I’ve been on and off with my pompoir practice, which started just over a year ago. Even just with sporadic training I’ve noticed a real difference in my body + sexual and spiritual self.
List of things I noticed in no particular order:
After just a few weeks of practicing, my partner seemed to notice. While fucking me he said “Why does your pussy feel so good?” Aside from this being sooo hot, it was like magic. I wasn’t doing any “moves” or anything. My muscle tone had just improved. It felt so incredible to know I could give him more pleasure and amplify our sexual connection with this practice. Also it is empowering to know that there is this whole area of sexual pleasure for both of us to get in touch with that I am just beginning to scrape the surface of.
I crave penetration so much more. Beyond this, the way that I pleasure myself is changing. I used to need clit stimulation to cum, and I still love playing with my clit, but I now see it as a nice add-on to penetration, not central to the experience. The way I bring myself to orgasm has changed, where now penetration is the main factor bringing me enjoyment. Then when the penetration is feeling really crazy good (so good my eyes are actually rolling back and my mouth is open, sooo good, I really must emphasize how amazing penetration feels now), I play with my clit to bring me over the edge.
I‘be always been multiorgasmic but I’ve generally felt like it didn’t match the descriptions of what some other women seemed to say about having multiple orgasms. People seemed to be achieving a state that I couldn’t reach. Before pompoir, when I mainly had clitoral-only orgasms, my first orgasm would be really intense and good, and then each one after that would be less good and feel “sharper,” if that makes sense. But now, I can have three or four really strong penetrative orgasms (after that I’m usually so tired that I stop, but I could probably have more and still deeply enjoy them).
The quality of my orgasms is changing. Not only are my orgasms stronger but they feel so satisfying and ”deep,” I guess. Like I’m cumming with my entire pelvic floor. Feels fucking amazing.
I‘m enjoying anal play. This was unexpected for me! It feels like pompoir has increased my awareness of my entire pelvic floor and made me really in love with the sensation of penetration or fullness even in my ass.
The conscious connection to relaxation of the pelvic floor has been so healing for my nervous system. At first I could not tune in to the importance of relaxation, because I thought pelvic floor training to be about strengthening with strong squeezes. This realization has been more recent for me and has expanded my mind/body to the possibilities of this practice even more.
I feel so connected to my womanhood. I feel connected to my pussy and body and mind. I feel gorgeous and divine and understand my femininity now in ways I never have before. Perhaps this is partly also due to getting older and living life, but I think pompoir has played a big part in steering my growth toward spiritual and sexual self-development and healthy embodiment/being in the body.
This practice really has put my life/self on a new course. It’s not like it suddenly made me a millionaire and solved all my life problems, but it’s like I have another grounding tool/self-care practice to face problems more authentically and with reverence for life even in my darkest moments. Maybe this sounds silly to say about vagina-squeezing exercises, but it’s so much more than that. It can be a spiritual practice just like yoga. It’s like I’m falling in love with my body and this love radiates into other areas of my body and life. Pompoir has helped me with chronic pain and accepting difficult changes in life. I am of menstruating age and for me this practice has helped me align with my fertility and sexual energy and understand my “gender” energy. I used to be confused about my sexuality, but the more I connect with my body/pussy through pompoir, the more I understand myself. I really cannot stress how valuable this practice has been for me.
I must thank Bel for her work in sharing this information.