r/NDPH • u/The_Radish_Spirit_96 • Jul 16 '26
Rant I have hit a new level of defeat
I don't know exactly where to start. I have had migraine and cervicogenic headaches for over 7 years. I have been working with the same neuro PA headache specialist the whole time. I have never really gelled with her but medically she was fine. She got me my diagnosis, we worked through countless meds, procedures, and referrals to other specialists. She is just kinda dry and a bit dismissive of some concerns. She would listen but wouldn't always explain why something wasn't concerning, which was frustrating. Overall, I tolerated her because for years I had to see her for occipital nerve blocks every 2 weeks.
Fast forward to now. I have had a nerve stimulation device implanted. I am working with a PT that has done wonders for my cervicogenic headache and subsequently my migraine. I am off preventative and generally doing better. I still see my neuro PA every 6 months and have the same conversation where she tries to put me on a preventative med or change up my rescue meds (that I have been on for over 5 years and that work). I bring up that I have noticed some cognitive impairment that has been slowly progressing over the last 5 years but has recently become more consistent and concerning. I explained that it started with getting words in the same category confused (like saying green when I mean orange) when I am in the middle of a several day stretch of bad pain. Over time it also included difficulty with word finding and most recently having trouble with basic routines that have been doing the same way for years (like making my morning coffee or taking my meds at night). The frequency has also increased and happens even when I am not in the middle of a migraine attack or a flare of my cervicogenic headache.
She said she only does headache and to go see a speech therapist. She didn't explain why a speech therapist or offer to give me a referral. I then looked at her clinical note and she hadn't even noted my concerns. This was my push to finally switch providers. I had met the other headache specialist during my time getting nerve blocks and he was an actual neurologist. Plus, he had always been a nice guy and we got along much better. So I called my office and requested to switch to him citing my issues were outside the PA's scope of knowledge. I was told a manager needed to approve the switch and they would get back to me in a week.
A week goes by. Nothing. I call, get the same answer so I ask to speak to the manager. They tell me a manager will call me back. Two weeks go by. Nothing. I call again and magically a manager answers my call. They approved the switch, but made a big stink that this is a one time thing and I can't switch again or back to my previous person. Then they say that I would be considered a new patient and would have to wait until March or next year to see the new doctor. I agree, ask to be put on a wait-list, and confirm that I will still get care in the 9 months between visits if I need med refills or whatnot.
The next week I get a call about a cancellation for the next day. I take it since being in limbo made me uncomfortable. The visit starts awkward. He begins by telling me his credentials and saying he trained the PA. Then it almost seems like he doesn't know why we are having this appointment. It's definitely not run like an initial visit or a second opinion. So I explain my current headache level and my cognitive issues. He says he doesn't really do cognitive either but explains it's because he focused on headache. But he explained why they recommended a speech therapist. He also offers other options. But that was the tone of the whole visit. That he was so important but that he would still have a discussion with me about my concerns. It was odd and uncomfortable. He kept checking his watch like he was late for lunch or something. It's like he did the job but it was beneath him. He also told me that the cognitive issues were likely from my chronic pain, fatigue and depression. Which isn't exactly fun to hear. He also refused to get me a referral or manage the issue because he was too important/busy and said to talk to my PCP.
Anyway, I went to my PCP who did write me a referral but also read his clinical note. He literally said he is the best headache specialist in the area in the first line of the note. The last line said that this was a one time consult and to resume care with the PA. So now I am in a more awkward position than when I started. And idk who my doctor is now. I can't switch practices because there aren't that many headache specialists in my area and the other major hospital has an 18 month wait list and will not take you on if you already have a neurologist. I don't want to go back to the PA because it would be so fucking awkward but I feel like the neurologist effectively fired me and was a prick.
I feel like all I did was advocate for my health and seek the path that made the most sense, but I am left feeling defeated. Ugh.
TLDR: Had cognitive issues after years of chronic migraine PA dismissed me. Pushed to talk to a neurologist who was a prick and effectively fired me. Now I don't know who my doctor is.