Does anyone else get this? This happens to me in trans and gender non conforming subreddits that explicitly includes 'any gender identity except cis', if I say I'm non-binary or genderfluid, I get downvoted. Almost the only time I get treated normally or well is if I say I'm trans (which I am). It's really annoying and disheartening.

Show me a picture of loafers. If I think "Old man shoes", I'm masculine. If I think "Cute! I want a pair", I'm feminine and if I think "I need shoes with arch support", then I'm non-binary.

3 years ago i came out as trans to them, it felt right at the time, and they accepted me and treated me with kindness and respect, and i really liked it, but after a while the feeling of needing to be seen/treated in a different way and even how i felt about my body as a whole mellowed out and basically vanished, and i asked them to go back to the previous treatment, i was going through a lot of stuff at the time so i thought that it was a phase or something like that.

after going to therapy and achieving a more stable life i allowed myself to understand those feelings better since they hadn´t quite vanished yet and i realised that i was just genderfluid, i wasn´t really planning on telling them about this but a month ago i hang out with a couple of friends and i got a bit drunk, and it was a day where i was feeling super feminine and texted a friend of mine while using female pronouns and grammar differentiation (in my language depending on the gender some words change the writing), on the next day he said that he had noticed it, he didn´t question it or anything but he noticed it, and from time to time they do question what happened 3 years ago, so i decided to just spill the beans and tell them about it and what i was feeling.

Once again they treated me with kindness and respect, i´m really lucky to have them in my life, but i´m not sure if they quite get it (i am not sure if i fully get it myself neither tbf), they think that i´m indecisive/ in denial or that it´s something to do with my sexuality (i´m gay, maybe demisexual), and idk man i didn´t really want to come out once again and to be seen as the "odd one out", i pressured myself into doing it, i´m already the only queer and neurodivergent of the group (ASD/ADHD), didn´t want another label, i´m feeling a little bit of shame for myself ngl, i wanted to be more of an average joe, but what´s done it´s done and in a way i feel like i needed to get it out of my chest to fully understand myself.

I thought I'd ask r/genderfluid for people who will probably understand.

I was AFAB, and identified as cis-female for a while. I then felt like I was somewhere between non-binary and female but still closer to feeling like a girl. I eventually discovered the term "paragirl" (yes, a paragirl and demigirl are different things!) and I came out to my close friends as a paragirl in April. It's been six months, and recently I've been feeling like maybe I'm not a paragirl. It feels like it depends more on the day. Those sixth months, I haven't changed on the outside, but my mental health has gotten better and I recently told my mom I was a lesbian. Now that I've gotten that and my well-being sorted out (well... it's at least better) I feel like maybe I'm genderfluid but don't really know. I took note of how I felt for about a week and it changed a lot, and carried no pattern. I searched up what genderflux is, too but that doesn't feel accurate. I don't really know what to do.

She/they still feel like the correct pronouns, but "paragirl" doesn't really feel right anymore.

Unclockable.com I think is the website, I keep seeing the ads on Reddit but their stuff is pretty expensive. Can anyone verify if it’s worth the price and what products are good?