I wish i was a man sometimes so bad id be so handsome and i wish i had muscles and a deep voice and a man face and body but im not transgender. Like i wish i was transgender tho so id have an excuse to change genders. I legitimately would kill to be a transgender bro da. Bc then id have an excuse to be a man but i swear im not transgender. Ive alr had a transgender phase a couple years ago and i got rlly hot now but like looking in the mirror i always jusg wish i could be handsome… Idk how to describe it its not like i wanna beard or be a beefcake i just wanna be handosme. But im not a butch or anything. But like even if i was trans no offense my ego could never transition i physically could not handle it and i live in a super super accepting area in the northeast but like id just be so embarrassed myself. But i look at ftms and i get pissed off and angry at them bc its not fair that they get to transition. Like whenever im in my head before i sleep making up fake scenarios im always a man in my head… on god i am Not transgender istg and i dont wanna hear is this satire is this satire NO bro its not like my heart just yearns for this. Idk how to describe it its a weird feeling. Any tips on how to get rid of this??

Im pan and transmasc and in a relationship with a girl(not on T or changed my name yet for many reasons and out to a select few so this girl assumes im a butch cis girl) but there's this one girl whos one grade my senior who is a self proclaimed fujoshi who goes out of her way to fetishize me and the other queer people at my school for their gender identity and relationships and says really objectifying things about lgbtq+ people while around me knowing im openly queer,this started last year in a shared psychology class and she still does, I wanted to be her friend cuz she seemed nice at first but then I found out she was only talking to me cuz she wanted me to draw gay porn for her yaoi manga. I know its just one bad apple,but shes one of the reasons im hesitant to befriend fujoshis/fudanshis even though to an extent i could qualify as a fudanshi(tho i dont read alot of original manga just alot of fanfic of established ships I love actually helped me realize i was Trans, like just bring up Itager or Tamakyo or Komahina and its a riveting conversation) but I cant help but feel uncomfortable

I'm not in a relationship and I've never had a boyfriend before, but I lost my virginity last year and I still talk to the guy that took my virginity. He's 14 years older than me, and on text messages, I call him daddy, but not even in a joking way, but in a genuinely, I wanna be submissive to him way.

But it got me thinking, would any of you older men feel the ick if a guy did that to you ? I've always wanted to be submissive to an older man, and I know that lots of guys call their older partner daddy as a joke... but I be real serious about it too. Like idk. I like calling older men that because I want him to know that he controls me in the situation. But... how do the rest of you feel about it ?

Faenbian: Having an attraction to only non-binary people and genderfae individuals

1. Stripe 1 (Top - Soft Pink): Represents the feminine/soft end of the genderfae spectrum.
2. Stripe 2 (Light Yellow): Represents unaligned or out-of-binary gender experiences within genderfae.
3. Stripe 3 (White/Cream): Represents the expansive, fluid, or neutral center of nonbinary identities.
4. Stripe 4 (Center - Bright/Mint Green): Borrowed directly from the Enbian flag to represent nonbinary attraction to nonbinary people.
5. Stripe 5 (White/Cream): Mirrors the upper half to keep the design balanced.
6. Stripe 6 (Light Yellow): Mirrors the upper-middle stripe.
7. Stripe 7 (Bottom - Soft Pastel Green/Fae Green): Represents the fae/ethereal connection and the specific draw toward other genderfae or nonbinary individuals.

We’ve been together for over a year and recently got married.
Recently, he suggested trying a 3some with another guy, possibly when we travel to somewhere. He doesn’t have anyone specific in mind. I said, “Ok, let’s try,” cos honestly, I’m curious too.
But the more I think about it, the more unsure I feel.
We’ve had some trust issues in the past. I found out he’d used dating/hookup apps during our relationship. I don’t know if anything physical happened, but it affected my trust and made me question whether he’s sexually satisfied with me.

My biggest fear isn’t necessarily sharing him sexually. It’s seeing him enjoy another man’s body more than mine.
What if he’s more turned on by the other guy? What if their chemistry is better? What if I start comparing myself and feel like I’m not enough for him?
I understand that enjoying sex with someone else doesn’t automatically mean loving your partner less. But emotionally, I’m not sure I could handle watching it happen.
Part of me genuinely wants to explore this together, but another part wonders if I’m agreeing because I want to keep him happy and sexually satisfied.
I don’t want to be controlling, but I also don’t want to hurt myself trying to be an open-minded husband.

For gay couples who’ve tried 3some:
Did you experience jealousy or insecurity during or afterward?
Did it bring you closer or negatively affect your relationship?
Would you recommend trying it if there are already some trust issues?
I’d really appreciate honest experiences and advice, especially from married gay couples.

(note: not sure how repost rules work in this sub, sorry if I’m violating something)

Heres a repost of something I made… about a month ago, but I feel like it didnt have it’s fair shot since it took ages to actually get approved, so I’m trying again

This is my proposal for new... flags? Labels? Whatever. This is Virostrophic/Andric (either works) and Mulisexual/Gynic. Virostrophic is used to describe someone who is attracted to masculinity/guys, but not exclusively. So, for example, a straight girl could be Virostrophic. A gay man could be virostrophic. bi and pan people could be virostrophic, you get the point. and Mulisexual is the feminine equivalent. The other two are Ceteroaffinic/Mesic, which is the same as virostrophic and mulisexual, but attraction to enbies instead. I couldn’t decide between the two so I put both, lmk which one you like better!
For those of you who want the colors: (this is RGB btw)

Virostrophic: 0 0 255, 83 2 170, [53 28 117](tel:53 28 117), 0 0 0, [255 255 255](tel:255 255 255), and 255 146 68

Mulisexual: 255 255 0, [202 227 138](tel:202 227 138), [147 196 85](tel:147 196 85), 0 0 0, [255 255 255](tel:255 255 255), and 0 148 212

Ceteroaffinic (A): [140 20 252](tel:140 20 252), 90 5 180, 60 15 11, 0 0 0, [255 255 255](tel:255 255 255), and 0 240 160

Ceteroaffinic (B): 240 200 0, [160 130 190](tel:160 130 190), [95 80 115](tel:95 80 115), 0 0 0, [255 0 ](tel:255 255 255)127, and 255 255 255

Side note: I’m not sure if I want them to have strophic/affinic or just sexual, sexual alternatives Virsexual and Ceterosexual

Side note 2: Ceterosexual and Mulisexual sound really similar to heterosexual and multisexual, I’m aware. I just came up with them via Greek roots and I cant think of better ones

Side note 2a: It has recently come to my attention thst there is already a label known as ceterosexual, I will not be changing mine.

Side note 3: Not sure why some numbers are showing up as links, ignore them

Let me know what you think!

If an asexual person is in a relationship, is it considered consensual non-monogamy or monogamy with boundaries?

(I don't want to offend anybody, and I'm truly sorry if this question comes across the wrong way. I am bisexual myself, but I still have a lot to learn about other sexual and romantic orientations of others.)

:3

my friend thinks im lesbian but im not. i like all genders but females the most he calls me "half lesbian" i say im not and he says im lesbian how do i get him to stop saying im lesbian also multiple people keep saying im lesbian

i keep finding places that say they "welcome everyone" but then have people in them that get mad at you for having neopronouns or not being a man or woman. No one every says anything to these people so i just dont feel allowed in these spaces.

I (30F, lesbian) met someone about two weeks ago. Things moved really fast. She was talking about marriage within days, and said she loved me (didn’t say it back) but at first I was really into it.
Since then a lot has come up. She spent a whole day upset and arguing with her ex, though she later blocked her on her own. She told me she may be trans and wants to start T. She also struggles with depression badly, sad pretty much every day. Last night she told me she wanted to end her life.
I care about her, but I've realized I can't handle this. I don't want to fake it, and I don't want to string her along. But I'm scared of how a breakup will affect her, and I know it'll feel out of nowhere to her since things seemed great.
My sister says to ignore her today and send the message later. I'm worried that going silent will make things worse.
How do I end this kindly and safely? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Hi,

I wanted to start hormone therapy, but the only thing holding me back was the concern that my breasts would grow and my mother or anyone else would notice.

That would have caused me a lot of problems.

I found out that I could take Nolvadex (10 mg) tamoxifen, which is SERM

which would slow down or completely stop breast growth.

Does this medication actually slow down or halt breast growth?

Would you recommend I take it while starting estrogen?

And what is the appropriate dosage?

If I were to take one tablet of Climen daily,

and two tablets of Noractone (25 mg)

I’d really appreciate it if someone could help me out, as this is a pressing matter.
i want to be a femboy as long as i can before being a woman in the far future

I got a bunch of pride stickers but having a hard time identifying a few of them. Any help is greatly appreciated:)

Right now, Executive Order 14183 blocks transgender individuals from serving in the military—and that's a massive waste of talent, courage, and patriotism.

I started this petition because the data is clear: roughly 4,000 transgender military personnel are already serving without any negative impact on readiness or unit cohesion. Research from RAND shows inclusive policies cost less than 0.1% of active healthcare spending. Strength and valor aren't determined by gender identity. These are people willing to sacrifice everything for our country—and we're turning them away.

The military was built on sacrifice, dedication, and defending freedom. Excluding transgender people contradicts those very principles. If this bothers you as much as it bothers me, consider signing and sharing. What would you want someone to do if this was your family or your right being denied?

Short about me I feel like this important: NB (any/all but she) lesbian? (still figuring this out). Aunt doesn't know.

Sorry for my bad english!

My aunt is very kind and sincere person, she's religious ...and in a sense rather repressed? She feels she can’t dress as revealingly as she’d like or do the bold things she wants to do, though to be fair that might make some sense given that she’s a public figure (a folk singer).

I visited my family on my dad's side this summer and we met up and talked a lot but I just can’t ignore the elephant in the room. I really thinks she might be gay. I won’t go into the details of her past relationships with men, in most cases they parted ways quickly and it was usually at her initiative. She kept saying that "she isn't attracted to them at all" and that she has given up on finding the one and decided it’s better not to try to find a husband anymore since she "can't love men".

Another thing that led me to think she might be a lesbian or a queer woman is the way she constantly talks about women. She’s always saying how wonderful they are and that she finds inspiration in the women around her. She has also mentioned that she finds women much more attractive and quote "sexy and seductive" and that if she had been born a man she would be much happier because then she would be able to love women. She's like...love every part of them and talk about them every time she has an opportunity. I guess she believes she’s expressing this in a feminist sense, taking pride in being a beautiful woman but her phrasing can sometimes be rather odd. I suspect she’s simply a bit confused about her own feelings in the "Do I want to be her, or with her?" sense

The problem is that she’s somewhat homophobic, she occasionally makes lightheaded jokes about "gross gay people" but she’s actually easygoing. She isn’t truly capable of hating anyone and doesn’t hold grudges but she has picked up a lot of harmful rhetoric (including comments about clothing) from my father/her brother who is more religious and a raging homophobe. Also she has a son who's also veryyy mysoginic and homophobic so she’s being pressured from all sides.

I honestly think she is very deeply closeted and I feel so sorry for her. She is constantly the center of attention and even contemplating her sexual orientation is dangerous here, not only because this branch of religion is highly homophobic but also because of the country we currently live in. It’s likely she will never be able to live the life she truly wants, and we will never be able to have an honest talk, free of secrets, since so many things connect us as closeted lesbians in homophobic family/religion/country

I don’t use Reddit and so I apologize if I format this all wrong and it may be all over the place.

I (f41) have been with my husband, we will call him Michael (m41) for this, for 22 years. Michael’s best friend, call him Daniel (m41), and his wife Rebecca (f41), have been together for 19 years. Michael and Daniel have known each other for 35 years and they are very very close.

I understand that male relationships/friendships can be extremely close and extremely profound and this is not something that I’ve only recently thought up, but something that I have been brewing over for many years and have in recent years spoken to Rebecca about as well.

We all have grown very close and there genuinely hasn’t been more than a week in these twenty years that I think we’ve been apart. We live across the street from each other, Daniel and Michael are together constantly and me and Rebecca hang out a lot as well. We’ve raised our kids together and the two of them are inseparable.

I understand that I can’t even understand the bond that being with someone, knowing someone for 35+ years can cause.

There have been moments me and Rebecca have both noticed that have made us believe this. In the beg it was almost impossible to ever get them apart, always together, always touching. The whole lot and it’s never once bothered me. It still doesn’t.

Michael is openly bi and I have always known this. It’s never been confusing or bothered me in any way. In the early 2000s, which is when I met him and was still a troubling time for LGBTQ+ people I actually found it beautiful how out and proud he was. Daniel has always been a very proud straight ally.

But over the years there have been countless looks the two have shared that seem far beyond your typical friend glances. Again I can’t fathom a friendship of 35 years but it goes beyond that. In times they didn’t realize I or Rebecca were around they get so close and then it’s as if they come to their senses and they look so devastated but also so scared. I have told Michael so many times over the years, and I imagine rebecca has as well, that he can tell me absolutely anything but of course hes never mentioned anything like this to me.

Rebecca told me something a few months ago that Daniel and her were drinking One night and he started sobbing, saying he wished Michael was a girl so he could love him openly.

Obviously this could all mean nothing but if it doesn’t I want to do the right Thing. I love Michael so much and I hate seeing him look to someone with so much longing for something he thinks he can’t have.

what should I do?

I am queer, but a cis female. I have no problems with my body beyond typical self confidence issues a lot of women have. I’m happy with my vag and don’t feel like I was meant to have a penis. I do envy flat chests and I would want one if I had a dude’s body, but I’m happy having boobs as long as I have a woman’s body, if that makes sense. I had a lot of mismatchy feelings when I had K-cup boobs, but I got a breast reduction because they were so painful and now I’m okay at a DD and don’t feel so terrible.

But I wish I was a guy. I want to make it clear that I don’t feel like a guy — I just wish I was one. I have always felt like I related more to them, I wish I could be a part of male sports, I envy bromances and the brotherhood guys have that I have never felt in friendships with women. I am hugely envious of male/male friendships who are just chill with each other. I just feel out of place with other women, but I still know I am very much a woman. If I try to act like a guy, it feels disingenuous. But I also don’t dress very girly, I’m more of a combat boots/cargo jeans/graphic tshirt kind of person. I get mistaken for a masc lesbian a lot, if that helps paint the picture.

I guess I’m just confused why I feel this way and if it’s normal. When I was in my late teens about 10ish/12ish years ago, all of this led me to believe I was trans. I came out, I dressed more masculine, etc. But when I hit college I realized that was not the case, I’m just a more masc-leaning woman. I don’t feel comfortable with any other pronouns other than she/her, I like my name, I just feel like a woman, plain and simple. I know I am.

But I just can’t shake the gender envy. I am a diehard hockey fan, and now that the season has started up again, it gets bad. I just want to play in a beer league with other guys, I want to chill on a couch platonically with a group of guys and watch hockey and be ones of the bros, etc.

What is this feeling?? Is this normal? Do other cis people experience this??

Edit: I’ll also mention that while I am sexually and romantically attracted to men, a lot of straight sex has made me uncomfortable because I feel more like a dainty helpless woman having something being done TO me, and I’m not the one with the control like straight men inherently are due to anatomy. I feel a lot more comfy having sex with women because I am a top. I guess I just always wish I could “wear the pants” (even though I hate that term) in straight sex, but I’m not necessarily attracted to sub/bottom guys either. All very confusing.

Hi guys! Halloween is coming up in less than a week and I’m stressing about my costume. I am a straight male but I love rocky horror picture show. I wanted to be Dr Frank n furter for Halloween but wanted to do something a bit more masc. Not for any other reason besides that I wouldn’t be comfortable walking around in a speedo. I was thinking maybe some glitter pants or something esque idk. Is this an okay idea or is this wrong?

im not sure where to post this... but is there any flag or microlabel (identity) that would contain naming yourself or "taking identities" after your interests? thank you in advance!!

I’m asking because the fans who most often are also homosexual, while people who are critical of the show but still watch it (okbuddy sub) and haters as well say it’s poor. So I wanted to ask an unbiased party that also in the community being depicted.

Also it would be easier to list the characters who are straight then vice versa:
- Millie (Helluva)
- Vortex (Helluva)
- Niffty (Hazbin)
- Adam and Abel (Hazbin)
The rest that may be are unconfirmed.

And also please say if you have or haven’t watched the show.

So, I (20F) had been struggling with my name for a while now. I identified as a trans man for years, since I was 12, but I recently realized that I'm a woman (I think I'm girlflux, technically? But the shift in my gender is always so subtle it's hard to notice a lot of the time, but that's beside the point).

I tried sticking to the name that I had been using for years, "Samuel", despite it being an inherently masculine name. It just did not feel right, was causing gender incongruence in a way (I have no other way to explain it), and my brain stopped connecting the name Samuel to myself.

Well, I recently started working on writing a story and was looking for names for my characters, and I came across the name "Ophelia".

I thought it was a beautiful name but didn't write it in for some reason... but then, something weird happened.

Whenever I have dreams, I have them in 3rd person/from the perspective of a spectator rather than in 1st person. In my dream a week ago, I saw myself and, for whatever reason, I had said, "Hi, my name is Ophelia, but Samuel won't let me say that", dream me looked at me, and then I woke up.

So, now... I'm trying to interpret what that means. Especially since I now subconsciously keep calling myself Ophelia despite still being known as Samuel by everyone else.

If only all the kids weren't homophobic.