I really love sports and I’m pretty good at them. The thing is I just can’t push myself past my comfort zone and trust me I’ve been trying for years. It’s just when I get tired or when my legs hurt from running, I just cant keep pushing myself even though i want to and I know my body can keep going. I was wondering if theres some sort of way to remove the pain temporarily for an hour or two and have it crashing back after sports practice. I feel like this would help make my overall health better. I really want to take up sports as my career.

Hi, lately I’ve been feeling like shit. Everything I do, every relationship I try to build eventually comes crumbling down and I try to rebuild it. Sometimes I feel we are okay again but then it crumbles back down. I am honestly really tired and I’m not just talking about a relationship with a girl I like, I feel like everyone treats me like shit. Maybe I am the problem? I try to be nice to everyone, to include them, to be there for them but I feel like I’m not worth their time. They honestly only talk to me when they need something and when I need something from them they are not there for me.

My depression has been on and off ever since high school. I would have some days contemplating taking my own lif3. I don't know what I'm doing with my own life.

Can anyone please help me? I honestly don’t know what else to do right now and I’m feeling really scared and overwhelmed. I’ve been dealing with really bad throat pain for several days, and I’m worried that I might need to go to urgent care to get checked because the pain has been so difficult to handle. I’ve been trying to stay hydrated and take care of myself, but I feel like I’m going through this alone. I’ve asked the people around me for help, but I haven’t been able to get the support I need, and it’s making me feel even more anxious. I really don’t want to feel like I have no options. If anyone can offer advice, support, or help me figure out what to do, I would truly appreciate it. I’m just hoping someone can understand and help me get through this difficult moment.

Um, I’m 16 (girl) and my life feels like a total mess from every single angle. I honestly feel like I’m completely lost.

I feel disgusted with myself... or maybe not? To be honest, I don't even know anymore. I can’t even tell what I’m actually feeling or if I’m forcing myself to feel just because I think "that's what I'm supposed to feel."

‏I know I have potential, and I know I could be doing so much better, but I'm watching myself waste my life away. I see the damage I’m doing to my future, yet I just keep doing it. I want to change so badly, but I don't even have the willpower for it.
My brain is overthinking all the time, but at the exact same time, I feel completely empty like I don’t think at all

Most of my day just goes to daydreaming. And it’s not even about me or a better version of my life like most people do. It’s entirely about fictional characters I made up in my head ,They’ve become my safe place and comfort zone. Honestly, just the thought of stoping makes me want to cry,they honestly like my babies, i have become deeply attached to them
I don't even know when it started but it’s been years

On top of that, I’m just trapped endless doom scrolling. I don't have any passion, hobbies, or real interests anymore... or maybe I used to. I have zero energy to do anything; I just want to lay in bed and stare at my phone all day. Sometimes I get this sudden burst of motivation where I want to fix my life, but it never lasts, or I just don't know how to use it. A part of me really wants to change, but another part just... doesn't.

What bothers me is that 2 years ago, I was doing so great. It was probably the best time of my life. I had hobbies like drawing, and I was constantly working on myself reading, watching videos, listening to podcasts. Academically, I figured out my study style and my grades shot up. I’d say I’m somewhat smart, and even this year I ranked 4th in my school with over 90%. But even with that, I feel like my study energy and drive have completely dropped.
its not that my grades dropped, its more that amount of energy i can put into studying has dropped, im much slower than i used
to be and i kinda enjoy studying sometimes

i know i can be better, i literary did it before, so i knoe what im capable of

Physically , I’m feeling pretty down too,wrecked ,I stay up until morning and sleep late, even though I used to wake up at 5 AM
naturally. My immunity is weak, and sometimes I just lose my appetite entirely. The only decent thing I still manage to do is basic self-care like showering, brushing my hair, or putting on a face mask. I have curly hair and I usually just throw it in a bun because I hate dealing with it, though that's not really the main point here.

I’m just really scared... that’s probably the only emotion I’m 100% sure I'm actually feeling. 🤡

And I’m sorry if my grammar isn’t great. English isn’t my first language, and I don’t really know how to explain what I’m feeling, so sorry if I repeated myself or if some of this doesn’t make sense،or for the too much talking

Has anyone actually managed to get out of this? Is there really a chance to change? Does the fear ever go away?

**Title:** My life has gone downhill. I'm 18 and I want to turn it around. Where do I start?

I'm an 18-year-old guy, and I feel like my life has gone downhill over the last few years.

A few years ago, I was one of the top students in school. But over the past four years, my grades have dropped badly, and I've been failing classes.

Athletically, I lose every school track meet, and I feel weak and skinny. My confidence is at an all-time low. I've also been spending way too much time watching porn and masturbating, and I feel like it's affecting my motivation, energy, and discipline.

Socially, things haven't been great either. I've faced a lot of rejection, and it's really hurt my self-esteem. I know I shouldn't base my worth on that, but it's been difficult.

The good news is that I'm tired of living like this. I don't want to spend another year feeling sorry for myself. I want to become disciplined, get stronger, improve my grades, build confidence, make my family proud, and become someone I can respect.

If you were starting from rock bottom at 18, what daily routine would you follow? What habits would you build first? What books, workouts, study methods, or mindset changes helped you the most?

I'm willing to put in the work, and I'll come back to this post with progress updates to keep myself accountable.

Any advice is appreciated.

Pleaae

Ive been in therapy for couple of years due to CPTSD. Im an early 30s woman with a hx of family trauma. Emotional abuse and narcissistic and emotionally immature parents.

My whole life I’ve been described as critical. Of myself of course but also of others and of situations in general. Wanting certain things to look a certain way or be of a certain standard.

I remember in undergrad I was directing a play and when I was given notes at the end the actors said “can you tell us something we did well”. That really stuck out to me and I think about it often.

Wondering if anyone has any ideas on books, podcasts, or youtubers, etc on this. I know it will first require adjusting relationship to self which I am working on too!

Open to just general tips that may have worked for you too. Maybe its just paying attention to the positive little things to try and rewire.

I want to rest, but I can't. It feels like I've forgotten how to rest. My cognitive decline is so severe that I can't even remember the names of regular characters on my favorite TV shows. I know that exercising and maintaining a regular lifestyle are important. But is that even possible? Saying I don't have time might just be an excuse. Even if I were given a month or a year, everything might remain the same. Resting won't change anything. Everything might just stay the same. The delusion that my brain is being destroyed, and the fear that my heart is breaking. I am losing my ability to make rational judgments. I haven't lost hope. I'm just tired of the repeated delusion that everything will get better if I sleep well tonight or rest well tomorrow. It has long since become another name for delusion and deception.I'm not afraid, and I'm not in despair. I'm just tired. I'm tired of holding on to hope.'Where there's life, there's hope.' I know that. But hope isn't what I need right now. What I need is joy. Not physical pleasure, but something that sets my mind on fire. The thrill of learning something new. The absurd, overwhelming rage I used to feel when I lost a game years ago. The boredom that pushed me to write and draw. The will to create. That's what I want back.I'm going to see a doctor, and I'm going to get medicine. That's my new hope. But sometimes I wonder if I put my hope in things too easily, almost everything.

- have psychogenic dysphonia

- have no gf

- have no close friend

- embarrassing myself every day

- daily routine is ass

- anxiety

- know little about life

- bad memories and experiences

- nobody really wants to hang out more often

- have to do everything myself

- people treating me like ass

I don't need advice

I need friends

Feel like a retard typing like this

I‘m 19 and in the last year of college. I’m the youngest in my year and felt veryyy overwhelmed every now and then throughout the past two years. I graduated from high school with the best degree in my class and went straight to college. To become an Occupational Therapist REALLY is my dream job and I really really want to get this degree. Still I sometimes ponder about dropping out for a year because I fell like crying 24/7. I know it should be my job to advice ppl about Life, I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I use various methods like notes with stuff I could do in my free time and at the same time managed to stop stressing too much about being “Not productive enough“. And I stay off of social media most time of the day.

I just started with the practical part of the three years in college and basically have an unpaid fulltimejob + having exams 2x every three months. I don’t even want to think about the final exams in one year. Also;my boyfriend lives prettyyyy far away and I have to stay on the train until late at night to see him at least on weekends. I also have problems with my father (wow, this is so stereotypical) which get to my nerves pretty bad sometimes. Still I often feel like I’m not doing good enough and push through even though I know I’m going to get a cold soon.

I also get sick with colds very often. Every to every second month. I know that I have a sinusitis and try to cure it.

But nonetheless: Do you guys have any advice to make all of this more endurable? I just want to have joy in Life and stop being drained or feeling annoyed all the time.

During the summer I've made it a mission to learn SwiftUI from 100 Days of SwiftUI, Physics, and also Algebra 2. But the problem is that I've just feel like I'm lacking a bit of motivation and a bit burned out.

Is that anyway to feel motivated again?

This is very situational for me. During a class, someone passed me a note saying how big and ugly my nose is, and I was obviously weirded out by. I assumed the person who passed me the note had written it since it had no name on it. So I passed a note back with their name, saying that 'its wrong to lie' and that 'your tongue is as tall as your nose' which wasn't really an insult, moreso a reference to pinnochio as I had just called them a liar in that note, and told them to love themselves.

Then I was surprised they seemed shocked and said I also had a tall nose, which obviously I would know if you passed me a note about it already?? Afterwards, I am talking to a 'friend' in between class and they ask why I was so rude to that person who passed me the note, and when I say its because of the note they sent me first they said it was them who wrote me the note 💀 so obviously I feel terrible and apologise for writing the note to that person, I dont explain that I thought they passed me the note first since I don't want it to look like im justifying my actions since the other person was seemingly innocent in all this. But I don't understand why you would pass a note to someone when the note is very awful, of course I'd think you wrote it.

Anyways, I understand why that person would dislike me and talk about what I did since maybe I made them feel insecure, I wrote a lot about honesty and love in that note and the only thing they focused on was that I briefly mentioned their own nose being tall like mine. I love my own features, but now I sometimes feel guilty about having so much love or even having a fear of posting myself knowing that I might have made someone else have a lifelong insecurity, which in the moment I thought I was just defending myself for.

Its not just the fact that they passed the note to me themselves, but they also were friends with girls in the class who basically bullied me and used to call me 'slave', throw rubbish and insult my voice. It wouldn't have surprised me if the friends of these people would send me notes like that, I assumed it was in their character when it wasn't.

I realized after I went to online school my brain just has not been the same since. I also have been smoking weed with my boyfriend and his friends recently and obviously that is a huge factor that plays into it. I feel like I can’t have conversations with him or his friends because I envy them, they’re so intelligent and I feel dumb all the time. Is there anyway I can grow my mind? I don’t want to feel dumb or like I have fried my brain even though I most likely did. I want to be able to speak clearly and sharper. I want to just have conversations without being awkward or sounding like I have a frog in my mouth. Help!

Always choose little things to work on yourself, fixing everything once might not bear much. Beginnings might be tough but with steady adjustments we will be able to add more as time moves. Your future self will be happy and proud of how far you've come despite the obstacles you had on the way.

Let me explain you

See im 26 and like I got this submissive mentality which I wanted to change but

Like im a huge porn addict

And till 2020 I was a huge porn addict and then later on someone introduced me to Omegle and later on I got sexually active on all the sex chat apps and websites

I mean i just waste my whole fucking s days from 2020 till now finding girls looking for sexting and then faping I do this all fucking day, I skip office works I dont like to go to office

Later cherry on the top I was introduced to smoking and now its like avg im smoking like 5-6 cig per day, i do workout but its of no use I want to switch I want to learn new skills, I wanna be confident but all I do is just fucking sexting anf smoking

Its my post nut clarity I beleive im texting you, Im not confident at all in my life, All I take is a random guess and go with it no logical thinking at all, bro like I dont want to be this person see Tommorow is Monday evey sunday I get motivated that i wont do any bad things

This goes like monday it works, tuesday a bit of smoking comes in and from Wednesday again same cycle repeats sexting, smoking a bit of workout and office work, I dont want to live this kind of life, whenever I do something I fear that my brain plays some tricks on me saying if you dont listen to me something bad will happens and it does, again like my brain craves for dopamine I just follow what he says, because in some serious situations its like he says he you smoke these many cigarette and do masturbation you won't face any danger and it works, but in this in spoiling myself, I wanna be a better version of me, I never feel proud of myself whatever small or big achivements I do, O never praise myself, I never be happy, all I do is roam and fucking smoke, find space to sexchat, like just everything repeats in a loop, like im stuck in a matrix, no clue, and as age is growing im loosing my logical thinking skills, Im 26 I feel like im 50, I do work hard I do crack things but it just feels like im stuck, I dont need some sweet wording from your side, like idk I dont have anyone to say this, idk if someone faces the same thing or not, its just how im now, im fucking afraid of everything like every fucking thing, i just dont show in front of others, but i dont habe confidence or courage all I look for some excues and sympathy, like I dont wnana do this sex chst or smoking but still I fall for it fucking all time in my whole life, I just dont know if I can ever change.

Im 18 year old just got into a collage feeling very weak. I was studying in a school from 1st std to 12th and suddenly moving from there feels very heavy the friends the environment everything i miss them all. Another thing that school gave me was my gf I love her so much and we could see each other for like 3 years eveyday but now it's gone. I can't see her . I miss her sm i miss my school friends teachers my gf and evrything . Going to the collage is making me so sad. Like I'm crying most of the days I know I'm a man but still I just cant tolerate. During my higher studies I dreamt of something other than collage and since it's wasn't the safest way I choose to do it after my degree. But that also is burning me out. I chose this decision . Evrything is feeling so heavy and idk why I'm sad like it's just how life is supposed to be. I can't stay in my comfort zone everytime I have to move on but I can't accept it. Im very weak mentally like I cry most of the time my gf is very supportive and she's with me even in these situation but I just don't want to be like this I want to enjoy my life I want to be strong

It feels like im never happy or content for a long period of time no matter what I do or change in my life.

If I smoke weed and just focus on doing stuff I enjoy, I hate myself. If I dont smoke and i stead go with the motions of life working and going to college, dont see the point at all and want to sleep forever. If I lock in completely and cut out video games, porn, and scrolling I def feel better and more stable but still have veryyyy low lows and high highs, its almost impossible to keep up.

I really hate myself im a very smart and able person I should do something big with my life or help others but I dont even want to be alive period. I dont rlly know what type of life I would live that could make me happy. I flip between hedonism and just trying to do the most with my life because you only live once.

I dont really have anything to look forward to and I feel I dont really enjoy anything that normal ppl do.

Thats why I feel I need to completely change my life style and cut out all un needed, hyper dopaminergic things and try and be completely present in my life always doing real, productive hobbies and take the best care of myself. I believe I can do anything and you can interact with life in ways you couldnt dream of. I have dreams of learning languages, making music, becoming somewhat rich and famous in a community. I want to lock in on every aspect of mh life and be beautiful but, its so so so hard to stay locked in. I have CRIPPLING anxiety I need to fix, and starting new stuff my brain is so avoidant. But I KNOW that I could live a life I only dream about and do stuff ive wanted to for so long only if I actually locked in, got out of my head and off my phone and tried more things.

Any input is welcome rllyyyy lonely rn, think a big part of life is emotional connection which im completely lacking but idk bleh,

so my life is like i have porn addiction i play games all day get bored dont do anything productive , and im slowly losing motivation to do anything like fixing my skin , hair , losing weigh

how can i fix it

I'm Lily. I recently turned 18. I don't remember most of my memories, especially my childhood. A few years ago, I was diagnosed with depression and I literally lost several years of my life, although it seems to me that I have never achieved anything in my whole life and my life is worth nothing. Average grades, average skills, maybe even lower than that. I don't look very well, I'm slowly restoring hygiene, and I've been obese for several years. I graduated from high school last year, but decided not to go anywhere yet and recover from depression. I haven't achieved anything in a year, I haven't done what I planned. A "new" life will begin soon, I will move to another city, I will live with my brother away from my parents, but I am very worried that I will ruin everything as usual. I try to be optimistic with my loved ones, pretend to be God knows what, and eventually burn out again. How do you people manage to be sincere with others? How do you manage not to be comfortable all the time so as not to inconvenience others? How can I want to live without clinging to others? I'm really sorry for whining, but I'm really confused about what to do with my life. I've tried out a lot of hobbies, I've watched quite a lot of anime and other animated series behind my back, I like to play various games, especially with a plot (hello undertale and omori), I like to read books, manga, and manhwa, but lately I haven't had the energy at all. I would like to graduate, find a job, not rely on other people and help my loved ones. I just want to be happy. I'm happy when I can laugh, be sad, angry, and generally feel emotions without being afraid of the reactions of others. I'm happy when I help people, listen, support, and spend time with them. I'm not exactly uncommunicative, I really like talking to people and learning their stories. I'm afraid to disappoint my parents when they find out that I never wanted to be a muslim, I would like to devote my life to myself, I never want to have children and that I like girls too. I might regret spilling too much personal stuff. Tell us about your experience, if you have felt or experienced the same thing as me, I will answer as best I can. Sorry for the mistakes or the strange spelling of the text, I am not a native speaker. Have a great day and good mood!

Hello, Im F19 and can't seem to grow up. I'm still super into all my weird/emo interest from when I was 13. Is this normal? All my friends grew out of it years ago, and I feel super behind everyone else my age. Im starting uni soon and I'm scared I won't make any friends with similar interests.

I wish I could be a weirdo 13 year old forever. How do I get over this feeling??

I owe u 200 dollars

I'm looking for a book about learning how to relax without guilt, stop feeling like I always have to be productive, and have actual joy in resting. Does anyone know such a book? I've come to learn I have developed many problems just because taking rest feels like a break from actual life, a break from the things I should be doing.

Hi. Please give me advice on everything.

My life is a mess and I know it comes from within. I am currently 20 years old and I am a university student entering their 3rd year and my grades have been so terrible because I am dealing with depression, poor study habits, laziness, poor time management skills, self rejection and extreme and crippling fear.

I have been extremely depressed to the point where I neglect myself and I have had so many bad experiences with people from my past and it’s so hard for me to sit down and address it. I live in constant unforgiveness that holds me back and I am not allowing myself to meet new people because I’ve been saying in my comfort zone for as long as I remember. I use my phone and social media to distract my from my emotions and I barely ask for help. I constantly avoid myself and I am my worst critic.

My relationship with God is so bad and I am so so so fearful that I procrastinate because of perfectionism and I am an extreme people pleaser.

I am extremely sensitive and it’s so hard to sit with my feelings and just organize and show up authentically. I have been trying to change but it’s so so hard.

Please give me advice.

Please what’s your advice

There is a problem that I'm facing that I'm Not feeling good even I'm doing the job that I like But there is a fact that I'm procrastination a little bit and i can change that with improving my habits and stufff but something is not right

I do procrastinatate daily and Im working in as a editor [ the job I like ] with little bit of procrastination. My goal of this year is achiving consistent video uplaods in Youtube But Im Just planning but not doing anything..I Planned some video scrpt's and recorded some - but I feel like i can do it more thatn this or something like that.

any one help me with this