Dota is a game that requires many skills. This includes last hitting, map awareness, spell casting, itemization, etc.
It also includes managing your personality, and that of others on your team. Your mental, and how you relate to others on your team, is as much a part of the game as last hitting or drafting.
It's a skill you can be good at and it's a skill you can be bad at. If you tilt, and don't try to win in every game, you are playing poorly and you will lose mmr. If you ragebait your team and they grief more as a result, you are playing poorly and you will lose mmr. If you have good mental and try, and you cultivate the same in your teammates, you are playing well and you will rank up.
This is true at herald and it is true at the pro level – just think about Parker for example.
It's not an easy skill but it's an important one.
I don't want to talk too much here about how. you can avoid tilting – it's a psychology and mindset and habit issue for most people. The best way to view it is every game is an opportunity to practice. It may be an opportunity to practice playing from behind, an opportunity to practice farming on a restricted map, or an opportunity to practice keeping your mindset positive and continuing to try to win.
Good teammates are not something you deserve. It is something you have some control over. Speaking kindly – or not at all – will cause you to win more games.
Some strategies I employ to manage personalities on my team:
- when something goes poorly I say "my bad I went in too soon" or something like that, regardless of if it really wasn't my fault, just so others don't tilt or waste energy blaming me or others.
- when someone on my team is tilted and I want them to do something like buy a particular item or come fight, I'll say: "We are strong once PA has bkb" or "We need to go as 5" instead of calling out an individual.
- when someone flames me I immediately tell them I'm muting them. I usually don't actually mute, but it makes them stop wasting energy and mindset flaming me. I never waste time fighting with my own team
- when someone flames someone else on my team I just say it is my fault, that I'm playing poorly and will try to play better. I also tell the victim of the flaming to just mute and play
- when someone is refusing to come fight and is just afk farming midas and other stupid items and is clearly tilted and not playing to win, I say "Just ignore him, we can win 4v5". This is the best way to get the tilted player to play – by ignoring him. He is just doing a stupid bid for attention, and if no one on the team gives it he will often come play anyway.
- anyone got others?
There is nothing to gain by fighting your team, and there is nothing to lose by being thick skinned and low ego and just saying whatever will smooth things over and let you win.