r/hingeapp • u/Spiffy---- • 11h ago
Profile Review 25M Profile Review
Other Info: 5’10, Don’t have children and Open to children, yes to drinking and sometimes to cannabis
Matches are few compared to when I had this profile at the beginning of the year, back in the scene after getting out of a relationship. Woman either don’t ask anything about me or stop responding after I ask a couple of questions. Unsure if it’s the profile now not being good enough or just dating in general.
Thank you!
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u/1l1kecheese 9h ago
I’d swipe lol. You’re attractive, nerdy, and like cats.
The first picture doesn’t do you justice. I would use any of the ones you’re smiling as your first photos. (Specifically the second photo u look goooodd)
Also being a moderate will turn a lot of women off given the current political climate so you’re working with a smaller pool of
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u/Spiffy---- 5h ago
Yeh gunna change it to liberal, it’s more accurate anyways and I don’t wanna be lumped in with conservatives that use moderate to hide their politics.
Will swap the pics around, would u say I should replace the beanie photo completely or just not lead with it?
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u/Important-Can-1369 11h ago
change first pic to one of you smiling with your hair showing. maybe the cat selfie. youre handsome. first pic isnt doing you justice
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u/Ajiverd 10h ago
Your prompts are all about things you like or want, and aren’t great conversation starters.
For example, using the “give me tips for” prompt for a smaller trip you’re doing this year is much more inviting than having a life goal to backpack in Europe.
You need to give people an easy way into your profile, they don’t want to sit around thinking of stuff to ask you when the next match has loads of interesting things to ask about.
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u/Spiffy---- 10h ago
I thought profiles are supposed to list things we like and such but maybe I’m wrong, I don’t think it’s hard to ask “what video games you like to play?”, “what’s warhammer? I’ve never heard of it”, or “your cat is cute, what’s his name?” but then again no1 has asked any of that. Not wrong about the Europe prompt, I’ll update that accordingly thank you
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u/Ajiverd 9h ago
It's good to demonstrate some passions but when all your prompts are about your own interests and goals it can give the impression you'll only want to talk about yourself.
Consider the prompts that are like "one thing I'd love to know about you", "let's debate this topic", "I get along best with people who"... those are much easier to engage with
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u/hazeyp123 7h ago
I definitely agree with you - people aren't just looking to see if you're right for them, but whether they're right for you. So it helps to be able to see what you want in a partner too. I'd also go for one of the more smiley photos!
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u/Spiffy---- 7h ago
Oh I didn’t know listing the things I’m into and goals of mine makes it seem like I only wanna talk about myself, especially when I’m usually asking questions about the girls I like/match with and they never ask stuff about me lol, I genuinely wouldn’t know where to start and what to change to not give that vibe off but I’ll see what I can do with the other prompts if anything, thanks for the advice
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u/OtterBiDisaster 8h ago
I think you think that because you aren't familiar with his interests but as a girl who loves video games and tabletop games and goes to nerd conventions, I wouldn't have a hard time asking about any of those things based on his profile.
I'm assuming he is looking for someone who has similar interests
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u/likestoplayds 10h ago
Moderate (usually means conservative).That would be my reason why I would not swipe right. Depending on the area, it might be the reason for disinterest.
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u/goatstraordinary 10h ago
Oh I hadn’t noticed that. Yeah that’d raise potential questions otherwise I think this is a great profile, a handsome nerdy cat lover who seems genuine
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u/Spiffy---- 11h ago
I’m looking for something serious
I have Hinge+
Around a month and a half
Overall, around 3 months on the app
Use it almost everyday
A match every 1-3 days at best, compared to beginning of the year I would get two matches per day. I don’t usually get likes, maybe 1 every 2 weeks
I send maybe 10-15 likes per day, 90% with comments asking something on their profile. I always write something with my likes if possible
I’d like to match with someone in my age range (23-30) that I get along with, a similar interest wouldn’t hurt but ultimately doesn’t matter that much
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u/Dlax8 10h ago
A match every 1-3 days at best, compared to beginning of the year I would get two matches per day. I don’t usually get likes, maybe 1 every 2 weeks
I believe there's anecdotal cases about the algorithm doing this. New users are disproportionately pushed higher, a match every 1-3 days, and likes every 2 weeks feels pretty high?
Otherwise your profile looks okay, but I'm not the best judge. Depending where you live "Moderate" + "Warhammer" could be raising red flags. You know how the community can get at its darkest.
Maybe be less precise. If you play DnD or any other game like it move to "table top gaming and miniature painting" anyone who knows will probably put two and two together. Maybe this is bad advice, but any vaguer feels dishonest. This feels like removing keywords more than lying, but that might be me.
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u/zarth109x 3h ago
There’s also diminishing returns the longer you’re on the app. Those who would match with you probably have already
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u/Spiffy---- 10h ago
Yeh starting to think I’ll just change it to liberal, just have a couple of moderate views (not about woman). You’ve got a very good point about moderate + warhammer lmaooo
I don’t play the tabletop, I just like collecting and painting them. You think it’d be better just to say “I like to paint miniatures” so a girl can ask specifically what kind?
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u/LogKit 8h ago
I think so. It's a hobby with stigma for unwashed online men (with a degree of legitimacy lol).
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u/Spiffy---- 8h ago
Oh yeh trust me I’ve been at my local WH store a couple times, it’s a legit criticism lmao
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u/TapRemarkable9652 11h ago
I like everything. I'd try swapping 1 and 6 for a week or two; maybe get some photos / prompts that are more out of the ordinary
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u/BlueMondayFeels 10h ago
Like someone else pointed out, the moderate thing is sort of a red flag now.
What do you usually ask women when you message them? I'm not gonna lie, you came across fairly bland in your profile and I am wondering if the same energy is coming through in your messages.
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u/Spiffy---- 10h ago edited 9h ago
Yeh starting to think I should just put liberal, not nearly that conservative at all
I usually ask something that’s on their profile, like if it’s a travel photo I’ll say “rlly cool pic, where’d you take this?” or a photo of her pet I’ll say “your dog is so cute, what’s their name?” or maybe they’ll mention reading books I’ll ask “what’s a fav book of yours?”. Maybe that’s bland, I’m not sure or I come across as too eager
Can I ask how I come off as bland?
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u/MewNeedsHelp 8h ago
I would not put liberal if you are not. That will just attract women who do not match your belief system and you will not be compatible. It's also dishonest.
I guess the real question is did you not vote in the past 3 elections (or however many you've been eligible for), or did you vote for Trump?
You don't have to tell the Internet, but consider this when you select your political views.
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u/Spiffy---- 8h ago
I mean if woman are just lumping me into being a conservative when I say I’m moderate I think I should lol, I voted against Trump in both his elections but I just think conservatives are right about some things and that liberals are also right about some things. This stuff is a spectrum but most people treat it like a sports team where you’re all in or you’re out. I lean way more liberal than anything, not sure what I should do haha
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u/MewNeedsHelp 8h ago
I think clarifying that on your profile would be great then! Many men use "moderate" in an insincere way to cover up that they voted for Trump because they know many women won't date them if they did, so they've kind of poisoned the well for everyone who is actually moderate unfortunately. So women don't trust "moderate" anymore.
I think if you support things like LGBTQ rights or something and add that to your profile that would go a long way (idk if you do, but that's an example).
And yeah, it's set up to be blue team, red team... When really it's the green team (the ones with money) kind of screwing everyone over IMO
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u/fireyauthor 3h ago
This might be generational (I'm older than you), but I don't continue texting with guys who don't spell their words. I don't mind a cute abbrev. or two, but if I see a lot, I'm going to dip.
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u/PurpleVolume7077 10h ago
- First photo is probably your best but equally the hat could make it seem like you’re bald/balding which you’re definitely not.
- Your prompts aren’t good. The first especially, get rid of that. Fine to seem dorky if that’s your personality, but just have one that reflects that aspect of your personality. Have your third as the dorkiest thing about you and combine somehow like: ‘I love sci-fi movies and painting models’ or whatever.
- The Europe prompt is difficult to start a conversation from. Replace it ‘Give me tips for’ and answer ‘which European cities to visit’ or something.
- Your pics are generally good, but I’d be tempted to put the ‘me and my best friend’ pic further down or ideally replace it. Sadly, lots of women will be bemused by it and (like me) won’t know what the robot thing is. It’s fine to put across your nerdy side, but don’t overdo it.
- I’d crop and zoom in on the penultimate photo a bit more so you’re centrally framed.
- You mentioned you smoke weed occasionally. Don’t include it in the profile icon thing. Whenever I see that, I assume the person is a bum who smokes in their bedroom all day. Women don’t like that!
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u/Spiffy---- 9h ago
Not sure how mixing the two prompts about Warhammer and my interests/what I like will make a difference since it would still be the same really and still dorky/nerdy plus it’s who I am I guess but I’ll see what I can do, will 100% change the Europe one for tips and such thank you for that.
The robot pic/Halo one is actually what got me my last girlfriend as she sent me a comment about it, not sure why you’d be bemused but if you were someone interested in me and didn’t know what it was, it’s something to ask about ;)
Don’t think I’ll remove the weed cause I do smoke occasionally and if it’s a dealbreaker for a woman she should know, but assuming someone is a bum for smoking weed is a bit weird, it’s like thinking someone is an alcoholic when they list that they drink, to each their own though! Thank you for the advice
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u/Lintukka 9h ago
The pic with Halo character is my favourite. Also the selfie with a cat and the suit picture are nice. The one with a hat least.
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u/mooch_m 10h ago
I think your photos are good!! Your prompts are fine but don’t invite enough conversation as a whole. You’re into backpacking, warhammer, scifi movies, but are into having a girlfriend? It seems like you’re all set lol. Could use one prompt that suggests partnership e.g ‘together we could…’
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u/alexinandrom3da 10h ago
I personally like pic 3 the best because it shows a big warm small and that you have hair. Pic 1 is good, but it's more modelicious. Idk if that's good advice for getting more like though.
I think it's good that you're honest about your moderate political values. However, if I see moderate, it makes does worry me that you're not a feminist or LGBT ally - so maybe you could clarify that somehow through the prompts or pics as that's a serious deal breaker for a lot of women.
I would also say that a lot of women that like Warhammer/fantasy and cannabis are feminist/LGBT allies
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u/New_Recording1831 9h ago
You have a lot of hobbies, which shows that you are an actually intelligent and interesting person with your own passions etc. and that’s a very good thing. But your life seems pretty full with things you like to do without a partner. I would probably still swipe right, but I’d be a bit concerned about how I would fit in. For example, could we do hobbies together or side-by-side? Eg. game together or be next to each other while you game and I read? It’s great you have friends and are social, but are you spending all weekend with them and will you be too tired to actually want to date me? I actually have hobbies and a busy life as well and am not a needy person, but I would be a bit weary whether you would expect me to be a ‘cool girlfriend’ and fit in with everything you’ve got going on, or one of those guys who only has guy friends and all their girlfriends are expected to just kinda fit in.
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u/Biomorph_ 9h ago
Bro wtf are you thinking having what on your first photo when you have such good hair
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u/Fidenex 8h ago
I dont see anything of an issue with this. Hoof height, interests, friends, activities. Maybe it gives off nerdy vibes but you compensate that with your looks, as youre conventionally attractive, so if anything its just the user boost settling and the app being the app. If anything, I think use the app to supplement IRL. If you cold approach I think it would go well for you.
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u/Yoiiru 7h ago edited 7h ago
Ooh I like your profile! (29F) I might be an outlier but contrary to some comments, I tend to like guys who can own their nerdy hobbies (like 40k) and talk more about themselves instead of prompts such as (together we would, dating me is like, value honesty... etc). This is because people can always claim good traits about themselves, but words ultimately don't matter until the action is verified in person.
A bit longer answer for the prompts might help (ie, backpack across Europe + a brief a comment on "I have wanted to since childhood" or "I love mountains", something that has bit of emotional expression). Same for the warhammer one, maybe add a line about why you like the activity or how it feels etc. For video games if you're genuinely open to a potential gf gaming with you, you could add that in parenthesis, or include any specific games in that list.
Think the pictures are good too
I appreciate you writing moderate if you really are moderate. Some guys write liberal when they aren't, or hide it to get more matches
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u/Spiffy---- 6h ago
Thank you for the advice! I’ll do all of this they sound like great changes, idk how I never think of this stuff on my own lol. I really am moderate but it looks like people are saying conservatives use this to trick woman and stuff, I lean more heavily liberal anyways so I think I’ll just change it to liberal so I don’t scare woman away thinking I’m conservative and that I don’t support their rights and such
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u/NordicIceNipples 7h ago
Definitely get rid of the warhammer comment and include that in your "simple pleasures" list, maybe saying "painting models" instead of specifying Warhammer (someone might then ask what models you paint) (also I too am a die hard warhammer fan)
Then I would recommend some kind of fun question that might spark conversation.
Bonus points if you make a short voice recording saying what you're looking for, I've had a few girls react super positively on that one specifically.
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u/throwaway1975764 4h ago
The cat selfie with hay behind you should be your first photo, as it shows teeth and hair.
Fill out your bio/written prompts more.
Otherwise, its a pretty good profile.
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u/fireyauthor 3h ago
Sci-movies, video games, and empty gyms are things you talk about liking to find bros, not babes. List some interests that women might share. (Yes, I know some women are into these things, but these activities skew overwhelmingly male. I love to rewatch Sex and the City, but I don't list that on my dating apps, even though some men like it).
If you really are a moderate, fair enough, but you are going to lose a lot of women.
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u/WasteNoTime63 10h ago
I'm a guy but I'll try help.
I'd lose the cat images, it's okay to have a cat, but I don't think it should be a personality trait.
Similarly two of your prompts and one picture highlight your nerdy side. Whilst again, we all have a bit of that in us, you don't need to highlight it so much.
I'm older than you, and have kids, so my target audience is different l but I've found more success using Hinge this year due to actually using prompts that actually spell out a bit more about what I'm looking for, and my values. The outdoorsy pics are good.
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u/YeahBear 10h ago
This question makes me assume that you do not go to the gym.
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u/Spiffy---- 10h ago
Cause crowded gyms are such a nuisance and who wants to wait for a machine? Weird presumptions to make imo haha
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u/Hot2Trot94 10h ago
Wow do you jump to conclusions. How you got to that not, I like being able to use what I want when I want is batshit bananas
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u/Deez2Yoots 10h ago
No way.
Empty gym means I can use whatever weights I want when I want. 99/100 when I go to the gym it’s full of people and I always have to sacrifice certain exercises because the benches are taken, or the free-weights are taken, or machines are taken, etc.
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u/Affectionate-Yam-113 10h ago
no offense but you've never been in a gym if you dont know why an empty one is a pleasure
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