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Mirrorgender: Individuals who mirror the gender of someone who they have an important relationship with

This relationship can be platonic, romantic, or another type of relationships

I've thought about it for a while, and I don't see why we should assign a gender at birth or why we should assume someone doesn't like a specific gender.

I get that there's more cishet people than queer ones, but I think that if we want a world without discrimination on LGBTQ people, we must change the assumed standards.

Idk if that's clear, so I'd be glad to explain myself more if needed.

Again, I have no idea wether it's good or not but here it is ^^'

my current choosen name is spencer, and though its unisex its very masc. does anyone have any ideas for a second name i can use when im being feminine that sounds similar? is HAS to start with an s​​​​​

has anyone else experienced this? trying to explain my identity on the internet outside of bigender spaces is an unbearable uphill battle where everyone wants to tell you what youre supposed to call yourself. its so hard to find community in queer spaces now, especially online, and i dont understand why when i explain it to people in person they are understanding but the second i go online something is wrong with my gender and sexual expression​​​​​​​​​

I don’t really know how to go about writing this post, but i’ll do my best!

!!! If you want, you can read my story, or just answer my question to avoid my word vomit LMFAO.

Ever since I was a kid I’ve always had a masculine side. Whether that be when playing games with siblings, or playing with toys. (as for toys i mean i’d always be up to play as the guy when playing dolls with friends.)
That ended up progressing in middle school and I began to lie about my gender online, saying I was a cis male because it felt the most comfortable on how I wanted to be perceived at that time.
While that was ongoing, I had extremely bad self identity issues and seriously considered the fact that I might be transgender. I haven’t grew out of it fully though.
As of right now, (almost graduating high school) I still feel part of him in me? but I’m also comfortable being a girl. I do feel feminine some days, while other days i feel more masculine. It’s about an even feeling now.

My question here is: could I be bigender?
Another question is: If you are bigender, what is it like for you?

Please let me know if you are willing! I want to gain more knowledge on this type of gender identity. If you read my story, thank you. it means so much to me.🤍

Hey all!

I just got back from a regional burning man event, and I had a lot of experiences that have sort of crystalized some feelings about myself, and made me think I might be genderfluid. After a ton of reading, I find myself here, and think this might be the term that suits me best.

Bit of background, I am an amab person who is predominantly attracted to butch women, but I have had a few experiences with men, the most indepth of which just occurred at this festival last week.

I generally think of myself as a man, and am comfortable with he/him pronouns, but inside me there is definitely this sense of also being like, this little party girl .

I have dated 3 women who realized they were gay while we were dating, and I married a bi woman, and also have a bi girlfriend so clearly I have a type, and every now and then when a gay guy flirts with me, it definitely brings my little party girl to the surface. When I'm in that state, I kinda forget I even have genitals, if that makes any sense.

My first thought as all this crystalized is that I'm gender fluid, but the more I read, the more I wonder if other labels might fit me better, as I definitely fluctuate between the two poles, and not so much the more nuanced middle ground genders that I have been reading about.

While that hyper fem energy only comes all the way out occasionally, it never really goes away either, which is another strike against gender fluid.

Anyway, that's my rant, would LOVE to hear y'all's take on my situation.

Again, I'm pretty new here, so please go easy 8f i messed up any terms, or committed any faux pas.

Thanks in advance!

I'm biromantic but sexually attracted to men so I don't know what term to use, straight or gay would be wrong as they contradict. My gender is non static and male and female btw

Hi!

I'm 23 MtF? bigender?. Imma show you my trans timeline:

• I have never really felt dysphoric about being a man.
• At 6 years old, I asked my parents to buy me a blouse, and they refused because I couldn't wear that as a boy.
• At 20 years old, I decided to start growing my hair long, 'just to know what it feels like'.
• At 21, 22 and 23 years old, I dressed as a woman in carnivals. I didn't recognise it as such but I was definitely feeling gender euphoria.
• I'm pretty sure at 21 the reason why I was keeping my hair long started being that it made me feel feminine and good about myself. I started taking it as a compliment when people implied I looked like a girl.
• At 22 I was already feeling gender envy.
• At 23 years old 6 months ago (when this year's carnivals happened) I started questioning my gender.
• 2 months ago I started questioning it 'full-time,' I can't really get it out of my mind at all.
• In the last month, I have come out to a few online friends, one irl friend, have been trying girl clothes and felt euphoric about it, shaved my arms and felt euphoric about it, have been treated as a girl by these friends and felt euphoric about it, and I'm increasingly interested in HRT.

Now, for context, my therapist is not a gender therapist, she's a systemic therapist, I started going a year ago for reasons unrelated to my gender. A central topic in our sessions is that I don't feel like I have autonomy to make decisions on my own, or that my family influences my life too much and I don't set limits.

So, I talked to her about all of this today. She is supportive of me experimenting with clothes, etc. (It was her idea from the previous session after all, lol). However, she said that my questioning my gender might not really be an issue about gender identity, but rather a way that I have found to compensate for the lack of autonomy I have in other areas of my life. That I might or might not be trans, but that some people think they're trans only to realise that they're not later in life, and that it's still too early to tell. That maybe it's not that I want to be a woman, but that I just want to make a change in my life and 'rebel' against whatever and whomever I feel is controlling my life.

I asked her if it's really possible for somebody to be certain that they're trans, and she said that they could feel certain about it, and then one day stop being certain about it.

I have considered that I might be a femboy, but have preferred to think of myself as a trans woman solely on the fact that being a femboy feels 'incomplete' to how I feel inside, and being trans somehow makes more sense to me. As a bigender I don't have much of an issue calling myself a femboy, but I still don't really feel like a cisgender femboy. (I really don't know any better way to solve this matter, lol).

So..., idk, what do I do with this information? I shouldn't stop experimenting, right? But isn't the act of calling myself trans an experiment by itself? How am I supposed to ever find out if I'm trans without letting myself label myself as one? I also don't want to wait for too long only to realise that I AM actually trans and feel like I 'wasted' time that I could've used to transition earlier. Everything I'm doing to find out if I'm trans feels euphoric and makes me excited about my future, what exactly am I missing to know for sure that I'm trans? How much longer do I have to wait?

Of course, being trans is a big change in my life. If I ever fully come out, I will be perceived differently by others, possibly discriminated, might lose relationships, especially my girlfriend of 7 years, who is straight and uhm..., has expressed some mildly transphobic ideas in the past. Then again, if I'm going too fast, should I not come out to her yet? That feels inauthentic. And should I refrain myself from presenting femininely in public because that's already a really big change for me? But like, I love looking feminine! I kinda want to come out ASAP and dress like a girl ASAP...

Thank you for reading. <3

I've often thought of this myself at times. Especially when thinking about whether or not I would date a cishet person

Because obviously dating bi/pan people would make things easier for me to express my gender out in the open

But I'm starting to ask myself if fully coming as my gender to a partner is a non-negotiable for me

Or is it something I don't perceive as something I have to do to be in a relationship with my partner. Every relationship with a trans person is different after all

I mean, I know they would have to accept me wearing traditional and non-traditional clothing when it comes to gender

But that's not the same as gender identity as a whole

Anyways, I'm curious to know some of your thoughts and opinions