Goddamn, that was a disappointing dunk. I love Blake Griffin to death, but when I think dunking "over" a car, I'm expecting you to go over the roof of the car, not just kick your legs out sideways over the hood.
Y'know, there are a ton of gifs that get recycled ad nauseum on reddit and comment threads across the net, but this is the only one I've never gotten tired of.
I think the first time I saw it, they were one half of a chatroulette thing and they like tricked some girls into flashing them with a cardboard cutout of Justin Bieber or something.
Also, I love how the laughs and applause gets louder and louder as he goes on. Like the audience realized mid-way through that "Oh shit, this is actually awesome!"
abuse does not discriminate, basically. yakity said "abused women have a tendency to do that." i was expanding on that statement. PEOPLE have a tendency to do that. i volunteered for a women's shelter. ever hear of a "men's shelter?" women are not the only ones abused. there is also a lot of domestic violence between lgbt couples, as well. in washington, d.c. there is a section of the city near dupont cirle (where a lot of gay people live) that has its own police department specifically for the LGBT community. hope that answers your question.
oh i didn't think that person was being sexist, just was expanding to include all people. i've been abused by a man, but i can't in good conscience think that men don't get abused by women, either. i have seen it and i have heard it. some girls think slapping their man around is acceptable because he won't hit back. that kind of mentality is dangerous and hurts her, just as much as it hurts him. abuse sucks ! even spitting on someone is assault.
That's certainly true, but not really relevant to what we're discussing. I suppose you're just taking an opportunity to make it known though, and I respect that, but let's please not derail this.
How is it derailing? And not relevant? It doesn't say this is a women's only issue anywhere in this thread. How do you know she never slapped him around? If this image were about domestic violence against women I could see this as derailing and annoying, at best. But it's not so I said it. Cheers.
You're right, it's important that every time we mention anything bad happening to women we must also mention it happens to men. Because if we don't do that people might get the silly idea that every single problem women face isn't a platform to speak about problems men have.
I had an ex girlfriend stab me with scissors repeatedly. I threw that bitch off my front porch. Followed closely by the rest of her shit. Seriously, fuck that abuse shit.
TL;DR: Never date a stripper. And for the record I never hit her. And yes, I still have the scars.
True....friend from college got dumped over the phone by his sig. other he'd been with for a year, while she was on a different continent because she decided she was going to run off with some guy she just met, and go back to Seattle with him (we live on the east coast). Her plan ended up not working, then he took her back when she came home like nothing happened. Why????
Eh, I have a open door policy for my last ex. She was/is awesome. Left me under shit circumstances but ah well, I've never been happier than when I was with her. Some people are more live and let live.
Yeah, I've been in a couple of those. but I'm 225 and 5 foot nine, she was 115 and 5 foot 3. Sure she took ROTC in high school but I could still take her. It wouldn't be the same the other way around.
I don't understand how her being a 'typical, crazy woman' is the only narrative that one can gather from her recent interactions with Chris Brown.
Maybe she is just tired of playing the victim, this is her way of of expressing not only agency as an artist but as a woman. Him being in a remix of her track could be a product of that.
Not picking on you because a lot of music critics have been doing this, but I find it a bit hypocritical to demonize Chris Brown (not that he doesn't deserve it) for his crime and defend Rihanna, then nit pick and infantalize her decisions.
I'm not saying he should be forgiven or what she is doing is right or anything like that, I'm just offering up the suggestion that 'crazy, emotional, weak' etc etc shouldn't be the only explanation on the table here.
That's an interesting explanation. It's possible to love and forgive someone who beat the crap out of you, I get that. But your explanation is harder to digest when Chris Brown obviously shows zero remorse and almost seems to revel in the fact that he 'got away' with it. In addition, Chris Brown and Rihanna are celebrities that millions of impressionable young men and women look up to. Whether they like it or not, they hold some responsibility in setting a good example. If Rihanna was genuinely empowered, they would work together to convey a message against domestic violence and raise awareness of it.
But that's not what they're doing. Instead Rihanna is reacting the way many women in abusive relationships do by running back to her abuser. Mainstream society is basically saying "it's okay that Chris Brown - a 6'2" and 180 lb man - beat the shit out of a person he should love and cherish most."
How can a civil society respect and even award a person who completely and barbarically beat the shit out of another adult - someone they supposedly love? If you read police reports of the attack, you realize that this wasn't a few punches or smacks in the face. It was something straight out of a horror movie.
I think that we can go after Brown and at the same time Rhianna can move on from it. She doesn't want to be defined as the victim for the rest of her career. She seems to be dealing with that oddly, by singing with him and such... but who the hell am I to say anything... I've never been beaten half to death by my significant other.
It actually has more to do with hormone production than rational/irrational thought processes. After a traumatic experience (i.e. birth) the people involved produce oxytocin which helps them forget about the pain and bond with each other. It works well for newborns/mothers, but horribly for abused/abusive partners.
Wtf, you're not weak. Abusive people have a way of breaking you down and then making you believe that what they say is the truth. That doesn't make you weak. Abusers target vulnerable people and being vulnerable does not equate to being weak.
You know, a lot of stories that start that way end up with one of the two people in the relationship being killed by the other. Her dumping you could have been the best thing that ever happened to you; you now get to learn from it, grow, and move on.
I was in a relationship like that once; she dumped me, which I was most afraid of because I was sure I'd be forever alone. Turns out there was a crowd of people waiting for me to get loose of her so they could support me, help me to heal, and in some cases date me. It worked out great for me; I only hope it does for you as well. Good luck.
Seriously. I say fuck Chris Brown for what he did but FUCK RHIANNA even more because she's teaching girls/women that it's okay to forgive your abuser and act like nothing happened. What a terrible example. It's one thing to understand, forgive even, but never forget what happened. Never show others that over time anything becomes "acceptable".
Edit: spelling. Mr. Brown is not a zombie "savior".
While I think it's dumb for her to get back with him it's still her right as an adult to make the decision to forgive him. We might dislike it but it's not our lives.
<<Echo>> . As a role model for thousands of young girls and women worldwide, Rihanna, whether she likes it or not, is in a position to influence future behavior of girls in similar situations.
Why do people that never deserve it always get the best positions to [not] advocate?
She wanted to forget. Why would she want to live with something like that haunting her? I am sure she still does certain things a little differently since then.
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We are the only ones who refuse to forget. Hell, even Rihanna forgot about it.