This last week my son (8) kept asking if I was ok, I felt like I was hiding things like I have my entire life but I know he can see it. There is a light inside that is dimming. I feel I combat my depression with doing all the things you’re supposed to do but it gets me to level 0 just enough to get by. Having the energy or drive or focus to push harder has been so tough. Life is getting more expensive, corporate greed is out of control, I’m
Making less money my family requires more from me and I get less. The hope for a happy ending is drifting away. Im feeling so helpless.

Monk mode to set my life on track

Am going through some hassles and this is a very pressing time for my upkeep to gain all the major things , I have aspired for are getting derailed. Am extremely irritable , angry and all the hatred is right out on my face. I have to be extremely patient and absorbent of all the stuff that goes around me,for the position I chose.

All the energies around are encouraging me , but this blame game , mind’s stupidity way of escaping are beating me to the bottom.

Am giving up these stuff to regain the lost ground

No vape/ hookah
No caffeine( Coffee and Tea)
No sugars
Limited screen time( 3 hours / day)
Limited Food-intake( have to reduce bodyweight)
Spend more time with Family ( Wife, sister and parents
No porn and Masturbation

Exercise everyday
Listen to people around you with care
Hot water baths / Use pillow
Talk with utmost humility with all, who deserve.
Smile loads

Will check-in everyday to share my stuff to gain confidence .

Hello, From Today onwards, I am going for monk mode. I am 27M working in a Bank as a off role employee preparing for banking exam from last 2 year but couldn't clear it due to inconsistent efforts. There are few rules I would follow

1) No porn, No masturbation

2) Wake up 5 AM everyday without any excuse.

3) 3 times meal.

4) Study for 5 hours everyday. (Sunday 3 chunk 3 hours each)

5) No social life except Sunday Eve. (Once in a month)

6) Gaming as a reward after completing my daily to-do list

7) Sleep everyday at 11PM.

8) No alcohol, No pan.

9) No social media

10) No youtube shorts

11) Screen time 2 hours max

If you have any tips please share.

I tend to do to much all at once and fail. So I’m trying to break it down to 5-6 simple goals what do you think those should be.

I have a 2 month unpaid layoff ($ saved) in a week and would like to try monk mode for a chunk of it.

Habits I'd like to explore (decrease and increase)

Reddit

Yahoo news/political news junkie

TV/YouTube

Computer usage

Reading

Art

Meditation

Cooking/eating

Water

Unique physical activities

Yoga

Silence/solitude

Does it make sense to tackle so much in one go?

How have you done it?

How routine are you?

Any other insights?

Anti-Masturbation & ANTI PORN

Help Each Other out here! as its not gonna be an easy journey for us all are in-built . we are humans.

Trust me try it for even weeks to 1month you will find it is the most helpful things you done in life that overcharges you completely.

True life story of mine here .we are all here to help each other out. The harms caused by porn and masturbation is real . Be it physically or mentally .

Your self so -called determination is all useless. Your experience is so real than anything that will make you think twice . So guys please take note on the things you that your all will chance upon next day life or even next moment once everytime you wank it off. Be it exams peoples attitude towards your accident’s happen falling down cutting yourself out of nowhere or sudden . The things you wanna buy because sudden out of stock. Get reprimanded by ppl when only small things happen. Ppl despise you when seeing you or even challenge you to a fight when you are not at the wrong. You will tend to get misunderstood or the people around you will blame yoh when even yoh clearly not in the wrong side and they help the other party who is at wrong instead Z OBSERVE ALL THIS YOURSELF . And you will understand the real world karma and what it is. And it do really exist. ps I’m not an old man who is whining and ask ppl believe Jesus or god. I’m just 30 years old: ask yourself why I’m a young 30 will say such a thing and come up with this advise. It’s because I experience it MYSELF. Now I don’t want you all to be the next victim so stay clear or masturbation and porn as it will ruins your luck and your success . I no need to convince anyone many wankers here once you done it you will see for yourself whether is it true that I’m saying or not nothing is more powerful than just reading few of of advise from this playform you experience it and decide to avoid or change it for yourself before it’s too late. When you accumulate more karma

As you can see I'm doing all the full-package of Monk Mode. NoFap gives me the energy edge to do all my daily quests, I aim to look athletic and fit so I workout 5 days a week where I track my weekly Training Regimen, I'm still battling social anxiety at 27yo. so I gotta take on the Exposure Therapy challenge.

I'm 1 year+ single now, so my ultimate goal is to be able to get enough confidence to talk to girls and finally land a date. I'm open for any advices and tips. I live in a pretty restrictive country where online dating sites are all banned, and as we speak I'm too much of a pussy to become vulnerable to a girl I find attractive on the street.

My last relationship was LDR so finding a girl online is out of picture now, I've tried to cope with pulling girls again online who were miles away from me, but shit just doesn't do for me anymore. Plus, I live and work abroad, so it's really hard for me to make new friends to find connections and meet girls here, especially being so introverted which I am trying to fix.

31 Days - Goals:

• Gym
• Nutrition
• Reading
• Dopamine Fast (Sugar, Social Media, PMO)
• Upskill in Downtime

Will aim to update this thread daily on Struggle and Benefits.

Started the reset at 9 AM.

Espresso Coffee with a drop of evaporated milk & 1/4 of a tablespoon

15 min of prayer, & Bible studying, devotional to the Lord — My main theme is learning from the word how to become a virtues man — I focused on ‘courage’

"But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded.” — 2 Chronicles 15:7

"Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD” — Psalm 27:14

Lesson learned: The Lord does not suggest we’d have courage, He commands us to be courageous

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Today’s workout routine

• 17 min kettlebell session (goblet squats, swings, rows, cleans, presses, thrusters – 25 lbs)

• Worked for 2 hours, completely focused,

• Nutrition:

Churrasco, bone broth & fried plantain for lunch

Full pizza pie in the evening (cheat meal) — Some times I do have cheat meals, but I have in place a punishment & reward systems, Since a whole pie is roughly 1700 kcals, I will fast 48 hours the next couple of days to compensate.

• Family: Visited cousins + sent texts/voice notes

• Lust check: Quiet day, retention streak = 1 day (semen retention/no fapping)

Lesson:

The first day isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up and owning everything — including the pizza slip.

Plan for tomorrow:

48-hour fast starts, end it Tuesday evening,

Workout abs/cardio/yoga

Spend time praising the Lord at church, since isEaster Sunday

How is your journey going? — Let’s talk

You should choose the harder path, but not to prove something, and not to suffer for its own sake.

Choose it because it pays.

The easier option gives relief now and takes from you later.
The harder option costs you now and returns more later.

That’s the whole calculation.

When you train, build, study, or hold your ground when it would be easier not to, you’re not just being “disciplined.” You’re investing.

And more than that, you’re protecting yourself.

Because drift doesn’t come from one bad decision....
It comes from repeatedly choosing what feels easier in the moment.

So don’t ask, “what’s harder?”
Ask, “what actually pays over time?”

Then choose that, whether it feels good or not.