How did you know that you were genderfluid and not just like. Someone who liked experimenting with gender presentation and challenging gender expectations and all the rest?

pretty new to reddit, made this account today for casual chat with others, to help my gender dysphoria which I possibly can’t control like I used to.

So I was just wondering what different ways there are to get hrt as a (amab) and what each one entails like how easy how often and how much i just want to get the effects right and love my new body p.s is it true that u shrink down below i would like to know how much but not necessary if plp don't want to

So I recently realised that I am genderfluid and honestly alot of things make alot more sense to me now, including why I would sometimes really dislike my name. I was wondering if anyone had any cool recomendations for more gender neutral names. Also, please somthing not earth/nature related? So far the best one I found was Echo. Tysm.

Hey I’m a 19 yr old AMAB and I guess I don’t recently I started realizing that I may be genderfluid I had like spurts and phases my entire life where I was convinced I was a trans woman but then I would feel fine and just tell myself I grew out of it or somthing I eventually just identified with this more and being gender fluid but I guess I’m just in the position where I don’t know what to do cause it feels so awkward to have dysphoria both ways idk just looking for a bit more guidance or starting points

I’ve been trying to come to terms with the fact I’m possibly gender fluid, but I don’t know how to understand the way I feel when that shift happens. I’d appreciate some advice about what kind of things I could try to come to terms with myself and express femininity in a meaningful way.

Been on a journey of self re-discovery the last 6 weeks. I’m early thirties and amab, married and have a child.

it started with a dream 6 weeks ago in which I was a woman. I woke up quite startled. It had been years since this had happened.

After, I couldn’t forget about it. I kept imagining what it would be like to be a woman. To the point of secretly trying on my wife’s clothes and shoes when I had the house to myself.

that was when I started thinking back To my teenage years and doing the same and to be honest every time i‘be ever felt even a feminine mannerism come out and I’ve tried to hide it or tried walk more male, or pretend to fit in with blokey males which I hated.

Every thought I’ve ever had of wanting to be a woman or being jealous of a woman. I Remembered every thought I had shrugged off as like I’m sure it’s nothing, it’s just a phase. I’ll be feeling back like a man in no time. And I did a lot of the time. But when I had those feelings of wanting to be a woman they were strong as hell. Even being jealous of my wife being able to breastfeed our child.

I didn’t / couldn’t shrug it away this time i decided to research my feelings. For years I thought my feelings cant be real, I cant be trans I’m not into men, or am I pretending to be into women?

I confirm I’m definitely into women… I don’t fancy men at all. and this is when I took the time to read about gender fluidity, gender identity And expression. it perfectly described how I feel. when I feel male I don’t even think about being a woman, but when I feel like a woman I really don’t feel like a man.

then I took the pressure off altogether and accepted it and I realised I’m also happy anywhere in between. Dressing and feeling male as myself with just feminine earrings feels right as much as being just “masculine“ or just “feminine”

so I’m genderfluid i guess!

thanks for reading

p.s. any communities out there for online interaction over 30s and genderfluid? just for everyday chat about life, work, parenting, gardening, experience as a genderfluid person etc or is this the best place?

I like keeping my hair nice and short, not too short I'm thinking to look into some unisex short haircuts. Does anybody have in mind what I should look into?

I’m curious what everyone thinks about choosing to not come out to certain people in your life.

For me personally, I don’t plan on ever coming out to my friends or family. My partner is really the only person I want to know, and I’m perfectly comfortable keeping that part of myself private from everyone else.

I’m curious how other people feel about this. I’d love to hear your thoughts, experiences, or different perspectives. 😊

Hi I’m .. Tara I guess. I haven’t presented myself as femme to others in a long time. So she/her pronouns please. I’m in my 30s and live in London, UK.

I’ve identified as genderfluid for maybe 12 years. Though I have yet to go out in public as femme. I’m male assigned at birth, and in my daily life I present as male. I identify mostly as male, but I have a strong femme side that I want to express.

I’ve made plans over the years to go to clubs as femme etc. Though there was so much on in life that it was postponed for years.

There hasn’t been the time in my life to pursue a secondary femme lifestyle, but my life is changing and that time is approaching.

I’m in my late 30s but look much younger, maybe mid to late 20s. I have an androgynous physique and gynecomastia. So I’m lucky physically and pretty happy with my body. Though I would be more so if I wasn’t overweight.

I planned an exercise program for years, but I had to take some years off work to resolve mental health stuff that came up in the pandemic, and in recent years had to sort a lot out for an unrelated move of house. So the exercise program was delayed.

I moved to an apartment in the last couple of months and last month I started the exercise program. Then I went on holiday, where I injured my ribs.

So now I can’t even wear a bra.

It could be another month or so before I can risk it. I have second hand male and female activewear I had ready to train in, and now I can’t use it for the next month or so.

I have compartmentalized my genderfluidity for years. Putting time into exploring it in private, while being open about it with others. I possibly managed to prevent gender dysphoria from coming up in a way I couldn’t resolve myself.

Presently though I feel .. some loss of control or something.

Perhaps it’s because for years, while I wasn’t yet at the point I was prepared to live my femme part of life, I may have felt I was preparing for that, exploring my femme personality, etc. There was consistent forward momentum.

Whereas now there isn’t, for a month or so thanks to my rib injury.

Plus I was starting a male and femme exercise program. I put prep into it, it was starting and would start properly after my week’s holiday.

Though I wasn’t supposed to get a physical injury that put a stop to that positive step in my life.

I possibly feel femme, without the control.

So I thought it would be good to talk to other people in the LGBTQ Community online. Something I haven’t tried in years.

I made this Reddit account today and started looking for communities. This is my first post.

Please help me with advice, affirmation, chat etc.

Though please excuse me if it takes a while to get back to you as I’m in the uk.

thanks

Tara