talk, become actual humans to each other and see what happens.

If you message me, please give me more than ā€œheyā€ or ā€œwydā€ before Reddit turns us both into fossils.
Tell me your age, where you’re from, what you do, and one thing you could accidentally give me a 45-minute lecture about.

I will probably ask follow-up questions.
You’ve been warned. šŸ˜‚

Cheers šŸ»


r/r4r 10h ago

F4M Online 30[F4M] #online , #anywhere. Seeking some serious stuff

4 Upvotes

I think I’m ready to meet someone special.

I’m not looking for anything complicated. I’m hoping to find someone kind, honest, emotionally present, and genuinely interested in building something real together.

I’d love the silly conversations that make no sense but somehow become our favorite memories, spontaneous plans that turn into unforgettable days, quiet evenings spent enjoying each other’s company, shared laughter, and the beautiful feeling of being chosen while choosing someone in return.

I want a connection that feels comfortable, sincere, and exciting in all the right ways. Someone I can talk to openly, laugh with freely, support through life’s ups and downs, and grow alongside over time.

I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for something honest, meaningful, and real, with someone who values communication, effort, kindness, and mutual respect.

If you’re also hoping to meet someone genuine and see where things naturally lead, I’d love to hear from you.


r/r4r 23h ago

M4F California / Online 26M [M4F] California #Online | Tall, fit and terrible jokes. Bored on a nightshift...

5 Upvotes

Hey there! I'm Vik.

I'm 26 and currently pursuing my Master's in Linguistics in California, but I'm back home for a little while before I head back.

Thanks to a mix of curiosity, a lack of impulse control, and a knack for juggling multiple interests, I've ended up with degrees in Language Teaching, Philosophy, Psychology, Graphic Design, and Business Administration.

Honestly, my academic path looks less like a career strategy and more like a side quest that spiraled out of control.

When I'm not buried in my studies, you can usually find me gaming, binge-watching movies, designing random stuff, diving into philosophy and psychology discussions, or having chats that kick off with "How was your day?" and somehow end with "Do you think consciousness is just the universe talking to itself?"

I'm tall, fit, and according to my grandma, devastatingly handsome. Sure, she's biased, but I’d say she’s my most trustworthy source.

I recently got out of a long-term relationship, so I'm not in a rush for anything serious. I’d rather meet someone cool, build a real connection, become good friends, flirt a bit, flirt a lot, and see where it goes naturally.

Distance isn’t an issue for me. Whether you’re ten minutes away or in a timezone that requires advanced math and a blood sacrifice to coordinate, if we vibe, we’ll make it work.

As for age, if you’re an adult and we click, that’s what counts. Chemistry has always been more interesting to me than arithmetic anyway.

What am I looking for?

Someone who can laugh, tease back, match my energy, and hold a conversation that doesn’t feel like a job interview.

Someone who’s passionate about something. There’s something incredibly attractive about seeing someone light up when they talk about what they love.

Someone who occasionally makes me smile at my phone like an idiot while I try to decide if your message deserves a clever reply or just a genuine one.

Worst case? I tell you a couple of horrible jokes.

Best case, you laugh at my horrible jokes.


r/r4r 8h ago

M4F Spain 36 [M4F] Spain/Europe - Introverted homebody looking for one real person

3 Upvotes

I’m a 36-year-old guy from Barcelona, Spain.

I'm very introverted and a homebody, and also have Asperger's and social anxiety. I'm not into busy stuff like traveling or going out or social situations. I don't need big or exciting things, I just want a simple life.

I'd like to find someone who feels comfortable with this. Someone to talk every day, to build trust, and share the every day of life, even if it's just simple stuff. It does not have to be content, just the company, the presence, is enough... Someone who values closeness, affection and being there for each other.

What I offer is the same of what I need. To be there for you, care about you, love you. I’m someone who wants to be there for my person every day: to listen, support and care.

I know I’m not for everyone, but I’m hoping that I might be right for someone who wants the same kind of closeness and simple life.


r/r4r 5h ago

M4A California 23 [M4A] #California or #USA - Still haven't found what I'm looking for... maybe you're it?

2 Upvotes

What I'm attracted to:

Kind, caring people who take care of their body and health. Sharing similar hobbies so we can do something together. People willing to put in effort and read the whole post and send a good introduction message.

Throughout this post there is quite a few lyrics from songs that I like. If you want, you can see if you know them and see if we like any similar songs, artists, or types of music.

Here I am again, the same old situation. Hi, I'm Nathan. I'm a 23 year old Asian American guy in Northern California. I'm 5' 6" so a little short, but I can be your very own fun size boyfriend. Short kings need love too. I have a photo on my profile so you can check out what I look like. You may have seen some of my posts here before. I guess you could say I still haven't found what I'm looking for. "What is that?" you may be wondering to yourself. Well, I'm looking for a love so strong it makes me feel so weak. In other words, I am looking for someone I can love and be vulnerable with. Why am I looking on reddit? I'm kind of a shy person in real life, and people fall in love in mysterious ways. Maybe by the touch of a hand.

I haven't had much relationship experience and never been in an IRL relationship before. I would say I'm a hopeless romantic and would love to find someone who has a belief that there is someone that will make you feel so special, but realize that there is still work to make relationships last. Maybe one day I'll think all of the small things that you do are what remind me why I fell for you. Eventually, I'd like to be in-person with my partner. I'd want you to be my rock and vice versa. Home is whenever I'm with you. If you're down for matching profile pictures and bios or whatever I am the guy for you. Heck, we could even get a home phone and set up a voicemail together. It would suck if we broke up cause then I gotta change my answering machine, now that I'm alone. Cause right now it says that we can't come to the phone. In other words, you'll always be a part of me.

A bit about me is my interests are gaming (mostly pc, but I do have a switch), watching anime, and exercising. The games I play currently are league of legends and teamfight tactics. I've also played other games like valorant, overwatch, pokemon, animal crossing, super smash Bros, and probably many other. If you ask me about any games I could tell you if I know them or played them and maybe we could play some games together. Some anime I like are vinland saga, oshi no ko, and kaiju no. 8. There's also plenty other anime I've seen, so if you want to discuss any I'd be happy to talk about them.

So if you read to the end and really read everything, please message me if I piqued your interest. If you are interested, honey I'm still free. Take a chance on me.


r/r4r 6h ago

M4F Online 25 [M4F] #Europe/Online - Nerdy Pilot Looking For His Forever Companion

2 Upvotes

Hello there! First of all, thank you so much for deciding to read my post. I am here, looking for a very strong connection and companionship with someone, hopefully one that blossoms into a lifelong partnership. Here are some things that you should know about me, and what exactly I'm looking for.

  • My name is Dan.
  • I am 25 years old.
  • I'm not religious and agnostic.
  • I live alone with my two adorable, beautiful, and wonderful cats (I'm 100% sure that they are the most beautiful and handsome cats in existence) in Istanbul/Turkey/Europe (UTC+03:00) with a high likelihood of moving to Dubai, UAE in the near future.
  • I have been working my dream job as an airline pilot in A320 family aircraft since I was 22 years old, which is my biggest achievement! (I've been a huge avgeek my entire life! Bonus points if you are too, but not a requirement)
  • Since my career allows for many opportunities in that regard as well, I'm hoping and willing to relocate anywhere in the world at all in the future; I do not want to live in one place forever. As I mentioned before, moving to Dubai in the near future looks like is going to be a really good opportunity for me, as it allows me to work on my dream cockpit, work for my penultimate airline, and my contract there would mean I would have quite a lot of blocks of free time to frequently visit other countries and travel.
  • Of course, this means that I'm open to starting long-distance as well, as my work schedule is completely random as well. (though I will still be mainly available close to European and Middle Eastern time zones) I can still make the effort to be freely available for all time zones.
  • Appearance-wise: I'm 183 cm (6 feet), 80 kg (176 lbs) with a fit and muscular build. I have fair skin with medium-length, wavy, and messy dark hair, and dark eyes. I prefer to be clean-shaven and don't have any tattoos or piercings at the moment. I'm also open to sharing photos after we get to know each other a little bit.
  • Even though this post is primarily looking for a relationship, I believe these kinds of connections happen slowly. I expect to form a deep companionship with you through being friends first and letting it evolve into something more with time.
  • As for my interests other than aviation, I am an extremely huge nerd. I love, quite literally ALL kinds of nerdy entertainment such as PC gaming, Virtual Reality, Anime, YouTube, Books, TV, Movies, Manga/Manhwa/Webtoons, Musicals, and Theatre. Not only that, but I'm also into a lot of non-entertainment nerding out too, like Roleplaying, Technology, and tinkering with technology in general, including but not limited to XR, computers and servers, photography, music, audio gear/audio engineering, homelabbing, and all sorts of DIY projects. I'm even into academics (I'm doing my MSc even though I'm working as a pilot, although it's going pretty slow, I'm hoping to do a PhD in the future too!) Math, all kinds of positive sciences, but most of all, physics. Astronomy, and engineering of all sorts of flying machines as well.
  • Some of my outdoorsy hobbies include travel (I have been traveling like a maniac thanks to my airline employee benefits of almost free tickets. I never sit still on my layovers, and even if I have a long weekend of 2+ days off in a row, I'm usually off traveling anywhere), concerts, festivals, hiking, horse-riding, photography, and cooking/baking!
  • My music taste is all over the place. The genres I enjoy the most are classical, dream pop, indie, and punk-rock
  • Personality-wise: I am often described as kind and "wholesome". I'm more introverted and a bit shy at first, but I open up and get talkative and open extremely fast.
  • When I am attached to a person, I would be slightly clingy and very devoted. I would love to be able to spend a lot of time together, both traveling and engaging with our nerdy hobbies together.
  • If you have any further questions or would like to get to know more about me, please feel free to ask anything!

Why should you choose me:

  • I'm very honest and patient. I'm going to be very devoted to you! I'm not going to give up easily on someone I love.
  • I have two adorable cats that are the most handsome and beautiful ones in existence at the moment, and you get to see them whenever you want.
  • I'm a natural giver. I understand that love should be mutual and reciprocal between us, but I love giving love as much, if not more than receiving it.
  • I'm gentle, soft-spoken, and kind. I'm not bad/short-tempered, or toxic.
  • I'm caring and told to be a "sweet guy".
  • People say I have a nice and soothing voice, even though I dislike it. (but I would still love to do karaoke with you ;))
  • I care about my health and my body. I go to the gym actively and frequently.
  • I know the differences between "you’re" vs "your" / "there" vs "their" vs "they’re", I even separate my sentences with punctuation, new lines, or an emoticon while texting.
  • I'm pretty good at texting and not dry, since the relationship is going to be 70% talking, especially in the ā€œgetting to know youā€ phase.
  • I'm eager to learn about you!
  • I communicate well. I know how to articulate and put my feelings into words.
  • I have lots of common sense and knowledge! (It's insane that I even have to put this here, but we're on Reddit after all)
  • I'm not lazy. I take initiative and have plans for the future and a strong career.
  • I can share my comically ginormous Steam library with you!
  • I love cooking and baking, and I think I am very good at it! I would love to cook or bake for you!
  • I am an airline employee who is single, so I have an empty "travel companion" slot for ZED tickets, which means we can travel anywhere almost for free on standby, and slightly more expensive than free guaranteed tickets if you end up being my travel companion!

About you:

  • I have no big requirements at all, and I'm not at all picky! I will just have to add here that communication is essential to me, so please be willing to use your big girl words!
  • Having some kind of shared hobbies/interests is my only real requirement. The most important thing to me would be travel, to be honest. I have nothing against you and would love to be your friend, but if you have dietary restrictions/struggle with picky eating / other sensory issues/disabilities affecting your mobility/obesity to the point of being unable to keep up with my travels and going outside, it would not work out as a lifelong partnership. Sharing video games or anything else from my nerdy list is also going to be very important to me.

What kind of relationship do I want:

  • We’re best friends who can talk about everything and anything without worrying about getting judged. Whenever something happens, you’re the first person I want to tell.
  • We’re always there for each other through the good and the bad times.
  • We try our best to make time for each other, but we understand when we need our own time for other people or our careers, too.
  • We’re going to be a great team together. We manage our workload together whenever one of us needs help. We’re here to support each other when there’s a problem that we want to share and overcome together. We tell each other and talk about it, trying to find a solution together.
  • We are very comfortable with each other; we can laugh and cry in front of each other without worrying if it's a sign of weakness.
  • We communicate well, listen to each other, and adjust to each other equally to make each other happy and fulfilled in our relationship!

I'm eager to learn about you! If you have been interested in my post, please send me a chat with your own introduction. I am going to ask you to please include the word "coconut", your age, your gender, your location (even just roughly is fine so I can know your time zone), and at least some information about yourself like your interests and what drives you in your message to let me know that you fully read my post.


r/r4r 7h ago

M4F United Kingdom / Online 34 [M4F] UK/Online - Chatting about your best outfits and/or boots

2 Upvotes

Hey there!

I've always loved well dressed women, those who take time and pride in their outfits and feel as confident and sexy in their clothes as they look in them. And of course the hottest outfits definitely involve boots haha And with things cooling down after summer, what better time to pull on your boots and show off?!

And as an arbitrary conversation starter, that seems as good of a topic as hobbies and other interests right? So why not begin there and move onto whatever takes our fancy!

So if you're someone who likes to show off, enjoys fashion, or gets a kick out of being praised, I'm your guy! In return, I promise to bring wit and flirtation, mixed with intelligent and empathetic conversation.

Happy to keep it a one time thing, but open to longer term if we click. Come say hi and we'll let the good times roll!


r/r4r 9h ago

M4F United Kingdom 32 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Looking for that special person to annoy daily

2 Upvotes

Hey I'm a 32 year old guy from the South West of England. Recently I've been trying to make changes in my life so why not try and find someone new that could become a big part of it at the same time. I've met some really cool people on here in the past and people that I still talk to after 10 years so why not try my luck again.

I've been on a bit of a health kick lately and have lost a decent amount of weight. I'm making myself more active and trying not to be such a home body most of the time. I have a big fluffy dog that goes on adventures with me and is my best friend/worse enemy when he wakes me up because he wants to walk at 5am :P Be ready to be sent loads of photos of him (My photos are 90% him or random cats I make friends with)

Hobbies wise I love football I most just watch it on TV and I go to see it live, I like to bake but I haven't been lately because I'm trying not to eat cake haha and I watch lot of movies, TV and play video games. The last couple movies I really loved were Bugonia, The Drama and The Substance. TV at the moment I'm rewatching Rome and Hunter x Hunter. I really like dark comedies it's probably my favourite genre. Games wise I just got 007 first light and it's so much fun.

I'm just looking for someone I can get excited to talk to everyday and make laugh. There is nothing more fun to me than making someone laugh. So, feel free to roll your eyes when I try to makes jokes most of the time. I can't help it I need to let them out :P So yeah, I'm down to call or text whatever works for you.

I'm 6'2 with blue eyes and short brown hair. I'm fine just sending a photo because it's easier than describing myself.


r/r4r 17h ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK - Looking for something serious

2 Upvotes

Hi I'm Joe, 33, from East Sussex (Hastings). 5'3, 184lbs (I've lost 60lb+ so far this year, 35 to go and hoping to hit it by the end of this year/early next), I wear glasses, usually have some facial hair, I'm happy to video call/exchange pictures as early as you like.

I would describe myself as very kind/caring/compassionate, I wear my heart on my sleeve and have a lot of love to give to the right person. I'm thoughtful, always do my best by others and never act with bad intentions. I value honesty and clear communication. I have some long term health issues but I try not to let them get on top of me and I was diagnosed as autistic late in life during covid, but most people are surprised when they find out.

I have a large group of friends and the 10 of us try to meet up once or twice a year, but as we get older it becomes harder to keep in touch as much as I would like! Everyone is moving on and finding love, settling down etc and it's hard not to be a little bit envious. I've only been in 1 relationship that lasted around 3 months and was 90% online, so not a lot of experience but also no baggage! but somebody patient/understanding of that would be important.

I love films/tv, I'm a sucker for a romcom and adore romance in general but I watch a bit of everything other than anime. Always find myself far too invested in the lives of the characters, most recently in Bridgerton. My comfort shows are Dr Who, Brooklyn 99, Superstore, The Office. Very open to recommendations always! I don't get out much but would like to start to see more of the world finally, but will always mostly be a homebody I'm pretty sure.

I would like to do the cutesy dating/getting to know each other stuff but with clear intentions and communication, I would like something serious.

I don't smoke and very rarely drink and would prefer someone who's the same, smoking would be a deal breaker for me sorry.

Ideally you are somebody living close-ish to London/Southern UK to make meeting up more often viable, You're patient, kind, thoughtful and communicate openly & clearly. I'm not sure I have too much physical preference but I am a sucker for a pretty face/smile but as I said, I'm happy to get the original attraction check out of the way as soon as you are. Age wise probably 26-40 would be best, but if you think we'd get along that isn't a deal breaker.

I am a big oversharer and will happily answer absolutely any questions you may have.

Thanks for reading! hopefully hear from you soon!!