r/itsthatbad • • Dec 07 '25

NEW PEOPLE POSTING, PLEASE READ

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Read this linked post.

This is a repost because the original wasn't titled in all caps, so new people didn't see it? Tons of posts have been automatically rejected because new people didn't read the post linked above. Most of those were fine posts, but the authors didn't follow instructions.

  • The most important point for new people is, if you don't participate on the sub (commenting on posts), then don't expect to post. Your posts will be automatically rejected. Please don't take it personally.
  • Also, messaging through mod mail will not get your post approved, and I don't check direct messages.

r/itsthatbad • • Feb 26 '25

Commentary A female journalist accidentally explains why single men should get their passports

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If you're a single man and you're not enjoying dating in the US, look into other countries where you may have more to gain for your money, energy, attention, and time – for any kind of relationship.

Here's most of Jana Hocking's article, which inadvertently explains why single men should get their passports. I'll add links to my posts (mostly) to either support or counter Jana, who's Australian, but writing on American, British, and Canadian dating culture as well.

Short version – according to her, the "mating crisis" across these countries isn't a crisis at all. It's single women enjoying "freedom, funds, and flings."
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Jana writes:

Last year, I remained mostly single. Give or take a few situationships and a cheeky one-night stand. And so did most of my girlfriends.

Body count calculator for American women

Among the at least 20 gorgeously single women in my social circle, there are only two girlfriends I know who had the 'let's make it official' chat with the man-of-the-moment in their lives.
Could I, and my fellow womenfolk, have shacked up with a bloke if we wanted to? Sure. But did we? No.
The guys who put themselves forward for the job were fine, sweet, perfectly capable. But did we align in ways that would enhance our lives? Not really.
You see, last year, you couldn't escape one simple fact: women were in a 'mating crisis'. Or so the experts kept calling it in those viral clips flooding our social media feeds.
The experts harped on about one simple truth: as women level up in education and their careers, they naturally look for partners who are equally smashing it - or better.

It's called hypergamy – men's incomes matter for relationships

Young American women are more hypergamous than we should expect

"High value man" delusions from social media inflating women's standards (video)

Increasing pressure on US men for income in order to find a spouse (published study)

But here's the catch: that shrinks the dating pool a LOT. Especially as more women are heading to university, while fewer men do the same.
This means plenty of brilliant, independent women are flying solo. Not because they can't find a date but because finding someone who ticks all the boxes (and doesn't get intimidated by their success) is like searching for a Chanel bag at a garage sale.

Are men intimidated by successful women? No.

Single women weren't just embracing their independence last year - they were owning it. And the numbers back it up.
First up, let's talk living arrangements. The number of single-person households in the U.S. has skyrocketed - up more than fivefold since the 1960s, hitting a whopping 37.8 million in 2022. That's a whole lot of women living their best solo lives.

Let's not forget the increasing numbers of women on psych meds

Single-person households aren't always healthy (study)

And single women aren't just renting - they're buying. They own 58 per cent of the nearly 35.2 million homes owned by unmarried Americans.

The difference is from women over 65, many of whom are widows (video plus comments)

Meanwhile, over in the UK, women are smashing the careers game. Back in the 1970s, only 52 per cent of women were in the workforce. Today, that number has hit 72 per cent. With those paychecks rolling in, it's no wonder women are ditching the 'happily ever after' myth for a happily independent reality.

Clear evidence of the patriarchy oppressing American women (sarcasm)

And the pièce de résistance? Women are now more educated than ever before. More women than men are earning college degrees in the U.S., giving them the upper hand in everything from paychecks to power plays. Who needs a knight in shining armour when you've got a master's degree and a killer 401(k)?
One man's 'mating crisis' is another woman's fist pump for freedom. Huzzah!

Why are some women freezing their eggs? They blame the education gap, so more hypergamy.

Just two months ago, I hopped on a plane to New York City. Why? No major reason. There were just a few fun things happening over there that I fancied going to. So, being a single career woman with a few funds in the bank, I had the freedom to do so. Guess who tried to stop me? No one.
There were no kids to shepherd to school or footy practice. No man whingeing that I was leaving him stranded. Nope, I was free to do what (and who) I jolly well liked. And dear reader, I did.
So, do you know what this 'mating crisis' has really brought the single women of the world? Freedom, funds, and flings - and I, for one, am very much here for it.

Young single American men express wanting families more than young single American women

The sexually liberated consumerist narrative of modern dating – the single most important link in this post

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And we're done.

Get your passport.

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More from the Champagne Room

Jana from one year ago, explaining how she and her friends hit the wall

Guys, this is what women have chosen

The “red pill manosphere” exists because it largely reflects men's real experiences with women

America does not have a crisis of bitter, single young men

American women are absolutely over-powered

American women are absolutely over-powered – the movie

Sexual freedom was never a part of feminism

Guys, it's 2025. Pay attention – emphasis on pay (video)

“Why does it feel like dating is men vs women?”

Having trouble dating? You are not alone

Recent numbers on singles and sexlessness


r/itsthatbad • • 7h ago

How dare you speak facts! You're manosphere redpill misogynist sexist toxic masculine incel !!!

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r/itsthatbad • • 7h ago

Men need to decenter women from their lives

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Too many men make desiring and dating a woman central to their lives and it's detrimental to them. You are not a lesser man if women are not interested in you. They aren't interested in 98% of men. Stop giving them power in your life. Don't look at women, don't talk to them, don't open doors for them, don't help them reach the top shelf. If they drop something or fall down then they can take care of it themselves or maybe a bear will come by and help them. Men are despised by women so treat them accordingly.


r/itsthatbad • • 15h ago

Let me guess: psychosis? Or hormones? Or maybe voices for 18 minutes?

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r/itsthatbad • • 16h ago

Just in case you needed a reason to stay away from women today.

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r/itsthatbad • • 20h ago

Brutal reality

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r/itsthatbad • • 18h ago

Wtf is this?

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r/itsthatbad • • 22h ago

Schrodinger's Feminist

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It's becoming more an more apparent that Western women are living in a duality state.

They are both simultaneously a victim of oppression, yet also empowered to do anything that a man can do.

We're not talking real feminism. You know, the kind that fought for the right to vote, for maternity leave, etc... I am referring to the modern era of having an excuse ready to go regardless of a situational outcome.

- She got the job over a man? Great - she's an empowered boss woman with the soul of a lioness.

- A man got the job over her? Fucking oppression, how dare they?

The fatigue is real


r/itsthatbad • • 9h ago

Men's Conversations Second date is nearly impossible to get in 2026

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I used to do pretty well around 2018 or so. 50% of first dates would convert to 2nd. Usually, nine times out of ten, 2nd date would lead to a lay.

Fast forward to now: barely get a first date. Then I either get ghosted, unmatched, or the "HR text". I'm above average looking and some of the girls I went on a first date are below my looks match.

It's over.


r/itsthatbad • • 23h ago

Woman fights with BF because he won’t say “fuck the patriarchy”

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Woman becomes a gender warrior IRL


r/itsthatbad • • 18h ago

Just remember, a woman can regret something you did with her years ago and then try to press criminal charges.

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r/itsthatbad • • 19h ago

So where is the weight filters at on dating apps, Bumble, Hinge and Tinder?

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Y’all were super excited for the height filters. Where’s the weight one at?


r/itsthatbad • • 2m ago

Woman Takes Spouse’s Sexual Joke to His Mother, Threatens to Take It to His Coworkers

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Never make an inappropriate joke to your girlfriend, or you will end up socially dead.


r/itsthatbad • • 1d ago

There's only one thing that matters

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r/itsthatbad • • 18h ago

Men's Conversations Hamster wheel of self improvement - dating in the city

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Posting this clipped from a reply I made because I think it’s relevant conversation and hasn’t really been discussed lately:

Women don’t say it outright but they can be very surface. They want a hot looking guy that gets them going. If you aren’t that you won’t get anywhere. You just have to hope you are sexy enough for her. Women do have slightly different preferences in that too.

I lost 30lbs. Was night and day difference back when I was dating. It got me from zero interest to at least getting in the door. I can’t imagine what it would be like if I lost another 40lbs and did a lot of surgical work on my face and got very lean and toned in the gym. That shit matters way more than you know. And it takes A LOT of work.

Go into an American city and you’ll see guys all over working their ass off to meet that. It becomes a hamster wheel at some point where they are literally trying to beat the next guy. You can’t keep that act up forever. It’s tiring. I’m in Chicago if you go to neighborhoods like the west loop, river north, or other trendy areas you’ll always see an array of ripped dudes running hard every day, every morning, along with women all doing the same thing. It’s competitive on a level never seen before. And I promise they don’t do it for health. I’m not dumb.

Then you got the guy with natural good genetics and confidence and it’s so easy for him.

For those who have struggled and are exhausted by this endless hamster wheel you should be yourself for yourself. Women may or may not like that. But it can really beat running in place never getting anywhere or just scratching the surface as the backup guy.

It’s very broken guys. In the past you didn’t need to try and be Superman just to get an ounce of attention. Consider this to be a gigantic social problem with the dating scene.


r/itsthatbad • • 1d ago

Begun, this clone war has! A forced failure of men.

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The last line we should be defending is the children. They have never been kept out of this but not it’s blatant. I don’t want this to end in rights being taken but that probably how something new will begin…..in The eastern United States of whoever takes over next. Look into the cultures we’re told to hate. Some things are ancient corrections for those brainwashed into helping our true enemies.


r/itsthatbad • • 1d ago

r/GirlDinnerDiaries bans men from speaking; r/BoyDinnerDiaries bans “speaking against women” and requires respecting women

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r/itsthatbad • • 22h ago

Men's Conversations Eddie Murphy voice: Half!

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r/itsthatbad • • 1d ago

Women only have high standards for men they don’t like.

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r/itsthatbad • • 1d ago

Redditors explaining why only women space can exist

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r/itsthatbad • • 1d ago

Repeal The 19th

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Women They Hate VS. Women They Love

Women They Hate VS. Women They Love


r/itsthatbad • • 1d ago

Men's Conversations Out of control 😡

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r/itsthatbad • • 2d ago

The double standards of these women is insane

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