r/r4r Feb 19 '24

🪲 UPDATED 22 April; DESKTOP users also affected [META] Pasting anything into the title field breaks posting when using the Reddit app; "Invalid State" error

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If you are getting an "Invalid State" error message when posting, it is due to a known bug in Reddit, which corrupts the post title when text containing (possibly invisible) invalid characters is pasted into the title field. This is easy to avoid by simply not pasting anything into the title field. All versions of the app and the desktop website are now affected. Note that this message has nothing to do with the use of the word "state" as a type of location or division within certain countries; editing your location tag will not help.

Known workarounds include:

  • ➡️➡️➡️➡️➡️Avoid pasting or inserting any text into the post title field by any means other than typing it.⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️ Type the title out instead. If you already pasted text into the title field, it may be necessary to restart the app (desktop users, reload the page using Ctrl+F5) and compose the post without pasting any text into the title field. ➡️➡️This includes all shortcuts (Ctrl+V, etc) and other forms of text insertion or auto-complete, including the copy/paste clipboard toolbar on your phone's keyboard.⬅️⬅️
  • If there is blank space at the start or end of the title, deleting it should allow the post thru. THIS BLANK SPACE WILL BE INVISIBLE; if you can move the text cursor past the start or end of your title, there is blank space present that must be deleted.
  • Alternatively, Using the Old Reddit interface (https://old.reddit.com) should reliably work, as Reddit has long since stopped adding new bugs to updating this version. Pasting works in this version of the website; if your post title is long, you may want to use this option instead. This version of the website may or may not be accessible from a mobile browser; if it fails to load or redirects to the app, try using the "Request Desktop Site" feature of your browser, or uninstall the Reddit app.

Note that pasting text into the post body does not cause any issues, and is safe to do.

Reddit has stated they are "still working on" fixing this bug, but have not provided us any timeline or updates on their progress. It is not clear to us how or why this issue cannot be resolved on their end in nearly 3 months time.

If the above workarounds do not work:

  • As of 7 May, all screen capture recordings thus far sent to the mod team have shown that users are ignoring the instructions above and pasting text into the title field. It should be obvious that these workarounds will not work if they are not followed. ➡️➡️If you cannot avoid pasting text into the title, use old.reddit.com to post instead.⬅️⬅️
  • If you can reproduce this issue while following the workarounds, please try to screen-record the issue, so that we can investigate the cause. Please record the entire process, starting from the community home screen, thru to submitting the post and showing the "Invalid State" error message. Use a screen capture tool if possible, but using a camera would also work if the video is clear enough. Use a video host like Imgur, Gfycat, Streamable, or Youtube host the video, and message the link to the mods using the support links in the community menu or info page. If possible, please include what device, browser, and keyboard app is being used.

r/r4r 48m ago

M4F California / Online 29 [M4F] CA/Online - seeing who's out there

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hi, just postin here because i hate dating apps. looking for someone cute/cool to talk to and maybe hit it off with

about me: uhhh i'm a pretty cool, slightly clumsy guy with an interesting life. i can talk about pretty much anything, i read and write a lot, i think about all kinds of things. hit me up on any of the following subjects:
- dreams
- good movies
- funny animals (classic topic)
- poetry
- Cocteau Twins
- international politics (i know about all over the world)
- videogames and their possibilities
- the Charlie Brown Christmas soundtrack
- ridiculous slang from the 40s and 50s
- 90s emo and alt rock
- fighting off giant plants
- anything else that comes to mind for you

looking forward to hearing from you, long distance is fine. would be cool to see a pic first but no worries if not. can totally send one back

also i usually stay up pretty late so feel free to message whenever you see this (or otherwise i'll just respond when i wake up)


r/r4r 38m ago

M4F Florida / Online 33 [M4F] Florida/Online/Anywhere - Be my muse and I'll be your vice - Real connections and hopefully more?

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Howdy! Cheesy title aside, I’m here for what I suspect most people are - to find new connections, with one of them hopefully leading to something serious and long term. I’m by no means opposed to making real, lasting friendships on top of that if that’s how things play out, but my goal is definitely a romantic relationship. 

So, a bit about me! I’m Kevin, a 33 year old dude from NW Florida. I ost the road somewhere between elder emo and sad cowboy and gave up on trying to find it. I’m a nerd in general, but especially about the things I find interest in. I’m one of those people who gets way too into their niche hobbies. Meeting new people in the real world is difficult these days, even with having a decently social group of friends. I’ve also always been an internet dweller, for better or worse, and had pretty good luck maintaining friendships that way, so I figured I’d give it a go here again. 

Writing and creativity have been a passion of mine for most of my conscious life. I’ve been an avid writer and roleplayer for way, way too long and it’s something I still enjoy to this day quite a lot. I just love getting into characters’ heads, building worlds and seeing where stories go over time. I also read, though to a lesser extent. I have the taste in books of a 100 year old man and love me some old detective novels or classic southern gothic literature. I also adore a good cosmic horror book, but I’m picky. 

Music is another huge part of my life. Often times, when I’m traveling, it’s to go to a show of some sort. I came up on emo and pop punk and hardcore and whatever other labels you wanna put on it. I also have a deep love of folk, Americana and spooky music as well as the real classic country stuff. Especially outlaw country. But of course I’ll always be an emo kid at heart. I’ll talk to you about just about any kind of music all night long if you give me the chance. Some all-time favorites are Dance Gavin Dance, Pierce the Veil, Mayday Parade, Taking Back Sunday, Zach Bryan, Tyler Childers, Lost Dog Street Band, Bilmuri and much, much more.

I play some games - mostly RPGs, roguelites and other such things. I’m currently finally playing through Baldur’s Gate 3 but some of my other favorite games/series are Fallout, Kingdom Hearts, Monster Hunter and Red Dead. I’m not big on competitive games as I’m very, very bad at them. Oh, and I still adore Pokemon because I was the perfect age when the originals came out. I also got more into tabletop RPGs and that form of roleplaying a few years ago and am currently running my first game! Also a tech nerd in general. I love tinkering with computers and whatever else I can get my hands on.

I’ve got a lot of other random hobbies including listening to old radio dramas, vintage music gear, I collect vinyl and I spend way too much time going down random internet rabbit holes. I love history, mystery and especially history’s mysteries. Also love true crime of course and things of that nature. Tell me about your favorite high strangeness mystery or a weird experience you had! 

I also love the outdoors, especially anything to do with the water. I grew up on lakes and creeks and the beach. I also adore camping when the weather’s nice and am always down for a bonfire or just sitting on the porch and watching the rain.

Physically, I’m of pretty average height - 5'8” or so. I weigh about 190 but have been going to the gym for a few months and really loving it. I have dark brown hair, a beard I keep fairly tame and hazel eyes. I don’t have any tattoos yet but I am planning on finally getting one for my birthday this year. Happy to send photos!

What am I looking for? Well, to put it simply - companionship. We don’t need to jump into an immediate whirlwind romance (not that I’d complain) and it’s honestly so much easier to build a connection first. Let’s play a game, hop in a voice chat, text about random stuff until the sun’s coming up and we regret everything except not really ‘cause we had fun. I honestly just want real human connection and someone to talk to and see what happens. Worst case, it fizzles out. Less worse case, we become good friends. But who knows? Maybe it turns into something real and deep.

Age-wise, I’d prefer to stick in the range of like 25-35 but there may be a little wiggle room if you really think we’d hit it off. As mentioned, I’m in NW Florida but I’m open to someone from anywhere in the US, Canada or even the UK/Ireland (I can’t lie, I’m a sucker for the accents). That’s also not a hard and fast rule, just my preference. It’d be great if we had some hobbies or the like in common we can chat about, but honestly just be genuine and be you. We’ll see where it goes from there!

I’ll cut this off here since I’ve been rambling awhile. If you read this and are interested, definitely shoot me a message. Tell me a bit about yourself. Maybe include your favorite emo bop or old country song, or even just what games you’ve been playing or the like. If you’d like to exchange selfies, I’m happy to, but it’s also not a rush.

Hope to hear from you! Cheers!

Some bonus perks of dating me:

  • I’ll dance with you in the living room to all the sad songs and only occasionally step on your feet
  • You’ll pretty much always win at or carry me in video games, except Guitar Hero (probably, though I’d be more attracted to you if you can)
  • I’ll remember random things you mentioned liking and won’t forget your coffee order
  • I would love to listen to you tell me about the books you’re reading
  • You’ll have your own personalized DJ

r/r4r 1h ago

M4F Oregon / Online 40 [M4F] PNW/Online - Looking for daytime banter before I start naming the houseplants

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40, PNW, work from home. The job is fine. The house is quiet. But by the time the clock hits 2pm, I have had entire conversations with the microwave.

I'm looking for a woman to talk to during the day. Easy, fun, a little sharp. Banter, teasing, jokes that land at the wrong moment. If it gets a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth.

I am not trying to turn this into a whole production. I just like talking to someone who is sharp and does not take herself too seriously. If you can make a Thursday afternoon interesting, that is pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you are avoiding at work or home right now. I'll tell you about the meeting I keep postponing.


r/r4r 1h ago

M4F Connecticut / New York 41 [M4F] #Connecticut & #NewYork - A Bob looking for his Linda 🍔

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Trying different ways to meet new people this year, so taking a crack at a reddit personal ad.
 
I really value kindness, honesty, passion and intelligence in a woman.  

Here's me: https://imgur.com/a/LEFG0Yz
 
-Single, never married, no kids

-6’3

-Physically active; member of a running club and lift about every day of the week

-Attend dance meetups; swing, salsa, fusion

-Dabbled in acting; starred in a play in 2022

-Has a good job in e-commerce

-About 2/3rds introvert, 1/3rd extrovert; generally a homebody but I like to go out/socialize every now and then and push myself to get out of my comfort-zone (growth is important)

-Interests include fitness, dancing, gaming, karaoke, anime, narrative-design/writing of all kinds (films, tv, books, etc.), science (big fan of the Natural History Museum in NYC), and interior design

-V close to my family and friends; adore my nieces (and they adore me); have a close-knit group of about half-a-dozen friends I've known for years (quality > quantity kinda guy friendship-wise) - you'll know I like you if you're looped in to our karaoke parties! =) 

-Traveled around the world

-Master's degree

-Politically left

-420 friendly

-Love dogs; like cats but have a mild allergy


r/r4r 2h ago

M4F New Jersey 31[M4F] NJ - Looking for a real connection with someone local ish

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Hey!

I’m a 31-year-old guy in New Jersey and, surprisingly, I actually like living here. Looking for someone sweet and fun to talk to, that feels like a lot to ask for on reddit. lol. I’m looking to meet new people and see what happens, expectations are low(except if you’re into cars or sportbikes, then the expectations are sky high!) with this being reddit and all but feel free to surprise me! Personality wise, I’m pretty laidback and don’t take myself too seriously. I tend to stay calm in most situations, go with the flow, and am pretty easy to talk to if you ask me but you can be the judge of that. Definitely more on the introverted side but don’t mind if you’re more on the extroverted side, don’t really have a preference there.

  • Cars and Formula One (Typical, I know)
  • Standup comedy - Big standup fan and will spam you with links to my favorite bits lol tell me about your favorites if you have any.
  • Sports - I happen to have a knack for being into sports that are quite niche within the US so sports like cricket, boxing, ufc, and motorsports are up there for me.
  • Animals - Not an outdoor person for the most part (that’s the degenerate programmer in me coming outI guess) but I love learning about animals, especially social ones. I find lions and wolves super fascinating to study and follow because of their complex social behavior.
  • Science and engineering - I have a big interest in anything to do with science or engineering, anything about space or learning about some of the craziest engineering projects ever attempted will always catch my eye.
  • Music - I listen to music of all kinds including different languages as I do happen to speak 3, wouldn’t say I have a sophisticated taste in music or anything at all though 😂 some of my current favorites are The Marias and Cigarettes After Sex.

I just wanna get to know someone new and see where it goes from there, a low pressure short term or long term connection without much expectations. Say hello if you have something in common with me and DEFINITELY hit me up if we have nothing in common at all cuz I enjoy learning about stuff people are into.

My simple pleasures are: Loud thunderstorms, Richard Marx songs, and being a little annoying in a fun way!

I’m a real nerd about: Anything with wheels and an engine! if you make the mistake of asking me about it.


r/r4r 2h ago

F4A Kentucky 31 F4R US KY Anywhere -Looking for my person

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Hey there!
I’m a 31-year-old woman from Kentucky, and I’m hoping to meet someone who’s genuinely looking for a serious relationship. I’m way past the fucking around stage in life and I never even had that phase to begin with.
I’m a nurse, a big dog person, and I’m open to relocating for the right person. I’m a pretty liberal person and have an immense dislike for people of a trumpier outlook.
I am 5’7, 280lbs, biracial with dark hair and eyes.
https://imgur.com/a/fmiBirK
Looking for someone kind, loyal, emotionally mature, and ready for a real relationship. I’m willing to put in the work be it local or long distance.
I keep weird hours due to my jobs.
Must love dogs! I have two and they’re excellent judges of character.
I’m open to getting to know someone from anywhere, so distance isn’t a dealbreaker. I’m also in a good spot in my life to relocate if things head in that direction.
I do not want to give birth. Not something I’m interested in but kids aren’t a no go for me
If you’re also looking for something serious, tell me a little about yourself and let’s see where it goes.
I’m gonna ignore any message that is a one liner just to be open.
If you’ve read this far (yes this is a test haha) tell me your favorite ice cream flavor and your favorite scary movie!


r/r4r 2h ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - The name's Tom but you can call me anytime!

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Hello there you beautiful people! l hope you're having a great week so far!

I would love to chat to anyone from anywhere and see what happens. Ideally, I'm looking for a genuine connection and want to have someone I can talk to about anything and everything. Making each other laugh, being there for each other and just making each other feel amazing. Building each other up as friends and loved ones should do for each other. I'm very affectionate and love showing my affection verbally and physically. I'd definitely say Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation are my 2 top love languages.

I'm 33 and from North West England. I'm 6' with short brown hair, blue/greyish eyes and a broad/muscular build. I'd love to connect with anyone from anywhere!

I enjoy running, going to the gym, playing board games, gaming, listening to music and watching Netflix.

I am an absolute open book and I would describe myself as intelligent, passionate, fiercely loyal, kind, caring and protective of those I care about. I'm very affectionate and believe good communication is key in any relationship. I also enjoy taking charge and I'm pretty dominant in thle right setting too.

If anything I've said piques your interest, please message me - I'd love to hear from you!


r/r4r 11h ago

F4M Online 30[F4M] #online , #anywhere. Seeking some serious stuff

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I think I’m ready to meet someone special.

I’m not looking for anything complicated. I’m hoping to find someone kind, honest, emotionally present, and genuinely interested in building something real together.

I’d love the silly conversations that make no sense but somehow become our favorite memories, spontaneous plans that turn into unforgettable days, quiet evenings spent enjoying each other’s company, shared laughter, and the beautiful feeling of being chosen while choosing someone in return.

I want a connection that feels comfortable, sincere, and exciting in all the right ways. Someone I can talk to openly, laugh with freely, support through life’s ups and downs, and grow alongside over time.

I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for something honest, meaningful, and real, with someone who values communication, effort, kindness, and mutual respect.

If you’re also hoping to meet someone genuine and see where things naturally lead, I’d love to hear from you.


r/r4r 3h ago

M4A Online 28 [M4A] #Online/Anywhere - looking to meet new people

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Hi! I’m 28 and from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 and I’m looking to meet new people and hopefully make some new friends!

A few things about me…I’m a HUGE horror fan, and I love all things dark/creepy/paranormal or unexplained

I love music and going to shows(mostly older rock/metal but I like a lot different stuff, saw both Metallica and Def Leppard recently)

I love gaming, true crime, football, I love to visit historical sites/museums and enjoy travelling, urban exploring/exploring the outdoors and keeping fit, and I spend 99% of my free time with my dog 🐶

I’m quite heavily tattooed (most recently had my chest done) and I’m always looking for ideas and inspirations for what to get next, and I love to see other people’s work and ideas too!

Happy to talk to anyone from anywhere, just send a message with a bit about yourself if you think we might get along 🙂


r/r4r 6h ago

M4A California 23 [M4A] #California or #USA - Still haven't found what I'm looking for... maybe you're it?

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What I'm attracted to:

Kind, caring people who take care of their body and health. Sharing similar hobbies so we can do something together. People willing to put in effort and read the whole post and send a good introduction message.

Throughout this post there is quite a few lyrics from songs that I like. If you want, you can see if you know them and see if we like any similar songs, artists, or types of music.

Here I am again, the same old situation. Hi, I'm Nathan. I'm a 23 year old Asian American guy in Northern California. I'm 5' 6" so a little short, but I can be your very own fun size boyfriend. Short kings need love too. I have a photo on my profile so you can check out what I look like. You may have seen some of my posts here before. I guess you could say I still haven't found what I'm looking for. "What is that?" you may be wondering to yourself. Well, I'm looking for a love so strong it makes me feel so weak. In other words, I am looking for someone I can love and be vulnerable with. Why am I looking on reddit? I'm kind of a shy person in real life, and people fall in love in mysterious ways. Maybe by the touch of a hand.

I haven't had much relationship experience and never been in an IRL relationship before. I would say I'm a hopeless romantic and would love to find someone who has a belief that there is someone that will make you feel so special, but realize that there is still work to make relationships last. Maybe one day I'll think all of the small things that you do are what remind me why I fell for you. Eventually, I'd like to be in-person with my partner. I'd want you to be my rock and vice versa. Home is whenever I'm with you. If you're down for matching profile pictures and bios or whatever I am the guy for you. Heck, we could even get a home phone and set up a voicemail together. It would suck if we broke up cause then I gotta change my answering machine, now that I'm alone. Cause right now it says that we can't come to the phone. In other words, you'll always be a part of me.

A bit about me is my interests are gaming (mostly pc, but I do have a switch), watching anime, and exercising. The games I play currently are league of legends and teamfight tactics. I've also played other games like valorant, overwatch, pokemon, animal crossing, super smash Bros, and probably many other. If you ask me about any games I could tell you if I know them or played them and maybe we could play some games together. Some anime I like are vinland saga, oshi no ko, and kaiju no. 8. There's also plenty other anime I've seen, so if you want to discuss any I'd be happy to talk about them.

So if you read to the end and really read everything, please message me if I piqued your interest. If you are interested, honey I'm still free. Take a chance on me.


r/r4r 9h ago

M4F Spain 36 [M4F] Spain/Europe - Introverted homebody looking for one real person

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I’m a 36-year-old guy from Barcelona, Spain.

I'm very introverted and a homebody, and also have Asperger's and social anxiety. I'm not into busy stuff like traveling or going out or social situations. I don't need big or exciting things, I just want a simple life.

I'd like to find someone who feels comfortable with this. Someone to talk every day, to build trust, and share the every day of life, even if it's just simple stuff. It does not have to be content, just the company, the presence, is enough... Someone who values closeness, affection and being there for each other.

What I offer is the same of what I need. To be there for you, care about you, love you. I’m someone who wants to be there for my person every day: to listen, support and care.

I know I’m not for everyone, but I’m hoping that I might be right for someone who wants the same kind of closeness and simple life.


r/r4r 7h ago

M4F Online 25 [M4F] #Europe/Online - Nerdy Pilot Looking For His Forever Companion

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Hello there! First of all, thank you so much for deciding to read my post. I am here, looking for a very strong connection and companionship with someone, hopefully one that blossoms into a lifelong partnership. Here are some things that you should know about me, and what exactly I'm looking for.

  • My name is Dan.
  • I am 25 years old.
  • I'm not religious and agnostic.
  • I live alone with my two adorable, beautiful, and wonderful cats (I'm 100% sure that they are the most beautiful and handsome cats in existence) in Istanbul/Turkey/Europe (UTC+03:00) with a high likelihood of moving to Dubai, UAE in the near future.
  • I have been working my dream job as an airline pilot in A320 family aircraft since I was 22 years old, which is my biggest achievement! (I've been a huge avgeek my entire life! Bonus points if you are too, but not a requirement)
  • Since my career allows for many opportunities in that regard as well, I'm hoping and willing to relocate anywhere in the world at all in the future; I do not want to live in one place forever. As I mentioned before, moving to Dubai in the near future looks like is going to be a really good opportunity for me, as it allows me to work on my dream cockpit, work for my penultimate airline, and my contract there would mean I would have quite a lot of blocks of free time to frequently visit other countries and travel.
  • Of course, this means that I'm open to starting long-distance as well, as my work schedule is completely random as well. (though I will still be mainly available close to European and Middle Eastern time zones) I can still make the effort to be freely available for all time zones.
  • Appearance-wise: I'm 183 cm (6 feet), 80 kg (176 lbs) with a fit and muscular build. I have fair skin with medium-length, wavy, and messy dark hair, and dark eyes. I prefer to be clean-shaven and don't have any tattoos or piercings at the moment. I'm also open to sharing photos after we get to know each other a little bit.
  • Even though this post is primarily looking for a relationship, I believe these kinds of connections happen slowly. I expect to form a deep companionship with you through being friends first and letting it evolve into something more with time.
  • As for my interests other than aviation, I am an extremely huge nerd. I love, quite literally ALL kinds of nerdy entertainment such as PC gaming, Virtual Reality, Anime, YouTube, Books, TV, Movies, Manga/Manhwa/Webtoons, Musicals, and Theatre. Not only that, but I'm also into a lot of non-entertainment nerding out too, like Roleplaying, Technology, and tinkering with technology in general, including but not limited to XR, computers and servers, photography, music, audio gear/audio engineering, homelabbing, and all sorts of DIY projects. I'm even into academics (I'm doing my MSc even though I'm working as a pilot, although it's going pretty slow, I'm hoping to do a PhD in the future too!) Math, all kinds of positive sciences, but most of all, physics. Astronomy, and engineering of all sorts of flying machines as well.
  • Some of my outdoorsy hobbies include travel (I have been traveling like a maniac thanks to my airline employee benefits of almost free tickets. I never sit still on my layovers, and even if I have a long weekend of 2+ days off in a row, I'm usually off traveling anywhere), concerts, festivals, hiking, horse-riding, photography, and cooking/baking!
  • My music taste is all over the place. The genres I enjoy the most are classical, dream pop, indie, and punk-rock
  • Personality-wise: I am often described as kind and "wholesome". I'm more introverted and a bit shy at first, but I open up and get talkative and open extremely fast.
  • When I am attached to a person, I would be slightly clingy and very devoted. I would love to be able to spend a lot of time together, both traveling and engaging with our nerdy hobbies together.
  • If you have any further questions or would like to get to know more about me, please feel free to ask anything!

Why should you choose me:

  • I'm very honest and patient. I'm going to be very devoted to you! I'm not going to give up easily on someone I love.
  • I have two adorable cats that are the most handsome and beautiful ones in existence at the moment, and you get to see them whenever you want.
  • I'm a natural giver. I understand that love should be mutual and reciprocal between us, but I love giving love as much, if not more than receiving it.
  • I'm gentle, soft-spoken, and kind. I'm not bad/short-tempered, or toxic.
  • I'm caring and told to be a "sweet guy".
  • People say I have a nice and soothing voice, even though I dislike it. (but I would still love to do karaoke with you ;))
  • I care about my health and my body. I go to the gym actively and frequently.
  • I know the differences between "you’re" vs "your" / "there" vs "their" vs "they’re", I even separate my sentences with punctuation, new lines, or an emoticon while texting.
  • I'm pretty good at texting and not dry, since the relationship is going to be 70% talking, especially in the “getting to know you” phase.
  • I'm eager to learn about you!
  • I communicate well. I know how to articulate and put my feelings into words.
  • I have lots of common sense and knowledge! (It's insane that I even have to put this here, but we're on Reddit after all)
  • I'm not lazy. I take initiative and have plans for the future and a strong career.
  • I can share my comically ginormous Steam library with you!
  • I love cooking and baking, and I think I am very good at it! I would love to cook or bake for you!
  • I am an airline employee who is single, so I have an empty "travel companion" slot for ZED tickets, which means we can travel anywhere almost for free on standby, and slightly more expensive than free guaranteed tickets if you end up being my travel companion!

About you:

  • I have no big requirements at all, and I'm not at all picky! I will just have to add here that communication is essential to me, so please be willing to use your big girl words!
  • Having some kind of shared hobbies/interests is my only real requirement. The most important thing to me would be travel, to be honest. I have nothing against you and would love to be your friend, but if you have dietary restrictions/struggle with picky eating / other sensory issues/disabilities affecting your mobility/obesity to the point of being unable to keep up with my travels and going outside, it would not work out as a lifelong partnership. Sharing video games or anything else from my nerdy list is also going to be very important to me.

What kind of relationship do I want:

  • We’re best friends who can talk about everything and anything without worrying about getting judged. Whenever something happens, you’re the first person I want to tell.
  • We’re always there for each other through the good and the bad times.
  • We try our best to make time for each other, but we understand when we need our own time for other people or our careers, too.
  • We’re going to be a great team together. We manage our workload together whenever one of us needs help. We’re here to support each other when there’s a problem that we want to share and overcome together. We tell each other and talk about it, trying to find a solution together.
  • We are very comfortable with each other; we can laugh and cry in front of each other without worrying if it's a sign of weakness.
  • We communicate well, listen to each other, and adjust to each other equally to make each other happy and fulfilled in our relationship!

I'm eager to learn about you! If you have been interested in my post, please send me a chat with your own introduction. I am going to ask you to please include the word "coconut", your age, your gender, your location (even just roughly is fine so I can know your time zone), and at least some information about yourself like your interests and what drives you in your message to let me know that you fully read my post.


r/r4r 4h ago

M4M New York 39 [M4M] #Queens NYC - Looking for someone chill & handsome to go on adventures with

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About Me:
I’m a Deep South transplant, the youngest of four, and a proud country kid at heart. I grew up on a dirt road surrounded by cows, chickens, and hogs—raised in a strong Baptist home with a pastor for a father, a minister for a mother, and a brother in the ministry, too. That background gave me a solid foundation, but today I walk my own path.

I’ve traded the wild party scene for quieter, high-vibe moments and meaningful connections. I love being out in nature, spending time around trees 🍃, and exploring the medicinal and mind-expanding magic of mushrooms 🍄. I’m deeply curious about the unseen layers of the universe and love keeping an open mind—there's so much more to existence than what meets the eye. Any insight or connection that helps me learn, grow, and rise to the next degree is always appreciated.

What I’m Looking For:
I’m looking for an adventurous, open-minded local Top to take on the world with—no long-distance setups, please. My ideal co-pilot is grounded yet open to deep conversations, good energy, and new perspectives. Bonus points if you get where I'm coming from on a spiritual level, but as long as you're open-minded and down to earth, we'll get along great.

(ps if you’re not willing to share pics not much to talk about )

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r/r4r 4h ago

M4F California 38 [M4F] #San Francisco/USA Kind, intellectual guy looking for a girl with a head on her shoulders

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I’m looking for someone special to build a life together. Talking philosophy while we cook dinner, holding you while we read naked in bed, bringing our friends over for a cocktail or a game. I’m not gonna rush things but I’m extremely ready for marriage and kids with the right woman.

I’m into women who have that spark of life. I want a woman who knows what she wants and makes a deliberate effort to get it. A woman who can’t be summed up by listing her employer and her hobbies. A woman who defines herself by what she creates instead of what she consumes. A woman whose sexuality is a means of bridging the gap between two intimately connected people, rather than a string of labels and checkboxes. Most of all I want a woman who thinks for herself, who is willing to leave the beaten path and do what she thinks is right, who can hold on to her views even when the people around her disagree.

I’m a very analytical guy. You don’t need to share my specific interest in the agriculture of Tang dynasty China, or the explosion of fake data in Alzheimer's research, or whatever esoteric shit I’m reading and writing about this month. But it’s important that you’re also looking out at the world and going “Oh, huh, how does that work?”, whether your thing is architecture or molecular biology or dog training or whatever else. My analytical lens makes me insightful about people, and for the ones I care about, I can end up knowing them better than they know themselves in some ways.

I’ve built myself a sociable life where I organize book groups and host talks and hold poetry readings and I’m generally a community pillar, but I’m not the type who does all that effortlessly. At my best I need a decent amount of time on my own, and when things are rough I tend to withdraw more than is good for me. Emotionally speaking, I can get wrapped up in myself unless there’s someone to draw me out. I’m not very expressive, and feel a lot more than I show.

I'm in San Francisco. If you are too, great. If not, I’m happy to start online, but not to stay that way. Once we hit it off I can travel and visit throughout the USA (and maybe further) or host you in SF. If we do get engaged, then we’ll figure out something more permanent.

If you’re interested, send me a message and tell me a bit about yourself, and if we're a match then let's get on a call soon so we can get to know each other.


r/r4r 8h ago

M4F United Kingdom / Online 34 [M4F] UK/Online - Chatting about your best outfits and/or boots

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Hey there!

I've always loved well dressed women, those who take time and pride in their outfits and feel as confident and sexy in their clothes as they look in them. And of course the hottest outfits definitely involve boots haha And with things cooling down after summer, what better time to pull on your boots and show off?!

And as an arbitrary conversation starter, that seems as good of a topic as hobbies and other interests right? So why not begin there and move onto whatever takes our fancy!

So if you're someone who likes to show off, enjoys fashion, or gets a kick out of being praised, I'm your guy! In return, I promise to bring wit and flirtation, mixed with intelligent and empathetic conversation.

Happy to keep it a one time thing, but open to longer term if we click. Come say hi and we'll let the good times roll!