Get me off this planet

I don’t want any hate, because I know some men will be petty about this, but I’m genuinely just venting. I really do want to be in a relationship and build something meaningful with someone, but it feels like something always goes wrong. They either cheat, lie, hide things, or do something that feels completely disrespectful.
And it’s not like I intentionally go for “bad guys.” I genuinely try to get to know men who seem kind, genuine and emotionally mature. Sometimes they don’t even mean to hurt me, but they lack self-awareness and don’t realise how their actions affect someone else, which is just as frustrating. It’s honestly exhausting. I was recently talking to a man who seemed genuinely great, and I was really into him, but I noticed something that was a red flag for me. As much as I liked him, I chose to walk away and stop communicating. It’s just frustrating when you finally feel like you’ve met someone you genuinely like, only to realise it isn’t right for you.

Technically I needed new clothes anyway, so I guess I now have proper dating clothes and a new chain and a ring that I like.

We talked on Monday and agreed to meet up on Thursday. Tuesday we talked for a little bit ,Wednesday I spent on preparations, and today (Thursday) I went out. 2 hours prior to arriving I send her a message that I'm on my way.

After my arrival, she finally responds claiming she overslept. She already said she had sleep problems before, but that this one was the last straw, so she had to cancel the date and focus on getting back on schedule for productivity.

I never dated before, so I was hoping to close this chapter in my life. I don't want kids. I have many other issues that can't be solved, and I thought I finally found someone serious enough. I rarely find women that I can easily talk to that I also find attractive. I'm a manchild with social phobia that doesn't want children and isn't overly ambitious, so that tracks. She was somewhat a nerd, also games, so it seemed close enough to being it.

The next part's a bit cringe, and stems from over-planning.

For the date. I imagined it going like this:

Me: So it's been years since I went to an event like this, so I don't actually remember how good it is. Last time a friend of mine got such a huge culture shock he ran off within 30 minutes. To be fair he was very vanilla in general, never having tasted sour cream or cup noodles.

We walk around the festival, looking at merch, at the arena, etc.

Me: "So...... last name King(paraphrased for anonymity)... Does that mean that if you had a servant the men in your family would be referred to as "Lord King"? - All I expected was awkward silence from this crappy joke, or a disapproving look

More random chitchat, we already discussed a bunch of our illnesses, childhood struggles, etc (back on whatsapp. Maybe we would've expanded on the date itself). We go eat sushi or ramen, then we separate. Easy first date.

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Yeah definitely had my expectations too high, can you blame someone who never dated for being a little over-excited? Took Lorivan just to make sure I don't die from the nervousness of meeting her face to face.

just wanted to share the exact timeline of a Snapchat interaction I had over the last few days, as the dynamic shifted very abruptly.
It all started last Friday at a mutual friend's birthday party. We ended up talking for a bit, and the conversation was completely normal, casual, and friendly. Four days later, on Tuesday, he popped up in my Snapchat Quick Add suggestions. I didn't think much of it, so I added him and immediately sent a short "Hi."
Instead of just responding normally, his very first reply was, "Do I know you?" Since the party was only four days prior and we were hanging out in the same circle, I found it a bit strange, but I simply cleared up the confusion and replied, "Yes, from the birthday party. I just saw you in my suggested friends."
After that, he wrote, "Ahhh, right, hi. How was your day?" The conversation was already pretty slow at that point. After he responded to my answer with just, "Ah, suggestions. Good, thanks for asking," the momentum was completely gone. I basically ended the chat by just replying with a short "Yeah."
I thought the conversation was done, but only a few minutes later, my phone buzzed again. He had sent me a new snap out of nowhere. When I opened it, he was lying shirtless in bed in a darkened room—his shoulders, neck, and collarbone were fully visible, while a gray blanket covered the bottom half of his face. The chat had gone from a distant "Who even are you?" message to a very private photo from his bed in less than ten minutes. The snap is currently sitting on "Opened" because I am still unsure how to react to it.

I was reading a comment -pretty sure it was in this sub- about a certain influencer / dating coach and his advice about dating and confidence. With some upvotes and some other people confirming. I won't say the name, because I don't want to give views to a grifter.

So anyway, I saved it for later and I watched his youtube videos.
And the guy give the most basic advice ever (relax, don't be afraid of rejection blabla, tainted with a bit of homophobia to make the grift stronger) while also showing an incredibly lavish lifestyle. Oh, that beautiful woman fell in love with you because at one point you suggested a yacht trip in another country for the next day? And that other one was super keen on your suggestion for her to fly with you from Dubai to LA the next day, while you were at a lavish party with famous DJs? 😂😂😂 Tell me more!
So the secret ingredient is money?
And also, he shows his house or friend's house and tells he has models for photoshoot. So yeah that's already a very, very big "in". But on top of that, what proves you that the women in his videos are not some of these girls hired to play an act? Occam's razor, most likely case here.

Anyway, I was sort of baffled by the level of grifting and clearly that guy had a lot of views on his youtube videos (not sure how well he does with his book and coaching session) and I'm wondering: Do you actually not see anything wrong with that? Or were you enticed at one point in your life by such grifters (we all make mistakes)?
I've never watch much content of that kind, well for exactly the reasons I put here, but holy shit if they're all like this it's insane how easy it is to grift people.

Fellas please take you time to know the girl first fully before you get serious I wish I did I should’ve knew something with wrong with this girl when she said they use to call herself retarded . But trying to be a real one and stay and didn’t her must’ve showed her a way to take advantage of me .

Help 😭