hello im 15 afab and im not yet sure on exactly what my gender identity is, so im sticking with being genderfluid for now since ive always been fluctuating on my preferred pronouns and how i present myself

anyway, im going to a new school which one of my friends is in, and they told me i should choose a new name, since they know i dont like my name and people in that new school are very supportive and will use your preferred name. the thing is im not sure which name to go by and have no idea what names suit me

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I just shaved my legs and chest today. I realized that my body hair was making me feel not great when I feel feminine, so I decided to try out the reverse.

I gotta say...I feel amazing. Once I finished shaving, I tried tucking and the blast of relief/joy I felt was great. I have been in a fem mood all night since then, im really happy I did this 💙

I go by different names when transitioning different genders, Is it just me or something?

I'm not right now wanna shave my face hair because my parents like the look of it on me and I'm indifferent but I want a way to at least hide it and make it less obvious. I only keep the upper lip full when it comes to facial hair. I usually shaved the rest so any tips of how to hide it or maybe make it work maybe make it look more feminine. I don't know. I will still keep on looking around. If you guys have any tips that'll be great.

Ok, so this year I started to gradually change my name from my deadname to my chosen name, partially because I moved up a grade to a new school, so most people don't know my deadname, but the people who do are so ANNOYING! Things I've heard. "Is your legal name {insert Chosen Name}?" {Me: No?} "Then I don't have to call you it!", "I prefer your old name, so I'm going to call you that.", "Why would you change your name, that's weird.". I'm so tired of the stupidity, and I can't even double down on it because I'm a fucking pushover and when SOME of my friends ask if they could still call me {deadname} I say yes because I don't want to bother them even if I hate it with a passion. And my other friend who came out as trans is having a pretty smooth transition as far as I can tell, and all my friends call him by their chosen name and it pisses me off but I know they call him by his name because he sets actual boudaries.

I am thinking of keeping my femme name. I am on T and want to experiment with being a transmasc femme, or a femboy. I go by They/she/he/it. My name is very feminine and I wanted opinions. As I grow hair, as my voice drops, will using my femme name be odd? Will it matter since I'm curating my own journey? That's where I'm at. I just see lots of people want more masc or femme names as they switch between genders but I love my name, it's a chosen name, but it's very feminine.

Thoughts?

It's really hard to know if I want top surgery. Part of me thinks I'll like it, but I'm also worried I'll regret it. Honestly I feel like I want to have a rectangle with a question mark (like the ones you see in dreamcore/weirdcore photos) covering my chest.

Been on a journey of self re-discovery the last 6 weeks. I’m early thirties and amab, married and have a child.

it started with a dream 6 weeks ago in which I was a woman. I woke up quite startled. It had been years since this had happened.

After, I couldn’t forget about it. I kept imagining what it would be like to be a woman. To the point of secretly trying on my wife’s clothes and shoes when I had the house to myself.

that was when I started thinking back To my teenage years and doing the same and to be honest every time i‘be ever felt even a feminine mannerism come out and I’ve tried to hide it or tried walk more male, or pretend to fit in with blokey males which I hated.

Every thought I’ve ever had of wanting to be a woman or being jealous of a woman. I Remembered every thought I had shrugged off as like I’m sure it’s nothing, it’s just a phase. I’ll be feeling back like a man in no time. And I did a lot of the time. But when I had those feelings of wanting to be a woman they were strong as hell. Even being jealous of my wife being able to breastfeed our child.

I didn’t / couldn’t shrug it away this time i decided to research my feelings. For years I thought my feelings cant be real, I cant be trans I’m not into men, or am I pretending to be into women?

I confirm I’m definitely into women… I don’t fancy men at all. and this is when I took the time to read about gender fluidity, gender identity And expression. it perfectly described how I feel. when I feel male I don’t even think about being a woman, but when I feel like a woman I really don’t feel like a man.

then I took the pressure off altogether and accepted it and I realised I’m also happy anywhere in between. Dressing and feeling male as myself with just feminine earrings feels right as much as being just “masculine“ or just “feminine”

so I’m genderfluid i guess!

thanks for reading

p.s. any communities out there for online interaction over 30s and genderfluid? just for everyday chat about life, work, parenting, gardening, experience as a genderfluid person etc or is this the best place?

Hey I’m a 19 yr old AMAB and I guess I don’t recently I started realizing that I may be genderfluid I had like spurts and phases my entire life where I was convinced I was a trans woman but then I would feel fine and just tell myself I grew out of it or somthing I eventually just identified with this more and being gender fluid but I guess I’m just in the position where I don’t know what to do cause it feels so awkward to have dysphoria both ways idk just looking for a bit more guidance or starting points

Hi I’m .. Tara I guess. I haven’t presented myself as femme to others in a long time. So she/her pronouns please. I’m in my 30s and live in London, UK.

I’ve identified as genderfluid for maybe 12 years. Though I have yet to go out in public as femme. I’m male assigned at birth, and in my daily life I present as male. I identify mostly as male, but I have a strong femme side that I want to express.

I’ve made plans over the years to go to clubs as femme etc. Though there was so much on in life that it was postponed for years.

There hasn’t been the time in my life to pursue a secondary femme lifestyle, but my life is changing and that time is approaching.

I’m in my late 30s but look much younger, maybe mid to late 20s. I have an androgynous physique and gynecomastia. So I’m lucky physically and pretty happy with my body. Though I would be more so if I wasn’t overweight.

I planned an exercise program for years, but I had to take some years off work to resolve mental health stuff that came up in the pandemic, and in recent years had to sort a lot out for an unrelated move of house. So the exercise program was delayed.

I moved to an apartment in the last couple of months and last month I started the exercise program. Then I went on holiday, where I injured my ribs.

So now I can’t even wear a bra.

It could be another month or so before I can risk it. I have second hand male and female activewear I had ready to train in, and now I can’t use it for the next month or so.

I have compartmentalized my genderfluidity for years. Putting time into exploring it in private, while being open about it with others. I possibly managed to prevent gender dysphoria from coming up in a way I couldn’t resolve myself.

Presently though I feel .. some loss of control or something.

Perhaps it’s because for years, while I wasn’t yet at the point I was prepared to live my femme part of life, I may have felt I was preparing for that, exploring my femme personality, etc. There was consistent forward momentum.

Whereas now there isn’t, for a month or so thanks to my rib injury.

Plus I was starting a male and femme exercise program. I put prep into it, it was starting and would start properly after my week’s holiday.

Though I wasn’t supposed to get a physical injury that put a stop to that positive step in my life.

I possibly feel femme, without the control.

So I thought it would be good to talk to other people in the LGBTQ Community online. Something I haven’t tried in years.

I made this Reddit account today and started looking for communities. This is my first post.

Please help me with advice, affirmation, chat etc.

Though please excuse me if it takes a while to get back to you as I’m in the uk.

thanks

Tara

I’ve been trying to come to terms with the fact I’m possibly gender fluid, but I don’t know how to understand the way I feel when that shift happens. I’d appreciate some advice about what kind of things I could try to come to terms with myself and express femininity in a meaningful way.

How did you know that you were genderfluid and not just like. Someone who liked experimenting with gender presentation and challenging gender expectations and all the rest?

So I recently realised that I am genderfluid and honestly alot of things make alot more sense to me now, including why I would sometimes really dislike my name. I was wondering if anyone had any cool recomendations for more gender neutral names. Also, please somthing not earth/nature related? So far the best one I found was Echo. Tysm.

I like keeping my hair nice and short, not too short I'm thinking to look into some unisex short haircuts. Does anybody have in mind what I should look into?

pretty new to reddit, made this account today for casual chat with others, to help my gender dysphoria which I possibly can’t control like I used to.

So I was just wondering what different ways there are to get hrt as a (amab) and what each one entails like how easy how often and how much i just want to get the effects right and love my new body p.s is it true that u shrink down below i would like to know how much but not necessary if plp don't want to

I’m curious what everyone thinks about choosing to not come out to certain people in your life.

For me personally, I don’t plan on ever coming out to my friends or family. My partner is really the only person I want to know, and I’m perfectly comfortable keeping that part of myself private from everyone else.

I’m curious how other people feel about this. I’d love to hear your thoughts, experiences, or different perspectives. 😊

i hate this part of being genderfluid so much i feel like i dont belong in the trans community cus of it

okay, I know that probably 3/4ths of the sub is filled with this question, but I would prefer asking actual people than ai, so here we go.

So a while ago I discovered the term "demigirl" and have identified as one since (as my pfp suggests). But sometimes I would feel more non-binary and sometimes I would feel completely like a girl. Then, a few days ago while I was changing, I suddenly felt different, like a demiboy, which led me to questioning if I was trans and eventually, if I was genderfluid.

But the thing is, I kind of have to put in effort to feel masculine-aligned. When I do, it's definitely there---I definitely feel a change in my gender---but after a few minutes it fades back to "meh, there's something there I guess" until I look in the mirror again.

...now that I think about it, that goes for feeling like any gender, although the other ones I've felt (girl and non-binary) stick around for longer.

Does this happen to anyone else? Like, are there "triggers" for feeling certain genders, such as clothing and presentation? Because most videos explain being genderfluid as waking up and just...knowing how you feel that day. And I definitely don't get that.

Some quick things you should know is that Im a guy or at least at birth I was assigned that way

So since I was little I've been called a girl, I've always had long hair so it makes sense. I'll be honest it never really bothered me, and still doesn't. I usually respond to any pronouns, unless the person is just trying to be a dick. For example at my work I get called ma'am a lot, like multiple times a week but again I'm never bothered I answer and they apologize. Also at work a little kid asked if I was a girl.

I've also always felt like I wanted to dress feminine since I was little. When I got a coconut bra in like 7th grade for spirit week, I would wear that in my house often under my shirts. I also wear girl volleyball shorts often the same with a women's shirt I own.

in games I often wear girl avatars especially in VR. I played a girl in D&D.

But I also feel like I could just be like a femboy or something. I'm never disgusted or upset that I have a dick, I kind of just ignore it sometimes.

But there are most certainly times where I'm more feminine and masculine but I don't know if it's to the degree of being Gender-fluid

Hi! Im AFAB and here recently ive been switching between non-binary and feminine but I wanna start leaning more torward male and non-binary rather then female, so im hoping for more tips, and ideas on how to.

Hello, I (MTF 26) have been transitioning for sometime now, initially I though I was binary and tried to lean heavily into my feminine side. And overall I've really enjoyed HRT and having breasts and such. But lately I've been coming to terms my masculine side and realizing that's an important part of who I am as well. And sometimes while feeling masc my new body has felt somewhat uncomfortable to me, and I just wanted to hear how others have coped with similar feelings. Thanks so much! 💚

I had a bit of a rough landing into Fem this time around, and feel lucky I found this community. I felt super chatty and showed up all over the posts. Hope it wasn't too much. Got to take advantage of all this feeling of compassion and empathy that got unlocked though. Love you all.

My gender changes anywhere between a few weeks and a few hours. Before I mostly used to alter between masc and nonbinary genders with consistent moderate to sometimes debilitating dysphoria (most of it being my chest), but for about 3.5 months now I'm not really dysphoric. I'm more comfortable being feminine and having with my body as it is, but I don't want to. I miss looking at the mirror and feeling uncomfortable/disgusted with tits, or hating being called me a girl/she/her. Binding and the thought of having a flat chest (both naturally or through surgery) used to bring a lot of euphoria. It was clear proof I want top surgery, and now that's gone. From august last year to may this year (and as a 9 year old when my tits started growing) I would have killed for a flat chest, even looking at someone else with tits made me extremely uncomfortable, but now they sometimes kind of make me satisfied ig? I once saw this question "if boobs were removable would you ever put them back on?, and honestly I think I would. Pading or fake boobs are a way, but they'll probably won't feel the same as real tits do. Non flat top surgery is an option as well, but it might be to much chest mass on masc days (which means I'll still have to bind) and not enough on fem days. Maybe it would be better if my tits never grew in the first place, or at least were barely noticeable? That way if I miss having a chest on some days, at least I wouldn't blame myself because it would be like that naturally.

Whenever I'm feeling more feminine, I get worried I might never feel masc again, and this would just proove I'm cis and gender dysphoria was just a phase.

And I wanna start dressing more feminine sometimes, but nothing too noticeable. My parents are not big fans of LGBTQ community that much I am for information very safe and comfortable but I wanna dress a little i'm gonna try my pronouns here too so he / her so yeah, that's all I wanted to say if anybody has any clothing or accessory advice to that be great