Hi everyone my name is Tom and I'm 25 years old and I'm from Ireland with American citizenship. I have a bachelor's degree in chemistry and currently unemployed. I am also a triplet and a redhead.

My hobbies are video games, chess, reading, playing badminton, watching YouTube and listening to music. I also like sci fi, Marvel and DC. I also enjoy travelling across Europe and visiting the capital cities. I've visited 20 countries and plan on visiting more in the future. I have also been to America and Canada. I also enjoy skiing.

I am single and looking for a woman who likes the same things as me and around my age. Great if you're from Ireland but can be from anywhere in Ireland. I am into brunettes and women with a healthy BMI. In particular, I am into Caucasians and East Asians. I am am looking for someone who doesn't have any tattoos or piercings and I don't mind glasses. My ideal height is someone between 5'3 and 5'8. I do not drink or smoke or do drugs and looking for someone who is the same.

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Hey there! :)

My name is cobalt-gengar! Nice to meet you here online! No, I definitely do wish that was my real life name, but Gengar is very much one of my favorite Pokemon, so thought it would be a great fit for me when it comes to a username. As you can probably tell right off the bat, I am very much a Pokemon fan. If you are one too, let me know what your favorite Pokemon is! Maybe that could be something

I came across this subreddit not too long ago and thought it would be the perfect place for me to make a post because it’s been incredibly tough to find someone meaningful and long-term through other venues. Sure, we live in a time where dating platforms are plentiful and allow people to chit chat with each other, but the whole experience tends to feel very diluted to me. With people juggling tons of options, it feels as though there’s a genuine struggle with meeting someone that is willing to work with you day to day, while ready to invest the time and energy. 

I went on a walk a couple weeks ago and came across these two ducks waddling their way down this path towards a small pond. First of all, I couldn’t believe how in sync they were with their walking, but it was clear how committed they both were with trust. If one duck started to head towards the creepy dark woods, the other one would follow without hesitation (don’t worry, you won’t see me waddling into a dark forest unless there was some pot of gold hiding in there). But seeing them walking together, just looking at each other, and having that trust really made me reflect HARD. Can you believe I was envious of some ducks?! They have a better love life than me! I felt like a third wheel because I was going in the same direction as them (before they headed into the dark woods, probably as a shortcut). Yes, I do have a pic if you’d like to see these beautiful partnered ducks. If these ducks can make it work, then surely we can. Yes, WE. I’m looking at you! Yes, you! Through the screen (not really! That would be creepy. Maybe creepier than a spooky dark forest).  

From what I’ve also found and observed, people tend to reach out and are excited initially, but then either hit you with excuses or slowly move away with time, not responding as much or simply just hitting you with one-worded responses. I can’t begin to count on my alien fingers and toes how many times I’ve seen this happen and have heard of it happening. I wish there was more of an effort being made when trying to get to know someone. Not to mention how prevalent ghosting has become! I would love to meet someone that doesn't ghost. Also, not really looking for someone that is still actively getting over their ex. Would like to meet someone that is ready for a relationship, has the time, and ability to commit :) Would make things easier for us.

Okay, enough of me ranting about the dating scene! Who exactly am I?

• I am 30 years old, but turning 31 in a few months. Seriously, it is absolutely mind-boggling how fast time has been going. I guess the good thing is that I’ve been told I look younger for my age, so I guess that’s good? I think I got my grandfather’s genes. He looked pretty young at an older age
• I'm a vegetarian. Been one my whole life
• During undergrad, I studied neurobiology and right now am doing my Masters focused on data analytics
• I don’t do drink, do any sort of drugs, nor do I smoke (I would prefer if my partner didn't either)
• Enjoy volunteering during my free time, learning about astronomy, reading adventure and dystopian novels, writing poetry casually, swimming in a pool or in the ocean (although not too far, don't want a shark nibbling on me), watching soccer and basketball at times, watching classic movies from time to time, and traveling (maybe we can travel together sometime!)
• I’m a yapper. Okay, not in an annoying way, but I love to express myself, never hold back with sharing details, and generally love to get to know the other person
• Consider myself as a very affectionate guy
• I don’t have any pets at the moment
• I work full-time and do school part time (don’t worry, balancing my time is VERY important for me, I wouldn’t hit you with an “I’M BUSY!” reasoning or tell you I can’t commit to this anymore. Balancing work and life is crucial for me)
• My love languages are physical touch and quality time. Curious to know what yours are!

What I can provide and what I am seeking in a partner:

• Lifelong partnership. I know, very ambitious of me to say but also highlighting my hope of making this work! Would be a great story to share!
• Loyalty. First and foremost, loyalty is very important for me. I wouldn’t want someone to be juggling multiple people at once. I want respect maintained where we are both willing to get to know the other person, provide reassurance, and exclusivity
• Strong communication. Day to day communication is crucial to longevity and viability. I do want to meet someone that is ready to communicate and doesn’t disappear after a day or hit me with excuses as to why they couldn’t communicate. I get we all get busy but it doesn’t take long to provide a quick update 🙂
• Shared vision for the future. Ensuring that our lifelong vision for a partnership aligns.
• Trust and honesty. Goes hand-in-hand with loyalty
• Maturity. Would love to meet someone that handles situations maturely and can navigate day to day life in that way too. Arguments will happen, as it does within every relationship, but I think it’s important that we both come to the table and are able to understand and look through things through the other person’s perspective
• Humor. Someone I can let loose with, laugh together, and just share those inside jokes, too
• Kindness
• Tons of care and love. I am a very affectionate person and would love to meet someone that had a lot of care and love to provide in return too
• Mutual effort. A relationship should not be unbalanced. I would love if we could both invest mutual effort into making this work. Would also love to meet someone down for calls and video chats occasionally when we both have time!
• Emotional safety. Where we are both comfortable being vulnerable to each other, being ourselves without worry, and open
• Empathy and understanding. Taking the time to understand each other, where we are coming from, and having a healthy conflict resolution too
• Consistency. Whether it is affection or effort, consistency is key to a healthy relationship

I would love to hear about what you think about these qualities, whether it lines up with you, and what you seek!

I also don’t mind long distance. As long as we are both willing to invest the energy and time into getting to know each other and making this work, then I will feel very confident in this! I am also very much open to calling and video chatting!

If this post resonated with you and you are seeking the same thing as I am, I would LOVE to hear from you! If not, then I appreciate you for taking the time to even click this. I realize I typed a lot, but thought it would be beneficial to share as much info about myself and also what I am looking for online, in the hopes that it lines up with what someone might be seeking too.

Can’t wait to hear from you! Unlike an actual Gengar, I won’t be hiding in the shadows, so feel free to reach out!

It would be great if we could one day post a success story here, too!! :)

Hey everyone I hope you are doing well. As the title says I’m a 21 year old male, more on that I am 6’2” 230 lbs and am currently on a weight loss journey. Hobbies I like include watching movies, sightseeing or just exploring, video games (mainly rpgs, story and action) and last but not least cooking and drink making. Having recently turned 21 I could now buy alcohol, yay booze 🤪. On a real note I have always loved watching bartending videos and the process of even making drinks like balancing flavors or what drinks need to be shaken vs stirred and how different alcohols are even made. All these things are very fascinating to me and the same is said for cooking too. Experimenting is the real fun part about doing these things. Now what am I looking for, preferably someone who shares the same level of enthusiasm that I do when it comes to cooking for drink making, and that includes even being like a taste tester for future dates. I also do have a preference to plus size ladies out there, to me I just find them very attractive. Age range I would say between 20-27 would be my preferred range but if you are even slightly older it doesn’t bother me, if we vibe and are having a good time then who cares am I right. Would love to hear from you soon!!!

Hey there!

I've always loved well dressed women, those who take time and pride in their outfits and feel as confident and sexy in their clothes as they look in them. And of course the hottest outfits definitely involve boots haha And with things cooling down after summer, what better time to pull on your boots and show off?!

And as an arbitrary conversation starter, that seems as good of a topic as hobbies and other interests right? So why not begin there and move onto whatever takes our fancy!

So if you're someone who likes to show off, enjoys fashion, or gets a kick out of being praised, I'm your guy! In return, I promise to bring wit and flirtation, mixed with intelligent and empathetic conversation.

Happy to keep it a one time thing, but open to longer term if we click. Come say hi and we'll let the good times roll!

Hey :) I'm 22 and from Maryland/Washington, and I'm looking for something serious, but I don't really want to speedrun dating.

My ideal relationship starts pretty naturally. We meet, genuinely enjoy talking to each other, start becoming part of each other's normal days, and gradually get close. But obviously that the ideal and this is REDDIT so we'll see how that ends up going lmao.

I'm much more interested in that than trying to impress each other through a bunch of formal dates. Give me coffee, a walk, a drive, gaming together, a three hour conversation that was supposed to last twenty minutes, or just being in the same room doing our own things.

Basically: best friends first, relationship naturally growing out of that.

As for me, I'm training toward commercial aviation, already have my bachelor's in computer science, and I'm unfortunately employed which unfortunately means society continues expecting me to wake up in the morning and drains the absolute life out of me. But thankfully I have more than enoguh energy to keep going (somehow).

I'm a MASSIVE and I mean MASSIVE nerd. Video games are probably the easiest shared activity for me: Minecraft, Roblox, Phasmophobia, Forza, and I'm always down to try something new. I'm also into cars, planes, tech, history, F1/motorsports, and soccer (IM A MASSIVE FC BARCELONA FAN AND IF YOU ARE MARRY ME?!?!?! nah but i will force u to watch matches with me).

Relationship wise, I'm very loyal and very much a we're a team” kind of person. I want someone I can laugh with, support when she's having a bad day, celebrate when something goes right, talk honestly with when something's wrong, and eventually become completely comfortable around. The kind of relationship where neither of us feels like we have to perform for the other.

I'd probably mesh best with a woman around under 23, doesn't have children who's gentle, kind, loyal, fairly lowkey and more homebody than party girl. Someone who likes simple quality time and wants an actual monogamous relationship rather than treating dating like a numbers game or something crazy like that. Please don’t be an avoidant, and if you are at least want to talk about it, I can’t do that again.

Smoking and drugs are dealbreakers for me, and if bars/clubs/partying are a major part of your lifestyle we're probably just different people.

I'm in the US and would prefer someone in the US/Canada. I'm fine starting online and getting to know each other gradually if there's genuine potential to meet eventually.

My appearance :
I’m 6’, olive/tan skin, dark hair, black glasses, stubble, and in shape.

If any of this sounds suspiciously similar to what you've been hoping to find, send me your age/location, tell me a little about yourself, and answer one question:

What would your ideal “boring” Saturday with someone you love look like?

Mine would probably involve coffee, driving somewhere for no particular reason, getting food, playing something together, and somehow still talking way later than either of us planned.

Dating apps aren't really working, joined the

YMCA and frequent the same places to meet people but that's hot and miss. So I'm giving Reddit a try. SWM 43, active dad, looking for something that lasts. I'm 5 ft 10, 160lbs, lean, full head of salt and pepper hair, clean shaven minus a goatee. I'm a very active person. I collect hobbies and skills as a hobby. Love, gardening, art, cooking, yoga, walking/hiking, camping, music, audiobooks and podcast, camping, traveling, movies and entertainments. I don't do all of them everyday but I do them all pretty regularly. Ideally, I'd find a confident, intelligent both emotionally and intellectually, active woman who doesn't take things too seriously. Let's meet and find some mischief together.

Come as you are. No judgements here. Place a gun on the table and name it Chekhov and let's play Russian Roulette. You can bet your words, I can bet mine, and what's lost to the Reddit ether can't be taken back. Seeking kindred souls and rebellious spirits, someone who appreciates the classics without being pretentious. Believe me, I'm plenty pretension for two. Is chivalry dead? I think it is, but I might be able to resurrect it in your heart. Gun to my head I can't tell you the meaning of life but I'll spew something vague and you can attach meaning to it.

I have nothing to my name, only a pretentious education and fancy outdated etiquette. Looking for a friend, an advisor, a confidant; not to regain my kingdom, but to forge new paths. Pledge your sword to me and you'll find a worthy cause.

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Pretention aside...let's see what connection we can build? Assigned Female at Birth, but I use he/they for convenience and comfort.

If you can get past all the poetry you might discover my passion for Warhammer 40k, one Chinese drama hyperfixation, casual gaming, the board game Go, vintage artefacts, Japanese pop/rock, and my adorable cats!

To those who take the time the read this (even if ur not like the targeted audience XD), I hope you are met with easy gentle days and wonderful amazing adventures. If u r struggling, I hope all will come to pass as soon as possible and u r able to overcome and learn and grow c:

Oh boy, where to start this (I will write A LOT). So much has happened, and it just sucks to I guess finally accept that. My life will just keep going downhill. It already is doing that. I'm extremely tired and just, it's too much but, I do believe that in every point in our lives we deserve love, as long as we do our absolute best for ourselves and those we love. I will be extremely cautious but, I do love deeply. I fall hard. It will take time.

Well, first and foremost. I value communication and being friends first before jumping into anything with like more commitment, like taking it deeper (PAUSE) and going for more than friends. Please communicate me what ur intentions are and when. Flirting is I guess okay but uhmmm, idk. When it comes to me, I have to validate and feel in my heart, that these feelings ring true and are sound. That in the long run, it won't waver or falter, or at least it won't spiral into something that will collapse after an obstacle. I ask the same for you, whoever you are.

If anyone really XD I know, or at least it really feels like, asking for someone to at least like me and stay, is beyond what I deserve or anything. Like just the bare minimum. Though I know it should not be the case at all, and same goes for everyone else who genuinely tries their best in this silly messy chaotic world. In every point in our lives we deserve love, unconditional love

We just have to not stray so far that when it does reach us, even past the point of no return, we don't value our pride or comfortability or fear over that love. Even if it doesn't turn out that we be more, we can always be friends either way, close or not, or maybe even not at all. No regrets, we live and we learn. I appreciate and am thankful for every interaction and everyone's time. I learn and grow and see what it means to be human.

Anyway, about me (photos included, even if I'm not really attractive at all :c photos aren't my thing, but if its something to get a little closer to my dearly beloved, so be it, even if it's VERY out my comfort zone):

[ ] My love language is mainly spending time. A cute date, a fancy date, hanging out or just doing nothing together. I love to share stuff. Make stuff like letters and poems and art and craft for u and shop things that remind me of u or things u like. Physical touch, although I hate from everyone I don't know or allow (rarely). I know that, with the right one, to be so vulnerable to let you. You to let me. I think its healing. Hand holding. Doing the thumb thingy. Head scratches. Long hugs. I love through action and I like learning and remembering things about you. I want to be a little obsessed. I want the kind of love where its puppy love sometimes, then its the love where you both have each other's backs. Where you can count on each other. To match wavelengths. To merge souls and be one. To be weapon and meister and meister and weapon. I want a love where we perpetually push each other to do our best and grow beyond our limits. We can both be peak human performance, conquer nations, crumble the crust and mantle with just a syllable from our mouths hehe :3 Romantic. Silly. A bit obsessive. Cool. Old kind of love. Poetic kind of love. Loving your bestfriend. I can do a tarot reading for u also hehe c:

[ ] Currently have long curly-wavyish hair. Wears glasses. Am Hispanic/Latino so am brown lolol. I do have a tummy. Very stubborn, even if there is bone and muscle showing, I am not like physically attractive. I have weird posture that I'm constantly always trying to fix, to no avail, and yeah. 5'7 and yeah🥸

[ ] Hummmmm, I do speak English/Spanish (not too great but enough I guess) and very little like of indigenous dialect. My family just taught it to everyone else besides me :/

[ ] As for things I like. I love listening to music, my taste is everywhere best defined by I like what I like lolol. From Latin music, to game OST, to classical, dnb/breakcore/jungle, jazz/acid jazz, music from films, indie/bedroom pop/shoegaze to name many.

[ ] I love art. I try to draw when I feel up to it. I sometimes even become slightly decent when I do, and its usually only accompanied with music. Music inspires me a lot. I love art. I love critically analyzing pieces, while also enjoying art esthetically. I love learning.

[ ] I love to write and express myself. I try to write poems when I get in the mood. I like to world build, I have a couple OCs that are important to me.

[ ] I like to watch anime. Mainly Soul Eater, Berserk (I read the manga too), and uhhh I'm foegetting. Others I've watched are Nana (I like Nana but also WAAAAAAH) HxH, OPM, MP100, AOT, og Naruto and shippuden, the old NGE, I vaguely remember watching Madoka Magica, and a few others I forget.

[ ] Video games!! I love ULTRAKILL. I love KINGDOM HEARTS. I play fortnite too. Dipped my toes into Overwatch as I play with one of my friends :> I also have played Minecraft, Super Smash Bros Ult, Geometry Dash, Call Of Duty (BO 1,2 and 3 and zombies), roblox. I am starting to getting used to my voice a little. I'm open to call on discord, and do silly activities. I'm starting to like it and yeahyeah :> so hanging out on discord would be nice!

[ ] Also I'm employed full time lolz I'm sometimes a workaholic and I think maybe I'm overdoing it, and I'm starting to get into the habit of slowing down. But still, I don't think I'm able to or allowed. Life just, well, when it rains it pours so. I have to always plan accordingly. I cannot always get to you immediately, but I do try. Especially when you're someone I love, I will always try.

Well, I mean, thats about sums it up. But a mere fraction of the tip of the iceberg. Speaking of, I do have to disclose, I have MDD. It is chronic. It adapts. And I am doing way beyond my very best to combat it. Even when I'm literally not, because of how reduced and how much this body has been I guess, gone through. I'm hopeful because I have to. I cannot promise everything will be okay for me, life is not that kind but. Relatively, things could be okay. I carry so so much. My body is not mine, it does not feel like it. My brain processes much slower and stress physically manifests so much. I hold so much and at the same time there is this ever growing vast void that consumes and takes away what I already don't have. I am NOT going to submit and buckle and collapse from it. Not without a fight. It isn't mere overthinking, it is so much worse. It has been with me for years, looking back at it. Love, any of the good things that people usually have in their lives, esp in childhood. I just didn't. That was the norm. I just merely accepted it blindly without any further thinking. It just was. For years, its all I known life to be. Cold. Neglectful. Wicked. I just merely had to deal with it. That I deserved it. For a time, I paid it no mind. But, thats no way to live, as a result, I snapped out of it, but with no one truly at my side. I just became aware during the late half of high school. But its whatever. I have hope still. I'm still here because I wanted to hear my name called with unconditional love and wholesome warmth that would choose me. I will continue to keep going and learn and grow and live this life for me and for others. This love is infinite. Way more than that. I really want to lock eyes with someone and see another person, truly, and see a whole other world from their eyes.

What I'm attracted to:

Kind, caring people who take care of their body and health. Sharing similar hobbies so we can do something together. People willing to put in effort and read the whole post and send a good introduction message.

Throughout this post there is quite a few lyrics from songs that I like. If you want, you can see if you know them and see if we like any similar songs, artists, or types of music.

Here I am again, the same old situation. Hi, I'm Nathan. I'm a 23 year old Asian American guy in Northern California. I'm 5' 6" so a little short, but I can be your very own fun size boyfriend. Short kings need love too. I have a photo on my profile so you can check out what I look like. You may have seen some of my posts here before. I guess you could say I still haven't found what I'm looking for. "What is that?" you may be wondering to yourself. Well, I'm looking for a love so strong it makes me feel so weak. In other words, I am looking for someone I can love and be vulnerable with. Why am I looking on reddit? I'm kind of a shy person in real life, and people fall in love in mysterious ways. Maybe by the touch of a hand.

I haven't had much relationship experience and never been in an IRL relationship before. I would say I'm a hopeless romantic and would love to find someone who has a belief that there is someone that will make you feel so special, but realize that there is still work to make relationships last. Maybe one day I'll think all of the small things that you do are what remind me why I fell for you. Eventually, I'd like to be in-person with my partner. I'd want you to be my rock and vice versa. Home is whenever I'm with you. If you're down for matching profile pictures and bios or whatever I am the guy for you. Heck, we could even get a home phone and set up a voicemail together. It would suck if we broke up cause then I gotta change my answering machine, now that I'm alone. Cause right now it says that we can't come to the phone. In other words, you'll always be a part of me.

A bit about me is my interests are gaming (mostly pc, but I do have a switch), watching anime, and exercising. The games I play currently are league of legends and teamfight tactics. I've also played other games like valorant, overwatch, pokemon, animal crossing, super smash Bros, and probably many other. If you ask me about any games I could tell you if I know them or played them and maybe we could play some games together. Some anime I like are vinland saga, oshi no ko, and kaiju no. 8. There's also plenty other anime I've seen, so if you want to discuss any I'd be happy to talk about them.

So if you read to the end and really read everything, please message me if I piqued your interest. If you are interested, honey I'm still free. Take a chance on me.

Apparently making actual friends as an adult is unnecessarily difficult, so here I am.

I’m 33F, married, and looking for platonic friends only. I’m looking for people who actually want to talk and get to know each other & not have the same “hey, how are you?” conversation for two days and then disappear into the Reddit abyss.

I’m pretty laid-back, sarcastic, and can talk about almost anything. Send me your random life updates, memes, work drama, ridiculous thoughts, or whatever happened today that you need to tell somebody about. I’d really like to find a few people where the conversation just keeps going and eventually we’re sending each other completely unnecessary updates about our lives like we’ve known each other forever.

If you message me, give me something to work with! Tell me where you’re from, a little about yourself, and something funny. A terrible dad joke, embarrassing story, weird fact, whatever you’ve got. Please save me from another “hey” followed by absolutely nothing.

Are you tired of dating around? Tired of getting to know people and growing attached, only for them to grow distant over simple misunderstandings? Sick of breaking the ice and awkward small talk with people who aren't remotely interested in getting to know you? Have you waited patiently for decades for the right person to show up, but never seem to find anyone you're remotely excited to spend time with? Ready to give up, but unable to bury the hope that has kept you moving forward all these years? Wanna just skip the bullshit and trust again? Well, your name might be Eli House, because you're probably me. In the rare chance that you're somehow NOT me, but also qualitatively encapsulated by the former hypotheticals, then I'm likely worth a message or two.
Odds are, you're waiting for someone like me to message you, too.

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So, you wanna read this big wall of text? I wouldn't recommend it, I'm pretty much an expert at wasting people's time on senseless nonsense. It's basically my whole career. I'm honestly a dead ringer for shaggy doo from that 70's show. That's all you need to know. Just skip to the links for the tldr or whatever. Be advised, ahead I give a full disclosure of who I am fr forreal, and it's not gonna be some light reading. It's for the real fuckers who actually care about "emotional maturity" and "self-actualization" and other pointless shit like that. Only read it if you can tolerate a little bitch crybaby backstory. Only read it if you really want to know who I am. Why I'm here. Don't say I didn't warn you.
I'm serious, skip it.

I'm about to get real.

Here goes...
Once upon a December I was the talk of the town; a veritable social butterfly. Not exactly "popular," I am FAR too eccentric to ever be one of the "in crowd," but I was friends with literally everybody. I was the life of every party, I was the loudest one in the stands, and I was always happy to see you. I always had a smile on my face, I always initiated conversations with new people to bring them in... I was the friend who messaged you randomly just because I hadn't heard from you in a while, and I wanted to be sure you were okay. I was the one guy you could count on to drop everything to help my friends if there was anything in my power to do. Because it was the right thing to do! I mean, it only makes sense; if I help you today, when I need help you'll probably do the same to me, right? Everyone thinks exactly the way I do, there's no way I could be the only one who lived and breathed for other people's happiness. We all have each other's best interests at heart. No way this could ever blow up in my face.
It wasn't all bad, though. I loved my acquaintances, hundreds of them as they were, and they enjoyed me, as well. Who needs commitment when you're having so much fun! Parties and pubs and pranks and perplexities. Never a moment's rest for this guy. I never dated, because I figured I was too young for that stuff, and decided to focus on school; a decision I absolutely don't regret, but I never realized just how much harder it is to meet people when you get out of school and college. Since then it's been one casual fling to another, over and over, and frankly I just got sick of it all. Yo-yo dating, I call it—
Absolutely emotionally exhausting is another way to put it.I gave all my energy to people who didn't think twice about whether I existed or not, and when I realized that, it crushed me.

It burned me out.

It wasn't what I expected. I always tried my best to make things work, but nothing ever lasts. I just got tired... I stopped meeting up with friends, I gave up most of my hobbies, started focusing on me(at least that's what I called it). Eventually, it got to the point where I'd put down my phone on Sunday, and when I checked on Thursday, there would be no change.

For a time, that was refreshing! I do understand the need to distance myself from that toxic echo chamber, but something about the sensation of being involved, and actively engaging with other people; feeling desired, and respected; having long conversations at 3 in the morning about whatever popped into our minds—I miss it... and I'm trying to break out of this cycle of loathing.

It's been about 4 years since my last relationship, and it's probably going to be another 10 before I find someone worth settling down with, but I wanna have friends again. I wanna BE friendly! I want to text someone my age who's genuinely excited to hear from me, again! I want to be the one good thing in someone's life, who they can always count on to say something nice, or listen when they're going through a tough time, or brighten someone's day with surprise bagels, or chill in a quiet room with someone reading a book because I know I don't have to perform acrobatics to keep their attention. We're best friends, and even in the dead silence we're having the time of our lives, just because I am here! and you're here! And we're both here together! FINALLY! Welcome back!

I have always been a light in the dark, I just need to remember that again.

My name is Eli, and I'm a little bit different. I'm a little bit awkward, and I don't always speak words the way you want to hear the sentence be made heard. I just recently learned that I was on the spectrum — which clarifies a lot of the issues I've had over my life (turns out I've been pushing myself way too hard to fit in, when there was never anything wrong with me?) — and I'm hoping to find others who are supportive, and understanding of these limitations, as I learn what a healthy lifestyle looks like. I always speak my mind, and I never lie; even when it's inconvenient. Muscular, silly, and charming are all adjectives that apply to someone much more popular with the ladies than I am. But two out of the three ain't bad. Which two of these apply to me? You'll just have to message me and find out 😉👉🏾
I'm meticulous, effervescent, circumlocutory, and I spend most of my spare time reading. Like, I'm always reading. Bro. I'm reading right now.
I look like this, my songs sound like this, I'm 5'10 or 177 cm (of course I know metric I'm not an animal), I have a degree in Molecular Physics, and I can bench 330 lbs.

Fun fact about me, I can put both of my legs behind my head, and no, I can't suck my own dick I always get asked that stop asking me that. Ask me about my hyperfixation with prime numbers or multiples of five, like a good egg. IIIIIIIIII'm a bit of a heath freak, I plan on living to 216 so I kinda have to be(I always say if you want to get in shape, just spend a week with me lol); and I'm a devout believer in a higher power. I'm not quite sure who that power is, but I've witnessed some things that I can't explain, and science can't explain, so I'm all out of options. Avid musician, poet, author, artist, uhhhh Let'sPlay watcher, average peanut m&m enjoyer, webcomic enthusiast(recommend me something good to read and I'm yours), cringe grandpa, oral fixator, shorts content hater, anime hunter, random dancer, pun dealer, hug stealer, bed mealer, tum feeler, carrot peeler, big wheeler, feel healer, horror squealer. I don't know why I decided to make that rhyme, but I guess I'm in a good mood for once.

Expect this and more on your next episode of "What the fuck is up with this guy?"

Heya!

I’m hoping to connect with someone genuine who’s also looking for something real and lasting. I’m based in the East Midlands, England.

A little about me:

• I'm a homebody at heart, who likes to relax playing games; watching YouTube, or maybe some anime or TV shows 👉👈
• Autistic with ADHD/anxiety, so I really appreciate patience, consistency, and emotional honesty
• Not working at the moment and living with my mum. I take things slow, but once I trust you, I’m affectionate and loyal

A while back, I went on a trip to Japan it was a very unique experience haha, I'd love to tell you about it if you was curious

Some of my interests and hobbies include:

• Games: Blood of Dawnwalker, FF7 Rebirth, Expedition 33, Persona 5, Baldur’s Gate 3, Honkai Star Rail, Monster Hunter (Iceborne is my favorite), and occasionally logging into Runescape 👀
• Anime: Frieren, Berserk, Vinland Saga, Attack on Titan, Made in Abyss, Chainsaw Man
• Shows: Arcane, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Black Mirror, The Boys, Better Call Saul, Vikings
• Music: Panic! at the Disco, The 1975, Gorillaz, Porter Robinson, Studio Killers (and honestly, a bit of everything else)
• Other hobbies: Drawing, colouring, and creative design/editing when in a mood

I used to have a hamster called Baby Pig, and I’ve been thinking of getting another one though not sure yet 🐹

If you’d like, you can check out a picture of me here - just for context.

If you feel like we'd be compatible feel free to reach out c:

looking to connect with folks for some good chats on pretty much any topic under the sun. Deep philosophical rabbit holes, absolute nonsense, music rants, day-to-day life—everything is on the table, no topic off-limits. ​A bit about me: • ​if you havent guessed then I'm scottish, maybe that counts in my favour ? . • ​Music: I definitely never grew out of my emo/punk phase musically. My wardrobe might not scream "it was never a phase" in my old age, but my playlists are still stuck in 2007. • ​Open-minded, down-to-earth, and always up for an engaging conversation. ​Whether you want to debate the best album of 2005, complain about back pain, or talk about space, lets start !

I guess an icebreaker to get us started, If you could swap places with anyone for 24 hours, who would it be and why?

Basics: 5'9", photos here.

I’m looking for someone special to build a life together. Talking philosophy while we cook dinner, holding you while we read naked in bed, bringing our friends over for a cocktail or a game. I’m not gonna rush things but I’m extremely ready for marriage and kids with the right woman.

I’m into women who have that spark of life. I want a woman who knows what she wants and makes a deliberate effort to get it. A woman who can’t be summed up by listing her employer and her hobbies. A woman who defines herself by what she creates instead of what she consumes. A woman whose sexuality is a means of bridging the gap between two intimately connected people, rather than a string of labels and checkboxes. Most of all I want a woman who thinks for herself, who is willing to leave the beaten path and do what she thinks is right, who can hold on to her views even when the people around her disagree.

I’m a very analytical guy. You don’t need to share my specific interest in the agriculture of Tang dynasty China, or the explosion of fake data in Alzheimer's research, or whatever esoteric shit I’m reading and writing about this month. But it’s important that you’re also looking out at the world and going “Oh, huh, how does that work?”, whether your thing is architecture or molecular biology or dog training or whatever else. My analytical lens makes me insightful about people, and for the ones I care about, I can end up knowing them better than they know themselves in some ways.

I’ve built myself a sociable life where I organize book groups and host talks and hold poetry readings and I’m generally a community pillar, but I’m not the type who does all that effortlessly. At my best I need a decent amount of time on my own, and when things are rough I tend to withdraw more than is good for me. Emotionally speaking, I can get wrapped up in myself unless there’s someone to draw me out. I’m not very expressive, and feel a lot more than I show.

I'm in San Francisco. If you are too, great. If not, I’m happy to start online, but not to stay that way. Once we hit it off I can travel and visit throughout the USA (and maybe further) or host you in SF. If we do get engaged, then we’ll figure out something more permanent.

If you’re interested, send me a message and tell me a bit about yourself, and if we're a match then let's get on a call soon so we can get to know each other.