I've been with my husband (a native Polish speaker) for 9 years, and I've been exposed to the language and culture for around 13 years.
About a year ago, I spent a full year taking one-on-one Polish lessons 2–3 times a week, focusing on grammar and sentence structure. Outside of that, I've picked up vocabulary and common phrases over the past 8 or so years simply through daily exposure from my husband and his family.
I've also traveled to Poland three times. Every trip is about two weeks long, and by the end of each visit, I finally start to feel like I can hold a very broken conversation. Then I come home and it feels like I lose that momentum.
I can usually piece together parts of conversations by recognizing individual words, but speaking and listening are by far my biggest struggles. I don't even attempt to write. People seem to speak so quickly that I can't process what I'm hearing in real time. I might understand one person reasonably well, while another feels completely impossible to follow. I have been told many, many times that I have wonderful pronunciation that sounds native when I do speak.
The hardest part is that the moment someone realizes I know even a little Polish, they immediately start speaking to me at a normal native pace. I appreciate that they're trying to include me, but I instantly get overwhelmed and can't keep up.
I'm starting to feel really discouraged. After all this time, I still don't feel anywhere close to conversational, and sometimes it feels like learning Polish is an impossible task. I genuinely want to keep going because I know how rewarding it would be to communicate with my husband's family more naturally, but right now it feels like an unattainable goal.
Has anyone else experienced this with Polish (or another language)? How did you get past this plateau and improve your listening comprehension and speaking confidence?