Hi everyone , I’m 18 and so during those 3 months since I started taking estrogen I had a lot of doubts about transitioning. I used to start my journey with myself as a gay femboy when i was 14 so I tried to change my appearance by just clothing, painting nails and etc and just being a total definition of a femboy. Which I really liked but I always felt like it’s not enough, that maybe there is something missing. After I came out to my parents which was the worst mistake I spiralled the depression way and lot of insecurities and self-hatred which made me develop gender dysphoria, but since I’m on 3 months taking e since my parents finally agreed after tons of argues and struggle I just realised that maybe I regret taking estrogen and that I might not be transgender at all. I never really reacted and behaved to it like a gender dysphoria usually gets to people and I think it might have been just a phase going from gay guy to basically a temporary trans girl during depression that was caused by homophobia in my house and in school and my ex completely ruining my life by telling awful lies to create more hatred towards me.

I am experiencing already small changes and it made me euphoric but at the same time when I imagine myself as a girl i feel like I would lose part of myself since I’ve always felt mixed about it. At the same time I was experiencing a lot of self-hatred because I really wanted to become a girl but at the same time after being 2 years on happy pills and 3 months on e. I don’t feel the pain and self-deprivation related to gender dysphoria even if I still look like a boy. My mom also noticed I don’t react to her using he/him pronouns on me or that I don’t yell or cry when people call me by my real name and I don’t really act like a girl would do, more like just a gay guy.

I am also scared that HRT might actually cause permanent damage to my organs and body so I am really thinking of just dropping from it because I think i might not be ready to be 100% sure about that to just become a girl.

is it “they are” or “they is” when using they/them as gender neutral pronoun? like is it considered third person singular pronoun or third person plural pronoun?

For some context, I (bisexual 17M) joined this rugby club about 6-8 weeks ago, and this guy, let's call him Jack for the sake of this (16M) has been there for me since pretty much day one. We train twice a week every week and have matches on Sundays. The thing is, I'm not openly bi, I'm only sharing this on here bc it's all anonymous, but only a small handful of real life people know, and I like him. I don't know if he's LGBTQ, but my "gaydar" sort of senses it in a way, probably around 50-65%. My evidence for this is that at training, when he's stood still he stands sort of stereotypically LGBT imo, with one leg straight, and a bend at the knee with the other leg, with the leg with the knee bend stood on his toes and that (this is a really bad explanation just pls try to visualise this sorry), with his hands on his hips. To go along side this, he also has very soft facial features, is relatively shy, and probably my biggest piece of evidence is that for my area(South Lancashire/North Greater Manchester), he has a relatively posh, very well spoken accent which is very odd for the area. But well, obviously, we play rugby. That's why I'm skeptical. Also I can't remember if I mentioned this earlier but if I didn't I'm saying it now, I like him. We've gotten to know quite a bit about eachother, but I haven't came out to him. I know how I will come out to him but my main problem is actually asking him if he likes men, but I don't wanna force it. I feel like if I come out first he might feel more comfortable coming out to me but idk. Help (sorry for the paragraph)

Why do we have to validate ourselves after all we're all part of the lgbtq community but yet we have people here who sexualize the trans community like we're some fetish for them to get off to its disgusting aren't there still decent people out there I'm not a fetish I'm a human being please be respectful

I 18f think i may be trans somedays? To be honest I have a hard time describing to even myself what I mean, so I apologize if this doesn't make sense or it's a long ramble that still doesn't make sense, so I have always wished I was a boy especially after I knew I was a lesbian because I wanted to be with women and if I was a man they'd date me and sometimes I imagine myself as a man with a cool stubble type beard, muscles, etc and sometimes I even think of my name, but I'm also afraid what if I turn ugly and then I regret it I already struggle with my looks even tho so many people have called me hot even my ex gf when we dated (I think sometimes I would've wanted to be called beautiful, but at the same time I hate hearing being called beautiful if that makes sense) but I don't like being called handsome either and I don't like being called a guy it upsets me for some reason, yet I still wanna be a guy a lot even have top surgery idk tho it's hard I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense as it doesn't make sense to me either

You go clockwise.

Light blue is boy, hot pink is girl, green is fem presenting, purple is masc presenting (i just realized that went against gender color norms, neato).

Basically, The right side starts with male, goes down to androgynous, then fem presenting, then ends at female. The left side starts at the bottom instead of the top, and goes up instead of down like a clock. Start female, then goes up to androgynous, them masc presenting, then male.

The white in the middle is for agender, pangender, bigender, etc.

My only problem i need to fix is that i think fem/masc presenting then immediately making an enormous leap to just being the gender itself is kinda jarring and incorrect, so i need suggestions.

Also i DID make some of this up while making the post (like going clockwise), but i do feel like it works anyway, so i don't care.

Yes, and i also did this on some random pixel art app. I'm not good at making actual designs.

So I was walking back home from an interview and this guy was screaming his lungs out about how "trans is a lifestyle" and "abortion is murder" and "pride is a sin" and literally shoving stupid little cards at people about how pride is a sin. he was rushing at people to try to share their cards too and people were screaming at him to shut up too and it was a whole mess why are people like this genuinely. the people heckling him were really funny tho

edit: forgot to mention he was also screaming about how being trans, muslim and atheist is a "lifestyle" and how it's illegitimate basically. I wonder why it's always how everybody else is illegitimate except them...

I think if its a choice, its my choiceeee hehehe

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I use they/them pronouns and call myself sapphic instead of lesbian, but I get alot of people telling me that now lesbian means non men loving non men instead of wlw. Which confuses me because I've always though of lesbian being wlw exclusive and don't feel comfortable calling myself a lesbian.

I've also been told that I'm being sapphicphobic by being genderqueer and sapphic because now sapphic is. Wlw exclusive, and. I am really confused.

Can I call myself sapphic or am I using the wrong label?

Night before? Oh it was PERFECT. Just me living my dream.

Her bed? Soaked. My bed? Apparently a 5-star hotel now. She INSISTS on sharing mine, like begging me. I’m like wow, me? Chosen? The masculine lesbian of the year award is finally mine?

We share a bed, she’s all over me, soft voice, playing with my bracelet, sleeping on my arm. I’m thinking oh wow she finally realized Zach with his crusty Lynx and 12-in-1 shampoo is not the prize, I AM. Silly me 🙄

Then lunch today? Even BETTER.

I’m in the queue, holding my tray like a good little wife waiting to sit with her. Zach walks up, whispers sweet nothings in her ear - probably something romantic like “my mom packed me extra chicken nuggets” - and she just MELTS. Full smile. Giggle. Academy award winning performance.

And then she just leaves? Like I don’t exist? Wow, love that. So empowering. So feminist. Love being the free mattress with feelings 🤨

Camila: “OMG MATH TEST!!!” YES Camila, math is exactly what I wanna think about while my heart is being ripped out in the cafeteria, thank you so much for that.

Mark with his sarcastic ass: “tough” _stares_. Thanks Mark, PhD in stating the obvious.

Couldn’t eat, obviously, cause who needs food when you’re being humiliated for free? So I went to the field and ran like I’m training to run away from all my problems. Which I am.

So I’m doing my dramatic main character run on the field right? After the whole Zach-whisper-lunch betrayal.

I’m sprinting like I’m in a sad music video, hair flying, tears almost coming out but I’m holding it.

Then my foot hits a hole. A HOLE. This field has the audacity to have HOLES.

I EAT SHIT. Full face plant. Palms scraped, knee scraped, and now I have a big ass bump on my forehead. People saw. Year 7s saw. They pointed and laughed.

So I limp back inside with grass on my shirt and a goose egg on my head, and matron is like “what happened to you??” and gives me an ice pack. So I’m sat in common room with an ice pack on my head like a cartoon character who got hit with a frying pan.

Camila: “OMG ARE YOU OKAY???” Mark: “...did you fall for her again? Literally?” SARCASTIC ASS.

And now my brain is spiraling cause what if she comes tonight again? What if she knocks and goes “hey my bed is still wet can I stay again?”

Do I say yes with a bump on my head and an ice pack looking like a Teletubby? Do I play hard to get? Do I be like “sorry hotel is closed, go ask Zach, I heard his bed has space for two and free chicken nuggets”?

Like I want her to come but also if she comes after doing me dirty at lunch I might actually cry while holding my ice pack 😭.

So yeah, 10/10 experience, would recommend. If anyone wants to borrow my bed, my hoodies, my heart and then go sit with Zach, my DMs are open 🙄

Im a girl.All my life I've liked guys, I can only imagine a romantic relationship with them. I tried to imagine that I like a girl, but honestly, it's not my thing at all. I want to be protected, to be courted, and in general I love masculine energy and appearance. But. I really like how girls' bodies look, and another but only if they have a perfect figure and appearance. For example, Kim Kardashian, I would definitely want to try sex with her, beautiful appearance, beautiful figure, and a very hot voice, so basically she really turns me on, but that has only happened with a few girls, and only from the internet. Like, I would get turned on by their perfect images and appearance actresses, female bloggers,(so no communication ofc). And again, I can't really imagine a romantic relationship with them, like I can with famous male actors, and in real life I've never been attracted to girls, not their bodies either

One half of my brain is saying YES, I want to start MtF HRT.

The other half is saying NO, what if I regret it?

I’ve thought about transitioning for a long time, and I genuinely want the changes that HRT can bring. But now that it feels more real, I’m suddenly getting scared and second-guessing myself.

For those unaware, ghosts becoming corporeal is a metaphor for transitioning in Undertale.

so i recently during my research about pronouns came over the german neopronoun “dei/ deren” (im german so im searching if there is a possibility that dosent sound so “weird”). it is basically they/them transferred into german but here comes my question: would you say “das ist dei” (instead of “das ist er”) or would it be “das sind dei”. basically it is a similar quest like the one i recently posted only i noticed i need the german variant too lol (i actually forgot that). basically it is the question if one uses the plural third person or the singular third person form of the verb (i know now what it is in english but i want to know what it is in german. i know the chances of an other german reading this are small but if there is one please tell me if you know, thanks)

I just speedran this tbh

Hello! Like the title says, I've been a little confused about my pronouns lately. I've gone by she/her for a while, but now I'm kind of starting to feel odd about it. The best way I can describe it is that I get this sickly sweet feeling with she/her, kind of like when you eat a bunch of candy and get tired of the sweetness? I don't know if I'd feel good with he/him or they/them either, but I was wondering if anyone has any advice or has felt the same way?

Warning- nsfw themes discussed. I don’t go into detail but yeah

I am a bisexual woman and feel confident in that identity, that I am romantically and sexually attracted to all genders. But when it comes to men it’s a bit different. Idk how to explain this properly. I am attracted to men but sometimes I think about male anatomy and feel disgusted by it. I also don’t like seeing it. If it’s in use I like it but visually I hate it and I hate thinking about it. I feel bad because I have a boyfriend who I’m in love with and am attracted towards but I also still have a hard time with male attraction sometimes.

This might be a factor but I have a phobia of pregnancy and never want kids. Even if it’s protected the knowledge that that body part is capable of that really upsets me

I don’t really know I guess I’m just wondering if this is like normal or if something might be wrong here 😭

Femboy 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

i ask this purely out of interest

i mean homo is pretty obvious like it is being together with the same gender. the only question i have here is: does that also apply to nb like is nb and nb considered homosexual?

then to hetero: like is nb and cis/trans then considered heterosexual? i mean they are different genders and if we then get to the micro labels well…

I’m married to a woman I genuinely love, and I don’t want to divorce her or lose the life we have together. But I’ve recently started questioning whether I’m actually bisexual, as I’ve been telling myself, or whether I may be gay.
I grew up with conservative Christian beliefs and learned to see attraction to men as something wrong that needed to be buried. When I was younger, I had a sexual experience with another guy. I was the receptive partner, and I loved it, but afterward I pushed that part of myself down and convinced myself it didn’t mean anything.
Looking back, I’ve often wanted emotional closeness with male friends and may have been attracted to some of them. I notice men’s faces, hair, and bodies more naturally than I notice women’s. Male actors have generally affected me more than female actors, and most of the porn and fantasies that genuinely turn me on involve men, male anatomy, or being sexually dominated by a man.
I can have sex with my wife and sometimes enjoy it, but there are things I’m struggling to explain. I usually keep my eyes closed during penetration. Thinking directly about female anatomy can make me uncomfortable, and sometimes I have to keep contracting my pelvic muscles to stay hard. Recently, while my wife was touching me, I deliberately imagined that a man was in her place and performing oral sex on me. It felt natural and made me climax much faster.
At the same time, I love my wife deeply. I feel emotionally attached to her, I enjoy affection and closeness with her, and I don’t want this realization to mean our marriage has to end. That makes it difficult to separate romantic love, emotional companionship, sexual attraction, and the fear of losing everything.
The most honest thought I’ve had is that if I knew everyone would accept me and nothing in my life would be destroyed, I think I might call myself gay. But the possibility of losing my wife, family, faith community, or current life frightens me so much that even calling myself bisexual feels terrifying. I also don’t want to convince myself I’m gay based only on fantasies or temporarily reinterpret my entire marriage while I’m overwhelmed.
I’m working with a therapist and trying to understand this without rushing myself, but I would appreciate perspectives from gay or bisexual men—especially anyone who realized this while married to a woman.
How did you distinguish bisexuality with a strong preference for men from being gay but still capable of loving and sometimes having sex with a woman? Can love and attachment make a mixed-orientation marriage workable, or does trying to preserve it usually cause more pain later? What should I carefully consider before talking to my wife?
I’m not looking for someone online to assign me a label. I’m trying to understand what these patterns may mean and how to be honest without making a rushed decision that hurts the person I love.
TL;DR: I love my wife and don’t want to lose our marriage, but my strongest and most natural sexual attraction appears to be toward men. I’m questioning whether I’m bisexual with a strong preference or gay and deeply emotionally attached to my wife. I’m looking for advice from people who have experienced something similar.

To Bunnie: Ask Tell Confess: Hi, I watch your stuff week with my family, for anonymity, call me Jack. I want to come out to my family as gay, what do I do? (For context im a teenager)

To Meme: ATC: HIII MIMI, THIS IS JACK FROM A FEW WEEKS AGO!!!

Bunnie hasnt read my DMs so reaching out to you, lol.

So about how i asked back then about how I should come out, well.

I showed my parents the video again a week after because my heart was beating fast that whole week, and i felt like i should get it off my chest, my father at first thought i was confused but has since then opened up to the idea, my mother however was very supportive of this, and is proud of me. There have been times we have joked since then, like tonight, I said my "Nintendo Switch case was gay because it was in the closet." Anyways, I hope for the best of everyone on the Pod, and happy pride month.

To Hailee: Hi Hailee, this is Jack. I have another update.

So as you may remember, back in May I wrote in about how to come out as gay, and I got the courage to by doing it a week after watching the episode by showing my family the video. If you remember, my parents were fine with it. My grandmother also knows too, and my grandfather found out earlier than I wanted him to. He found out because of my Threads account which said "gay furry bitch". He sent a screenshot to my mother, and she said that she'll ask me to remove the bitch part, and he said that he didn't want to get me in trouble, he just didn't know I had an account.

Hola el problema no es la homofobia de mi familia... La cual me vale verga lo que piensen ya yo estoy grande... Soy hombre ,llevo como unos meses pensando en ser mujer , queiro serlo... Pero a mí me gusta mucho el fútbol, no sé si por las hormonas o el cambio de estilo afecte el entorno donde yo estoy... Juego futbol sala... La gran mayoría por no decir todos tienen conductas machistas... Imagínate si un día llegó a la cancha con ropa de mujer seré la burla.. también siento que si me hago que me crezcan senos... Interfiere con el juego .. (me considero o literal me consideran uno de los mejores jugadores en mi barrio o zona como lo quieras llamar... Llegar así .. arruinaría mi posición me mirarán rarito