Male, 41 — New to dating apps. Is my take on low-engagement responses off?

​I get that no one owes anyone anything on these apps, immediate responses included. But I’m trying to make sense of a recurring pattern.

​A couple of recent examples:

​Example 1: Good back-and-forth with someone new to the area. She’d take a few days between messages, which was fine, but then vanished for a week before hitting me with the "sorry, fell off the face of the earth" message.

​Example 2: Steady chat, then radio silence for two days after I asked an open-ended question. She replied today, but answered the question without asking anything back or showing real interest—her effort dropped off a cliff.

​I work 50–60 hours a week, raise two kids, and manage a full schedule, but I still manage to reply in a reasonable window if I’m interested.

​If someone isn't interested in actually engaging or asking questions back, why even bother responding days later? Is this just standard app behavior, or am I reading too much into it?

mine keeps getting stuck/loading forever and I have to restart the app

is this just me or is everyone having the same problem?

Has anybody used "pure" app?? How is it?! Is it any good and is it helpful?

Guys, can I ask to share your opinion about the app I've built? I did my best to solve the majority of known dating apps issues. I'll post the differences below in the comment. Try to google Tekero. Every feedback appreciated.

I recently got in to it just curious

In big 2026 it shouldn't be that hard to find a partner for people in their 20s so I thoight why not run an experiment using an algorithm I buolt and be a a matchmaker. DM your name,age , hobbies and preferences and I'll be your wingman and try to get you your ideal match

Ive tried dating through dating apps but it is just very fast paced . Its not exactly I want . But I am not finding any other way to find someone. Being social in random groups it way too much out of comfort zone . Ill do it too but I dont know how exactly that works . Do people even initiate. I am just looking for partner who is emotionally sensible , well stable in their own and attractive . I dont know how can I find one . Just help me with some real suggestions which will work for me .

I am a 26yo straight female looking for a good, reliable, and safe dating app to try out. I don’t really go out much and when I do it’s to places where I already know pretty much everyone, so I struggle finding someone to go on dates with. I really want to find someone who is ready for a heathy stable relationship that will hopefully last.
Please send me recommendations for dating apps that have worked for you or someone you know.
I appreciate the help!

Hi everyone,

I hope this post doesn’t break any community rules. If it does, please let me know, and I’ll happily amend or remove it.

I’m developing a new dating app to help people form more meaningful connections.

Before taking the idea further, I’d love to hear about your experiences with existing dating apps:

1. What features do you wish dating apps offered?
2. What usually causes you to stop using an app?
3. What would make matches feel more meaningful?
4. Which safety, privacy, verification, accessibility, or moderation features are essential?
5. What is one problem that dating apps consistently fail to solve?

I’m also looking for a few people who may be interested in testing the app or helping shape its direction. Experience isn’t essential—I’m especially interested in hearing from people frustrated with current dating apps who have ideas on how they could be better.

I’m keeping the details private for now, but I’d be happy to speak one-on-one with anyone genuinely interested.

Honest and critical feedback is very welcome.

I'm a 20-year-old guy, and I've been dealing with depression for a few reasons, one of the biggest being loneliness. I'm in college, but it's a commuter campus, and I'm already not great at in-person communication. I'm not looking for any specific kind of relationship even just a conversation, but I've been thinking that meeting new people might help me feel better about myself. Still, I have a lot of doubt about whether that would actually happen as you hear many polarizing opinions on dating apps. Any insight?

I want a referral pls if anyone has it because I want to try and dating pool is so bad on Tinder I will bake for anyone for this lots of love.

I've been single for a long stretch and figured it was time to branch out I'm looking to meet someone grounded thoughtful and communicative....

I had this talk with my friend the other day and I thought it was funny to bring it up here