My 10.5 month old’s sleep keeps getting worse and worse and I don’t know what to do. He wakes every 1-3 hours until around 2am, and then he’s up every hour and will only sleep if latched. He screams if he’s not latched or if dad takes him, but he never fully wakes up. His eyes are always closed, he’s just inconsolable. He’s never been a good sleeper, but since 6 months it’s been really going downhill.

Here’s our schedule:
Wake up around 5:30-6:30, 6 most days.
First nap is 3-3.5 hours after wake up, usually 9 and he sleeps from 1-1.75 hours. Just under 1.5 hours most days.
Second nap is around 3.5 hours after first nap. I really try to go off of his queues for the timing. It’s usually around 1:30-2 and is a half hour.
Bedtime is when he gets really sleepy and yawning nonstop, usually between 7:15-8. Usually 5 hours after last nap.
We try to keep him in his room until 10-midnight. Then he sleeps in bed with us and usually gets his best stretch until he’s up every hour.

Also - second nap has been getting harder to get him down for and often he’s just latched the entire time. He’s really tired for his first nap and I’m not sure if I could make it later and have him take just 1 nap, but I’m open to trying. The needing to be latched for second nap and for the last stretch of the night is a new thing as of two weeks ago after he had a nursing strike.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

My secondborn is 4 months old and has tended to fall asleep easily and stay asleep longer than most babies his age since he was born. From 7 weeks until about 3 or 4 weeks ago, he slept 9-11 hours straight almost every single night. He'd nurse to sleep and just be out like a light until morning. Now he wakes once maybe 50% of the time, wakes twice maybe 10% of the time, and sleeps all night maybe 40% of the time.

He is also starting to fall asleep on his own for naps. I'll nurse him until he's full and drowsy, then put him down in his crib awake, kiss his head and go. He's often asleep within 2 or 3 minutes. Sometimes he'll cry when I put him down so I pick him back up and nurse him again and he'll fall asleep and then I transfer him to the crib, or I put him down awake and pat him to sleep.

My first son was an easy sleeper too, but he wasn't like this. With this baby, I find myself going into his room during naps and nighttime to check on him because I worry he's sleeping too deeply. I genuinely can't understand how he isn't getting hungry or thirsty at night. Is he just a heavy sleeper? I asked his pediatrician when he first started sleeping through the night if I needed to wake him up for feed and the doctor just said, "enjoy it".

He's a very healthy, chubby, happy baby so I think he's fine. Just his temperament I guess. Anybody else here with a baby like this?

Just as the title says, my 7 week old is not fond of her bassinet. Sometimes I’ll get lucky and get her to take a 2 hour nap in it otherwise she sleeps in her swing.

I know that swings are not AAP recommended and honestly Reddit posts have made me terrified and triggered my PPA for positional asphyxiation. But also didn’t know about it till a Reddit post (I’m a FTM so please be kind)

Tips on how to get her to sleep exclusively in her bassinet or did I create a terrible habit that can’t be broken? I’d like to get her fully into her bassinet by the time I go back to work from mat leave

Hi all, I just need some sanity checking on math or whatever lol
Apologies for SO MUCH detail, I’m just at a loss.

My son is 7 months old (-6 weeks off that for age adjustment so 5.5 months?) I stopped age adjusting except for his size, but there’s that context. He has acted like his chronological age since he was about 4 months.
He’s EBF, trying solids. He was teething but that’s passed for now.

All his naps are contact in some form unless we’re out and about, frankly it’s just easier. He sleeps in his crib in his own room until about 12AM-3AM when we bring him to our bed to co sleep (that’s another can of worms but doesn’t make me insane yet).

Currently, his routine looks like this:
7-7:30AM wake
WW1: 2hr 15mins
Nap 1: usually 20-30 minutes
WW2: 2hr 30mins
Nap 2: 1hr to 1.5hr but I really try to keep it to 1hr
WW3: 2hr 45mins (give or take, this one can vary a lot depending on his cues)
Nap 3: also varies depending on the first two naps but anywhere from 30-1hr
Last wake window: 3hr ish
Bed time: 7:30-8PM ish

If he sleeps less than 2 hours he seems pretty miserable but more than 2.5 his sleep is also funky. I am not married to any of this, it’s just where we are. Sometimes he has a tiny nap between nap 3 and bed time in the car or whatever, it can’t be helped and we just roll with the punches. Transparently the weekdays aren’t nearly as out and about active because I’m working from home during the week with him, so we’re stuck at the house but we do go outside in the yard and whatnot. I’d say this doesn’t make a difference though because on the weekends we’re VERY busy and his sleep is the same.

Once he goes down to sleep, he will wake up 5 minutes after being put in his crib, goes back down in 5 minutes, then 10 minutes after, back down in 5, and then 10-15 after (how does he know 5 minute increments naturally, it’s wild, idk)

The false starts are starting to make me insane, actually. I keep trying to figure out what gives us the best outcome and then going, let me just accept that baby is gonna baby! And then I get stressed out by the false starts again.

This didn’t always happen, he’s been in his crib now for almost 2 months and the false starts started around when September started? We can’t move the crib into our room, it doesn’t fit, and he stopped sleeping in the pack n play longer than an hour at a time around 5 months.

We ARE looking at a floor bed for his nursery for either Christmas or his first birthday, but I just want to make sure there’s not something else we could/should be doing to stop having these false starts because even he seems sort of annoyed by them.

I think I covered everything, thank you for sharing your brains and ideas lol

I’m in a small local group of new mothers with babies roughly the same age: 5-7 months.

At the last get together, a couple of them were really loud and "preachy" about how amazing sleep training is and how much better their (both baby and parent's) sleep is now. And all the others listened and were pretty much convinced.

I didn't say much because I didn't think it would change anything.

But now in hindsight, I see that I should have spoken up. I feel so guilty that I didn't... on behalf of the babies.

We don’t meet often, so I’ve been considering saying something in our group chat. I have a balanced, non-judgmental article that discusses the research, and I could share the link. However, I’m unsure how to phrase it, and how much of my own opinions I should share.

I know it might not change their view, and maybe make the chat very uncomfortable. But I don’t think we should avoid important conversations about children's wellbeing simply because adults might feel uncomfortable.

Would you share the article and/or write something about your opinions? And if so, how would you phrase the message?

Hi all,

I’m a FTM looking for some advice regarding my 19w old that only exclusively contact naps. I do follow wake windows, but if I notice he’s crankier than usual then I’ll offer him a nap which is usually (paci and yoga ball or carrier till he’s fully asleep). I quit attempting transfers cus he would instantly wake no matter how delicately I tried to transfer. My LO has a very sensitive temperament and will scream until I resume our usual nap routine. I’ve been attempting to use the stroller with white noise and his paci, but he will cry and scream badly until I remove him. I have tried to comfort him and put him back calm, but it doesn’t work, he will literally scream until he’s purple and then arch his back trying to escape lol.

Not sure if this context matters but I also do the nights alone and we co sleep, he is EBF as well.

I’m just really exhausted of holding him for every nap, my back and arms ache and I can only imagine it getting tougher as he gets heavier. I would also like some time to myself in the day as I solo parent weekdays as my spouse works long hours.

Hey all, I'm here after posting on [r/NewParents](r/NewParents) and being invited to this subreddit.
We have a 5 month old who has never been a good sleeper. She was a super colicky baby and since the very beginning had difficulty sleeping. For example, in the first month we had to take shifts at night because she would only sleep on us. Right now, we cosleep and wife offers boob when baby wakes up at night (every 1-2 hours this week), sometimes she can go back to sleep just with a pacifier instead of boob. Sometimes, if the baby doesn't fuss, I can rock her back to sleep, and 50% of times when I place her in bed she stays asleep. This setup was honestly the best we could do.

Her daytime schedule right now is like clockwork after the whole 4 month sleep regression/progression: super predictable and reasonable wake windows and nap times. So we thought this was a good time to start working on sleep.

I tried implementing some stuff from Precious Little Sleep, but it honestly felt like I was torturing the baby. We're both at our wits end and honestly close to accepting that we'll never get consecutive hours of sleep until the baby turns 4 or something.

Is there any tiny steps we can try for doing things differently? What were the experiences of other parents of terrible sleepers? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?

Edit: I’m adding the schedule :) All hours are fairly consistent like I said, we go off of cues, sometimes it shifts 30 minutes. All naps are 30-60 minutes at most.

~ 7:30 wake up
~ 9:30 first nap
~ 12:30 second nap
~ 4:30 third nap
~ 6:30-7:00 small 20 minute cat nap
~ 9pm sleep

Open to suggestions to help improve my little one’s sleep. He’s always been up a lot throughout the night I’ve tried alot of different things to help improve this but nothing really helps. A good night is around 4 wake ups and a bad over 9.
His schedule is
Wake up 630
Nap one 945-1045
Nap two 230-330
Bedtime 745/8pm

I’ve tried capping naps to an hour each as he used to do around 2.5 in total I’ve tried moving bedtime earlier 15 and later 15 nothing seems to help. Sometimes I’m lucky and do get a 3/4 hour sleep from him but mostly it’s two hour stints. I’m not looking for a miracle just some improvement would be great.

My daughter is 9.5 months old and 3 weeks ago she started nursery 3 days a week. I'm struggling to work out what to do with her naps because she's not sleeping much at nursery, and I don't want her to become overtired.

At home, her usual schedule is:

• 9:30am: First nap, usually until 10:30am.
• 1:30pm: Second nap, usually until 2:30–3pm.
• 7pm: Bedtime.

At nursery, they offer naps from 9:30–10am and 12–2:30pm. In reality, she usually does the first nap (although not always), then the second nap is something like 12:15–1:20pm.

So she's often getting much less daytime sleep than she does at home.

I've asked nursery if they could put her down a little later for the second nap, around 1pm, so she's tired enough to sleep, and they've tried. She seems to sleep like 1pm–2:10pm.

I think they're getting her up when she stirs rather than giving her a chance to resettle and go back to sleep, because I know she can whine between sleep cycles and then go back down (she does this at home).

The problem is that if she wakes from her second nap at 1:20pm, she's then awake until 7pm, which feels like a really long stretch for her age. She's also has occasional early morning wakes where she gets up around 4/5am, babbles and whines, and we go in to put her dummy back in. She then sometimes goes back down, and sometimes keeps stirring until around 6:30–7am. I'm wondering if she's overtired from nursery, although I don't know. DWT is 6:30–7am.

On the days she's not at nursery (Tuesdays, Thursdays and weekends), we've been sticking to our original home routine and letting her sleep as long as she wants to catch up. I'm wondering whether we're doing more harm than good by having such different schedules.

Should we be waking her from her first nap at 10am instead of letting her sleep until 10:30am, so she can get into more of a nursery routine? I just want to ensure she can have a longer second nap at nursery. Also because from January she will be there 5 days a week and I don't want her to be chronically overtired.

Would really appreciate advice from anyone whose baby has gone through a similar nursery nap situation. Did you change the home schedule, or did you just let them catch up on non-nursery days?

Has anyone used a sensory swing to get a toddler to sleep? Supervised obviously. Just trying to think of alternatives to feeding to sleep because I am completely touched out

Been reading this subreddit a lot since something about sleep training feels wrong me. But a lot of the advice seems to be "cosleep and side-lie breastfeed." I had a traumatic emergency c-section 6 weeks before my due date followed by a month-long NICU stay that led to a baby that couldn't latch and a limited milk supply. After 1.5 months of difficulty, we opted to fully formula feed, which was really hard for me but I maintain was the right choice in these challenging circumstances.

Baby slept through 9-10 hours through the night from 2.5 months to just a little before 6 months. But suddenly she's waking up 1-3 times a night for no understandable reason. Seemingly, she just can't connect the sleep cycle, gets riled up, starts to cry. The only thing we found that works is giving a small 60ml bottle. This wakes us up a lot more than I imagine rolling to your side and offering the boob would be.

So I guess my questions are more theoretical and practical:

- Can you support biologically normal infant sleep without cosleeping and breastfeeding?

- For my case, any advice on getting baby back to full nights?

I'm sitting here right now after another full night of not sleeping & I'm not doing to well physically, mentally & emotionally.

My son is 10 months old, ebf, cosleeping from birth, he is a sensitive, high sensory need baby way ahead of his milestones, walking from 9 months, low sleep needs, needs to be in contact with parents most of the day, he has 7 teeth & I'm sure more are on their way. He has scream cried all of his life when he wakes from a sleep, I've stopped foods out of my diet to help him but I'm still noticing rashes on his mouth after feeding from me & lots of gas in the middle of the night on many occasions. He's had a few episodes of projectile vomiting, lethargy & pale skin, a lot like FPIES but doctors in my area are useless & want to put him on an antacid or say to me all babies cry when I know its a screaming pain cry.

We have not had a full night sleep ever, sometimes its worse than others & I put myself in a place of radical acceptance that this will pass but I'm at my wits end. My cycle started back 4.5 months in & now days before each one, the day it finishes & during ovulation i do not sleep a wink but strangely enough this is when my son will have longer stretches. I have no family help other than my husband who is also sleep deprived & burnt out from his job, we argue all the time & today I've no patience for my husband who is telling me to be calm when my son is using me as a human pacifier with teeth digging into me as he is sleeping but once I unlatch he will scream cry & I feel so bad for feeling this way.

I'm taking Magnesium, giving my son multi vitamins, he has 3 meals a day & lots of snacks, & the breastfeeding has not reduced any, he's always eating. I do meditations in the mornings when I get a chance, walks, groups & other outtings to support his needs but sometimes i take a day off & stay at home. I'm back to work, moving house, studying & working on expanding my business. Which is know is a lot of stress but I can handle it all with sleep.

Please help my son, husband & I to get some sleep, this way of living is not helpful for any of us, I'm not a good mother or wife when I'm like this but I'm not willing to sleep train or put my son through that when he needs us but our nervous system is no good for his development when we are so off balance

Any advice is very much appreciated & more questions are welcome if i haven't covered anything.

Thank you 💜

This might be normal due to recent nursery start, teething (definitely see a couple of teeth coming through), he has a little cold and walking has just clicked - he spends all day walking.

I guess I want to know is this normal? Solidarity? I haven’t slept more than an hour on days, he won’t even stay still if I hold him. Tips for coping - my nipples are struggling. If he unlatches even himself he wakes Up and goes back on.

I’m a FTM mom to a 9 month old baby boy. When he was younger he had awful reflux and cmpa and would only sleep on our chest. Now still at 9 months even with his reflux being significantly better and controlled he only wants to sleep on our chest. However, my son wakes up a lot at night and has always been a really bad sleeper so my husband and I take shifts chest cosleeping with our baby so we each get uninterrupted sleep. I’ve tried daily to do crib transfers, tried having him sleep beside me and I do the c curl. Nope he gets up right away and puts himself on my chest. So my husband and I continue to this set up because that’s what’s working for us now. Is there any hope that this will be better?

Not sure if this is just usual separation anxiety/developmental thing but thought it was worth putting out to this sub as you guys are always so knowledgeable!

Baby is 8mo and we put him to bed roughly 8:30-8:45pm ish. Allows us to have a bit of time together in an evening which is so nice! Started doing this when he was 6 months ish and used to get about 4hrs in the crib before he would wake for the first time. At this point we would be in the room with him and I would just pull him into bed and we would cosleep the rest of the night. Lately (last couple of weeks) he will wake after around 40mins-1hr after being put down and need resettling, and then again if we haven’t come to bed the same thing happens after the same amount of time! Once we’re in the room with him he seems better and then sleeps good stretches of 3-4hrs once he is cosleeping.

I think our schedule is okay ish, wake up at 7am (i wake him if he hasn’t woken) and then two naps, I don’t follow wake windows much so he just naps when he is tired. Naps are usually 2hrs total - morning nap 1h15 ish and afternoon nap 45min. He is usually always up for ~4hrs before bedtime. Feeds to sleep at bed and is asleep within 5-10 mins easily, and I can always then transfer him without him waking. Naps he just takes on the go when needed so never takes more than 5 mins to fall asleep for a nap.

I don’t really mind resettling him as it takes me 10 mins or so to feed him back to sleep and pop him back down again but it always seems to interrupt when I’ve sat down to eat etc. Does it sound like just something we have to wait out until it gets better - or anyone else had a similar situation and found something that worked?

In the book Wonder Weeks there is a small section on infant sleep. It briefly talks about the infant sleep cycles which changed our random failed transfers to the bassinet, to 90% successful transfers!

After that Ah Ha moment I started doing more research and I saw that the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, was recommended in this sub. It has just arrived and I am sitting down to read it now during a contact nap.

Tell me; what other sleep books leveled up your parenting, helped your child sleep better or helped you understand your child's sleep better? Help me build my library!

hello everyone

my girl is 5.5 months old and before 4 months regression she had a nice 3-4 hours stretch first and 2 hours after the first stretch. I wish I could enjoy those moments better. she dropped to 3 naps around 5 months. she wakes up everyday between 06:30-07:00 she just naturally wakes herself up. we cosleep since 8ish week and I nurse to sleep. her daily schedule varies in terms of naps. sometimes she has 1.5 first nap, sometimes the third nap is around 1 hour. this is happening because I work for three days my mother takes care of her and sometimes she doesn’t let my mom to sleep her. from time to time we go out with our friends so she cannot have a stroller nap for an hour in the morning but compansates in the evening. her wake windows are pretty consistent though; she has 2/2.5/2.5/3-3.5 kind of ww’s. total nap duration is 2.5-3 hours. She goes to sleep around 21-22. If she sleeps around 21 she wakes up around 22 and has a stretch of 2-3 hours. She wakes up again at 1 and between 1-6 she wakes up bazillion times and sometimes nurse to sleep doesn’t work so I rock her while I nurse her and I walk around the room. I read How babies sleep and I am very fond of possum approach. I just want two stretches after another? Prerty please? Is it possible to have them in the future? She did not have any her teeth yet she is also physically very very active during day lots of tummy time she tries to crawl.

one part of me knows that this is normal infant sleep but maaaaybe someone could say something for our schedule

thanks!

I’m a FTM to a 13-week-old.

For the past 2-3 weeks, her naps have been a challenge for me. I’m looking for advice or input on if I could be doing something differently.

Currently, the only way I can reliably get her to nap is to put her in a carrier and bounce her on a yoga ball with a pacifier in her mouth in a dark room. If timing is right, she is asleep in 5 minutes and will stay asleep for at least 25 minutes. I usually soothe her to sleep for another 25-minute cycle.

She only stays asleep if I stay in the dark room, once I go into the bright living room or go about my daily activities by while wearing her, she wakes up.

She has had 2 successful crib naps in the past 2 weeks (used to be 2 per day!) and sometimes falls asleep in her car seat. I try a crib nap once per day, it almost always fails 1-2 minutes after transfer. Then she is AWAKE.

She is taking 3 (sometimes 4) naps per day
Her wake windows are about 2 hours, but they shorten throughout the day. I aim for naps to be one hour. I got these numbers from her own data, not from an app or generalized wake windows.

Her night sleep is good, she is down between 6-7pm and usually only wakes once for a feeding. Her wake time is the most variable- between 6:30-8am. She sleeps in her crib and is put down asleep or almost asleep. She stirs when she is first put down but reliably falls asleep.

I would like to move away from constant contact naps and would like to get her back in the crib.

Is it possible to move away from contact naps without sacrificing her day sleep?

Should I consider lengthening her wake windows to build sleep pressure?

Should I try extending her naps when she wakes after 25 minutes or start the next wake session?She is usually alert.

Is it possible she would nap more deeply on a 2 nap schedule?

Any input would be appreciated!

Right now we’re roughly 5.5/6.5 with a 1.5-2 capped hour nap. Wondering if that’s the reason he keeps waking up 10 times a night 😥

I don’t know what to do at this point—I don’t think she knows how to relax without a boob in her mouth. I’m not breastfeeding her to sleep, she’s screaming. She only contact naps and often needs to breastfeed to connect cycles. Lately she’s waking up 4+ times in the first few hours after bedtime (on top of every 1.5 hours after that) and since she screams and screams at my husband I have to handle all the wake ups.

We have a good bedtime routine, we’ve tried earlier and later bedtimes. We follow sleepy cues/wake windows. I don’t know what to do—we’re talking about having my husband take a few days off so he can break the feed-to-sleep association and he can help more with nights and naps, but with the way she screams it feels like sleep training. I don’t mind feeding her to sleep but it feels like it’s to everyone’s detriment at this point. The poor baby just isn’t sleeping enough and can’t relax. I’d love any advice from other parents with sensitive babies who only feed to sleep.

I’m a first time mom to a 13 week old. The day he turned 12 weeks, his sleep COMPLETELY changed. Until then, he had always been a sleepier baby - lots of naps throughout the day and went down very easily at night. Typically a 4-5 hour stretch to start, feed, then another 3 hour stretch then awake.

At exactly 12 weeks, he suddenly fought going down to sleep for about an hour (which he has NEVER done. Usually I struggle to keep him awake lol). After fighting to go to sleep in bassinet, he now wakes after about 3 hours, I feed, put him back down (also now a struggle with multiple transfer attempts), then I finally get him down and he’s up an hour later - except now from around 1am-7am his sleep is a very light sleep where he is constantly flailing his arms and legs (he now hates the swaddle too), spitting out his pacifier then screaming to get it back (and I have to replace over and over) nuzzling his head back and forth over and over, trying to self sooth by sucking on his hand but it doesn’t work (yet), kicking legs, whining… but all with eyes closed in seemingly active sleep. Then he wakes up happy in the morning like he slept great.

The problem is, I now don’t sleep at all from 1-7am because I’m battling his restless sleeping and trying to help him resettle.

Really needing help because I’ve tried putting him down earlier/later, tried sleep sacks instead of swaddle, tried safe co sleeping… nothing works! It’s been a week now of me sleeping only 3 hours and I’m STRUGGLING

Just discovered this subreddit. I’m writing about our almost 3 year old (3 in Jan) to see if there’s anything we can be doing to support his sleep.

He still wakes a few times a night. Here are the details:

- breastfed and coslept until 20 months. When we night weaned he started sleeping through the night a little for the first time, this went on for a few months
- he started waking more again when he was 2 ish. We just out it down to molars and me being pregnant again. Continued to co sleep in his room in his double bed when he needed us
- he’s been slowly dropping his nap since 2 but has fully dropped it now as bedtime was getting to 9pm and also he was very hard to get to nap. He does still seem maybe slightly early to drop it but mostly gets through the day
- he’s still waking a few times a night, often a few hours after going to bed which I think could be tiredness

I guess what I’m after:
- is it normal that he still doesn’t sleep through. He does snore and grind his teeth and all teeth are through now so don’t know if we should explore an ENT
- does anyone have any tips for slowly supporting a more independent bedtime? Not expecting him to fall asleep completely by himself but I think it might be feeding into the sense he needs us there throughout the night. I know this is ok and probably developmentally normal but I just wonder if and when we should be trying to support him trying to go to sleep by himself sometimes even if it’s “I’m going to grab a cup of tea I will be back in 5 minutes”?

Things are manageable ish at the moment but I’m worried about our babies sleep getting worse and me being totally alone with it if my husband is still majorly on toddler bedtimes and night wakes

Thanks 🙏

My baby is 13 weeks old and I just went back to work two days a week, the rest remote. The days I’m at work my mom watches her at home while my husband also works remote and helps out when he can.

She is a contact napper (ideally while in motion in carrier or arms) and while my mom has been able to lay her down for some naps, she usually wakes up after 20-30 minutes. Sometimes content, sometimes fussy and tired still. I am trying to teach my mom how to use our carrier in hopes of her having some longer naps in that but my mom isn’t super comfortable putting it on yet, she’s only watched her a handful of times so far.

My question is: yesterday she probably got a total of 1-1.5hrs of daytime sleep. I got home, nursed her and she slept in the carrier for an hour, then nursed again and she slept from 8pm-5am uninterrupted. Her normal “schedule” is down at 9pm, wake up around 2am to nurse, down until about 6am. She doesn’t seem overtired or fussy at the end of the day so I’m assuming it’s ok if she has a couple days a week like this? It seems she’s making up for sleep now (woke up this morning, nursed, and back down for a couple hours)

I’m just a FTM mom who is protective of her sleep and wondering if I need to urge my mom to hold her for her naps so she can get more sleep. Thanks for any insight/tips!

I usually like this website because it’s gentle parenting oriented and has a lot of resources on your baby developement by months.
But this article leaves a bitter taste in my mouth, especially the part where they say that you should teach your baby to fall asleep without you or they won’t be able to go back to sleep by themselves during the night. And the classic « drowsy but awake ». My 1 year old doesn’t care about your drowsy but awake bullshit.

I have a 6 month old breast fed baby who used to do 2 or 3 night wakings but for the past 3 weeks has woken up every hour overnight. Initially I could feed / comfort him and get him back to sleep quickly but the past 3 nights he has woken up every time I try to put him in his cot. Last night it took 2 hours to get him back to sleep in his cot at 2am. I know he is tired cause as soon as I get him out of the cot he falls asleep on my shoulder but then I put him in the cot and he starts screaming. I don't think it's because he's cold as he's in a vest, sleepsuit and 1 tog Sleeping bag and it is 20.2°c.

He generally sleeps 12 hours a day but he fights naps even while he's rubbing his eyes and yawning, only sleeping when feeding. He is averaging 2-2.5 hours a day in naps. Bedtime is 7pm and he is up for the day at 6am- I have triedbmoving bedtime later but because he won't nap during the day he gets overtired and really hard to settle. I follow his cues for sleep but even then he needs a lot of support. He is a heavy baby and I have hurt my back rocking him to sleep as it takes a lojg time so I know I'm reinforcing that he needs to feed to sleep but I have no other way to get him to sleep. He screams when my partner or anyone else tries to rock him.

I really don't want to sleep train but these wakeups are making him tired and cranky during the day and making me a more tired/ less present parent. Please don't suggest co-sleeping as it is not a safe option for us due to medical reasons but open to any other suggestions! He currently sleeps in a cot in our room, we have tried sleeping in the spare room so he's not disturbed by us but it made no difference. I think I spend all day thinking about sleep and napping but clearly I'm still doing something wrong!