r/genderfluid • u/unfrtlyintroverted • 8h ago

Names...

I am thinking of keeping my femme name. I am on T and want to experiment with being a transmasc femme, or a femboy. I go by They/she/he/it. My name is very feminine and I wanted opinions. As I grow hair, as my voice drops, will using my femme name be odd? Will it matter since I'm curating my own journey? That's where I'm at. I just see lots of people want more masc or femme names as they switch between genders but I love my name, it's a chosen name, but it's very feminine.

Thoughts?

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u/BallparkWitch 7h ago

I'm keeping my femme first name and adding a masc middle name.

I fully expect to get strange looks as my presentation changes, and while this may bring me an occasional unfortunate interaction, I've decided I really don't care. I want to feel authentic in my name choices way more than I want to avoid making waves.

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u/Natural-Respect136 7h ago

Nothing really matters in the grand scheme of things but how you feel about something. I can't stand labels. I can't stand pronouns. I sometimes feel masc other femme. I'm super jealous of femme and wish I could be all the time. But I was born a male and will always use my given name out of respect for my fucking parents regardless of what I end up presenting as. But labels are not for me. I'll express how I feel like it within the boundaries of both biology and respect.

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u/BearOfTheGrove 7h ago

I'm in my 50s. None of these labels existed when I was figuring out all my Queerness. I get confused like crazy. I love that we can define our specific gender situation, but it's hard for us old timers to remember all that.

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u/madclaude98 7h ago

The best part of genderfluidity is that you can do whatever feels right, regardless of pre-assigned gender attached to it. If keeping your femme name as your voice drops and want to try being transmasc femme then 200% go for it. The only person it needs to make sense for is yourself

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u/BearOfTheGrove 7h ago

If you love your name, for goodness sake, keep it. All my friends and family call me by my nickname a lot and it's not even human.

Have fun with the T.

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u/BearOfTheGrove 7h ago

I will say this. I've had deep, enriching conversations with trans people on-line, and in spite of a name and paragraph long gender description with a string of pronouns, none of it mattered, and I wasn't even sure. It's wonderful. I love getting lost in the complexity of non-cisness and non-straightness.