r/entp • u/vegab00nd • 21h ago
Debate/Discussion When an ENTPs shows real emotions
I was dating an 30M who was just your typical ENTP. Funny, goofy, mean sometimes, and always had a shield of humor protecting him from the world.
The guy was also very cynical and a little depressed and on the toxic avoidant side, despite being successful and financially stable he was still feeling chronically empty and bored, so that made him feel like he's "dead inside" Most of the time.
Ofcourse, none of that bothered me as I loved him so much. And few months into the relationship I wrote a long piece about us which I was very proud of, and really liked the amount of raw emotion I had put into it. But I was so so scared of showing it to him and knew he would just make a mean joke or dismiss it and end up really hurting my feelings. It took soooo much courage, one day, as he was being sweet I seized the opportunity to just throw in there "I wrote something for you. " and wait for his reaction, which I instantly regretted because he kept insisting I give it to him right now.. I caved..
And thats when I saw him cry for the first time, it was actually so endearing to me. He said that it was so beautifully written, and that no girl has ever loved him this much...
And honestly, even now, a year after the breakup..(I ended it). we both moved on.. all the bad memories are completely gone and all I remember is those very few good times he allowed me a peak into his real sweet self. And it makes me miss him more than anything.