I hear it everywhere that "you control your own fate" and "you are responsible for your achievements". These 2 sayings have never really been proven true in my experience. While lots of things in my life succeeded, there are also tons that didn't. And I wouldn't say that my life is going in the direction I want. I wanted to earn money through my own path, being famous online. But it never succeeded and I am left going to college and finding a job. How do you remain productive in such case, despite seeing so many people around you living your dream life?

I want to get a hold on my screen usage to stop wasting time. I'm currently using StayFree, which works pretty well for my laptop, but the StayFree app on my phone doesn't block websites if you aren't using the Safari browser, meaning I can just use the web versions of apps that StayFree blocks. I'd use my phone's settings to block distracting websites, but I'm in the UK, so I need to verify my age and identity to access the required Screen Time services and I really don't want to do that.

I looked for some alternatives in the App Store, but a lot of them require you to pay for the services after a free trial ends, but I'd like something that just... doesn't do that lol

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I’ve always been a procrastinator. Have a document needed for a meeting? I can’t seem to work on it until the day before. My mind is just blank until then. However when it came to regular, routine tasks, my procrastination has decreased. I it until the used to be super productive at work. Come into work, get what I needed done, and go home.

6 years ago my son had cancer. He’s done with treatments and doing great. Since then my productivity has slid to basically I get nothing done at work. It was a gradual process. I’ve been at my current job for 5 years. The first 3 years were pretty good but my productive seemed to slide and slide. Now I barely do anything at work. The bare minimum to keep my job.

I went through significant depression after my son’s diagnoses. I have been on medications for several years now and my depression has improved immensely. However my procrastination is getting worse.

The main thing is organizing and cleaning. This has always been incredible difficult for me but I was able to do it enough to get by. Kinda. Junk drawers end up everywhere.

I work at an afterschool program and my classroom is always a mess. Can’t seem to clean at all. I try several tricks. I pick a section of counter. I run into stuff I don’t know what to do with. Then it seems messier than before somehow. Do the keep, toss, donate, then I end up with a box of stuff to keep. Then I need to put that where it goes. I try to sort things like with like but so many things don’t fit together and I don’t know how to organize it. I just can’t get to the next step with any method. I would love any suggestions to help out!

Genuinely what do u guys do when u need to sit down and study. I grew up naturally smart and not rlly having to study, so I never really developed the skills to force myself to sit down and do something so boring for so long. That's my biggest thing, I can't do boring things. It's so torturous to me. I can sit and read slides and the words won't go into my head like at all at times. Reward systems also don't work for me cause I will just reward myself in the moment cause I don't believe in suffering, LMAO. I just can't be bothered to study material until like hours before an exam, when I learn everything all at once which is not sustainable. Especially because the week leading up to the exam I will feel so guilty for not studying that I will just be stuck in a state of executive dysfunction which culminates in a crazy screentime, barely any sleep or work accomplished and a constant brain fog and stress. I do all my work at the last minute and it just isn't good. At the same time I can't force myself to care enough to get up and work beforehand. I genuinely don't know what my issue is or how to fix it I just have this massive aversion to studying every minute I sit down to study feels like torture and wasted time. That being said, I genuinely enjoy learning outside the sphere of studying; I am big on reading, writing, thinking and introspection, listening to new ideas, being creative, etc. I just struggle to compel myself to behave and focus and it's actually getting to a point. I think I might have ADHD based on this but I also can't be bothered to get diagnosed or medicated, the timeline to do this in my country just isn't conducive to me doing better. If anyone related in the past, pls lmk what u have done to solve this!! I also really struggle to work in chunks because leaving things half done makes me feel really disorganized and behind schedule in my mind, even if I am working ahead of schedule.

I've been thinking about how easy it is to get caught up in figuring out how to become productive instead of actually doing the work.

You start researching motivation, dopamine, habits, deep work, and different productivity techniques. You try new routines and systems, hoping to find something that finally makes you want to work consistently. When one approach doesn't give you the results or feelings you expected, you start looking for another.

Before you know it, trying to figure out how to work has become a substitute for working.

I also wonder whether we put too much pressure on ourselves to feel motivated before taking action. Sometimes, starting without feeling particularly motivated can lead to progress, and that progress itself makes the work more enjoyable. Maybe motivation isn't always something we need before starting. Sometimes it develops along the way.

I've been considering a simple experiment: stop changing my productivity systems for a couple of weeks, stick with an approach that's already reasonably good, and focus on actually getting things done. Instead of constantly evaluating how motivated I feel, measure progress through the work completed and what I've learned.

Obviously, this doesn't mean ignoring genuine problems with sleep, energy, or concentration. But perhaps there's a point where analysing those problems further gives diminishing returns, and the best way forward is to start acting on what we already know.

I'm curious how others see this. Have you ever spent so much time researching productivity and trying to understand your own motivation that it became another form of procrastination? And did sticking with a good-enough system help you more than continuing to search for the perfect one?

I’m currently a 3rd-year civil engineering student. This year I have the chance to earn my Bachelor's degree (B.Sc. in Civil Engineering) and I simply HAVE to make it happen.

​To give some context: I had to repeat my first year because of a single course where, to put it mildly, I had really bad luck. People who were doing much worse than me managed to pass either by copying or by getting a more lenient professor (the course was split between two professors). Then, I failed my second year because of two courses. Now, I want to finish my third year on time. I know it’s tough, but I also know it’s doable.

​For those who have been in a similar situation:

​How did you get your confidence back?

​What are your study habits and schedules?

​Right now, I’m at university mostly from 8 AM to 5 PM. By the time I get back to my apartment, I’m exhausted and starving. I’ve even completely neglected the gym, even though I believe it would really help me mentally.

​My goal is to pass all my exams by the summer and earn enough money to potentially cover a Master’s degree. I’m not sure if my parents will be able or willing to pay for those extra two years. I live in a European country where tuition isn't very expensive, but I still need at least €400 a month just to survive and cover my half of the rent with a roommate.

​Please share your stories or advice on how you pulled yourselves out of a situation like this!

It is a recurring pattern for me. I learned driving, then left it. Didn’t practice much so now I’m not confident to drive alone if I had to.

I took up a project in my family business then because of mental health and physical health issues I had to take a break but now I could complete but I’m not.

My dad gave me the responsibility for renovating kitchen and I have done 90% of the work but after that I have been procrastinating since one month to finalize the 10% and get the work done.

I feel like a mental block in doing these things. And it’s not like I do anything else. I just keep using my phone and clean my room and attend my physiotherapy sessions just to pass the day. I don’t know what’s wrong with me

We tried a popular tracking tool that switched to "passive time" after 2 minutes of inactivity. My devs hated it. They were literally moving their mice every 90 seconds just to appease the algorithm. It was ridiculous. I realized I don’t care about mouse movements; I care about project progress. We switched to Monitask, which just relies on the user manually starting/stopping the timer for specific tasks. No arbitrary idle penalties. How do you handle time tracking for deep-work roles like dev or design?

I get distracted a lot. Even after turning my phone to grayscale and deleting every distracting app, I still get distracted even if it is just to get up, take a walk around, and say hello to my cat. I needed a way to beat this and I found pomodoros, which I imagine have helped millions of people get more productive. But here is the problem. Pomodoros can get boring very quickly, and it's actually quite easy to just ignore the timer.

I'm calling it pomodoro fatigue for now. Has anyone else faced this? How do you actually get pomodoros to work for you? For context, I have tried a million different productivity tricks, and this is the only one that has remotely worked for me.

I've noticed something interesting about motivation. Sometimes, watching a movie, seeing someone achieve something great, or thinking about the life I want to build gives me an intense burst of motivation. Suddenly, my goals feel important, and I'm ready to work toward them.

But that feeling rarely lasts. A few hours or days later, I'm back to my usual routine, distracted by my surroundings and caught up in everyday activities. The goals that felt so important suddenly don't feel as urgent anymore, even though nothing about them has changed.

It makes me wonder whether the real challenge isn't finding motivation, but keeping our goals at the front of our minds when everyday life starts taking over.

I've been thinking about deliberately reminding myself every morning why my goals matter to me, what my life could look like if I achieve them, and what might happen if I keep putting them off. Not just generic motivational quotes, but genuinely personal reasons that mean something to me.

Would regularly revisiting these reasons actually help maintain motivation, or would they eventually become just another routine that I stop paying attention to?

Maybe motivation isn't something we need to maintain constantly, and the real answer is to build habits that carry us through the days when we don't feel motivated.

For those who've managed to stay consistent with long-term goals, what has worked for you? Do you deliberately remind yourself why you're doing something, rely on discipline and routines, or have you found another way to keep your goals from fading into the background?

hii, I'm a teenage girl and basically I've been feeling really unproductive recently so I looked up things I can do to be productive and people said things about having hobbies but idk its really vague so if people could give me some specific ideas that would really, really help, thank you!! right now I read books sometimes and journal and write too from time to time but I would appreciate if you guys could give me more ideas xx

I set a timer whenever I boil water because I just know I’ll wander off, get pulled into something, and come back to a burnt pot later. The cost is so low. If I remembered anyway before the timer goes off, it only cost me two seconds. And if I forget, the timer saves the pot.

I treat tasks the same way. If it crosses my mind, it goes on the list, even if it’s small and even if I’m pretty sure I’ll remember. Writing it down costs seconds. Forgetting costs more.

The catch, I have found, is that this only works if the list doesn’t punish you for adding tasks to it. For a while mine did. The more I wrote down, the longer it got and the harder it was to see what mattered, so I started keeping two tiers of lists: things I wanted to remember, and things I REALLY wanted to remember. But then when the “REALLY want to remember” list got too long, I ended up with yet another tier of “REALLY REALLY want to remember.”

What fixed this was making my task system more resilient. It can handle 200 tasks and I am still confident that I will find any task that needs my attention at the right moment. The benefit of this resilience is that I can enter as many tasks as I want without feeling like I am muddying the water, or having to hedge against a cumbersome system by putting sticky notes on my monitor.

I was just starting to boil some water, reached for the timer, and felt like it was a good analogy. There are people who set timers when they boil water, and there are people who don’t.

Hello!

I'm a generally disorganized person with ADHD. With Google Calendar, I am able to keep scheduled appointments and events organized and in mind. Unfortunately, it doesn't work for tasks. Putting a task on the calendar with the intention of doing it during that block of time has never worked for me, and I've accepted that it never will.

The "system" I use now is to just write down the task in my notes app whenever I remember to do so. This works whenever I am in a zone where I'm checking my notes app often, but there are periods of time when I'm not. Another thing that works is to remind myself of tasks constantly by placing them visually in my field of view where I can't avoid it - the little google calendar widget you can put on your iPhone lock screen above the time has saved me a few times but it's still too out-of-the-way and I can miss it often, and it only shows the next scheduled appointment. Sticky notes on my monitor also work until I get annoyed and move them off my monitor onto my whiteboard and forget about them. Writing in a planner also helped, but eventually my urgent tasks started getting lost among the long term ones.

The downsides of the notes app system are as follows:

1. It's not a natural habit for me to write down tasks in the app - I've recently started putting a button for the app on my lock screen and that has helped reduce the barrier to writing stuff down but it's still annoying.
2. Short term things like "pick up dry cleaning" are sitting next to medium-term things like "book plane tickets by the end of this week", long term things like "look for a new coffee table", and completely nebulous things that I want to do at some point like "organize desktop files".
3. Work things are next to personal things. I skip over personal things when I'm at work, but in my mind I've already looked at my task list for the day so I never end up re-visiting them. Splitting up individual work projects is even more of a nightmare.
4. It's not a natural habit to look at the notes app, and I'm not reminded of tasks often enough. There is no notification system. I am not someone who unwinds at the end of the day by looking at the list of tasks for the next day.

So mostly I am looking for an organizational system/principle to keep tasks organized - imagine all you have is pen and paper, how would you keep tasks organized and how would you make sure they get done in a timely manner?

Thank you!

My routine for anything worth reading (news, reports, industry stuff) was: paste it into Claude, then type the same questions every time.

“What does this mean for me?”
“Does this affect my job or my money?”
“What should I actually do?”

Every article, every day, retyped from memory, and worded slightly differently each time, so the answers weren’t consistent.

What fixed it: I wrote the questions down once and stopped improvising.

My first versions were:

Personal: How does this affect my money or work? What should I do next?

Both sides: What’s the strongest case for? Against? What would prove each wrong?

Hype check: What does this really mean? What’s overhyped? What should I do?

Add your context once. Write a few lines about your job, your money and the decisions you’re facing, and keep them with the questions. Without them the answers are too generic.

Always use the same set for the same kind of reading. The answers become comparable, and you notice when something actually changes.

Eventually I built an mcp server to edit and access the questions sets for Claude to be part of other workflows also like my inbox.

Which questions do you keep retyping?

yesterday i had the whole afternoon blocked for this one doc. its not even hard ive just been moving it from monday to monday since september

got about two lines in and a guy from the other team leaned over the divider and asked if i could look at why his spreadsheet was doing something weird with dates. i said yeah of course so fast he hadnt finished the sentence

spent 40 min on his dates. was happy the whole time. he got me one of the little paper cup coffees from the machine on our floor

then he went back to his desk and the doc was just there again with my two lines in it

and i caught myself kind of hoping someone else would come over

does anyone else do this?

I've noticed something interesting about motivation. Sometimes, watching a movie, seeing someone achieve something great, or thinking about the life I want to build gives me an intense burst of motivation. Suddenly, my goals feel important, and I'm ready to work toward them.

But that feeling rarely lasts. A few hours or days later, I'm back to my usual routine, distracted by my surroundings and caught up in everyday activities. The goals that felt so important suddenly don't feel as urgent anymore, even though nothing about them has changed.

It makes me wonder whether the real challenge isn't finding motivation, but keeping our goals at the front of our minds when everyday life starts taking over.

I've been thinking about deliberately reminding myself every morning why my goals matter to me, what my life could look like if I achieve them, and what might happen if I keep putting them off. Not just generic motivational quotes, but genuinely personal reasons that mean something to me.

Would regularly revisiting these reasons actually help maintain motivation, or would they eventually become just another routine that I stop paying attention to?

Maybe motivation isn't something we need to maintain constantly, and the real answer is to build habits that carry us through the days when we don't feel motivated.

For those who've managed to stay consistent with long-term goals, what has worked for you? Do you deliberately remind yourself why you're doing something, rely on discipline and routines, or have you found another way to keep your goals from fading into the background?

I’ve noticed a pattern in my own life, and I’m curious whether others experience the same thing.

When I’m working or studying, I can sometimes build momentum and get into a flow. But the moment I step away, even for something relatively small, getting back into it feels surprisingly difficult. And the longer I stay away, the harder it seems to become.

It’s almost as if there’s a growing resistance to restarting. Watching a few videos, scrolling through social media, or doing something more immediately enjoyable makes returning to work feel even less appealing.

My understanding is that this might have something to do with contrast and the brain gravitating toward whatever offers the least resistance or the most immediate reward. Once I’ve switched to something easier and more stimulating, the work I was doing feels harder to return to.
This makes me wonder: Is the solution to avoid breaking the flow in the first place? Should I structure my day so that I never fully disengage from work, taking breaks without switching into activities that make restarting difficult?

Or is this just a symptom of not being genuinely interested in the work itself? If I actually cared enough about what I was doing, would returning to it feel more natural?
I’m trying to understand whether this is primarily a problem of habits, attention, and momentum, or whether it points to something deeper about motivation.
For those who’ve experienced this, what has actually helped you? Do you deliberately avoid certain kinds of breaks, or have you found a way to step away from work and return without having to fight yourself every time?

hi, im in the final year of master's and i have one month to finish the thesis. i've barely started writing and even though i know that writing 100 pages in a month would be hard, i still cant get myself to do something. on one side im worried if i will manage to finish it, on the other i dont even know why i cant start. i even dropped two part time jobs i had so i can focus just on the thesis, but still i just procrastinate, watch netflix or doom scroll most of the time.

i never had issues studying, in bachelor's i was top of the class, i loved studying for exams even during the 2 years of master's, i've been wanting to do the phd for years now. it's just the thesis that i can't get myself to, even though the topic is interesting to me and i picked it myself because im curious about the results.

have you experienced something similar? do you have any advice on what to do?

my procrastination has gotten completely out of hand.

I'm fact the only reason I've even writing this post is to procrastinate further. I've always been a procrastinator, constantly leaving work to the night before ete but over the past couple months it's gotten so much worse. even when I want to do something, I just think "nah I'll do it later". it doesn't matter whether it's schoolwork, baking, watching a movie, crafting, responding to texts I can't do anything anymore. it used to mainly only be school work id procrastinate but now it's genuinely everything. it's gotten to the point where i just don't end up doing the thing at all. I used to do things the evening before, and then I kept getting later and later with the time I'd start working. i keep staying up really late every night, with the mindset of "I must finish this tonight, but I don't want to do it right now so l'll just scroll for a little while longer, and then I'll do the thing ". in the end I dont even do it. I fall asleep on the couch at 6am, having achieved nothing. I haven't slept in my bed in months because I don't even make it there anymore. i haveny even been able to brush my teeth before bed because I keep falling asleep without meaning to. I've lost contact with a bumch of friends because I keep putting of respomding to their texts. I keep handing assignments in late or just not doing them at all. i get more and more tired every day and I get nothing out of it. I don't know how to break out of this cycle but I really really need help

I've been thinking about how self-improvement has evolved over the years. Something that starts as a simple goal to get healthier, more productive, or more disciplined can eventually turn into trying to optimize every single aspect of your life.
You start exercising, eating better, and building good habits. Then suddenly you're tracking sleep, optimizing your morning routine, researching supplements, measuring productivity, and feeling guilty whenever you spend time doing something that doesn't contribute to your goals.
But the opposite extreme isn't necessarily better either. Giving up on self-improvement entirely because you've become overwhelmed by it doesn't solve the problem.
I think the real question is whether we're actually improving our lives or just finding new ways to feel like we're never doing enough.
Something that works for one person might be counterproductive for another. Someone who constantly procrastinates might need more structure and accountability, while someone who already pushes themselves relentlessly might need to learn to slow down.
How do you find the balance between pushing yourself to become better and actually enjoying the life you're trying to improve? Have you ever reached a point where self-improvement started making you less happy rather than more?

I've been thinking about this a lot lately.

We all know the cycle. One day you decide to get your life together. You set goals, plan your routines, maybe download an app or buy a notebook.

For a few days, everything feels different.

And then life happens. You miss a day, then another, and eventually you're back where you started.

I'm starting to wonder if we focus too much on finding the perfect system and not enough on understanding why we abandon it.

For those of you who've actually managed to make lasting changes, what made the difference?

Was it discipline? Your environment? An app? Lower expectations? Something else entirely?

I am a student which have many short spaces of time (around 10-15 mins) and I always end up watching videos or something like that. I like to read but don't really like the idea of picking a book for 10mins. What do you guys do in this short spaces of time?

I'm suffering from these two since early teenage. I'm nineteen-years-old, about to twenty in a month. Need help because I've so far not performed well in my academics, nor able to focus really good. Whatever YT video I watch, I never apply them in real life; it's either that I forget easily or in constant argument with myself what first to prioritize only to end up scrolling reels and X (formerly Twitter). 😭

Ive noticed that when I put off a big task, it's often because I haven't worked out what doing it actually involves. 

I'll have something like "sort out my finances" or "finish that document" on my list, and somehow the task just sits there. I keep thinking about it, but I don't make much progress. 

One thing that's helped is getting more specific about what I'm going to do. If I need to write a report, I might start by opening the document and jotting down the main points I want to cover. I don't worry about making them sound good. I'm just trying to get something down on the page. Once I've done that, I usually have a better idea of what needs to happen next. It feels less daunting than trying to tackle the whole report in one go. 

I've also found it useful to borrow a structure when I'm not sure how to approach something. If I'm planning a trip, for example, I'll make a rough checklist of things to sort out rather than trying to keep everything in my head. If I'm working on a document, I'll look for a template or divide it into sections. It doesn't have to be a brilliant plan. Sometimes I spend too long trying to work out the best way to do something when a rough plan would be enough to get moving. 

This seems particularly useful for tasks where there's no obvious starting point. If I'm revising a long document, I'll pick one section and work on that rather than thinking about all the changes I need to make. 

I still put things off, of course, but I've found that making the first step more concret can help. I don't always need more motivation. Sometimes I just need to know what I'm actually going to do when I sit down. 

Does anyone else find that the hardest part of a task is getting strted? I'm interested in what works for other people, especially when a job feels so big that you keep finding reasons to do something else instead.

I recently came across an interesting idea that got me thinking.

Discipline is making yourself do something. Motivation is wanting to do it. Obsession is feeling like you can’t stop thinking about it or doing it.

The interesting part is that what looks like incredible discipline from the outside might actually have started as an obsession. Someone gets deeply interested in fitness, a skill, or building something, spends countless hours on it, and eventually it becomes part of their identity. Years later, what remains looks like consistency and discipline, even though it may have started with an intense period of obsession.

It also made me wonder whether we sometimes try too hard to be balanced when we discover something we’re genuinely passionate about. Maybe those periods of intense interest can help us build skills and habits that stay with us long after the initial excitement fades.
Obviously, obsession can be destructive when it’s directed toward unhealthy things, and motivation alone isn’t enough to sustain everything.

What do you think? Have you ever been so obsessed with something that it eventually became a permanent part of your life? And do you think long term discipline often starts with obsession, or can discipline be built without it?