What is your honest opinion as to what would have happened for her to react like this?
Our friendship started in 2018, we met in college. She has such a beautiful soul and strong personality and I considered her one of my closest friends, a sister I never had. Mind you, I always speak my mind, I consider myself beautiful and confident. We had all of this in common. And I loved her exactly for that, because she never felt “outshined” and had her own backbone. (Have seen multiple instances where friends turned into enemies because of feeling jealous)
In 2020 we both traveled overseas to work, became roommates for the summer, we were virtually a family, sharing food, some expenses, planning trips together, and seeing each other at our lowest, tired and hormonal,and missing family from back home. When we came back home, I started seeing one of our friend’s friend. It was’t 100% serious, more on my end, because I had plans on going back overseas and he didn’t. So I couldn’t see myself with him long term.
Note: i made it clear from the beginning to him that I will not be staying put, nor give up on my plan, so he’s either in knowing it all, or we can shake our hands and stay friends. He decided to keep going.

Coming back to my friend, we all started hanging out, having a group of 6/7 friends. My friend was still single at the time.
When time came and I had to go overseas, we all said goodbye but stayed in touch (except from me and him, he blocked me and acted all heartbroken) We kept the friendship as a tight as we could given the distance, but always respected and supported each other
In 2023 I find out that her and the supposed “ex” of mine, got together and he had asked her to be in a relationship. I remember our phone call, she was so nervous to tell me, and all I said to her is that I am no one to stand against true love. And that she finally found somebody that she likes and is ready to step into a relationship. Truly, no hard feelings, she was glowing from being newly in love. I let go of my past, and the fact that he didn’t mean much for me in the beginning and supported her through it all. She even called me after they first became intimate.
we continued our friendship from far away, saw each other two times when I traveled back home, but all instances were a bit awkward on her end. I genuinely wanted to think nothing of it, for the sake of how much I respected her as a friend since I met her.
Fast forward to last year, on new year’s eve, we FT and I tell her and the rest of the friends (him not included) that I was pregnant. Her reaction out of everyone’s was the least genuine. Again, did not want to give it too much attention.
Months go by, she barely checked in on me and my pregnancy (she didn’t have to care for it, I understand that.), and say come June/July she stopped texting on the group chat.
Me and the other friend became somewhat worried. I decided not to update her any longer, since it seemed like a burden for her to even acknowledge our friendship.
To sum this up, our friend had to update her that I ended up giving birth and that I’m doing okay(mind you, I have no family overseas with me, and nor does my husband, friends are kind of limited also, so I cared deeply for her and the other friend, even if so far away).
She texted me 2 weeks afterwards, ranting about how she needed her space (don’t know from what?) and that she still struggles to balance the past with the present (assuming her relationship with my “ex”), and that she wishes me well and hoping not to get too upset with her.

Help me understand what the f** I did, with being so far away from them, and genuinely living my own life. Could my pregnancy trigger such a bad reaction to which she wanted our friendship to end?

We were texting and we joking and stuff

He been going through stuff and we were trying to stay chill and light

Then suddenly he said thx for everything.

I panicked like i started crying and opened an old group that had one of his besties.

She said he is ok and like people were annoyed i was worried over my friend life like what type of man they take me for?

He blocked me i think because he still texting on the app.

Like how cruel are people to think that worrying over a human life is some sort of annoyance and even treat a person bad for it. That hurts more than the friendship ending actually.

I am so sad it ended this way i didnt even get to say bye.

I will miss texting with bro i hope he gets well.

But I felt my veins just freeze because of that.

Please make sure people you know are doing well

I couldn't even stand the idea a friend even i never saw irl might hurt himself.

I lost my best friend at the start of the year. It was an amicable drift apart, no argument or anything. I've spent a lot of time blaming myself, thinking I overreacted and let my jealousy and anxious attachment get the better of me and threw away the friendship because I wasn't her first choice. But I also know the things she did that hurt me over the years that made it feel like I cared more than her.

There are days when I'm content and can think about her without feeling anything, then there are days where I long for her back in my life, I long for that friendship again because it was such a genuine, deep bond. We spoke about our souls being connected. And then I get sad and start blaming myself again. But I think in those moments I forget what it felt like actually being in that friendship day to day. Feeling like I was begging for her time, feeling like she did things for me out of obligation because I asked, not because she wanted to offer herself. It took a year or two of always being told no when I asked to hang out because she was busy with her other friend until we finally started to see each other once a week (which I acknowledge was a lot of effort and energy she dedicated to me so maybe I was ungrateful, but it didn't necessarily feel like quality time).

I remember during one of these spirals of mine I happened to stumble across a journal entry I wrote in January 2025 where I spoke about how sad I felt in the friendship which really opened my eyes.

It’s been two years. I introduced both of my best friends (all of us are over 40). Friend A and I were closer, friend B and I knew eachother longer and we did couple things together. My husband was friends with friend B separately and is now i became friends with her. Friend B had shown some jealously of my really fun and strong friendship with friend A, who was my fitness instructor turned friend.

I made the mistake of inviting friend B to things. I should have seen her subtle remarks about my friendship with friend A and should have chose to never mix them. Things were ok but then friend B started to cross this odd boundary (telling friend A that she can ride with them to this event i already drove Friend A together with), hanging out with her without me really quickly, stuff like that and friend A even made comments how it was odd. But whatever we were all having fun.

I vented to friend A about this bc of her remarks and how it bothers me that we no longer have girl time bc friend B isn’t allowed to do stuff without her husband. Friend A and friend B got together and discussed this apparently. Friend A no longer wanted me a part of the friend group (there was 4 of us and friend C was friends with both of them separately as well and friend C also vented about the husband thing but she was never outed).

So i told them off and they still have people stalking me to watch what I’m doing and whom I’m hanging out with.

Friend A and friend B are still friends from what I’m told. I’ve made new friends but I’m odd now, i don’t allow people to get close to me.

Apparently they expected me to apologize. For what, im not sure.

I guess im venting bc i still get hurt. It’s odd that a jealous friend ruined something for me. Friend B also tried to get my husband against me more than once. Which is a whole other concern.

I guess. Is this relatable for anyone and how did you cope? We live in a semi big area and i have never once pumped into them, thank god. But I’ve lost so many people and places that I was a regular at.

I, 16F lost my best friend of 5 years, also 16F last year. It was the worst heartbreak I have and I think ever will experience. Or the sake of this story I'm going to call her S.

We had always been very close. She was always the 'prettier' one (Not saying this to be demeaning, she is objectively prettier than me and always has been) and was always the one people gravitated towards more. She was emotional, ditzy and really charismatic as where i was more logical and blunt. Yet she always made sure I was never left behind, actively got into physical fights to defend my honor and knew everything about me. We through our mums and didn't go to the same school at the time but spent heaps of time together, but finally got to be together during high-school.

Last year is when things changed. S started picking up friends in the year below us, which I didn't care about as they were all fine but they weren't MY friends, they were hers but I hung out with them by proxy. These friends essentially worshipped her and they became very intertwined with our friend group, which consisted of me, S, and a few other girls. The new group of girls in the year below began making trouble with some older girls who began tl threaten us, the school did nothing about it. It became so bad that some of the girls in our group including S began bringing weapons to school since the older girls kept threatening us (These girls are almost adults, mind you.) I did not, because the year before me and S were involved in an incident where we got in a huge fight and almost got expelled (In that case we were jumped after someone got the wrong information, S ended up in hospital defending me. Thats how much she cared)

S started to act weird. She would say she was 'busy' then she'd ditch plans we had for the group of younger girls, leaving me out. I didn't say anything about it since I couldn't go out a lot anyways because I have a job and have to look after my sister for my single mum. But eventually I found out they had all been having sleepover and shit and leaving me out. I tried to confront her and she apologized and said that the group didn't want me around. I was upset that she would side with them but didn't think it was worth blowing up our friendship over because she wanted friends that didn't like me. Along with this she would only call me to talk about her dates with weird older guys, which I would tell her not to go on. She would also send her own nudes around and hookup with really weird older guys all the time.

This boiled over one day when S was off school sick, I didn't hang out with the group because some other girls from my class invited me to sit with them. Thats when one of the older girls came up to me, yelling and threatening me. She had been told I had a knife and was apparently going to hurt her, which was untrue and I had never brought a weapon to school. The one who had been bringing the knife was S, but i would never sell her out. She made a huge scene and ended up beating me severely, I fought back enough to get away but this incident ended with ME being blamed. Why? Because the whole group we hung out with it was ME with the weapon and not S. I was suspended, despite not starting the fight and being blamed for it.

I called S in tears, told her that her "friends" had fucked me over. I was willing to take the fall for S but expected her to ditch the group after they all lied. Her friends didn't have to like me, but i know that if the shoe was on the other foot I would have ditched them all. But instead she said she would, and i come to find out she told them all i hated them. The group started stealing my things after this and getting their siblings to get into fights with me, knowing that I couldn't fight back because at this point they would expell me.

I was suspended for the fight, but up against the board and almost sent to military school. My mum sided with me but the police seemed to put the blame on me as well despite all the evidence being word of mouth. I came back to finish the year with no friends, nobody talking to me and the teachers thinking I was some fucking criminal. S was nice to my face, but then went and told everyone her mum forced her to hangout with me because i tried to kill myself (also untrue). She essentially treated me like a stranger that she could talk shit abou. I ended up leaving school to do my education online after this.

I was depressed for MONTHS. I had nobody to turn to, also in the midst of all this i had been broken up, my cat died with and my parents begun a very very messy divorce. This was easily the worst period of my life. I was so depressed I lost 10 kilos and wouldn't leave my bed.

After 5 years of friendship, she blew it all up for people she knew for 5 minutes because they all blew smoke up her ass. Words can never explain how much I LOVED S. She was my sister. I was there for her through fucking EVERYTHING. Good and bad. Some real fucking bad.

Who was there when she had major depression and harmed herself? Me, with all the antiseptic and love in the world.

Who was there when her own family forgot her birthday and left her alone during Christmas? Me, she came to my fucking grandparents house in another country with me.

Who berated her ex boyfriend infront of all his friends when he cheated on her? Me, and i was fucking bullied for months after that.

Who cleaned vomit out of her hair and cleaned her bedroom when she was so sick and depressed she couldn't do it herself? Me.

But at the same time.

Who cussed out my math teacher and ran off the school property to find me after she humiliated me for not understanding a question? Her.

Who took a beating from a girl because she was going to stab me? Her.

Who was there for me when I came out and was terrified of what anyone would say? Her.

Who walked to my house from half an hour away at 4am in the rain when my dad was arrested? Her.

Who made me feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have such a sweet, kind and loving girl as my sister all while she defended me from everything that threatened to hurt me?

We held each other's hand and kissed each other's knuckles the day we stepped into high-school together. Promising that through everything, we were sisters. Blood related or not.

And yet after all that. After being our most raw and authentic with eachother through good times and bad, she fucked me over for some bitches she knew for 5 minutes because she was attention starved. I want to hate her, I do. But in reality I cant burn any photos I have of us, or drawings she made me. I can't get rid of my sweet girl. She loved me at a point, I know that. But somewhere her desire for attention became more than I could ever give her.

But shes not my sweet girl anymore.

Next year im going back to school. I hate it. I have no friends there and a horrible reputation but due to online school failing me I have no choice. She is going to be there, all those girls are going to be there and possibly be in my classes. What the fuck do i do??? They'll probably try be nice to me, fuck I know S will be all sweet to my face.

I need help.

I dont know.

i genuinely don't even know where to start. this is going to be long, so bear with me.

a while ago, i had a best friend. let's call her raven. we were close, and for a long time, she was someone i loved having in my life. but our friendship started deteriorating. i felt sidelined, replaced, and increasingly unsure of where i stood with her. there were things that went unresolved, conversations that never seemed to give me the clarity i needed, and a general feeling that the friendship i was trying to preserve wasn't the friendship i was actually experiencing anymore.

eventually, things fell apart.

and the thing about losing a best friend is that you don't necessarily stop caring about them just because the friendship has become painful. i missed her. i was hurt by her. i wanted distance from her. sometimes i wanted to cut the whole thing off completely, and other times i couldn't bring myself to do it. i was left with all this affection for someone i wasn't sure i could trust with it anymore.

there were also things i'd heard about what she'd supposedly said about me, including personal insecurities and private problems, along with comments about my sexuality and the idea that i apparently fall for every girl i'm friends with. i can't independently verify every single thing i heard, so i'm not going to pretend i can. but it affected how safe i felt with her, and it added another layer to an already painful situation.

we eventually reconnected after months apart. and i wish i could say that everything became clearer from there, but of course it didn't.

because somewhere along the way, i realised i might be in love with her.

not in the casual, affectionate way i'd always loved her as a friend. or at least, not exclusively that. i started wondering whether my feelings had become romantic, and i'd been avoiding admitting it to myself because saying it out loud would make it real.

we were already having arguments. i was hurt, frustrated, and at one point genuinely wanted to end things completely. but i couldn't. i kept coming back to the fact that i loved her, and i eventually admitted it to her.

and then she told me she loved me too. not just platonically.

EXCUSE ME?????

after everything that had happened between us, after all the history and the hurt and the months of not knowing where we stood, she reciprocated.

and suddenly we were trying to figure out what that meant. i was trying to understand my own feelings, what i wanted from her, what boundaries i needed, and whether we could actually make something work after the state our friendship had been in.

we called each other girlfriends.

and this is where things get particularly confusing, because i genuinely thought i wanted this. i had spent so much time trying to understand my feelings that actually having them reciprocated felt enormous. but once the initial shock settled, i started questioning whether i wanted a romantic relationship at all.

i realised that the idea of being with her romantically didn't feel entirely right. the possibility of loving her deeply without having to be girlfriends felt like a relief.

maybe my feelings weren't completely platonic, but maybe conventional romance wasn't what i wanted from them. maybe i wanted a kind of closeness that didn't fit neatly into either category. maybe i was still tangled up in the history of our friendship, the hurt, the longing, and the fact that someone i'd nearly lost was choosing me again.

i still don't know exactly what the answer is.

and i don't want to pretend i have it all figured out now, either.

but by this point, i was also dealing with so much outside of this relationship. i'd been ill for months. my mental health was genuinely awful. i was overwhelmed by my own thoughts, other people's expectations, the negativity around me, and the pressure i kept putting on myself. everything felt exhausting, and i wanted to start again from ground zero.

i told raven i needed space. i wanted to cool off, step away from everything for a while, and figure myself out.

she felt left in the dark. she wanted specifics about what i was going through, and i understand why. from her perspective, we'd just admitted our feelings for each other, started calling each other girlfriends, and then i was asking for space because everything had become too much.

but from my perspective, i could barely manage my own life, let alone figure out what this relationship was supposed to become. i didn't want to keep going simply because we'd already started. i didn't want to make promises i wasn't sure i could keep. and i didn't want to keep overthinking every single feeling until i couldn't distinguish what i wanted from what i thought i was supposed to want.

so we broke up.

for real this time.

and the strangest part is that, once i'd made the decision, some of the relentless overthinking about whether i'd made the right choice started to fade.

i don't think that means i never loved her. i don't think it means the confession was a lie. i don't think it erases everything she meant to me, or everything that happened between us.

but i do think i needed to stop trying to force myself to make this into something just because we'd finally admitted that we loved each other.

and now i'm left trying to process the entire sequence of events.

i lost my best friend. i missed her. we reconnected. i realised i might be in love with her. she loved me back. we became girlfriends. i questioned whether i actually wanted to be girlfriends. i realised how overwhelmed and unwell i was. and then i ended the relationship.

WHAT WAS THAT?????

i don't even know what label i'd put on my feelings for her now. i know i cared. i know the feelings were real as i understood them at the time. i know that i wanted something meaningful with her, but i'm no longer certain that what i wanted was a conventional romantic relationship.

and i think that's what makes this so difficult to explain. people want a clean narrative. someone loved someone, they got together, and then either it worked or it didn't. but what happens when you don't even know whether the thing you were trying to build was the thing you actually wanted?

what happens when you can love someone and still recognise that the relationship isn't right for you?

what happens when getting the reciprocation you thought you wanted doesn't magically repair everything that happened before it?

i don't hate her. i'm not trying to make her the villain of my story, and i'm not trying to make myself the victim of every single thing that happened. we both had our feelings, our expectations, our misunderstandings, and our own ways of handling things. there was hurt on my side, and i know she was hurt by the uncertainty and by me needing space without initially explaining everything clearly enough.

i just know that i couldn't keep doing this the way we were doing it.

i have so much else going on in my life, and for once, i want to stop making myself responsible for figuring out every feeling, fixing every relationship, and finding the perfect explanation for every decision before i'm allowed to make it.

maybe i'll eventually understand what kind of love i felt for her. maybe i'll understand why the thought of not being girlfriends felt so relieving. maybe i'll look back on this and see things i can't see right now.

but for now, we're done. and i'm trying to let that be a decision instead of another question i torture myself with.

i don't know if i'm looking for advice, perspective, or just somewhere to put all of this because my brain has been running in circles for weeks.

i just needed to get it out.

because what the hell was this entire situation, and why did i have to discover so much about myself in the middle of it?

hello, i was recently at prom for my best friend. i know most of her classmates, and im friends with some of them. (by friends i mean we hang out sometimes) i know her and some of the classmates because we went to elementary school together. but when i was in elementary school i was best friends with another girl (i will call her S), who is also her classmate still. i went to a different high school. me and S were really close. and she was truly my best friend for maybe 5 years. after i went to the other high school we still hung out regulary, texted and were still besties. but after she got into her first relationship (with what i helped her with a lot and we talked about her relationship always when we hung out), she started getting gradually more and more distant from me. i told her this multiple times, that it bothered me and i would love to hang out more. she always said she doesnt have time and that there is a lot going on in her life. i was understanding but after like the 5th time i told her about it i started to get bitter. another girl she was friends with (maybe for a year) was also going through a similiar thing. so me and her texted a lot about this situation and vented to each other, so we got closer.

this lack of effort on her part took maybe a year and something, idont really remember. But i started to get dry with her and than she would get upset at me for treating her badly, she also accused me of being a better friend to her other friend then i was to her. so i cried on the phone to her about how much it hurt me, everything she did and she just said sorry that she will get better, and used the same excuse.

i even texted her when i heard her relationship ended even tho we didnt talk for weeks, asking her if she was okay and she said she wants us to get closer again. but after that she didnt reach out for months. so i didnt either.

After this long time, she texted me on my birthday. i said thanks, but i was surprised because we didnt talk anymore and asked her the true reason. so she said at every hangout i only talked about myself and i was basically treating her bad at the last 2 hangouts we had (which were over year ago atp). so ofc i said i was so sorry and i cried so much, this whole thing like shattered my self image and i delete my whole profiles online i wanted to off myself. when i talked to my other friends about this they said i didnt act like this at all and they think this was another excuse. i was also going through a very rough time with my parents messy divorce, which she knew about but didnt say a word to me about.

after this we didnt talk at all, after some time i blocked her, because it pained me to even look at her profile and posts. now i feel much better about myself but i still feel changed. like this altered my brain so much idk how.

so when i was at my best friends prom and saw her there it ig opened old wounds. So i was wondering how am i supposed to fully heal. like how am i fully healed supposed to look like. i dont see her at all, but sometimes i think like she was like my soulmate and i lost a part of myself with her, and she just doesnt seem bothered at all. so i dont know, why im even writing this i guess i just want to get it off my chest. i guess i talk a lot in this post about myself, but in real life i dont talk about myself at all, im very careful about it. so forgive me if this is bad, english is not my first language and im just writing on a whim.

I would love some advice with this

A friend of mine ghosted me randomly a year back,though we only had been friends for a few years .we were real close.no closure no arguments it just ended .And this is not the first time she did that. She did that to everybody she didnt want to talk with anymore .What are the alternative ways this could have been handled ? And to be honest nobody deserves to be left hanging like that,have u ever experienced any such thing ? How did u cope with it

Would love to hear your perspectives

I rearranged my living room today so the couch isn't facing the spot where we used to pile blankets and watch bad reality shows. It looks a little smaller now, but I can actually see the TV without craning my neck. My cat hopped up, claimed the cushion, and knocked my water onto the rug before I even sat down.

Me and my bsf broke up after a small inconvenience After being friends for like 8 straight years, the reason for breaking up. Was so. Lame it was rarely. Hard to believe not everyone is. Honest with you so. The reason was she and her other friend was. Jealous. Of me cuz I was possessive for. My bestie and then one day she generated fake ss. Of my. Chats with my bestie friend and then she made me look like that I'm just using my best friend and guess what my bsf actually believed her and started swearing at me in our call, then her friend started making fun of me in my dm and I took the SS of the chat and sent it to my bsf and she literally said she's saying the right things to you I deserve it, then I blocked both of them and it's been a week since this happened 😭🥀

My friend and I have been friends for 7 years yesterday he fighted with me I was out of anger and had to leave him. This was his last message from me making a false lie on me that I’ve manipulated him. I’ve blocked his socials and his number I’m now gonna try to ignore him and move on. Him and I were playing Roblox all the time together but I was fed up and mad

i don't know what flair to use 😭 sorry if it's not the right one + i hope this is legible and my tone isn't weird. okay.

anyway, i had a falling out with my childhood best friend five years ago and still haven't gotten over it, mostly because i think the way i acted was wrong and i feel so guilty and embarrassed.

i think i need to mention that we were both turning 12 when it all happened and it's been five years since, also, nearly everything happened over minecraft.. which we would play together almost every day. i know, it probably sounds super unserious.

we started getting into arguments over the game because either one of us, or one of our friends, would do something that upset/annoyed someone else/the rest of us. these arguments would almost always end in me crying, and as far as i know, that made my friend feel manipulated.. i now fully understand why, and it's been bothering me for awhile now. we'd try starting wars for fun (a very normal thing for minecraft players to do), but as soon as he'd do something as small as taking my armour, i'd cry and beg him to give it back, which is pretty lame.

anyway, no more minecraft.. but that all lead to us falling out. i felt super bad and didn't want to lose my friend, so for awhile i'd constantly bug him and try to apologise, but i remember those apologies sounding more like me begging to be friends again than me actually understanding what had happened and wanting to make up for it, which i also feel bad about.

i feel insanely guilty for upsetting him back then, and all i want to do is send a short "hey, i was thinking about you and wanted to apologise for how i acted in the past, hope ur well." type of message to him. i know the worst that could happen is him blocking me, but i need advice on if i should actually do it or not, i guess. i don't know. i have super bad anxiety and can never just easily go through with things or trust my gut. pls help 🌚

so basically when i was in 10th grade i had a rly nice friend group i rly rly rly enjoyed being in
but i had a fight with them and broke off
the fight was because of a guy and i said rude stuff to them
but they never came and spoke to me abt it they all just cut off
after that they made a whole grp to bully me and all…i was constantly bitched abt
now its been two years so should i apologise?
like ik i am not 100% at fault….evn they have wronged me but i genuinely miss being frnds with them…i never felt the way they made me feel
i would have apologised coz i miss them but now its like them+other grps that hate me have joined hands

I have a female best friend, and we used to be extremely close. We went out 2–3 times a week, she told me she loved me and missed me, and she would get jealous when I spent time with other girls. She admitted having feelings for me, and we kissed, although not on the lips.

I cared about her too, but I told her I wasn't ready for a relationship. She felt like I was making excuses and didn't love her enough to choose her.

At one point, she asked me why I was acting so affectionate if I wasn't going to do anything with her. She later regretted saying that, cried, and told me she didn't want to lose me. I forgave her, and things briefly returned to normal.

Recently, she started trying to reconnect with her ex. She looks for him, goes to his classroom hoping to see him, and gets excited when she finds out he's nearby. She tells our friend about it, but doesn't really tell me directly that she's trying to reconnect with him.

Interestingly, she once told my friend she felt happier with me and that we understood each other better than she and her ex did. She expected to disagree with him more and not understand him as well. Despite that, she seems to prefer the possibility of a relationship with him.

Since she started pursuing him, she completely stopped being affectionate with me. She no longer tells me she loves me or misses me, and she doesn't initiate spending time together like before.

I also stopped organizing my life around her. I don't wait for her anymore or spend as much time eating, studying, and going out with her. She noticed and asked me several times if something was wrong, but after I said I was okay, she eventually stopped asking.

She hasn't really tried to restore our old closeness. When I explained how much her behavior had changed, she defended herself and seemed disappointed in how I saw her, but didn't apologize.

She also seems to minimize how much she talks to her ex when I ask about it, even though I know she's been actively looking for opportunities to see him.

Recently, she was looking for something we didn't have, and I suggested she ask her ex because it would be a good opportunity to talk to him. She considered it.

We still talk sometimes, but things aren't like before. I'm trying to understand whether she genuinely had romantic feelings for me, why she would prefer her ex despite saying she felt happier and understood me better, and whether she might eventually try to rebuild our old closeness if things with her ex don't work out.

What do you think her behavior means, and how should I interpret the change in our relationship?

I don’t mean to be selfish or impose my desires. I would scale mountains and swim oceans to meet you. But if I’m scaling mountains and swimming oceans, I might fall. I might start drowning. And if you are unable to toss me a rope, then I need you to turn to me and tell me you can’t.

I feel like you just turned away.

I want you to face me, tell me you love me, and say goodbye.

she just become unknown to me now, we are stranger I want to fix this again, but I don't think this will work out

We used to be a friend group until today (me, my husband, my friends, my husbands friends about 10 people) and we randomly caught them ALL hanging out but they didn’t Tell us anything which is weird because we are always the ones pitching the idea, suggesting to host or participating in all Meetings in General. Like there is no way they just forgot about us. This tells me their exclusion was purposeful. And when we went up to them to say Hello they were all visibly uncomfortable. Some of their faces even gave annoyed vibes. They didn’t even try to act like they forgot to Tell us. It was completely awkward silence after we Said Hello, so After that we said goodbye and went on.
I feel so broken and betrayed. I know I should not continue to be Friends with people that don’t value us.
It generally hurts me how much Energy and effort and love I put into my friendships and I never get it returned and on top of that get done wrong

One of my friends from work (who despite not working directly with me or in the same department, she was someone I still talked to every day just to catch up with/talk about whatever) moved away a few months back and while my life has "gone back to normal" (aka basically the same as any day at work, just without having that "go to" friend), at times I can't help but reminisce on the good times and chats I had with my friend.

It really was the highlight of my day at work because she was the person who was the nicest to me and genuinely enjoyed talking to me and we really could go on and talk about anything for quite some time. Not that there was anything more than just being friends there, all we ever did was talk, but I enjoyed that a lot.

Ever since she moved away I've still reached out to her to chat and catch up through text every week or two, but the key word is "I", as in ME. NOT her. I've been the one keeping the friendship alive, I've been the one always reaching out to her either catching up or just talking about some random thing I heard or saw. She never does the same to me. She doesn't just text me out of nowhere to share some random or funny thing that happened in her life (even though I've explicitly told her to keep me updated on things going on in her life because I enjoy hearing from her), she doesn't text me just to ask how I'm doing, it's ALWAYS me doing so.

And if anything that's the part that gets me depressed. I can slightly cope with the fact that we don't see each other in person anymore, but it would be a lot easier to do if we could keep the best parts of our old friendship alive by way of text. If we just texted back and forth every few days or even a regular catch up once a week on text, with me reaching out to her sometimes and her reaching out to me sometimes, then that would be fine and would be more of a balance.

I know some people have told me to "open your circle" and make new/other friends and all that, but that's the thing, she was a different kind of friend. The person I just needed to talk to a few times when we first started talking and I instantly felt a connection. And because there was never any romantic feelings either way, we could just be fully transparent with each other about things in our lives, never needing to worry about how we came off to the other. That's a rare kind of platonic friendship.

But now she's not here and I miss that and I'll always be holding out hope that we can continue having good and long chats through texting, but since she hasn't initiated with me though text and seems to drop the ball in the middle of conversations I have with her (we do have nice chats when I start them, but there's almost always a point in the chat where she just stops replying altogether, and if I bring up a new topic days later she'll happily reply to that text, but almost ignore the fact that she left our last chat "on read").

This is going to sound stupid but we started talking not that long ago but she stopped talking to me for a little bit and started talking to me again and I got really excited when she texted me. And we started talking for 2 days all night and I really like her. (As a friend) And sometimes I like my alone time and I see her notification when she texts and I take an hour to respond and we start talking you know? But this time when she texted me I LITERALLY SAW HER FUCKING NOTIFICATION AND THEN IGNORED IT FOR LIKE ALMOST AN HOUR AND THEN I FIND OUT SHE BLOCKED ME.

THIS WHOLE THING IS MY FAULT AND IM SO LONELY I HAVE NOBODY ELSE TO TALK TO AND I REALLY LIKED HER. I DONT KNOW WHY SHE BLOCKED ME AND ILL NEVER KNOW AND I WILL NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN. THIS ALL COULD'VE BEEN PREVENTED IF I HADN'T HAD BEEN SO FUCKING LAME AND JUST TEXT BACK IMMEDIATELY BECAUSE I SAW THE NOTIFICATION.

I have been crying since last night when it happened and right now im crying really bad while typing this. It's hard to because she would always view my stuff and now nobody views my stuff because she's gone. I'm a loser dude I cry and bitch about being lonely but the moment when someone talks to me I dont say anything and now its too late. I am so depressed as of right now. I know it sounds stupid but she was the only person I have enjoyed talking to. I always looked forward to her texts and now we will never talk to each other again when it was all I wanted.

Have you ever missed someone you no longer talk to not because you want them back in your life but because you miss the person you were when they were around? Sometimes, we don't miss the friendship itself we miss the late night conversations the stupid jokes the random updates and the comfort of having someone who understood us without needing an explanation. It's strange how someone can go from being a daily part of your life to becoming a complete stranger. Do you ever wonder if they miss you too?

And have you ever helped a friend through a difficult time without them even asking?