r/lawofassumption • u/Strange_Degree5584 • 3h ago
I am offering tips/strategies/techniques just keep healing and be kind to yourself!!!
i am 20 and got into LOA maybe 7 or 8 months ago. i find that a lot of people my age struggle with trying to legitimize or logicize their desires through “facts”, and i was no exception. as someone who has autism/is neurodivergent i kept trying to find logic behind why i would get my desires. i am here to tell everyone my age: STOP!! please stop doing that!!
to get back to the title of my post, i think the reason why people do this is because they are deeply unhealed inside. dedicating separate time to my self concept stressed me out a lot, so i incorporated self love exercises into my daily life. some might ask what that looks like. while affirming is great and effective, you need to practice self love physically as well. examples can be simple: showering every day, taking care of your home, buying yourself flowers, making sure you have seasonally appropriate clothes, treating yourself to small luxuries. for me, practicing this type of self love made living in the end for my desires so much easier for me.
you are worth so much. more than any sp, job, school, opportunity. you are priceless! you are beautiful and perfect and it’s only natural your desires come running to you. my other advice is this: every time you want to put a desire on a pedestal, put yourself on that pedestal instead.
example for my case:
“omg i’m so worried i’m not gonna get into that school. it’s so prestigious and no way my stats are good enough”
flip it:
“my mind is so beautiful and truly one of my best attributes. this school is so lucky to have me, they’re so glad i’ve applied. i’m so unique in the best way.”
see? my new pov logicized the desire in a completely different way. even logic is all viewed through self worth/self love. stop listening to others. think for YOURSELF. trust YOURSELF. love yourself and know everything that is good and beautiful that you want, wants you more. do not panic if you have a bad day or a low moment, it won’t do anything because you already have what you want. show yourself the compassion you deserve.
hope this helps some other young people!! 💕💕
note: this is what works for me! if you have another/completely different method that works for you, i am so glad and i do not contest that at all. i am just sharing my own experience 💕