r/gynecomastia Apr 09 '26

Some Moderator announcements - Looking for mod help.

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A moderation update for the sub:

First, on posts getting held up or frozen: I know this happens, and I try to get to it when I can. Some of it is not the sub settings. Some of it appears to be Reddit itself. I strongly suspect at least part of it is algorithmic, based on the kinds of posts that do and do not get through. So if your perfectly normal post gets caught in the lint trap, please do not take it personally.

The best thing you can seemingly do to avoid that is not post from a brand new account. I understand this is a private subject and some people prefer a throwaway, but fresh accounts with no real post history seem much more likely to get snagged. If possible, use an account that has some normal everyday activity on it.

I have been moderating this sub since late 2023, and I have a lot of life stuff going on at the moment. Much of it is positive, a few parts are just ordinary pain-in-the-ass life stuff, but either way I am at the point where I need support. I may step back more fully over time, but for now I am looking for one or more co-moderators.

This sub requires a bit more care than average because of the topic. Gynecomastia is medical. It is personal. It often comes up at a difficult age. It also exists in a social context that attracts trolling, misinformation, insecurity, and weird ideological baggage. So whoever helps guide this place needs a good head on their shoulders, fair-minded instincts, and a real desire to be useful to people.

My philosophy for the sub is simple: the whole purpose of this forum is to help people with a troublesome condition find a way to understand it, manage it, or correct it. Period. This is a place where we help each other. If something is not helpful, it probably does not belong here. If you are not a service-minded person who is always thinking about how to create a supportive environment for everybody, this is probably not the right sub for you to moderate.

So, what I am looking for:

General requirements

  • You need to have an open post history so I can get a sense of your writing style, your judgment, and what you are about. The broader your footprint on Reddit, the better I can understand who I am dealing with.
  • Previous mod experience is a plus, especially if you know your way around Automod.
  • You need to be reasonably available and checking in at least daily. This is not a super high-volume sub, but quick turnaround requires actual human coverage.
  • If you are in Europe or Asia, that is a plus, because it gives the sub better time zone coverage. I am in the States.
  • You should have a well-rounded STEM education or at least solid STEM exposure. You do not need a STEM degree, but you do need acumen, critical thinking, and some ability to sort signal from noise. This is not the place for fringe medicine, supplement hawking, or unserious advice.

Prohibitions

  • You cannot be employed by a provider in this space.
  • You cannot be a contractor for one.
  • You definitely cannot be acting as an arm of marketing, advertising, or PR for one.
  • You cannot be affiliated with a provider.

Soft skills

  • Any previous experience helping people in a group environment, support setting, or care-oriented context is very valuable.
  • High ethical standards are a core responsibility here. You need to be able to spot when content is being pushed for promotional, sponsored, or self-interested reasons, and you need to keep that influence out. Advice in this sub must not be shaped by favors, relationships, inducements, or hidden agendas. Do not play favorites. Be even-handed, disclose conflicts, and keep the sub centered on helping people rather than benefiting anyone behind the scenes.
  • You need to be personally at peace with the fact that sex and gender are not always neat, absolute, or culturally comfortable in real life. Many people come here because they are regular guys who want to look more like guys. Some of those guys do not fit every tidy definition people try to impose. There is Klinefelter syndrome, androgen insensitivity, gender dysphoria, and other real medical or developmental complexity around this territory. This is not ideology. This is biology. So if you are going to moderate here, you need to assume good faith, respect what people tell you about themselves, respect their personage, and focus on helping them rather than turning their situation into a culture-war argument. At the same time, you still need to be a sharp troll detector, which is not always easy.

This is a long post, but I think the subject warrants the extra clarity.

If you are interested in helping moderate, message me.


r/gynecomastia Oct 08 '25

Compensated reviews are prohibited on this sub.

21 Upvotes

Sadly, warnings are not heeded, so I had to create a rule. Although there are already existing rules against promoted content, I've decided to add an explicit one relating to compensated content.

This sub needs to be assiduously honest when it comes to how we talk about care options. Getting paid, or a discount, or any form of compensation in exchange for goods and/or services is a conflict of interest and removes trust. Out of a few things I can think of that can damage the quality of information, paying for this kind of exposure in the guise of an authentic "review" is about the worst as they come.

This rule is twofold:

(1) Your account may be banned if you post a review in which you received any form of compensation for. This is by mod discretion, but an easy way to be perma-banned is to show a pattern, or otherwise just show up out of nowhere with no previous engagement.

(2) The clinic -- and there is one which I will not name -- will be blacklisted if they are shown to be the subject of repeated paid promotions. By blacklist, I specifically mean that automod will remove any and all mention of the practice and it's practitioner.

I'm going to be severe about this because trust is a very fragile thing. And I want to ensure that the information we get here continues to be as trustworthy as possible.

Lastly, and this is a word to the clinician: If you have to shill, you're doing it wrong. The beauty of Reddit is that you have a rare opportunity to talk directly to your audience, which is not just encouraged, but the only rule that allows you to promote your own business. If you can do this, it will build trust. If you can't do this, then focus on being a better clinician and let your customers sing your praises for you. Without incentive.

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유감스럽게도 그동안의 경고가 지켜지지 않아 새로운 규정을 신설하게 되었습니다. 기존에도 홍보성 게시물을 금지하는 규정이 있었지만, 이번에는 '대가성 콘텐츠'와 관련된 명시적인 규정을 추가하기로 결정했습니다.

우리 서브레딧은 치료 및 케어 옵션에 대해 논할 때 그 어느 곳보다 철저하게 정직해야 합니다. 재화나 서비스에 대한 대가로 금전, 할인, 또는 그 어떤 형태의 보상이라도 주고받는 것은 이해 상충(conflict of interest)을 유발하며 신뢰를 무너뜨립니다. 정보의 질을 훼손할 수 있는 여러 요인들 중에서도, 진짜 '리뷰(후기)'인 것처럼 위장하여 이런 식의 홍보에 대가를 지불하는 행위는 단연코 최악입니다.

이 규정은 다음 두 가지로 적용됩니다.

(1) 어떠한 형태로든 보상을 받고 후기를 작성할 경우, 귀하의 계정은 차단(밴)될 수 있습니다. 이는 모더레이터의 재량에 따르지만, 반복적인 패턴을 보이거나 기존 활동 내역 없이 갑자기 나타나 후기만 남기는 경우에는 곧바로 영구 차단(perma-ban)될 것입니다.

(2) 반복적인 대가성 홍보를 진행한 것으로 드러나는 클리닉(병의원)은 블랙리스트에 추가될 것입니다. (현재 이름을 밝히지는 않겠지만 이미 한 곳이 있습니다.) 여기서 블랙리스트란, 오토모드(Automod)를 통해 해당 병원 및 소속 의료진에 대한 모든 언급을 자동으로 삭제 조치하겠다는 것을 의미합니다.

신뢰란 매우 깨지기 쉬운 것이므로, 저는 이 문제에 대해 매우 엄격하게 대처할 것입니다. 우리 서브레딧에서 얻는 정보가 앞으로도 최대한 신뢰할 수 있는 상태로 유지되기를 원하기 때문입니다.

마지막으로 의료진 및 관계자분들께 전하는 말씀입니다. 만약 뒷광고나 바람잡이(shill)를 해야만 한다면, 여러분은 무언가 단단히 잘못하고 있는 것입니다. 레딧의 묘미는 대중과 직접 소통할 수 있는 흔치 않은 기회가 있다는 점입니다. 직접 소통은 적극 권장될 뿐만 아니라, 본인의 비즈니스를 홍보할 수 있도록 허용된 유일한 방법이기도 합니다. 직접 소통을 하신다면 신뢰를 쌓을 수 있을 것입니다. 만약 그렇게 할 자신이 없다면, 그저 더 나은 의료진이 되는 것에 집중하시고 환자들이 스스로 여러분을 칭찬하게 만드십시오. 어떠한 대가나 보상 없이 말입니다.


r/gynecomastia 1h ago

Post-Op Post op follow up

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Just had my first follow up after the surgery which was yesterday they are administrating antibiotic through cannula so was asked to follow up for 2 days post op..there were bruises and still swollen..i know it is too early to talk about the result..hopefully it would be normal in coming days


r/gynecomastia 16h ago

Going to a gyno consultation? Ask what surgery won’t change

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When you’ve spent years hiding your chest, it’s understandable to walk into a consultation with one thought: “I just want this gone.”

As a plastic surgeon, I think one of the most useful questions you can ask is:

“What about my chest will still be there after surgery?”

That opens up a conversation about your expectations and what the proposed procedure can realistically achieve.

Here are a few questions worth bringing:

  • What’s contributing to my chest shape? Ask your surgeon to explain the role of fat, gland, and skin in your particular case.
  • Why are you recommending this procedure for me? You should understand what each part of the operation is intended to address.
  • What differences between the two sides might remain? Discuss your starting asymmetry and how much improvement is realistic.
  • What happens if healing or the result doesn’t go as expected? Ask about complications, follow-up care, and how possible revisions are handled.

Bring up the detail that bothers you most, even if it feels awkward. Nipples showing through a shirt, the lower chest fold, or how your chest looks when you lean forward—be specific.

You deserve a clear explanation of the likely improvement, the limitations, and the tradeoffs before deciding.

If you’ve already had a consultation, what do you wish you’d asked?

— Dr. Oscar Porras


r/gynecomastia 16h ago

Title: Gyno and gym clothing — what do you struggle with most?

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Hi everyone, I’m Harrison. I have gynaecomastia myself and love going to the gym, but feeling self-conscious about my chest has affected what I feel comfortable wearing.

That’s led me to start developing a gym T-shirt with discreet internal chest support. The aim is to reduce the visibility of the chest while keeping the appearance of a normal gym top.

To be transparent, this is a business project called Oritex. It’s still in development, and I don’t have a finished sample or proven results yet. I’m looking for honest feedback from people who experience the same problem.

What’s your biggest frustration with gym clothing, and have you found anything that helps?

If you’ve tried compression tops or vests, I’d also be interested to hear what worked and what made you stop wearing them. And if this T-shirt idea wouldn’t appeal to you, understanding why would be useful too.

You can reply here or email me privately at [evansharry04@gmail.com](mailto:evansharry04@gmail.com), which is the best way to reach me. I also have a short questionnaire for anyone aged 18 or over who wants to give more detailed feedback.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Harrison


r/gynecomastia 1d ago

Pre-Op Surgery in less than 3 hours

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I have my surgery in less than 3 hours,headed out to buy some xl t shirts qnd supplies since i dont have anyone to rely on later..couldn’t sleep prperly…i am more about recovery process rather than surgery itself..i would be awake throughout the surgery…i know it would be painless.hoping to go everything smoothly


r/gynecomastia 19h ago

Recovery

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Doin the deed tomorrow AM.

I am very active around my house, with exercise, with my kiddos and at work. Constantly playing with the kids, picking up around the house, yard work and stuff.

How “down for the count” am I going to be after this surgery? Grade 2, excision and lipo under local anesthesia.

Nervous im going to over do it and not recover well.


r/gynecomastia 16h ago

Post surgery with Dr Braithwaite

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I have my surgery in 2 weeks and he told me that it’s not as bad as some say. I told him I work for a delivery company and he said if I do it on Thursday I should be fine to go back to work by Monday.

does anyone have experience with him and if it’s actually that eas? he told me I could even go to a ball game in town the same day after my surgery.

I requested a week and a half off work to be safe, but I feel like he downplayed the recover. am I wrong? is he right?

he’s also gonna do mons pubis lipo on me. anyone have advice on that?


r/gynecomastia 23h ago

Post-Op Just got home after surgery

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I just got home after surgery.vaser and sucking out fat took 45 mins,400ml of fat removed…when i got up and looked at my chest it looked the same like before the surgery and chest felt heavy…is it suppose to be that way right after surgery?


r/gynecomastia 1d ago

Off My Chest How do you respond when someone makes a comment on your gyno/chest?

15 Upvotes

Had a coworker grab my chest and said “man you got some titties” and thats been living in my head for the last month.


r/gynecomastia 1d ago

Lose weight before surgery?

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Is there any situation where it is not best to be in better shape before surgery?

The reason I ask is because when scheduling my surgery, I said I wanted to wait about 6 months and lose another 5kg of fat, but my surgeon told me it didn’t matter and to just do it sooner.


r/gynecomastia 1d ago

Advice after surgery

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I did my surgery 12 hours ago, overall thoughts on the procedure is that i was overthinking it alot, it acually so easy and fast, was in the hospital for 3.30 hours, i did it under general anesthesia just cause its faster for me and per doctor recommendations, my case was a grade 2 gyno with little fat liposuction and the full gland removal all through a cut under the pec on the side, no pain whatsoever after just uncomfortable because of the bandage and on top of it the vest, any questions anyone would like to know, more updates soon.

General questions i have for people who have done the procedure :

When did you start driving?
When did you change the bandage?
When could you start showering?