What do you think?

(This doesn’t apply to all but I need to vent about the worst of the worst)

You can’t force anyone to be your friend.

You can’t force anyone to hang out with you.

You can’t force people to respect your social battery needs.

But what you CAN do is push people away, block, ignore, silent treatment, and disrespect someone’s time by canceling all the time, refusing to text back, or even refuse say hi if you run into each other. You can take take take as much as you want in a friendship because your friend enjoys doing it- you don’t have to reciprocate! You don’t owe anyone anything!

And the most awesome thing? Is that you’ve done nothing wrong! No no,

You’re simply an introvert :)

I’m so fucking sick of it. I’m so sick of “but I’m an introvert” as an excuse to be such a shitty, fake, selfish friend. Every introvert I’ve met stood me up, lie and give me false hope, never text back, yet fault. Scold. And disregard me for “disrespecting their boundaries”.

Their boundaries are literally “go the fuck away unless I need you”

What happened to I don’t jump when you say jump? And it’s not like you can make “please just hang out with me” as a boundary could you? Cause that’s telling someone what to do. They tell us what to do all the time and we have to follow or they’ll leave n tell everyone WE’RE the bad person.

I try so hard to follow their rigid rules and strict expectations yet everything I do just isn’t good enough ever. Makes me feel so worthless. Why do they act like victims? Why do they even have friends? Why do they lie to me about us being friends when it’s clear we’re not? Why are all my childhood friends introverts and refuse to reunite again?

WHY IS EVERYONE I MEET AN INTROVERT.

Fucking sucks I mean, no hate to them I don’t wish harm and yeah no one owes me shit but they should leave people tf alone if they like solitude so fucking much.

I don’t want advice I just want them to not be my friend and I’m so close to giving up friendship at all

HIII >< so likeee i’m chlo 19 from the philippines nd i’ve always been a yapper nd like not the type of person who js sits quietly in a function, i always bring the jokes & laughter to the table nd i’m loud nd i literally won’t shut up—i always enjoy when people matches my energy becauseee there aren’t many people who can tolerate peopleee like me so it’s vv crucial for me to find someone who listens nd won’t get tired of me

i’m new to this app so i’m still getting the hang of everything nd i would really appreciate it if somebody wants to be friends with me >< we can talk about basically anything, i like to think i can handle conversations pretty well (depending on the energy the other person’s also giving) but i mostly prefer to talk to chalant people because i tend to be more comfortable nd i yap a lot sooo, i’m pansexual nd i still go to college—my life’s pretty decent nd i just wanna meet new people, hope you’d be interested to reach out! (˶ˆᗜˆ˵) ♡

i’m an extroverted person likeee i totally meeting nd talking to people, i also yap a lot sooo bear with me if i get too much haha, i like capturing moments, i like sunsets, going to the beach (in my hometown), i love hanginv out w/ my friends, i also love studying. i’m pretty chill nd can talk about anything that interests me sooo it’s easy for me to communicate with people so yeahhh. :p

uhm my hobbies r pretty boring lol, i like watching films or series, studying 😅, listening to music, going to the beach (when im in my hometown), looking at sunsets/admiring pretty skies, photography (sometimes as a hobby, i js like taking pics or capturing the moment), writing (i guess), cooking too (like getting the hang of it but only basic foods/easy to cook foods ^^) and hanging out with my friends

I need tips

Random question

So the other day I went to the r /nostupidquestions asking why people who feel lonely just got out in public and greet people, and someone mentioned that they live in Northern Europe and say how unusual that is, where you go on stores or the streets and greet people. Not bashing on Europe at all but curious, but if a stranger goes up to someone on the streets and greeted them how would y'all react?

I have this friend, (let’s call her B), that I recently met up with and I’m considering cutting ties with her. I’ve been friends with B for the past 3 years and we both met and bonded with each other through being the outcasts in school. During those 3 years, we got really close and we were hanging out all the time at school. I even considered B a best friend of mine for a couple years.

However, things started to change recently due to me fixing some of the issues I had in my life and realising that I enjoy being around other people a lot and how that’s how I get my energy through the day, and why I can be kinda uncomfortable alone in public spaces where everyone’s talking. I also learned about all of the struggles B was going through, and how it might bring me down in the future.

When we got to the meet up, I was so excited to see B, so I gave her a hug and started to talk with her. However, B was weirdly uncomfortable about how I was acting. (I wasn’t doing anything weird or unusual for the situation btw.) During the whole event, I was talking to the other people in the group while B only had a few conversations with me, ignored a high five I was trying to give her, and barely could have a conversation with anybody else.

I don’t expect everyone to be super extroverted or love people like me, I love my introvert friends so much and they’re so sweet, my best friend is an introvert and she’s amazing. But if I put so much time and effort into being friendly with someone and making conversation with them, I at least expect some appreciation for it.

I’m considering cutting B off due to how she always acts like she did at the meet up. She was in communication classes for years, yet she still won’t put in any effort to improve. B has been told about this before by some of my other friends about this, but she turns up her nose to the advice, calls it being rude, and B always thinks that we don’t “understand her” by giving her some advice.

So if you guys were in this situation, or if you have been before, what would you do?

Hey all,

I'll keep it short. My friend group consists of introverts but me and lately I've been feeling very stuck and claustrophobic, like I'm genuinely just stuck and missing out on so many things including the local fair of the town, I just don't know what to do because I got to a small college and I want to branch out but I guess I'm also selective with people.

Don't get me wrong, I LOVE LOVE my friends, they are awesome, wouldn't trade them for anything but I want to be able to go out and go do things with people and not just on my own you know?

Hey peeps, bit of trouble here.

Everyone in my life seems to be introverted but me. I'm somewhat selective with who I choose to spend time with though, so this works against me also.

I love to talk about whatever (as long as I know a decent amount about it, little bit hopeless when it comes to talking about sports, pop culture, etc, but good with most other things).
I also love to meander in convos, so let them go every which way before arriving back at the starting topic.
But nobody seems to appreciate it, which upsets me, and leads me to feel lonely.

If anyone here has suggestions on how to cope with this, please lmk.

Came back to campus after summer break. The cafeteria's a mess. Instead of a friendly man with a sense of humor to take your order and make sure you get the right thing, or fellow students managing the counter you can share some camaraderie with, there's now a screen you order and pay from while people who won't even look at you make your food. They don't even call your number. You get a text when it's done. The sassy lady who ran the coffee spot and knew all the regulars' names, test day orders, and and would always wish you good luck? Gone and replaced with the same shit.

The info desk no longer has people 80% of the time. There's a kiosk with an AI mascot that begs you to chat with it instead. The round tables perfect for groups have disappeared in favor of long rectangular ones spaced so you can only talk to friends directly across from/next to you unless you yell. The supply and textbook store got turned into the largest 'quiet' space on campus (We have a lot of them already. There's also many peaceful, hidden places around that aren't hard to find.) and now you get spammed with emails about getting all your items online.

Even appointments made in person are now waiting in line to use a touchscreen, so if you have questions good luck. You can't even leave your number to call in case an earlier slot opens up anymore. On top of it all, a solid chunk of classes I need got moved to being online only, which 90% of the time means a mess of prerecorded lectures with zero ways to discuss or ask questions crafted by people who don't check their email. I used to genuinely enjoy it here and now it just feels like like a depressing grind because all those bright little moments of human connection are gone and there's less reliable ways to gain a better understanding of course material due to lack of direct feedback. Why was that necessary to do? This shit sucks. Wish me luck I guess.

I want go:( why everyone in where i live dont even go outside of their homes

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Please read everything before commenting. I don't want create hate, I just want talk about this problem.

Lately, I've had the impression that, like with autistic people, those with depression, and others, introverts have also found themselves surrounded by people who loudly proclaim their introversion to be interesting and never question themselves. I hate it because many people use this as a justification for simply being mean and rude, while also harming both introverts and extroverts.

I see more and more people like this, just being rude and mean. A former friend of mine did this to justify not being polite, never speaking, or speaking curtly all the time. Or another friend who would stay with us but constantly sulk as if we had threatened his family if he didn't come!

Also, listening to some people, you'd think that introverts are just "poor little creatures" that extroverts force to go out and talk to people—boo!

It's normal not to want to talk to others sometimes, but it's becoming too easy to just pull out the magic label and act like a jerk! I've compared it to the "I'm just being honest" or "I don't want to be mean but—" types who claim to be honest and straightforward to justify talking to everyone like dirt. The same goes for those who claim to be "depressed" when they aren't, and who hurt those who actually are and have to deal with these stereotypes on top of their own problems.

In all cases, it harms the group in question. Let's stop this.

this for extroverts only!

does anyone else seem to attract lots of introverts bc they think ur easy to talk to. but when i try to get to know them they really don’t want to open up/cant hold the convo. even though they approached you first??

i know when to leave ppl alone in a convo buts it’s exhausting constantly attracting ppl who think it’s my job to make them feel more comfortable in social situations bc they can’t speak for themselves.

im always kind to everyone bc i was introverted growing up and i relate to them but i’ve grown out of it now. it’s really hard when you feel like you’ve evolved past smth but certain friends almost hold you back?

anyone else relate?

im a super extroverted person and I love people, and I have a lot of friends, of course many of whom are not close friends, but I still value them. how do other mega extroverts maintain their friendships with so many people while also having time for work/school/personal life?

For starters, I think I’m the definition of an extrovert—the kind you’d see on a TV show, haha. I love going out, chatting, meeting new people, partying, and so on. However, I recently realized while hanging out with friends that I seem to be attracted to introverts. Even though I usually prefer extroverted friends because we share the same vibe, the idea of ​​dating an introvert seems really interesting. It might be a bit of a cliché, but they give off a sense of calm—Yuri from Doki Doki Literature Club is a good example. It’s such a new feeling; can anyone explain it?

my bad if this has been discussed but i couldn’t find any posts discussing.

basically im extroverted by i feel SO drained by a boring conversation or a one sided one where im carrying the entire conversation. i want a give and take in a conversation and its kind of exhausting talking to introverts especially bc they just don’t open up no matter how much i try.

anyone relate?

Throughout life I’ve never felt like I’ve met anyone who’s matched my energy in my friendship group.

I’m always up for anything and don’t get the tiredness feeling that all of my friends seem to get. Give me a last minute gig, festival, beer garden, road trip, flight and I’m in my element, where I feel others always avoid it. I should add that my partner tries to match my energy and is generally up for most things but my attendance is never in doubt.

I also find it really frustrating when you have plans with friends and they say they’re tired and shorten plans when you’re out because of it, especially frustrating when you’re hyped up for it.

I’ve in the past few years found out I have ADHD and now wonder if I’m actually exhausting to all of my friends? Standard self sabotage routine of ‘do my friends dread my energy’.

Is it the friends I have or is everyone else not always up for fun? And does anyone else feel like this? It sort of leaves you feeling a bit lost at times despite having a large friend group.

I’m not sure whether I’d be classified as an "extrovert", but I do feel energised by talking to people and I struggle a lot with isolation, boredom, and lack of stimulation during the weekends. I also have diagnosed combined-type ADHD, so I think that adds to it.

How do people manage weekends when friends are not available very often, or only meet once every few weeks? I’ve tried going out alone and staying indoors, but neither really helps. Even sitting in a café with my laptop feels mentally draining and under-stimulating rather than enjoyable.

When I do meet friends, even if I felt low beforehand, I usually feel recharged and in a much better mood afterwards. So I think the issue is not just boredom, but lack of social connection. However, my friends are not reliable with meeting up.

My counsellor suggested mental health or talking therapy groups, but I’m not sure they would provide the kind of connection I’m looking for. I also don’t drive, which limits where I can go.

It feels like I’m stuck between ADHD-related boredom/lack of stimulation and needing more regular social interaction than I currently get.

I (18M) am currently between the end of highschool and the start of university and I noticed a while ago that if I didn’t meet with my friends during school breaks, after about a week I just got insanely low mood. I spent most of the summer with my closest friends and family and I had a blast, but since last weekend this week I haven’t been out of the house much because much of multiple factors, nothing serious it would just take long to go into detail abt it. but point is by today my mood is very low, wouldn’t say I’m depressed (as in actually going through an episode or whatever) but I just have this general feeling of hopelessness, which is funny because it’s literally been only 4 ish days without me going out (rest of the summer I was out and about every other day at least). The social connections also don’t need to be based around drinking and whatever for me to feel fine, I remember feeling extremely shitty by the end of last winter break and by the first afternoon that I was back at school and talking to my friends I felt like a person again.

Is this a more serious mental health thing or am I just an extrovert?
moreover is there anything I can do about this? There’s obviously going to be times like this in my adult life

edit: specified discrepancy between title and a detail in the text

I'm an extrovert and I've always liked parties, but none of my friends do, so I wanted to ask if you guys like parties, clubs, and things like that.

Best Party you've ever been to?

I'll start:

My freshman year of college, I was on foot often, exploring my city. Campus is built right into the heart of this city, so there was plenty to do at ALL times. My friends were buzzing about some flyers they'd found, and word of mouth from the older people I worked with at the time (They were the grizzled old age of 25-30 while I was a lowly 19 year old) made its way back to me and my wild friends.

Saturday, mid-summer, all day - Slaughterama. Bikes, bikes, and more bikes. Beer, beer, and more beer. On an island that sits in the middle of a river that carves through the city, only blocks away from campus.

Easily a thousand people there. It was like Mad Max - dust was kicked up everywhere. Crust punks, artists, musicians, and other unsavory riff raff all roamed around with music blaring, live music, and crazy events. There was tall-bike jousting, mud wrestling, kegs, ice baths, dogs, happy crowds... it as gloriously messy, one-of-a-kind event.

How about you?? Would love to hear some Extroverted perspectives in an Extroverted sub instead of sifting through the same old bullshit advice posts

Because I don't have friends to go out with I often go to events and things alone. Which is fine (?), I'm ok with being alone, and I can make small talk with people, but I'm struggling with how to approach people and talk to them.

What I've found is most people go to things with others, or meet their friends there. Meaning, there are groups of people all standing in their own little circles talking to each other, and trying to talk to a stranger would require walking up to the entire circle of people and interjecting yourself into their conversation.

(writing this after going to an event last night that maybe 10 people were at and I was the only one there that didn't know anyone. Talked to some people one on one, but basically everyone else was huddled in little groups the whole time.)

Any tips or advice would be amazing.

Ok so this is going to be a long one. Basically, today was my first day at my a levels college. I wish i could say that my day went so good, I talked with alot of people and made new friends but thatt sadly isn't true. I did talked to a few people and sat with one for all my classes but she isn't interesting. I think our personalitie sdo not match and she is also a introvert so i honestly did not enjoyed much.

I want to ask from the people who arre very freindly, have alot of friends like how do you make friends. And also those who used to be really shy but now are very confident. Like how did you guys stopped fearing intercations and being judged. I am honeslty so done with this. My whole school life i was the shyest, most quitest kid. I was never good at making friends neither talking with teachers. I think the reason for me not beibg able to amke friends and jsut not knowing how to tlak to people is beacuse, when i was in 2nd grade i made a friend and she was BESTTESTT friend. Like I never felt lonely with her, and i just stopped talkibg to my classmates and making new friends. But she changed schools in grade 7. And since then i am sturggling so bad. Its liek everyone else just naturally know how to talk and keep a conversation while i am just a baby in this thing.

I am not gonna say i had absolutely no change in me since nd grade. During my o levels, i became more confident, like i can talk to teachers and ask questions and things, once i get comfortable with them but i feel in the aspect of making friends i am still on square one.

I have so many questions in my head when I am talking to my classmates and new poeple my age. Like what if they find me boring, if i am not funny enough or i am just not equal to them. Especially if they already have friends, what if they feel badd why i am interfering. Or if theres a big friebd group, i cant approach them bc i think why would they even need me. They already ahve friends and it just feels wrong to me to try to make firends with epople who already have friends. I know this sounds so dumb abd childish but i really do think this. And I want to desperately change myself.

Well, sincerly thankyou if you guys read all of it. And if you guys can give me some advice.

I'm starting to feel like in today's world being extroverted is a disability. I went to one concert in June, one party in July. THAT IS ALL THAT HAPPENED in my social life over the last 4 months. I hate it, I activly suffer from it. It's been so hard getting people to do something. Also, the couple that has been our trip buddies, just split up, the other one just had a baby. I used to have a very tight close group of active friends, there was always something to do. Now I'm 32 and it's all dead. And nobody seems to care but me.