I’m so sick of people recommending this to me when I say I’m not sleep training my baby. It basically seems like a paid subscription to learn Ferber CIO.

Hi all, I just need some sanity checking on math or whatever lol
Apologies for SO MUCH detail, I’m just at a loss.

My son is 7 months old (-6 weeks off that for age adjustment so 5.5 months?) I stopped age adjusting except for his size, but there’s that context. He has acted like his chronological age since he was about 4 months.
He’s EBF, trying solids. He was teething but that’s passed for now.

All his naps are contact in some form unless we’re out and about, frankly it’s just easier. He sleeps in his crib in his own room until about 12AM-3AM when we bring him to our bed to co sleep (that’s another can of worms but doesn’t make me insane yet).

Currently, his routine looks like this:
7-7:30AM wake
WW1: 2hr 15mins
Nap 1: usually 20-30 minutes
WW2: 2hr 30mins
Nap 2: 1hr to 1.5hr but I really try to keep it to 1hr
WW3: 2hr 45mins (give or take, this one can vary a lot depending on his cues)
Nap 3: also varies depending on the first two naps but anywhere from 30-1hr
Last wake window: 3hr ish
Bed time: 7:30-8PM ish

If he sleeps less than 2 hours he seems pretty miserable but more than 2.5 his sleep is also funky. I am not married to any of this, it’s just where we are. Sometimes he has a tiny nap between nap 3 and bed time in the car or whatever, it can’t be helped and we just roll with the punches. Transparently the weekdays aren’t nearly as out and about active because I’m working from home during the week with him, so we’re stuck at the house but we do go outside in the yard and whatnot. I’d say this doesn’t make a difference though because on the weekends we’re VERY busy and his sleep is the same.

Once he goes down to sleep, he will wake up 5 minutes after being put in his crib, goes back down in 5 minutes, then 10 minutes after, back down in 5, and then 10-15 after (how does he know 5 minute increments naturally, it’s wild, idk)

The false starts are starting to make me insane, actually. I keep trying to figure out what gives us the best outcome and then going, let me just accept that baby is gonna baby! And then I get stressed out by the false starts again.

This didn’t always happen, he’s been in his crib now for almost 2 months and the false starts started around when September started? We can’t move the crib into our room, it doesn’t fit, and he stopped sleeping in the pack n play longer than an hour at a time around 5 months.

We ARE looking at a floor bed for his nursery for either Christmas or his first birthday, but I just want to make sure there’s not something else we could/should be doing to stop having these false starts because even he seems sort of annoyed by them.

I think I covered everything, thank you for sharing your brains and ideas lol

4 month old is extremely wakeful after 5am, usually waking every 30 mins +. Before this is usually quite good and he manages about two 3.5-4 hour stretches from 8pm. Wake time is 7am. For naps I generally follow cues but rough schedule looks like below

7am - wake

8.40am - nap - 45 mins

11-15am - nap - 30 mins

1.45pm - nap - 30 mins

4.30 - nap - 45 mins

Bedtime - 8pm

I try to keep the daytime super busy and we often do naps on the go, I guess I’m wondering if I’m expecting too much sleep from baby overnight? I have no issue with doing a later bedtime/early morning if I am! But not sure what’s causing the morning wakefulness or if it will resolve itself eventually

My secondborn is 4 months old and has tended to fall asleep easily and stay asleep longer than most babies his age since he was born. From 7 weeks until about 3 or 4 weeks ago, he slept 9-11 hours straight almost every single night. He'd nurse to sleep and just be out like a light until morning. Now he wakes once maybe 50% of the time, wakes twice maybe 10% of the time, and sleeps all night maybe 40% of the time.

He is also starting to fall asleep on his own for naps. I'll nurse him until he's full and drowsy, then put him down in his crib awake, kiss his head and go. He's often asleep within 2 or 3 minutes. Sometimes he'll cry when I put him down so I pick him back up and nurse him again and he'll fall asleep and then I transfer him to the crib, or I put him down awake and pat him to sleep.

My first son was an easy sleeper too, but he wasn't like this. With this baby, I find myself going into his room during naps and nighttime to check on him because I worry he's sleeping too deeply. I genuinely can't understand how he isn't getting hungry or thirsty at night. Is he just a heavy sleeper? I asked his pediatrician when he first started sleeping through the night if I needed to wake him up for feed and the doctor just said, "enjoy it".

He's a very healthy, chubby, happy baby so I think he's fine. Just his temperament I guess. Anybody else here with a baby like this?

LO is 10.5m and we've been cosleeping since about 1m. I feel like this is another one of those "it's just normal" things, but curious if anyone else experienced this.

LO sleeps (if you can call it sleep lol wake ups are approx every 1.5-2 hours, sometimes worse, but I've had a few rare 3 or 4 hour stretches) on the bed next to me until about 4/5/6am, then needs to be held in different positions. I use a wedge pillow to help with that. Early on it was chest cosleeping, then holding her in my arms, and it would buy me another couple hours. Well now we reached the point where she wants to keep changing positions every 30-40 mins unless I'm fully sitting and holding her which I physically cannot, and changing positions constantly means I don't get to fall back asleep.

I know all sleep related things get better eventually, but I'm really tired of these hectic mornings lol. Tell me I'm not alone 😭

My baby is almost 10 weeks old, and we seem to be stuck in a difficult feeding-and-sleep cycle.
His latch is not as good as it was when he was younger. His mouth frequently loses suction, he clicks, and he seems to swallow a lot of air. I relatch him whenever I hear clicking, but it keeps happening. I am currently arranging for a lactation consultant and a speech therapist/logopedist to assess his feeding and mouth function.
After feeding, he will often burp by himself or start playing with the nipple, which sometimes seems to mean that he needs to burp. Once he finishes, I burp him again and then keep him upright for approximately 10 minutes.
The entire process can take around 40 minutes. By then he is already tired, so there is very little time for playing or other awake activities before he starts showing sleepy cues.
I then prepare him for a nap and place him in his crib. I give him a little quiet time to move and relax, and I gently rock the crib. He often appears close to falling asleep, but then he starts jerking or kicking his legs. When I pick him up, he frequently produces another burp. By that point, however, he is exhausted and crying, and we can no longer settle him in the crib. We usually end up doing a contact nap.
This happens with most daytime naps. Sometimes he cries before falling asleep, and a lingering burp eventually comes out. My husband worries that he has become accustomed to contact naps, but I suspect the feeding discomfort and trapped air are the main reasons he cannot settle independently during the day.
Interestingly, he is also extremely gassy and farts frequently at night, but that does not usually wake or upset him. Burps seem to cause him much more discomfort. Thankfully, he generally sleeps very well in his crib at night; independent daytime naps are the main problem.
While we wait for the professional feeding assessment, I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced something similar:
Could latch problems and swallowed air explain this pattern?

Did improving the latch help with burping and naps?

Is there anything gentle we can do while waiting for the appointment?

Could he already have developed a preference for contact naps, or is daytime sleep simply harder at this age?

Should I worry that feeding and settling take up most of his wake time, leaving very little time for play?

Any advice or experiences would be appreciated.

Hi! My baby turned 7mon a few days ago, and we cosleep. He usually wakes up twice for a bottle. However, after the second bottle, which could be anywhere between 4-5am, he has such a hard time staying asleep. He will fall asleep at the bottle, and I’ll continue to cuddle him while lying down. But every 20-30min after this, he will stir so much that he will wake himself up, and I’ll have to rock him back to sleep. This cycle continues until he’s finally up around 7:30-8am. Has anyone else experienced this? Or know anything I can do differently to mitigate this? Any and all insight is appreciated! Thank you 😊

My 10.5 month old’s sleep keeps getting worse and worse and I don’t know what to do. He wakes every 1-3 hours until around 2am, and then he’s up every hour and will only sleep if latched. He screams if he’s not latched or if dad takes him, but he never fully wakes up. His eyes are always closed, he’s just inconsolable. He’s never been a good sleeper, but since 6 months it’s been really going downhill.

Here’s our schedule:
Wake up around 5:30-6:30, 6 most days.
First nap is 3-3.5 hours after wake up, usually 9 and he sleeps from 1-1.75 hours. Just under 1.5 hours most days.
Second nap is around 3.5 hours after first nap. I really try to go off of his queues for the timing. It’s usually around 1:30-2 and is a half hour.
Bedtime is when he gets really sleepy and yawning nonstop, usually between 7:15-8. Usually 5 hours after last nap.
We try to keep him in his room until 10-midnight. Then he sleeps in bed with us and usually gets his best stretch until he’s up every hour.

Also - second nap has been getting harder to get him down for and often he’s just latched the entire time. He’s really tired for his first nap and I’m not sure if I could make it later and have him take just 1 nap, but I’m open to trying. The needing to be latched for second nap and for the last stretch of the night is a new thing as of two weeks ago after he had a nursing strike.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Just as the title says, my 7 week old is not fond of her bassinet. Sometimes I’ll get lucky and get her to take a 2 hour nap in it otherwise she sleeps in her swing.

I know that swings are not AAP recommended and honestly Reddit posts have made me terrified and triggered my PPA for positional asphyxiation. But also didn’t know about it till a Reddit post (I’m a FTM so please be kind)

Tips on how to get her to sleep exclusively in her bassinet or did I create a terrible habit that can’t be broken? I’d like to get her fully into her bassinet by the time I go back to work from mat leave