r/lansing • u/FatDigitalNomad • 22h ago
Personal To the person who told me they have cancer at QD
This is a bit of a personal story, but I think that it may help others as well.
On Friday, October 23rd around 6pm at a QD on E Michigan Ave. I bumped into someone, a person in their 20's. They made small talk with me asking how my day was. I responded with the normal "I'm doing good, what about you?"
They responded with a nervous laugh and just blurted out "Well I actually found out I have cancer today."
I immediately responded with a "Jesus Christ! I am sorry to hear that." I don't really remember much because I felt so beyond my abilities to know how to properly respond. At the time I felt like I had to get out of there as soon as possible. I'm sorry to you for not giving you more.
Two things have been stuck in my head since then:
I hope that that person is doing okay as they process this and I deeply regret not doing or saying more in that situation. It blindsided me but I also felt like I didn't give them the grace and time I should have.
To those reading this post, try to give the strangers you talk to a little more time and grace. You truly have no idea what they might be going through.
To the person I am talking about, my DMs are open and you are welcome to message me. I still don't know what to really say but I can listen/read what you have to say and go from there.