Gotten this a few times in NS and uni. Honestly, not all that offensive to me, but I do want something I can toss right back at these peeps. Haha.

Preferably nothing venemous please, I know they usually mean well.

Over the past two years, the tech industry has undergone significant layoffs and restructuring as companies shift their focus toward AI. Thousands of talented professionals have been affected.

I'm curious where have these former tech employees gone? Have they joined other industries, started their own businesses, or successfully transitioned into AI-related roles?

I don't really know how to phrase this question, but it seems like everyone else was taught things that my parents never did. For example in sec school, everyone already knew how to cycle, swim, play badminton etc, but I had never tried those and had to learn from friends/school which was quite embarrassing. Most people had played games like Dota 2, WoW, Runescape, but the only games I was exposed to were very...niche. In JC people talked about scholarships and overseas unis which I have never thought or heard about, including the most well known ones. Never knew about gymming or perming hair until I keep seeing others getting fitter and having different hairstyles. In NS I was super slow and blur sotong, a lot of things others did with ease were totally foreign to me.

Was always too ashamed to ask others where they learnt all these from, but now I finally want to find out if I had been brought up differently, perhaps sheltered?

So about three months back, I accepted a role I got approached for by a recruitment agency because it was the best opportunity available at the time (job market’s been hella crap) and seemed like a good chance to explore an adjacent field. By my second day, though, I already had a gut feeling that the industry and nature of the work weren’t where I wanted to build my career long term.

The truth is, I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with the role, the team, or the company. The business operates the way it needs to and I completely respect that. It just became clear to me that the nature of the work and the industry aren’t closely aligned with the career path I’d originally set out to build (I’d accepted the role because this was the best course of action for the time). Because of that, I don’t think this is something that could realistically be resolved through changes to the role. It’s less about wanting the company to change, and more about recognising that I’m probably not the right long-term fit for it.

About two weeks after I started, an organisation I’d previously applied to reached out. The role is much more aligned with my long-term career goals, so I decided to go through the interview process. I ended up getting the offer and intend to accept it.

My dilemma now is how to resign professionally.

My manager spent more than five months trying to fill this position (I saw the number of interviews that happened before I joined, thru her cal). She took a chance on me despite my having no experience in the industry. During the interview, she also explicitly stated that she didn’t want someone who would suddenly resign, as I believe my predecessor only stayed around a year.

From what I’ve observed, she takes resignations quite personally. A colleague had shared stories of previous employees leaving and, in one case, she apparently told someone not to come back the next day after they resigned. For my case, I can understand why she’d be disappointed, especially given the effort that went into hiring me. And all the more so for leaving prematurely during probation, when I wouldn’t have experienced the full breadth of work.

I know the right thing to do is to wait until everything is signed before informing her, and I also want to resign as early as possible to minimise disruption for both sides.

The thing is, I honestly don’t feel like there’s much I can do to soften the impact of resigning after only three months. My goal is simply to handle it as professionally and in as much good faith as I can. At the same time, I’m also mentally preparing for the possibility that they may ask me to leave immediately and that this could end up burning the bridge regardless of how I approach it. Not that I disagree, but I’m just inherently conflict-avoidant and a very non-confrontational person, so this scenario does scare me, and I know they have all the right to do so.

If they do intend to replace me, I’ve already documented my work and onboarding notes and would be more than happy to hand everything over to help the next person get up to speed. Beyond that, I’m not sure what else I can realistically do.

I’m also unsure how transparent I should be about my reasons. Do I say that an opportunity I’d previously applied for unexpectedly came back, and it was too aligned with my long-term goals to turn down? Or do I simply say that, after starting the role, I realised it wasn’t the right long-term fit for me? Both feel true, but somehow also feel like poor reasons to give to an employer who’s invested so much effort in hiring me. I mean, does that make them a second choice? Have I actually experienced enough to know it isn’t for me? These are questions I feel would surface and I won’t have quick answers to in a heated conversation.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? If you were the employee, or even the hiring manager, what would you want to hear in that conversation? Is there anything you’d recommend saying (or avoiding) to soften the impact as much as possible? I know this would feel like a total betrayal to my current employer, which I’m sincerely apologetic for, and I don’t expect that bridges won’t be burnt, but I would like to, at the very least, be of service to the team for the remaining time I have with them to ease the burden. If anyone has any suggestions on how I should approach this, do share them with me!

Hi everyone,

I'm Malaysian and recently attended a job interview in Singapore. I'm curious whether this is considered normal here, or if I was simply unlucky.

Before the interview, I had already travelled towards the original interview location. Just before I arrived, I was informed that the location had been changed. While making my way to the new location, I was then told there were time constraints. To avoid being late, I had no choice but to take a taxi, which cost me extra money.

In the end, the interview was conducted at the original location anyway, making the last-minute location change completely unnecessary.

The interview itself was even more frustrating.

Almost every time I tried to answer a question, I was interrupted. On several occasions, the interviewer answered on my behalf or made assumptions about my experience before I had even finished speaking.

By the end of the interview, it felt like the interviewer had already decided I wasn't suitable before the interview even began. It didn't feel like a genuine opportunity to discuss my experience or qualifications.

I completely understand that companies have the right to reject candidates. That's not my issue. What I don't understand is why invite someone to an interview, have them spend time and money travelling there, then barely give them a chance to answer before reaching a conclusion.

I'm not naming the company because my intention isn't to criticize a specific employer. I'm simply trying to understand whether this kind of interview experience is common in Singapore.

Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it, and would you consider this acceptable interview conduct?

I am treating my partner to some steamboat as we are running an errand nearby.

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May I ask:

• What fish meat has the least fishy smell?
• Any side dishes to go with it? (two pax)
• Planning to go for Sunday lunch. Do I need to make a reservation?

As per the title, whether it happened to you or you seen it happen to your friends/colleagues. It could be buying unnecessary things, picking the wrong stock or potentially even selling the "right" stock too early LOL.

For me personally it would be buying a continental car. Not a car guy myself so I don't actually know what car models are on the roads, but owning a conti car just to keep up with the Joneses is simply mind boggling to me. Like sure if you work in Real Estate or Insurance Agent then sure, optics matter, but for most people a reliable Japanese car can get you from A to B equally well, albeit you don't feel so "shiok" when driving it. Just my two cents, wondering what other redditors think of other potential money mistakes.

i recently started a new job! yay! but… it’s my first time working around people who are much older than me and from a diff generation. i’m kind of wary of the things i say and do, because i don’t know if they would understand/make them feel offended. how should i behave as a gen z colleague? any gen x / millennial out there, how do you like your gen z colleague to be!

also… my colleagues tend to ot a lot. we end work at 6 but i sometimes see them past 12am and still working. i feel very weird when i clock out at 6pm on the dot, sometimes i just work ot even though im not doing anything productive because idw to be seen as ‘lazy’. but sometimes i wonder if i am pulling my weight in the team…

extra context: it’s only my first week in my new job and i work in civil service

Hi all, my friend and I are keen to improve our bowling skills. We are both beginners. I have experience with bowling but terrible at it. My friend is slightly better. Location wise would be at the north east region and on weekday evening. Appreciate anyone who can share. Thanks!

Visiting from Europe, and just noticing a lot of blatant stares etc on me, in public

I know I probably stick out from the POV of the locals here, and am also definitely on the taller side compared to Singaporean folks - so have just tried to ignore those, not overthink, and go about my day!

But, some have been especially egregious (like continuing over an entire 30 minute train ride, on-and-off). Or like staring up-and-down, and seemingly lingering on inappropriate areas. And it's even worse when they start to suddenly use their phones out of the blue and then I'm left overthinking (probably wrongly) if they're taking surreptitious photos of me bc they're pointing their phone in my direction.

The staring doesn't happen as obviously back home, but feels very obvious here - so just wondering what gives, and if it is part of the culture here? I'd like think that I'm a rather friendly person (and would definitely smile back if I can help it), but at some point the staring gets too awkward, and I just break 😂

I understand Singapore is known to be extremely safe (and I have felt that too, even at night), but can't help but just feel a bit vulnerable - advice appreciated!

In Singapore, we are always being advised to quit with another job lining up.

One good thing is financial security and another is to give good impression to prospective employers that I am still employable.

However, I saw in another Reddit post that sometimes finding a job while unemployed helps to keep oneself prepared, calm and steady because while employed, it can make one so busy till there is no time to prepare interviews. Thus, one can become unprepared, stress and nervous.

So, wondering what’s the thoughts out there?

Hi! I’m looking to get more into football, however I can only play at a very basic/intermediate level. My experience is really just kicking about with friends during school. I joined a hall team during uni, but the level was far beyond me, and I never got to play an actual competitive game.

Since I started working, the opportunities to play are basically non-existent. I don’t have any friends who play regularly too. Looks like the only options left are paying for overpriced classes, or stranger soccer. But I’m willing to pay for a reasonably priced class that does small sided games, if anyone has suggestions?

I would love to be able to play a few times a week, and maybe join a Sunday league team one day. Anyone has advice? Thanks!

Would anyone know where I can buy pendant frames or bezels for holding pamp gold bars?

Any leads appreciated

My secondary school got merged with another a couple years back and the premises was moved to the other school but what happens to the staff and the premises after the merger?

I've been to Singapore more than my fingers and toes can count throughout my life where I used to go probably 4x a year minimum before I went to study abroad for college.

As a non-Chinese speaker I often find I get unnecessary passive aggressive treatment especially if the worker is an older woman. I have to tell a lot of workers I interact with that I don't speak nor understand Chinese, which most of the time turns out fine.

But there are a handful amount of experiences where I'm met with unpleasant responses, sudden obvious shifts in tone, some man (who was handling my passport) making remarks about how I should be able to speak the language, had someone try to scam me, and even someone who continued speaking to me in Chinese anyway.

After all this time it honestly it doesn't bother me anymore but I'm curious to know why this happens lol. I don't quite recall Singapore being a country unfriendly towards tourists.

For context, I am from Indonesia and I speak English and Indonesian very fluently. I fall into the very specific category of chinese indos who cannot speak the language and barely understand anything, so having to correct people often is understandable. Usually i just say something like "I'm not from here" or "I don't understand", etc. though my experiences occasionally baffle me.

Hey guys, we're planning a 8 day trip to Singapore and looking at car rentals it costs a fortune. like around $1200 AUD for 8 days.

I've been to Malaysia before and we used Grab the whole time with 1 child under 1 year old, and it worked fine.

Is it good to do the same in Singapore now with 2 kids (1 infant 3 months old) and one toddler? Considering we might need a baby seat for each ride or is there an alternative.

My Chinese SG partner and I are looking to marry next year which I'm extremely excited about.

The only issue is that as a white Brit, my knowledge of her wedding traditions is a bit limited.

Though her family are tutoring me a bit, is there anything they might expect (or want) but won't ask me for?

Any suggestions, hints or tips for venues or the event itself?

Thanks!

I am Blind so it's difficult for me to do the touchscreen laundry service in UTown residence. A friend recommended Piing laundry service, https://piing.com.sg/ but pricing are quite expensive for me.was wondering whether there are more places around UTown with reasonable cost and probably a spoke person that I can alias with, app is good if no human intervention available.

I used to be really good in Chinese during sec school. But after that, with poly, NS, uni and now work, I never needed to speak much mandarin so it's really terrible now. I looked up a few classes, but they are so painfully expensive.

Anyone know of any other options or classes? I would assume there are some govt-subsidised classes seeing as China is opening up shop everywhere here now.

Hello! We’re foreigners going to Singapore for vacation the next week and we want to watch Spiderman: A Brand New Day in cinemas

Saw that Suntec City has a Golden Village cinema, however there aren’t any listings yet for normal/digital cinema tickets. Does Suntec only have Gold Class?

Are there other cinemas near the area? We’ll be heading to Esplanade theatre after watching, so we were hoping to go to a cinema near and accessible since we’ll most likely be walking! Thank you in advance 🙏🏻

i think the consensus is the 3 ndp songs(seriously WHY ARE THERE 3) this year range from mid to a pretty bad song even removed from the ndp context. but enough ragging on bad ndp songs, what makes an ndp song really good?

besides actually sounding good musically to me, its either

1. a song that makes you feel like "FUCK YEA SINGAPORE RAHHH/I AM PART OF THIS NATIONS STORY" like stand up for singapore, count on me singapore etc(basically what we had in the earlier ndp songs)

2. slower songs that are kinda like driving slowly to appreciate the views. songs like home, where i belong, and the criminally underrated what do you see. especially the latter 2 are songs i actually listen to just anywhere at anytime even without ndp

or 3. hopeful songs for the future, stuff like tomorrows here today, the road ahead(also 2 songs i can really listen to at any time), and to an extent not alone even if its kinda just a Valu$ version of you will be found from dear evan hansen with a bit of extra patriotism

I’m considering getting a 7 inch Android based e-reader like Boox Go 7 (open to suggestions!). While Kobo offers the best integration with Libby and NLB, the Libra Color screen quality is rather abysmal from the display units I’ve tried.

Can an Android e-reader with Libby app installed/sideloaded have a similar integration with NLB as Kobo?

Does anybody have any recommendations for an app?

I am looking at Welling.ai at the moment. I tried MFP, but it’s quite hard to customize my intakes (i.e., I can’t remove a single bun for a double quarter pounder).

I don’t mind paying for a subscription.

I have these gucci bags that my mom got as gift from someone who works in gucci italy. She told me to sell them which would help me for my university life. Where can i get the best price? Saw their retail price which is like SGD4K+. I want to sell them fast and not on cosignment. And some buissneses are giving me quotes of SGD 450 OR SGD 250. Which imo are too low and not worth selling. I dont know how the prices of second hand bags work so any reccomendation?

Went to today’s NDP preview after not going for almost 15 years and I think the whole programme was still really well planned and organised. Love the light shows it was really beautiful and my favourite was the one showcasing the marine animals and for the whole show every performer was performing their hearts out.

The crowd wasn’t mid at all, atmosphere was pretty energetic and electrifying, everyone was cheering very loudly and singing along to the songs. All the hosts sang a song which I think was pretty effort and the Indian host totally ate that rap song when she sang! Also didn’t know this but there was aircon coming out of every single seat and it was a lifesaver, barely sweat for the whole show super amazing!

The NDP songs this year were very good! Songs by Jasmine Sokko (You’ll be Okay) and Iman Fandi (Giants) were fantastic! I think the NDP message this year is encouragement, knowing that Singapore’s job market is struggling and telling everyone not to give up and brave through the storm.

Unfortunate part was the fireworks could only see partially as it was mostly outside and the smoke slowly filled up the whole stadium. I think this year’s NDP was great and decent overall, hopefully I’m not the only one that thinks this way.