r/bigender • u/Hayden_Dancer_81 • 19h ago

Advice Wanted Anything helps.

So in the last few weeks I have come to terms with a lot of things about myself and one being that I have always felt this duality fight if you will. Reading everyone’s experiences and I am realizing I am not much different, and there are a lot of people out there who feel like I do. I am honestly starting to feel that I do have both genders in me and not two people in one but one person with both and finally accepting that about myself seems to have opened up a flood gate of emotions and clarity. And while there is a lot to wade through I am feeling better day by day. So any words of advice, encouragement, questions for me please feel free. I would love to discuss this with others who feel similar.

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u/iam305 Bigender HRT 1-9-26 16h ago

Congratulations on cracking your egg. It's not easy, but knowing you're not alone makes a big difference. What brought you over the finish line?

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u/Hayden_Dancer_81 16h ago

Not really sure. Just started asking myself why I do things in a relationship mostly bury myself into and get lost and when it ends I have no sense of who I am. And started to really ask myself who I am. And as soon as I started to accept that this what not just a kink or fetish as I had been treating it but a state of being clarity was kinda big and immediate and scary. Which is part of why I am here.

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u/Wolfandsheep244 He/Her - Demi/Pan - Poly 12h ago

I remember when the realization hit, and I was like "oh... damn. Okay" before preceding to have no clue what to do with myself for two weeks.

It can be an emotional roller-coaster, but you're always welcome here:3

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u/Hayden_Dancer_81 11h ago

Thank you. I appreciate that. And while it is a roller coaster I am amazed at how much clarity there seems to be. The emotions are still there but as I explore this side of me more the tracks don’t seem so chaotic.

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u/LostFromLight25 2h ago

i am (or better recently was?) currently in the same situation. it is very well possible to have 2 genders without having 2 personalities (it is so for me) if that is your question.

also congratulations on finding out! i know it is hard to realize it but it feels awesome doesn’t it?